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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How does 1 get their partner into the swinging scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By talking to her. I'm sure some will point out the fact you been on here 7 months without her Knowledge (of she doesnt know) might not go down to well. Has been a few threads about this before. Maybe search the forums and see what has advice etc has been given.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

U hit the nail on the head but we had a joke about it before when drinking but dont know how to bring it back up without drink im afraid lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask and be done with it. Its either yes/no or maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its not as easy as that m8 im frightened incase she thinks im weird

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By *ust4funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Moira

We chatted about it for ages before ever doing anything about it.. It isn't something you can convince the other to do or I would imagine it def won't go well.. You also have to remember that you as the male half may be the one keen but once you start this journey it will always be the female half gettig the messages and attention at parties etc.. But once you start if you do it is great for your own sex life together

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By *rishguy3217Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny / Dublin

She will be more annoyed when she finds out you joined without her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We chatted about it for ages before ever doing anything about it.. It isn't something you can convince the other to do or I would imagine it def won't go well.. You also have to remember that you as the male half may be the one keen but once you start this journey it will always be the female half gettig the messages and attention at parties etc.. But once you start if you do it is great for your own sex life together "

This, bite the bullet and have an honest conversation with her. But be careful what you wish for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn’t go down well in my case, and she wouldn’t be into it in any shape or form

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How can i manage to convince her without sounding creepy ?

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Just don’t be creepy

But the prospects aren’t looking good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in the same situation as well.. so what I am doing right now is to understand if she is interested in it. The only way to do that is to get her to talk about her fantasies, watch porn together and ask what type of porn excites her. I have kind of pushed the swinging videos to the top of list so that they come up first.

And now keeping fingers crossed. It’s a long drawn process, don’t jump or push it on her.. too risky..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not as easy as that m8 im frightened incase she thinks im weird "

Not sure if weird I the word. I think bringing up swinging etc may make her feel she's not enough, that you don't want her and than again it may be just what she wants. As someone else be careful what you wish for.

I'm single but always wonder and am amazed at couples you join here, the security they must have in their relationship but I also have been part of conversations where questions and feelings of self doubt appear. Of you do join together proper "rules" or "boundaries" need to be set, like do you meet alone, meet together, feelings of jealousy or insecurity how do you handle them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not as easy as that m8 im frightened incase she thinks im weird

Not sure if weird I the word. I think bringing up swinging etc may make her feel she's not enough, that you don't want her and than again it may be just what she wants. As someone else be careful what you wish for.

I'm single but always wonder and am amazed at couples you join here, the security they must have in their relationship but I also have been part of conversations where questions and feelings of self doubt appear. Of you do join together proper "rules" or "boundaries" need to be set, like do you meet alone, meet together, feelings of jealousy or insecurity how do you handle them.

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I hear what both of you are saying. I didn't have such problems. We are both independent people who always trusted each other, we spoke about if we liked someone or what would it be like to be with someone. I think you know yourself how this will work out. You spend enough time with someone, you get to know them. Over the years both of us got attention from others when on a night out..here and abroad.. so we kinda knew early on.. we just decided 5 years ago to do what pleased us.. no lies.. no cheating.. you know the rest..

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