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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have confidence issues when it comes to my looks. Anyone got any advice on how to deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humility is sexier than arrogance so you half way there lad

If it causing anything else talk to a professional

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'd be surprised if there's anyone on here who genuinely hasn't had those same issues at some stage in their lives.

There's no sure fire way to improve self confidence and it won't happen overnight.

The best thing to do is not to compare yourself to others and just own who you are.

Words like hot and sexy and handsome get thrown around lightly but focus on the things that make you smile and more than likely they will make others smile too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake it until you make it....if this works let me know

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"I'd be surprised if there's anyone on here who genuinely hasn't had those same issues at some stage in their lives.

There's no sure fire way to improve self confidence and it won't happen overnight.

The best thing to do is not to compare yourself to others and just own who you are.

Words like hot and sexy and handsome get thrown around lightly but focus on the things that make you smile and more than likely they will make others smile too.

"

Great advice from the handsome hot sexy man above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder OP

Feel good about yourself and others will too

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia


"Fake it until you make it....if this works let me know "

Actually a grain of truth here.. the only way to overcome something that causes you anxiety is to face your fear. The more you expose yourself yo the source of your anxiety the more you will see that your fears are irrational.. you aren't a bad looking lad, get out and meet people(if that's ever possible ??) eventually you will settle into your skin and stop caring so much.. perversely, the less you care about your looks, the more attractive people will find you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have confidence issues when it comes to my looks. Anyone got any advice on how to deal with it"

With here the best way to become confident is to just be yourself and stay true to who you are. Don't try to be a people pleaser or change your opinion just to suit who is in the forums. You will find people will respond to you a lot better and will interact a lot more with you. Once you become confident within yourself You'll feel so much better about how you look. We all have confidence issues here at some stage or another its all to do with the highs and lows that fab can bring your way . So just relax and be yourself. Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty vessels make the loudest noise... There is more to being attractive than just what you see in photos... Looks are not everything so smile and get your nice personality out there

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

I'd say lots of people are in the same boat. Even the most confident people will have something they are insecure about.

My only advice is push past your insecurities don't dwell on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked in a place years ago. There was a guy there who was very intelligent due to the nature of his job. He wasn't the best looking guy, awkward in every way, had issues making eye contact and interacting with people.. one day he walked down the floor and asked a woman out.. bold as brass.. she said yes and the rest is history.. we looked on in awe.. he blew us away.. no fucks were given.. from that day on i realised if he could pull, we all could.. everyone has insecurities.. anyone who says otherwise steer clear.. hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a thread not long ago about looks vs chemistry.

Personality and chemistry won hands down.

Honestly very few people are happy with the way they look, we all have our insecurities.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

Looks ain't everything OP I make jokes about my looks all the time and laugh about it I mean if I was to put a bag over my head it would probably reduce the amount of nightmares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely understand , im the very same I can never accept a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I completely understand , im the very same I can never accept a compliment "

Full of compliments for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. I think a fair few people are like that. We all have things about ourselves that we might not like but look at your good points and build on that. Easier said than done but when you get a complement take it and hold on to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have confidence issues when it comes to my looks. Anyone got any advice on how to deal with it"

I don’t know if jostling for attention on a swinging site is a good move if you knowingly have confidence issues. Stop putting yourself in situations to be judged, enjoy your own company, find a hobby, become interesting..and some day you’ll have a conversation and it will feel right and someone will like you for you...and you’ll learn what you value and what you don’t.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"I have confidence issues when it comes to my looks. Anyone got any advice on how to deal with it

With here the best way to become confident is to just be yourself and stay true to who you are. Don't try to be a people pleaser or change your opinion just to suit who is in the forums. You will find people will respond to you a lot better and will interact a lot more with you. Once you become confident within yourself You'll feel so much better about how you look. We all have confidence issues here at some stage or another its all to do with the highs and lows that fab can bring your way . So just relax and be yourself. Have fun. "

This is so true

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Same here man .... I've always thought I'd a great face for radio lol . But even to this day I struggle with it .

It will stop me dead in my tracks from even approaching most ladies unless we have chatted before. That's why we love a kik group chat in the run up to events or party's. It's a great way to break the ice and chat before meeting . I've been very lucky to have my beautiful wife bi my side and to break the ice . I'd be lost without her xx

Mr dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fake it until you make it....if this works let me know

Actually a grain of truth here.. the only way to overcome something that causes you anxiety is to face your fear. The more you expose yourself yo the source of your anxiety the more you will see that your fears are irrational.. you aren't a bad looking lad, get out and meet people(if that's ever possible ??) eventually you will settle into your skin and stop caring so much.. perversely, the less you care about your looks, the more attractive people will find you"
I found joining fab has actually helped me embrace compliments and I don't as insecure as I was when I first joined this

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over a year ago

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By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

A lot of good advice here, pamper and value yourself is my advice, f you can, confidence comes from within. And if possible rid yourself of negative people that bring you down. Best of luck OP

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

Get hold of a nice gal and plough her field. Does the trick.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Get hold of a nice gal and plough her field. Does the trick. "

Bonus of she has road frontage……

Holy reserectus Batman…..

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London


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Bonus of she has road frontage……

Holy reserectus Batman….. "

Plough, water and plough so more. Get the tractors out too.

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