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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

All you lovely fab people.

Tell me honestly, how does it make you feel when someone calls you a male/female?

Are you okay with it?

Do you think it's a little dehumanizing?

Personally when anyone calls me a female instead of a woman it makes me feel like either some owned pet of female gender or a dry box to tick when you're filling out application forms.

To me it's one of the most impersonal ways to approach a human being be it a "male" or a "female"

What are your thoughts?

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Never given it much thought, and now that it's been brought up I realise I could care less!

The female lol

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

I'm never to hung up on labels and such things.... One man's woman is another man's lady and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It bothers me...And I've never put a finger on why, put when its phrased in the context "looking for Female/Male" it just grinds my gears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be called far worse than female on Fab..unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it gives an insight into the person, as in if they're genuinely interested in a connection which makes for a better experience, or they just want to fuck to satisfy their own needs

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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think it gives an insight into the person, as in if they're genuinely interested in a connection which makes for a better experience, or they just want to fuck to satisfy their own needs "

Think you nailed it right there

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I take it as a compliment

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I'm a male, a man. That's what I like to be called. Both words describe me, and are equally descriptive.

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I think it gives an insight into the person, as in if they're genuinely interested in a connection which makes for a better experience, or they just want to fuck to satisfy their own needs

Think you nailed it right there "

This right here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It irks me a little but I don't read too much into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends in the context. I think a lot of people dont even consider negative connotations of the word.

However the Incel community have definitely appropriated the word Female. For example, a 'girl, woman or lady', might suggest a person with a certain level of maturity or class. But the word 'Female' is more dehumanizing and sums them up entirely by their sex, like some kind of farmyard animal.

If I see someone 'looking for Females', I'd look a bit closer at the context and try see if there was any deeper meaning.

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By *attooYouMan
over a year ago

just about northside

You are right. For instance, a man may be referred to as being male. A woman may be referred to as being female. However you seek a man or a woman. You do not seek a male or a female. Never bothers me though if used incorrectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care tbh, what does irk me about the world of swinging is that all females are "ladies" while males are just males.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Ot doesnt bother us at all as at the end of the day mr is a male/man and Mrs is a female/woman well we was the last time we checked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As stated earlier. Could and have been called a lot worse!

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

I've never gave any thought so it clearly doesn't bother me. But then I've never been one bothered by labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t say it’s bothered me. Maybe it should!

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Really doesn't bother me

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Doesn't bother me.....I am a female, I am a lady (sometimes ) and I'm a woman

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Imo it's another over-thought pc language nonsense. I guess it's the expression 'looking for males/females' that bugs some. It's a sex site and we all have gender preferences. It's a way of expressing it. I wouldn't read too much of a whole attitude into it.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I never thought about it really and now that I have it doesn't bother me.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

rather female than being called a "girl" Im in my feckin 30's lad. feck off with your girl thing

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imo it's another over-thought pc language nonsense. I guess it's the expression 'looking for males/females' that bugs some. It's a sex site and we all have gender preferences. It's a way of expressing it. I wouldn't read too much of a whole attitude into it.

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I agree with this reply...though sometimes in messages we will be asked " am I chatting to the male or the Fem?"...and I would always answer as "the woman", not "the Fem". It doesn't bother me to read it on people's profiles though

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Imo it's another over-thought pc language nonsense. I guess it's the expression 'looking for males/females' that bugs some. It's a sex site and we all have gender preferences. It's a way of expressing it. I wouldn't read too much of a whole attitude into it.

I agree with this reply...though sometimes in messages we will be asked " am I chatting to the male or the Fem?"...and I would always answer as "the woman", not "the Fem". It doesn't bother me to read it on people's profiles though"

It's bit odd when someone addresses you directly like that, I agree. But again it's just to clarify who he/she's talking to. I'd say nobody ever got a message 'hi sexy female/male, wanna fuck?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imo it's another over-thought pc language nonsense. I guess it's the expression 'looking for males/females' that bugs some. It's a sex site and we all have gender preferences. It's a way of expressing it. I wouldn't read too much of a whole attitude into it.

I agree with this reply...though sometimes in messages we will be asked " am I chatting to the male or the Fem?"...and I would always answer as "the woman", not "the Fem". It doesn't bother me to read it on people's profiles though

It's bit odd when someone addresses you directly like that, I agree. But again it's just to clarify who he/she's talking to. I'd say nobody ever got a message 'hi sexy female/male, wanna fuck?' "

We can only live in hope

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Ah yes it is what it is let's move on

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Female, girl, woman, chick, bird, doll.

Male, bloke, fella, man.

All amount to the same thing.

I'm sure if someone is looking for something between the lines they would be more specific

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you


"Female, girl, woman, chick, bird, doll.

Male, bloke, fella, man.

All amount to the same thing.

I'm sure if someone is looking for something between the lines they would be more specific"

I forgot lady & Gent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imo it's another over-thought pc language nonsense. I guess it's the expression 'looking for males/females' that bugs some. It's a sex site and we all have gender preferences. It's a way of expressing it. I wouldn't read too much of a whole attitude into it.

I agree with this reply...though sometimes in messages we will be asked " am I chatting to the male or the Fem?"...and I would always answer as "the woman", not "the Fem". It doesn't bother me to read it on people's profiles though

It's bit odd when someone addresses you directly like that, I agree. But again it's just to clarify who he/she's talking to. I'd say nobody ever got a message 'hi sexy female/male, wanna fuck?' "

Wanna bet?

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