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By *og-Man OP   Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Christmas is nostalgia, tradition, togetherness. But it's also just one day. When things get tough tomorrow, remember it's  a Friday & a big chicken dinner.

Let yourself feel what you feel. It is beyond shit that people will be alone & that families are separated this Christmas. You don't have to pretend. It's ok to be sad, angry, resentful. Let yourself feel what you feel without expectation to feel otherwise.

It's also ok to have fun on the day. To laugh, smile & enjoy lovely moments even though you miss a relative who can't be with you in order to keep safe from the virus. No guilt. Allow those moments. For you can hold both sadness & joy at the same time.

This Christmas Day may feel very long when you're lonely for loved ones who are in another house. Think of the day in sections. Have a focus for each section. Focus only on the section in front of you. Breakfast. Walk. Video call loved ones. Dinner. Movie.

Allow for differences: Not everyone handles things the same, so don't judge others if they're dealing with the day differently to you tomorrow. Let everyone get through this strangest Christmas Day the best they can. Let everyone find their own way.

At the same time, remember to help one another, to bring everyone safely through this most awful time. To notice loved ones struggling & be there with them in their sorrow at what this wretched virus has robbed from us all. Leave no-one behind in their pain.

Remember your capabilities: Human beings are IMMENSE. You have gotten through every terrifying, tough, cruel, savage, exhausting day of this God-awful relentless year. You can get through this day too.

Ask for help: If you need to talk, be sure to reach out to someone. Not to "fix" you. Just to hear you. Whether it's a friend or a helpline, if the need to talk bubbles up inside you tomorrow, don't ignore it. Share your feelings & thoughts, it will help you bear the load.

When you're bereaved, hope is hard that first Christmas. But in this pandemic, hope is present. Hope that one day we will live again. That we will be with the ones we love on days like Christmas Day. The big days & the little days shared. Hold that hope.

Missing loved ones is truly awful. But it means that you love & are loved. If love can survive death, it can survive distance. Focus on the love. Find ways to express it this Christmas Day. Don't let Covid take that from you. A safe & peaceful Christmas to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it Bm and as you said its one day.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Jaysus, me heart is burstin' after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?"

Sorry Kaizer switched off when he started having Chicken instead of Turkey

Anyway... Make love not war

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?

Sorry Kaizer switched off when he started having Chicken instead of Turkey

Anyway... Make love not war "

Ah here.. some things are unforgivable

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?"

Sit down

Stand up

Eat up

Shut up

Rinse and repeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?

Sorry Kaizer switched off when he started having Chicken instead of Turkey

Anyway... Make love not war

Ah here.. some things are unforgivable "

There ya go..... Negligent

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Can someone summarise that into like 4 sentences for me?"

It's just like any other day only you don't have to work and the day after is another day and so forth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That brought a lump to my throat and a tear to my eye for several reasons BM.

I try to remember that Christmas begins in the heart and that's where I hold those who I can't physically be with, whatever the reason.

Take care and have yourself a merry little Christmas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Bog Man, simplified and manageable

Take the day in segments

Have a happy and peaceful Christmas!!

From two for the road XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well said, it’s just another day, make the most as you would any other xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Christmas is nostalgia, tradition, togetherness. But it's also just one day. When things get tough tomorrow, remember it's  a Friday & a big chicken dinner.

Let yourself feel what you feel. It is beyond shit that people will be alone & that families are separated this Christmas. You don't have to pretend. It's ok to be sad, angry, resentful. Let yourself feel what you feel without expectation to feel otherwise.

It's also ok to have fun on the day. To laugh, smile & enjoy lovely moments even though you miss a relative who can't be with you in order to keep safe from the virus. No guilt. Allow those moments. For you can hold both sadness & joy at the same time.

This Christmas Day may feel very long when you're lonely for loved ones who are in another house. Think of the day in sections. Have a focus for each section. Focus only on the section in front of you. Breakfast. Walk. Video call loved ones. Dinner. Movie.

Allow for differences: Not everyone handles things the same, so don't judge others if they're dealing with the day differently to you tomorrow. Let everyone get through this strangest Christmas Day the best they can. Let everyone find their own way.

At the same time, remember to help one another, to bring everyone safely through this most awful time. To notice loved ones struggling & be there with them in their sorrow at what this wretched virus has robbed from us all. Leave no-one behind in their pain.

Remember your capabilities: Human beings are IMMENSE. You have gotten through every terrifying, tough, cruel, savage, exhausting day of this God-awful relentless year. You can get through this day too.

Ask for help: If you need to talk, be sure to reach out to someone. Not to "fix" you. Just to hear you. Whether it's a friend or a helpline, if the need to talk bubbles up inside you tomorrow, don't ignore it. Share your feelings & thoughts, it will help you bear the load.

When you're bereaved, hope is hard that first Christmas. But in this pandemic, hope is present. Hope that one day we will live again. That we will be with the ones we love on days like Christmas Day. The big days & the little days shared. Hold that hope.

Missing loved ones is truly awful. But it means that you love & are loved. If love can survive death, it can survive distance. Focus on the love. Find ways to express it this Christmas Day. Don't let Covid take that from you. A safe & peaceful Christmas to all"

I know we all try be light and funny , but for some of us this is a very serious message . i couldent add anything more onto what you just said . thank you op for posting this and for those oc you who relate. Fire me a message , ive been their an done that and hit the rock bottom i mean the ultimate bottom, still struggle at times , but its nice to know their is people who understand what your talking about

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By *omposmentisMan
over a year ago

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Christmas is nostalgia, tradition, togetherness. But it's also just one day. When things get tough tomorrow, remember it's  a Friday & a big chicken dinner.

Let yourself feel what you feel. It is beyond shit that people will be alone & that families are separated this Christmas. You don't have to pretend. It's ok to be sad, angry, resentful. Let yourself feel what you feel without expectation to feel otherwise.

It's also ok to have fun on the day. To laugh, smile & enjoy lovely moments even though you miss a relative who can't be with you in order to keep safe from the virus. No guilt. Allow those moments. For you can hold both sadness & joy at the same time.

This Christmas Day may feel very long when you're lonely for loved ones who are in another house. Think of the day in sections. Have a focus for each section. Focus only on the section in front of you. Breakfast. Walk. Video call loved ones. Dinner. Movie.

Allow for differences: Not everyone handles things the same, so don't judge others if they're dealing with the day differently to you tomorrow. Let everyone get through this strangest Christmas Day the best they can. Let everyone find their own way.

At the same time, remember to help one another, to bring everyone safely through this most awful time. To notice loved ones struggling & be there with them in their sorrow at what this wretched virus has robbed from us all. Leave no-one behind in their pain.

Remember your capabilities: Human beings are IMMENSE. You have gotten through every terrifying, tough, cruel, savage, exhausting day of this God-awful relentless year. You can get through this day too.

Ask for help: If you need to talk, be sure to reach out to someone. Not to "fix" you. Just to hear you. Whether it's a friend or a helpline, if the need to talk bubbles up inside you tomorrow, don't ignore it. Share your feelings & thoughts, it will help you bear the load.

When you're bereaved, hope is hard that first Christmas. But in this pandemic, hope is present. Hope that one day we will live again. That we will be with the ones we love on days like Christmas Day. The big days & the little days shared. Hold that hope.

Missing loved ones is truly awful. But it means that you love & are loved. If love can survive death, it can survive distance. Focus on the love. Find ways to express it this Christmas Day. Don't let Covid take that from you. A safe & peaceful Christmas to all"

As shining armour and others have said, great post Bogman, resonates with a lot of folk and hopefully will be a help

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin

Fantastic post Bog Man, you hit the nail on the head so very well. Communication is key. Unload your stresses, even to a stranger. It helps. Embrace your joys, accept your sorrows and never feel guilty for feeling either emotion. We are all struggling in our own ways.

I’m always ready to chat with anyone in need of an ear. Rant, chat, waffle, cry or scream. If it helps you to get through, message me.

Happy Christmas to everyone.

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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago

Carrick on Shannon

Yep just over 3 hours gone of it,will go to bed soon that'll be another 6 hours, up trow on a fry and chill take me to 1pm,find something to do, out home for dinner 5pm, back home 8pm ,thirsty,slab of Guinness in the fridge,think I'll manage it to 12pm,26th /27th I'm lost, if the pricks to us in time I could have hired a speedy car,speeder than that and loose a bit of agression

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By *addubMan
over a year ago

dublin. 12

It's ok to talk,feel down or happy, laugh, cry, scream, it doesn't matter whatever you feel like doing do it.

It's one more day.

LIVE LAUGH LOVE.

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