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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is a general question to all..

What do you normally prefer from a stranger? A wink or a message? Which one is expected to be seen and responded faster??

Your views plzz

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I’d prefer a message if it’s a profile I haven’t spoken to previously otherwise I never know how to respond to a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at winks I bulk delete them

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Very rarely look at winks. Equally rare i send them

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I don't look at winks I bulk delete them "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone is great at writing a first message but that doesn't mean they're not worth talking to so I like that Fab offers a few ways to break the ice

I've sent 'winks' before, mostly for wee forum games, though I'll normally send a message myself but I don't mind receiving either one; beggars can't be choosers sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message. Winks from single men are usually ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a bit spoiled here as every lady on here I suppose, with the ratio men vs. women, so instead of texting first, I wink to call the attention of someone I like and if I'm lucky enough I'll get a message.

On the other way. I check both, winks and messages are nice to get.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't really look at winks anymore. I use to before but have gotten out of the habit of looking at them I guess. Now I usually just bulk delete them every so often.

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By *orge71Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Woops I read that title as Wank or Massage sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woops I read that title as Wank or Massage sorry"

I wouldn't mind getting a massage for a change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are kinda pointless sometimes. They wink then you wink then theres no message. When you send a messagen you dont get a reply then. Weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink I do message back. So I suppose either will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are pointless"

I don’t agree.. as a single man it’s handy for a lady or couple to give us guys a chance to send a message.. if we actually fancy them or not.. so the wink is just that a little nudge to say what have you got ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are pointless

I don’t agree.. as a single man it’s handy for a lady or couple to give us guys a chance to send a message.. if we actually fancy them or not.. so the wink is just that a little nudge to say what have you got ? "

Not something we would ever do tbh

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Can't remember the last time I sent a wink that wasn't part of a forum game.

Have received half a dozen winks that I've deleted without response as nothing about those profiles appealed to me and I won't wink just for the sake of it.

I respond to all messages though.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Message.

Winks mean nothing to me unless it's someone I'm already chatting to or have met.

If men are expected to put effort in then I think it should work both ways.

Winks are lazy as a first contact.

Not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find sending winks pointless myself to people... Although sometimes messages are just as pointless

However I do get winks, and then respond to the people or persons via message then to start a conversation if interest.

So I suppose it works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are pointless

I don’t agree.. as a single man it’s handy for a lady or couple to give us guys a chance to send a message.. if we actually fancy them or not.. so the wink is just that a little nudge to say what have you got ?

Not something we would ever do tbh"

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Winks are pointless

I don’t agree.. as a single man it’s handy for a lady or couple to give us guys a chance to send a message.. if we actually fancy them or not.. so the wink is just that a little nudge to say what have you got ?

Not something we would ever do tbh

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when am flicking though fabulous ladies fabulous outfits fabulous outlooks I do sometimes Wink it’s my nod to a Particular profile or picture that has caught my imagination , I don’t expect to hear back it’s just down time on a long 12 hour day

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

If I am serious about contacting a lady, I will always message as I believe that ladies get so many winks and messages that they are hardened not to check winks, in the main.

The odd time if I have a passing interest, I will lazily hit the 'wink' button as a Hail Mary shot that I don't expect will work.

If I get a wink though it will usually take me days to see there is one as the fab interface is somewhat simplistic and so the wink doesn't stand out a great deal but then its nice to get as a guy and I will usually respond to that.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We do like a message as long as its respectful, we do also like receiving winks too though

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

I quite like getting winks, but I'm never sure what they're meant to mean and sometimes I send a message in response but don't get a reply to it. So I do prefer to get messages. Not getting many of either these days, mind you!

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Both are greatly appreciated

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

I rarely even look at winks

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London

I’m surprised how many people don’t find winks useful.

Probably about 70% of the conversations I have on here come off the back of winking at each other.

For me it’s a friendly flirty way to show interest and it saves time and effort for both parties who are either taking the time to write the message or taking time time to read the message

Also winks are easier to ignore compared to messages and also easier to find the diamond in the dirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We actually like winks and we will usually wink a profile that catches our interest too

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By *ark7Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Message is better, I usually respond to wink with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both actually i use both.

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

We like winks and we will usually wink a profile that catches our interest. So If we like the profile that winked us we send a polite message saying thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find winks are lazy way out. I bulk delete. Mail works just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will often wink at a profile that catches my eye.

The function is on the site for a reason, an early expression of interest.

I wink to see if someone might be interested before adding to busy inboxes. Same goes for replying, I’ll return a wink to show I’m willing to chat (I’ll usually return it with a message tbh)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink time to time as I am shy a little

I prefer messages.

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

I use the wink function. Its there to be used.

If its returned il drop a message. If not, il move on.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

I have no chance of looking at winks. Ever. It’s hard enough to get through messages. At least I can filter the messages that use the right subject...

However if I ever see a profile that I like, if they’ve already winked, I’ll wink back

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I always message but see a wink from a lady or couple as an invite to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only use wink if part of a forum thread, otherwise I don't, and don't check either.

Messaging only after engaging g with someone in the forums, never straight off the bat.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Ridiculous lack of respect for the Winks

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By *ockhard and SweetcheeksCouple
over a year ago

City

Winks to us, are pointless!!

Its an easier way of saying "I like your profile but cant be arsed to converse with you" so we delete them on a daily basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use both sure why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Message. Winks from single men are usually ignored. "
Yeah we know you don't like singles, you've made it known, we are humans too you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin put "wink" in to be used, not something to call people lazy for using it, I winked you, if you winked back, then msg follows, it's has simple, but some folks just need to be angry about the simplest things

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By *avana_oh_na_naWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Winks are for pussies, there, I said it.


"This is a general question to all..

What do you normally prefer from a stranger? A wink or a message? Which one is expected to be seen and responded faster??

Your views plzz"

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Winnie winkie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are for pussies, there, I said it.

This is a general question to all..

What do you normally prefer from a stranger? A wink or a message? Which one is expected to be seen and responded faster??

Your views plzz

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, wink or message will work with us. If we are interested in sender we will engage conversation. Nothing wrong with winks,its not always sign of ignorance, great tool for shy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a single guy perspective, a message is best. Majority of people find winks lazy. So if you like a profile, don't take the risk by sending a wink. Take few minutes to read their profile and send a typed message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a wink at all but when it's followed up with a nice message it's easier to respond

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By *asilbrush999Man
over a year ago

Blackrock

Message definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wink function is there and of people arbitrarily decide that they aren’t goi g to use them or ignore them then they stand to miss out on connecting with someone who doesn’t know the ‘wink rules’ they have randomly made up.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

I use both regularly....and get ignored regularly

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