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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do most ladies on here not like to chat to male parts of couples when planning on meet just think it very off putting for male part of couples if the girls not putting in the same effort as the fem on the other side

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Can't answer your question op but I can tell you that right at this moment there are 4 separate status updates from couples showing in my feed that state " only male meeting right now" so I'm sure that raises questions in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different, but a lack of enthusiasm could be a general one - people feeling pressured into it by a partner, or it could be specific to the individual ,i.e. she's not interested in that particular man, whereas the male half is interested in the other female. It's quite tricky to get 4 people matched up.

Alternatively, some people don't particularly like text chat and prefer face to face, or the content (too sexual early on, or he might seem over enthusiastic).

Or maybe she's busy.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I like to put in the effort when chatting with a couple I am interested in. I wont chat otherwise. MrD can start chatting with a couple without checking with me 1st if I would be keen. If I am not going to be interested, I dont feel its fair to start chatting myself.

Or there is no female at all and its a guy hiding behind a couples profile.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel like interest on my side is very low then if no effort put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like interest on my side is very low then if no effort put in "

Difficult to tell really, we find it best to cut to the chase and suggest a quick social meet (under normal circumstances) rather than spend hours chatting when it might come to nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends.

It's rare that we both have the opportunity to chat on here at the same time, so I guess it depends who's available.

Secondly if I'm not feeling it for either half of a couple then I'm unlikely to chat and if I get even the faintest whiff of anything suggesting that a couple isn't actually a couple then I'll withdraw completely.

Thirdly, it depends on the type of chat a bloke expects. For some it is just that, chat and a bit of banter, for others it's flirty dirty talk and I find that totally cringeworthy with a stranger

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By *inxnmasterCouple
over a year ago

naughty valley

It’s a misperception that the lady of a couple is sitting bored on the sofa and waits desperately for some dude who will sext her up . And tho women can have sex drives beyond one mans ability to supply , it’s not that they are hiring 24/7 . Often they are occupied in their duties between kids , husband , parents to care for , job etc . Whilst it is a knowledgeable that women like social communication - for fab chatting it needs a specific mood .l And that said : the chat content should go betons “how r ye? any plans for the night ? “ If it’s to obvious that the gent in the chat is only focused on getting a quick leg over , it is rather a libido killer , specially when the acquaintance so far hasn’t gone any further but a few contacting emails . Ladies want to be seduced and courted , even tho it is only for a ride ...

Being there at the right time , when she is in the right mood - that’s the challenge OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never chat to couples and leave it to himself If he wants to respond to couple messages

Zero interest from me In meeting couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are 50/50 both of us always chat here and interact. It is both of us sharing the experience so we both make a point in doing so, and we always let the other recipients know who they are chatting with,something we find we have to ask which one we are chatting with in couple's. Just depends sometimes himself could be too busy an won't get on until evening or myself might be taking a few day's away from it all.(Dark)

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By *arti and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Here, there & everywhere

We’ve found a lot of ladies don’t because some

Female halves of couples are comfortable with meeting etc therefore don’t meet unless the female half is doing the chatting.

And a few ladies we have met with have said the make can chat as much as he wants but it isn’t until the female chats and asks to meet that they’ll consider. M xx

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By *unfree2015Man
over a year ago

omagh

Best one i see is "if you cant chat your not for me/us" - then you chat and you get one or two words answers - very hard to chat to that!

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Personally I see it as a sign of respect to the woman of the couple.

I would be more put off meeting if some random woman who I don't know and barely spoken to decided to chat up my man behind my back (good few have done just that with added remark "let me know when you're meeting alone again").

When I was single- once attraction have been established to both halves of a couple - I would always mainly chat to the woman. Never ignore the man, but never make him a primary focus either.

It's basic manners and respecting boundaries of an established couple.

If during the first meet with both parts of a couple they express to have a different dynamic i.e. both or one of them meeting/chatting separately etc. Then it's acceptable to chat to them separately.

Same goes for single men approaching only the woman of a couple completely ignoring her partner. Understandably many frown upon that too.

Bottom line is - if ladies you guys are chatting to choose to be more open to your woman - congratulations - you're chatting to a decent lady who has manners and respect. Don't let her go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I see it as a sign of respect to the woman of the couple.

I would be more put off meeting if some random woman who I don't know and barely spoken to decided to chat up my man behind my back (good few have done just that with added remark "let me know when you're meeting alone again").

When I was single- once attraction have been established to both halves of a couple - I would always mainly chat to the woman. Never ignore the man, but never make him a primary focus either.

It's basic manners and respecting boundaries of an established couple.

If during the first meet with both parts of a couple they express to have a different dynamic i.e. both or one of them meeting/chatting separately etc. Then it's acceptable to chat to them separately.

Same goes for single men approaching only the woman of a couple completely ignoring her partner. Understandably many frown upon that too.

Bottom line is - if ladies you guys are chatting to choose to be more open to your woman - congratulations - you're chatting to a decent lady who has manners and respect. Don't let her go "

It's not often we agree but on this - spot on

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