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By *ara OP   Man
over a year ago

na

I can understand when people don't reply to a one liner or rude or crude messages or mail, but when the time is taken to write individually to people on here (not copy and pasted) would it not be manners to even get a "no thanks", especially when they put on their profile "all mail answered" ??

If someone was talking politely to you in a bar or club or anywhere, would you just turn and walk away ? maybe some people would?

Do you think its manners or not to reply to a non offensive or non rude mail??

Probably wont get a response lol

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By *arvey36Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Iam not commenting on this subject fella. I am just off a five day ban from the site for answering to this exact topic in another forum. (main forum/lounge?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is being discussed in other forums all the time.

Some people think there's no reason to reply if they're not interested. Kind of 'get the message and move on'.

Others try their best and reply to most messages.

For me, I try and reply to most messages if some thought was put into them. Sometimes I even reply to the not so imaginative 'how ru' but only if I've got time.

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By *arvey36Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Ok ok, I'll answer being very diplomatic, and not giving my own view ( as it got me a ban for upsetting someone!).

A lot of women say it is because men do not read the profile, so get straight delete, and a lot of girls are saying its because they are getting 200 mails a day... Lucky bitches!!!!!

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By *arvey36Man
over a year ago

Belfast

If I get a message it's like fucking Christmas and a brick wall wouldn't stop me from answering it like a dog with 2 dicks!!! Then I sit there panting waiting to get a reply back!!!! Pmsl tis true!!! Tiz like getting 3 numbers up in the lotto when I sign in and have a wee MSG!!!!!

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

it is simply becauswe some people cant take no as an answer.

not saying you are one, but we have had it.

goes along the lines of:

wanna meet up?

no, its ok thank you

why not?

no specific reason, we just dont want to thankyou

oh go on. if there is something i can do to make you want to i ccan do it

and so on, so in essence, a simple no thank you never stops at being a simple no thank you, it ends in an entire conversation where the recipient tries to avoid saying your ugly, to big, too little, too fat, too thin, wrong colour, or whatever else it may be.

so, on this evidence, deletion and ppossibly blocking is the right way to go.

anyway, what do you reckon is a personalised, well thought out message?

is it a paragraph taking in points of the persons profile, their likes and dislikes and noticing you probably arent their type but try your luck anyway, or do you look at the pics and send a message saying 'nice tits/legs/fanny. would love to spunk all over them!'

both personalised, the latter always gets deleted anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks.

In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return.

Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%.

What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far.

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By *arvey36Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"it is simply becauswe some people cant take no as an answer.

not saying you are one, but we have had it.

goes along the lines of:

wanna meet up?

no, its ok thank you

why not?

no specific reason, we just dont want to thankyou

oh go on. if there is something i can do to make you want to i ccan do it

and so on, so in essence, a simple no thank you never stops at being a simple no thank you, it ends in an entire conversation where the recipient tries to avoid saying your ugly, to big, too little, too fat, too thin, wrong colour, or whatever else it may be.

so, on this evidence, deletion and ppossibly blocking is the right way to go.

anyway, what do you reckon is a personalised, well thought out message?

is it a paragraph taking in points of the persons profile, their likes and dislikes and noticing you probably arent their type but try your luck anyway, or do you look at the pics and send a message saying 'nice tits/legs/fanny. would love to spunk all over them!'

both personalised, the latter always gets deleted anyway"

Shit... I always start with I'd love to cover them in spunk!!! ..... Bugger!! I knew I was going wrong somewhere!

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By *arvey36Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks.

In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return.

Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%.

What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far. "

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks.

In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return.

Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%.

What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far. "

if its well composed, then i will generally reply.

its when a bloke finds out its always me (male) replying, they stop talking lol. they generally want a cheap flirt or to get suggestive over the messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

will reply at my own leisure sometimes thats right away or it could be the next day woman get so many mails on here ya get fked right off before you can answer them all even if there not rude ctude or just plain stupid naw i wud,nt be that bad i,d just say going to ladies and run like fk out the door haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How to approach correctly then, with hope to get a reply??? If u r don't know person but like to know more from her, you can't tell all ur life story and wait for same.. One, two liner is no good, too long is boring, so what the heck is good thing to say on a first mail???

Btw pics are att all the time.. And thats not rude ones..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot offlong emails i get are copy and paste jobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I get a message it's like fucking Christmas and a brick wall wouldn't stop me from answering it like a dog with 2 dicks!!! Then I sit there panting waiting to get a reply back!!!! Pmsl tis true!!! Tiz like getting 3 numbers up in the lotto when I sign in and have a wee MSG!!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks.

In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return.

Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%.

What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far. "

Manners cost nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks. In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return. Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%. What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far. Manners cost nothing! "

i agree but what gets on my goat is all the rules you must obey before contacting someone include a face pic in 1st message and then no reply not even no thank you that has me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only talk from my experience only about 5% of guys can't take no for an answer when I reply with a no thanks. In my opinion the other 95% who made an effort are well worth a friendly email in return. Maybe I just get nicer guys who email me, not like _ovedupstill lol

And yes, women get a lot more emails. But that's what email filters are for too to keep them managable. Stop the new members alone and you reduce them by about 50%. What others do is not my business. But I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. It has done pretty well for me so far. Manners cost nothing!

i agree but what gets on my goat is all the rules you must obey before contacting someone include a face pic in 1st message and then no reply not even no thank you that has me "

There are no rules! Yes, for me if you send a face pic, chances are bigger I'll reply with one in return.

But someone with a nice profile, which says something about him, good pictures and within my age range and other criteria will get a reply even without having sent a face pic.

I think demanding a face pic at first point of contact is a bit cheeky, especiallly if they don't have one showing publicly.

But you have to see the kind of messages we sometimes get. E.g. 'hi' or 'how ru' 'love your tits' and their profile has no pics and the text says 'will fill in later'. A bit of an effort would help lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no mails Well, actually not quite true I had 3 since I joined) but being as I have not sent many I don't expect to get too many anyway still, as I find my feet here I suppose it is something I will come across, I would always reply, and if I have to say "no" then I will - I would not like to get anyone's hopes up (as its not nice the other way around) and feel it would be better to say so right from the start.

if someone persists even after that "no" then its block time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no mails Well, actually not quite true I had 3 since I joined) but being as I have not sent many I don't expect to get too many anyway still, as I find my feet here I suppose it is something I will come across, I would always reply, and if I have to say "no" then I will - I would not like to get anyone's hopes up (as its not nice the other way around) and feel it would be better to say so right from the start.

if someone persists even after that "no" then its block time "

pullin them pants up wpuld be a good start lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, yes I suppose it would - especially before I go outside, might get a chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Well, yes I suppose it would - especially before I go outside, might get a chill "

lmao good answer glad you have a soh always a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my soh usually gets me into trouble I have this unnatural talent for putting my foot in it (metaphorically speaking) Still, if you can't have a laugh what can you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my soh usually gets me into trouble I have this unnatural talent for putting my foot in it (metaphorically speaking) Still, if you can't have a laugh what can you have "

aye does the same with me sometimes just can,t help myself i should have been on stage i missed my calling there lol indeed lifes too short not to

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By *penyoureyes2722Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I must admit that if I get a mail from someone who has not read my profile or has read it and ignored it completely and is totally not what I'm looking for, then I feel perfectly justified in not replying to the mail. Plus stops the "sure you can make an expection for me" rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly off topic, (but then I was never really that good balancing on chocolate bars)

I noticed in some of the cam chat rooms there seems to be a few users that don't seem to read profiles either - they seem to log in, find somebody they think might live close to them and start the old "hard 30 year old on cam - view me now" crap. When they don't they get abusive

Ok, I do see the odd profile where somebody has laid out a set of rules that only a Hollywood porn star could comply with but thankfully they seem to be few and far between, but even so some simple respect would go a long way.

*goes to re-edit profile again*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly off topic, (but then I was never really that good balancing on chocolate bars)

I noticed in some of the cam chat rooms there seems to be a few users that don't seem to read profiles either - they seem to log in, find somebody they think might live close to them and start the old "hard 30 year old on cam - view me now" crap. When they don't they get abusive

Ok, I do see the odd profile where somebody has laid out a set of rules that only a Hollywood porn star could comply with but thankfully they seem to be few and far between, but even so some simple respect would go a long way.

*goes to re-edit profile again* "

aye there all looking for ron jeremy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i find some people don't bother replying to thoughtful and considered messages.

It's ignorant and rude but strangely helpful: They are not the sort of people I would enjoy getting intimate with.

So really they are doing me a favor by ruling themselves out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the profiles

Before sending a message if I can tick the likes they have set out to what they are looking

I will send a face only photo don't have cock pics

And hope for a reply some times I do some times I don't

Bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing i always reply even if its a polite no thank you. There are many on here just plain rude your better off not bothering with them

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