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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. " I can only assume that this approach has worked for these couples in the past, not that I'm condoning it. I also get the impression that when some couples approach singles they feel like they hold some sort of upperhand in the whole scenario and that singles should be thankful having been approached by them. Why people are still trying to arrange meets even is beyond me but anytime I see a status saying that a person has had a great meet I block them. Just be thankful these people identify themselves early on as someone you don't want to meet, and to answer your thread heading, there is definitely something in the water around these parts  | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. I can only assume that this approach has worked for these couples in the past, not that I'm condoning it. I also get the impression that when some couples approach singles they feel like they hold some sort of upperhand in the whole scenario and that singles should be thankful having been approached by them. Why people are still trying to arrange meets even is beyond me but anytime I see a status saying that a person has had a great meet I block them. Just be thankful these people identify themselves early on as someone you don't want to meet, and to answer your thread heading, there is definitely something in the water around these parts "That's the way I see it too and my blocklist is full of people with status updates about meets. I've chatted to lots of couples who are following guidelines like the rest of us and who are happy to chat and engage in a friendly and approachable manner so this isn't about having a go at couples as a whole. It was the sense of entitlement in both approaches and the assumption that I should be grateful that guided my fingers this morning | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. I can only assume that this approach has worked for these couples in the past, not that I'm condoning it. I also get the impression that when some couples approach singles they feel like they hold some sort of upperhand in the whole scenario and that singles should be thankful having been approached by them. Why people are still trying to arrange meets even is beyond me but anytime I see a status saying that a person has had a great meet I block them. Just be thankful these people identify themselves early on as someone you don't want to meet, and to answer your thread heading, there is definitely something in the water around these parts
That's the way I see it too and my blocklist is full of people with status updates about meets.
I've chatted to lots of couples who are following guidelines like the rest of us and who are happy to chat and engage in a friendly and approachable manner so this isn't about having a go at couples as a whole.
It was the sense of entitlement in both approaches and the assumption that I should be grateful that guided my fingers this morning "At least, as you've said and are aware of, this is just the mentality of the few and not of the many. Glad you got to do some fingering today at least | |||
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"Because couples and females get approached all the time for meets they rarely if ever do the first contact as they are busy either blocking or answering the profiles. It’s different for new as they are normally the ones on the hunt for a chat or a meet. When couples or females do make an approach it is likely to trigger the thought this is too good to be true so it must be a fake profile or someone messing with you. Being honest if the profiles that messaged you aren’t who you would normally try to contact then they probably weren’t for you anyway so view it as only two messages so no big deal. The nature of the site is that not everyone will suit everyone’s needs or wants. " In all the years I've been on here I've never actively gone looking for couples. Sometimes I start chatting to them through forum threads but mostly they make first contact. This has nothing to do with being new. | |||
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"Definitely seems to be a change in attitudes , the amount of people asking for a face pic in first message is crazy. Now I have no issues in sending a face pic once we have exchanged a few messages. But like the Op says been blocked on more than few occasions in last few weeks for questioning this. My guess is that there either fake profiles or Men pretending to be couples. Sad really " Or just school kids who have wandered into the site and wanting to see what this is all about! | |||
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"Definitely seems to be a change in attitudes , the amount of people asking for a face pic in first message is crazy. Now I have no issues in sending a face pic once we have exchanged a few messages. But like the Op says been blocked on more than few occasions in last few weeks for questioning this. My guess is that there either fake profiles or Men pretending to be couples. Sad really " The difference being that in one case they had dozens of veris and have been here at least 7 or 8 years which hints that their approach has obviously worked for them | |||
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"Definitely seems to be a change in attitudes , the amount of people asking for a face pic in first message is crazy. Now I have no issues in sending a face pic once we have exchanged a few messages. But like the Op says been blocked on more than few occasions in last few weeks for questioning this. My guess is that there either fake profiles or Men pretending to be couples. Sad really " Either that or there are fake profiles who are data-mining and collecting pics. NEVER give a face pic over until you are pretty comfortable about who you are chatting with. If anyone hassles you for one unnecessarily, just block them. | |||
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"Definitely seems to be a change in attitudes , the amount of people asking for a face pic in first message is crazy. Now I have no issues in sending a face pic once we have exchanged a few messages. But like the Op says been blocked on more than few occasions in last few weeks for questioning this. My guess is that there either fake profiles or Men pretending to be couples. Sad really Either that or there are fake profiles who are data-mining and collecting pics. NEVER give a face pic over until you are pretty comfortable about who you are chatting with. If anyone hassles you for one unnecessarily, just block them." Yep that was my thoughts , and have blocked a few. We all know that us men are at a serious disadvantage on fab but you would have to be very desperate to send pics with out feeling comfortable. | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. " Sometimes it could be the attitude from couples " consider yourself very lucky we've messaged you "...who knows but hey fair kudos to you for taking it all in your stride the way you did...cool out   | |||
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"Definitely seems to be a change in attitudes , the amount of people asking for a face pic in first message is crazy. Now I have no issues in sending a face pic once we have exchanged a few messages. But like the Op says been blocked on more than few occasions in last few weeks for questioning this. My guess is that there either fake profiles or Men pretending to be couples. Sad really Either that or there are fake profiles who are data-mining and collecting pics. NEVER give a face pic over until you are pretty comfortable about who you are chatting with. If anyone hassles you for one unnecessarily, just block them. Yep that was my thoughts , and have blocked a few. We all know that us men are at a serious disadvantage on fab but you would have to be very desperate to send pics with out feeling comfortable. " Doesn't stop half the men on here sending dick pics in first message or asking if im free there and then which is an automatic No for me. Face pics are mostly way down the line for me as I need get on and feel comfortable sending them.  | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. " Can't see a problem with the first message tbh, they asked for pic to see if there was a connection, if it not comfortable with that I wouldn't send one , about meeting the following night you were blocking them anyway so no harm done , as regards the second message , this is obviously the approach this cpl use , doesn't mean all cpls act like this, but unfortunately the problem lies with the single guys as there obviously bending over backwards to try a find a female to fullfill this meet , id lay a bet and say they wanted a female and the single guy you in this case was gonna be the bait to get them what they wanted , until guys start thinking with the right head which you did and i applaud you for that and not respond to rewuests like this , this cpl and others will keep this approach up. Mr crazy | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. Can't see a problem with the first message tbh, they asked for pic to see if there was a connection, if it not comfortable with that I wouldn't send one , about meeting the following night you were blocking them anyway so no harm done , as regards the second message , this is obviously the approach this cpl use , doesn't mean all cpls act like this, but unfortunately the problem lies with the single guys as there obviously bending over backwards to try a find a female to fullfill this meet , id lay a bet and say they wanted a female and the single guy you in this case was gonna be the bait to get them what they wanted , until guys start thinking with the right head which you did and i applaud you for that and not respond to rewuests like this , this cpl and others will keep this approach up. Mr crazy " Can't really disagree with most of what you've said. The only issue I had with the first message apart from asking for a meet was their first message was the generic" Hi, nice pics" approach which I thanked them for. Then it jumped 10 steps forward in message 2 with the "are you free to meet tomorrow night and send a facepic" No attempt to engage, didn't read my profile but expected a different response from me? I can understand the facepic for safety or attraction reasons but not after a 3 word message regardless of who you are or think you are. | |||
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"I very rarely get new messages but in the last week I've had two approaches from local couples. The first asked for a facepic in their second message and if I was free to meet the following night? I was blocked when I refused both but I've no issue with that as it saved me having to do it. The second told me in their opening message that I had little hope of getting a meet as I was straight. When I challenged them on that, they responded by telling me they were having a mfmf tonight and if I could find a sexy lady somewhere it would enhance my prospects. Yet another added to my blocklist but I'm curious if couples actually expect or get a positive response to this type of approach? If the roles were reversed and I had contacted them I would fully expect to get told to fuck off with an attitude like that. These were very well verified couples, the second with the upyourarse approach having been on here for many years. The forums are full of man bashing threads so I'm genuinely interested to see if anyone is willing to stick their head above the parapet and explain the reasoning. Can't see a problem with the first message tbh, they asked for pic to see if there was a connection, if it not comfortable with that I wouldn't send one , about meeting the following night you were blocking them anyway so no harm done , as regards the second message , this is obviously the approach this cpl use , doesn't mean all cpls act like this, but unfortunately the problem lies with the single guys as there obviously bending over backwards to try a find a female to fullfill this meet , id lay a bet and say they wanted a female and the single guy you in this case was gonna be the bait to get them what they wanted , until guys start thinking with the right head which you did and i applaud you for that and not respond to rewuests like this , this cpl and others will keep this approach up. Mr crazy Can't really disagree with most of what you've said. The only issue I had with the first message apart from asking for a meet was their first message was the generic" Hi, nice pics" approach which I thanked them for. Then it jumped 10 steps forward in message 2 with the "are you free to meet tomorrow night and send a facepic" No attempt to engage, didn't read my profile but expected a different response from me? I can understand the facepic for safety or attraction reasons but not after a 3 word message regardless of who you are or think you are. " Unfortunately you know as well as I do that they probally mailed a bunch of guys and id take a calculated guess and say that 90% of the guys sent a face pic and probally got no pic back . Mr crazy | |||
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"In response to the initial question... Gemma O'Doherty and John Waters would claim that there definitely is something in the water. "Just keep brushing your teeth there Mick | |||
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"In response to the initial question... Gemma O'Doherty and John Waters would claim that there definitely is something in the water.
Just keep brushing your teeth there Mick "I must conform 
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