FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating...who's wrong...guy or girl

By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame"

I'm assuming that I am the woman in this?

Tbc I was thinking of a woman flirting with my man. If I caught a man cheating on me, God fucking help him and everyone he's ever held dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man.. Hes the one in the relationship hes the one that is supposed to care for his other half

The other woman.. Unless it's a friend of the girlfriend she can suit herself

But these things are never that black and white and human emotions/feelings/wants are alp different.. No judgement

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"But these things are never that black and white and human emotions/feelings/wants are alp different.. No judgement "

Yep. No one knows what's going on between two people.

Generally cheating is a dickhead move and I'm guilty of it myself in the past, but there are some circumstances where I'd have no sympathy for the one who was cheated on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all responsible for our own behaviour.

Of course it's always easier to blame a third party than face up to your own part in relationship problems.

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame

I'm assuming that I am the woman in this?

Tbc I was thinking of a woman flirting with my man. If I caught a man cheating on me, God fucking help him and everyone he's ever held dear. "

Yeah it was from what you said on another thread

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

If they both knew one of them was in a relationship then both of them are to blame.

So basically whoever has knowledge of the cheating is to blame simple

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"If they both knew one of them was in a relationship then both of them are to blame.

So basically whoever has knowledge of the cheating is to blame simple"

Yes they are....but does the guy get more "grief" or is the guy thought of as being worse than the lady

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"We are all responsible for our own behaviour.

Of course it's always easier to blame a third party than face up to your own part in relationship problems."

We sure are

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"The man.. Hes the one in the relationship hes the one that is supposed to care for his other half

The other woman.. Unless it's a friend of the girlfriend she can suit herself

But these things are never that black and white and human emotions/feelings/wants are alp different.. No judgement "

What if both are in a relationship...

Is the guy more to blame

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

The person who's cheating is the one to blame.

I don't get the reason for post is it you think the other party to blame if not in the relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes two to tango.

Obviously the person cheating is more guilty. No arguments there. But the person they are cheating with isn't no friend of yours either.

Sure, the other person may not know they were attached. That happens. You can understand that. However should they know? Toss them aside along with your partner.

Plenty of friends, and even family members have been the other person in this world sadly.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"If they both knew one of them was in a relationship then both of them are to blame.

So basically whoever has knowledge of the cheating is to blame simple

Yes they are....but does the guy get more "grief" or is the guy thought of as being worse than the lady"

Grief ? No both should get equal amount of grief

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"The person who's cheating is the one to blame.

I don't get the reason for post is it you think the other party to blame if not in the relationship?"

And if both cheat?they are both equally to blame...??

The reason for posting was to pose the question,

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"It takes two to tango.

Obviously the person cheating is more guilty. No arguments there. But the person they are cheating with isn't no friend of yours either.

Sure, the other person may not know they were attached. That happens. You can understand that. However should they know? Toss them aside along with your partner.

Plenty of friends, and even family members have been the other person in this world sadly.

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"If they both knew one of them was in a relationship then both of them are to blame.

So basically whoever has knowledge of the cheating is to blame simple

Yes they are....but does the guy get more "grief" or is the guy thought of as being worse than the lady

Grief ? No both should get equal amount of grief"

Yes...I suppose I meant is he more to blame...or is the guy blamed more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both..hes the one in relationship, but theres such a thing as girl code.

Payback can be brutal

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Both..hes the one in relationship, but theres such a thing as girl code.

Payback can be brutal

Absofuckinglutely beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame"

Nothing is black or white. The stick has two hands.

If a partner no matter the case and sex is cheating there is always a reason why. Nothing really happens from nowhere. There is always both people fault.

Id suggest to talk with partners more often, about their needs and fantasies.

If they cant find it at home they will be looking for it outside.

Men are relatively simple creatures and if consequently will hear n-time 'not now, having headache' they will definitely first think why then take any action.

To be clarified: Im not taking any of the sides. Cheating is cheating. Full stop. But first grab a piece of paper and write what have you done to your partner then read it carefully and think what you both can change in your relationship to be healthy again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True most people cheat because they are unhappy or missing something.

But some cheat just to see if they can get away with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True most people cheat because they are unhappy or missing something.

But some cheat just to see if they can get away with it."

Some people both male and female are habitual liars and cheats.. No matter the circumstances they can't help themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True most people cheat because they are unhappy or missing something.

But some cheat just to see if they can get away with it.

Some people both male and female are habitual liars and cheats.. No matter the circumstances they can't help themselves "

Absolutely 100% correct, unfortunately they dont come with warning signs

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?"

If neither of them have the approval of their partners... then they are both cheating.

It's not rocket science

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?

If neither of them have the approval of their partners... then they are both cheating.

It's not rocket science "

I'm not asking about the science of rockets...thatd be above my iQ

So how is it one of them will always look worse than the other one

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"True most people cheat because they are unhappy or missing something.

But some cheat just to see if they can get away with it.

Some people both male and female are habitual liars and cheats.. No matter the circumstances they can't help themselves "

That's very true...no matter what relationship they are in they mess up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?"

Both equally to blame, but usually the women gets the worse deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True most people cheat because they are unhappy or missing something.

But some cheat just to see if they can get away with it.

Some people both male and female are habitual liars and cheats.. No matter the circumstances they can't help themselves "

This is also true.

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By *oo32 OP Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?

Both equally to blame, but usually the women gets the worse deal."

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?

If neither of them have the approval of their partners... then they are both cheating.

It's not rocket science

I'm not asking about the science of rockets...thatd be above my iQ

So how is it one of them will always look worse than the other one

I dont think one looks worse than the other..they look equally bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion it's the wife who is in the wrong. Giving the fella such a hard time for cheating, when sometimes, men just cant help themselves.

"If you love him, then you'll forgive him, cause after all, he's just a man" - Dolly Parton.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion it's the wife who is in the wrong. Giving the fella such a hard time for cheating, when sometimes, men just cant help themselves.

"If you love him, then you'll forgive him, cause after all, he's just a man" - Dolly Parton."

I snorty laughed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the guys fault for cheating in the first place, you can’t blame the other woman if she’s haveing a good time with him, but something had to make him cheat ? If a guy. ? Or girl is totally happy and satisfied they won’t need to look elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'll give a scenario...a guy who's married...starts chatting to a lady whos married....both of them know the other has a better half

One thing leads to another and they end up sleeping togother...

Who's fault is that?

If neither of them have the approval of their partners... then they are both cheating.

It's not rocket science "

Correct..and it only depends on which of them has the bigger conscious to feel the more guilty..if any at all.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"It’s the guys fault for cheating in the first place, you can’t blame the other woman if she’s haveing a good time with him, but something had to make him cheat ? If a guy. ? Or girl is totally happy and satisfied they won’t need to look elsewhere "

No. That's like victim blaming the person who was cheated on. Being cheated on isn't your fault ever. If your partner isn't happy with their satisfaction level in a relationship then fix it, or leave. Its that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes they will if it's in their nature. Biology is a bitch/bastard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion it's the wife who is in the wrong. Giving the fella such a hard time for cheating, when sometimes, men just cant help themselves.

"If you love him, then you'll forgive him, cause after all, he's just a man" - Dolly Parton."

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame"

The guy is 100% to blame. It's him who's cheating... Not the girl.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

I have to call bullshit on that nothing has to make anyone cheat its a choice...

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By *mbarSMan
over a year ago

new ross

Depends really on the reasons, maybe they are in a long distance relationships or very lonely at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion it's the wife who is in the wrong. Giving the fella such a hard time for cheating, when sometimes, men just cant help themselves.

"If you love him, then you'll forgive him, cause after all, he's just a man" - Dolly Parton"
It's actually Tammy Wynett

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame"

The person at fault is the person who knew they were in a relationship and decided to jeopardise that.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Reading the forums a lady said if a woman slept with her guy...

Shes be telling the girl to get her hands off him...

Surely the guy is as much to blame..

But most of the time is it the guy who gets the blame"

Both parties at fault:

One who goes ahead and gets carried away with flirting with someone who is clearly attached - not cool.

One who's attached and conveniently forgets how to stop themselves from potentially hurting a person they're commited to.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answers to such a complicated question, apparently men cheat because of lack of sex in a relationship, wemon need passion and that can be easily lost in a long relationship with kids and the mundane of every day life.

For me it's both, letting it slip and taking for granted that you'll be together forever, it doesn't work that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listed to Radio tonight

It is Said that if a man cheats its to get his sexual gratification etc and thats it Most if the time not emotional..

But if a woman cheats its Because of not just sexual but more Emotional and according to Expert and dont shoot the Messenger

That is worse than a "sexual" cheat as it does not mean anything but Emotional is mind set and forever .. just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who's cheating is the one to blame.

I don't get the reason for post is it you think the other party to blame if not in the relationship?"

boom exactly I can't see why people don't grasp this

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By *evinpoolMan
over a year ago

mayo/Galway

I discovered my wife was texting an ex of hers 4 weeks ago. I asked her about it and she lost the head and didn't want to talk about it. She let slip she deleted some txt and left otgers o her phone that were harmless. She said there was nothing in them, then why delete them. I told her i don't mind her seeing him but don't lie to me about it. She won't talk about it and gets annoyed. She deleted his number but still friends on Facebook. Just want the truth really

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