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Enjoying Jealousy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just looking for opinions. Does anybody else enjoy feeling jealous?

I have always loved to share my partners. I enjoy them flirting and playing with others. The feeling of being slightly jealous turns me on. Is anyone else the same?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

No I don't think with me jealously would turn me on .

I think if anything it would have the reverse effect

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

If I started getting jealous I don't think I'd be enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is derived from negative emotions.

Only psychopaths like negative emotions iko

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy is derived from negative emotions.

Only psychopaths like negative emotions iko

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That explains a lot and possibly why I not only like but enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy is derived from negative emotions.

Only psychopaths like negative emotions iko

That explains a lot and possibly why I not only like but enjoy it "

You Sir are a hero

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Not jealous at all if my husband is out playing without me, frustrated horny and needy though which makes his return even more fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would never react to it in a negative way. If my partner is playing its another emotion for me to enjoy.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I would never react to it in a negative way. If my partner is playing its another emotion for me to enjoy. "

Maybe it's that you desire her more when you see her with others? Jealousy is totally different and not a nice feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be ego-gratifying for some to know their partner is desired by others

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's a little tiny bit of humiliation and sexual submissiveness that makes jealousy into a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Actually you might have hit the nail on the head there. Thats a more positive way of looking at it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think I'd enjoy feeling jealous. It's never a nice feeling when it has happened before and I can't see how in a swinging relationship it would be healthy.

A bit envious yes but jealously no that would not appeal to me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think there is confusion between desire and jealousy.... Desire is healthy and definitely a turn on. Dont think jealousy is a turn on.... The green eyed monster is not an attractive quality!

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

I dont enjoy it but i think it’s important, shows your other half you care.

Even if its irrational

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...jealous ..to me any way ..is being envy of someone which means youre not happy or content with your own self in what you have...and its not a good thing as its a negative.

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By *exydoctorsCouple
over a year ago

Galway/Clare

I think it's complex emotions... But for me it's more the lovely thought that she gets to enjoy herself and that someone else gets to enjoy her.

That has a little edge to it in that society looks at her sexuality as something that should be only with me.... And that she will have a different type of sex with someone else and enjoy it, but it's definitely not "jealousy"

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Some people 'enjoy' pain. Some people 'enjoy' jealously. Others cant understand it. Human sexuality is complex. None probably moreso than D/s situations. It's not necessary to understand to enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high "

That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high

That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen."

So hard to not to let that bond happen im not a cold person in general i like who im with to feel comfortable and at ease leads to amazing fun but yeah its hard not to let that happen human nature i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen."

Wired is subjective of course, but I also wouldn't like it not my thing. Yes the sexuality of humans is complex..more fundamentally the Brain. I suppose anything that can be arranged in the brain can potentially happen sexual or not. Even functionally or not. But functional is more likely than not.

In many of the cases I have encountered not seems that the signal in the brain for jealousy in some people is linked to the signal patters of pleasure in some way. What way is the tricky thing to answer?. Some are for sure kind of in the closet also.

For it to be so prevalent it must have had an initial evolutionary advantage. But my guess to what is as good as any.

- Maybe using their partner or working together to gain statues or control another.

- I think also if a male allows another to be with a partner, in older times the chance of conceiving would be low relative to the actual partner but then you have gained a bond with a resource giving ally.

It's a very under reaserched area and hard to confirm these things.

What is sure is if it's truly legal/consenting then it's "normal"

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There is an evolutionary advantage to a mother to have her mate around to protect her and any of their offspring, and to ward off other females who threaten the unit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an evolutionary advantage to a mother to have her mate around to protect her and any of their offspring, and to ward off other females who threaten the unit."

Hence jealousy on both parts. And why the lifestyle of Fab is not the predominate one. I suppose

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