FabSwingers.com forum: FWB or NSA

By *ice_Guy_Cork OP Man
over a year ago

Cork

....I'm a FWB person myself...just curious about others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id prefer a fwb or a part time boyfriend.. Apply within

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Fwb is definitely preferable. I find the sex gets better the more you know someone.

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By *occiMan
over a year ago

Co Down

"Id prefer a fwb or a part time boyfriend.. Apply within

#shameless

Application incoming

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb preferably 2 fwb's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll take either at this stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB is more appealing to me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb! "

This

In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb!

This

In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more. "

100% (and by someone I mean me usually)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA, I have a relationship

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Nsa suits me

now put that shotgun away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa suits me

now put that shotgun away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb here way better the more times you fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB can be great fun as you both know what buttons to press , NSA always has the anticipation of the unknown, so I think it’s both for me

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Why not both ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely FWB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not both ?"

Indeed, just because you meet someone more than once, it doesn't mean you have an attachment to them

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Is an NSA only a once off meet....does it turn into FWB if it happens more than once with the same partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is an NSA only a once off meet....does it turn into FWB if it happens more than once with the same partner "

So far as I'm concerned, a FWB is someone you see aside from the sex. If it's sex only then it's a fuckbuddy

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By *ercedes60Man
over a year ago

waterford

Not really much of a difference is there. Once both or on the same page

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By *ercedes60Man
over a year ago

waterford

"Why not both ?

Indeed, just because you meet someone more than once, it doesn't mean you have an attachment to them"
I agree both

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

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By *ercedes60Man
over a year ago

waterford

"....I'm a FWB person myself...just curious about others?"
good call lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

That's how I see it.

FWB there's a connection that's based on more than sex.

FB there isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

Well than I need one of each. As for feelings etc once both on same page no issue. I met a guy from fab for over a year and it was great, odd night over, lunch or cinema outings, a night away but the best part was all the hot sex we enjoyed. Many a lovely afternoon spent in front of open fire having fun , we even went to the gym a few times.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

A fb can stay over as well but its more about the sex. You like each other but you meet to have sex.

A friends with benefits is exactly that a friend as well. Someone who you don't necessarily have to meet just to have sex. You are actually friends who know a lot more about each other than a fb and you would and enjoy each others company as well as having great sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still say Fwb for me , as cold emotionless meets I couldn't do . Each to their own .

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

Ya had me until you said Gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

Ya had me until you said Gym

But there's a sauna, steam room and a jacuzzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!!

Yes .

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right

A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight

Ya had me until you said Gym

But there's a sauna, steam room and a jacuzzi

And I'm back in the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!!

Yes ."

How many FB's do you rekon don't even know each others real names? Does an FB even care about the details?... Is it just "Don't tell me your name, just take off your clothes"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FwB is more fun then ONS

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By *avana_oh_na_naWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.

Love your honesty! We live in a diverse world and each to their own pleasures!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Bingo!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Bingo! "

I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....

NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Bingo!

I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo. "

I agree that people shouldn't settle for less than what they actually want, but in today's culture a woman who isn't up for purely casual sex is gonna be pretty lonely. So I don't blame women for seeking out intimacy where they can get it, even if it's not 100% what they want.

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By *lavemale66Man
over a year ago

Carlow

My 1st choice would fwb, 2nd would be fb

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

And how exactly does casual sex make someone not lonely. Casual sex is just sex is certainly won't help if you are lonely before you fuck that person. You'll be just as lonely after if that's the case. Today's culture has nothing to do with that.

I don't know many women who seek out intimacy wherever they get it or men for that matter. If people settle for less than what they want then they only have themselves to blame. No one should feel they need to settle for less. Some are happy with nsa. Some want a fb or a fwb some want relationships. It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bingo!

I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.

No one should settle for less that I do agree with , but saying that a woman in today's culture who isn't up for casual sex is going to end up pretty lonely is not true in my opinion.

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....

NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation"

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By *orny-build3rMan
over a year ago

belfast

"Id prefer a fwb or a part time boyfriend.. Apply within

#shameless

Hard to beat a fwb, I’d love 1 within the west Belfast area. Apply within

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 1st choice would fwb, 2nd would be fb"

That's it , its all about individual choices as to what you'd like for yourself. If your choice makes you happy then it's the right one for you . If it makes you unhappy then don't make that mistake again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB:- you both should have respect for each out and play out your fantasy if wanted to

ONS:- just one person get satisfied

FB :- Lets just have sex because each of us can be arsed finding a partner for the enjoyment and even if your not satisfied who cares ?

That’s how I look at them.

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By *orny-build3rMan
over a year ago

belfast

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....

NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation"

Do women and men catch feels in your opinion or if its just one of them does it fuck it up for both

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Everyone should be free to make their own decisions and decide what makes them happy or not but it's a load of bull to insinuate that it's only women who are seeking intimacy and only men who are unwilling to commit.

Loneliness within relationships regardless of what they are tagged as is not gender specific but at the same time anyone male or female who is not interested in casual sex shouldn't automatically be put in the lonely box.

The world does not revolve around sex or peoples attitude to it.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Bingo!

I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.

No one should settle for less that I do agree with , but saying that a woman in today's culture who isn't up for casual sex is going to end up pretty lonely is not true in my opinion. "

Just me then? Maybe it's different for slim women, but in my experience men are not interested in dating at all these days, it's NSA sex or fwb and that's it.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will. "

I fully agree but I think you're absolutely delusional if you think women up and down Ireland aren't fucking guys they want to be dating in the hope that more will develop. And it's not all their fault either, plenty of men are well aware of that, use it to their advantage, and don't give a shit.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....

NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation

Do women and men catch feels in your opinion or if its just one of them does it fuck it up for both "

Defo it can happen both ways, and it fucks it up for both when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't want a real relationship unless its some type of open one.. Ive never met a man that has made me only want him forever.. And until i do find someone like that a fwb will do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the thoughts on poly then compared with fwb etc??

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Everyone should be free to make their own decisions and decide what makes them happy or not but it's a load of bull to insinuate that it's only women who are seeking intimacy and only men who are unwilling to commit.

The world does not revolve around sex or peoples attitude to it. "

I wasn't insinuating it's only women who seek intimacy - that's my experience, as I am a straight woman, so that's all I can speak to.

I also didn't say that anyone who doesn't do casual sex is lonely... I said that if you are a straight woman who is looking for a relationship but you don't want to have casual sex, in today's culture, it's pretty lonely. That's my experience, ie, men aren't interested in dating if sex isn't on the table straight away. I don't think I'm fundamentally undatable or unique in my experience, in fact I know many other women who have the same experience.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I am not disillusioned at all and don't really like the insinuation I am because I dare to disagree with you. If women fuck guys knowing that the guy doesn't want more then that is their own fault.And yes I know it happens but it rarely will work out as they want. As I said settling for less than what they want will never make anyone happy.

And plenty of women do the exact same thing to men as well. They lead them on and use them as well.

It's why it should be clear what both want from the start and if both are not on the same page they should walk away. If one of them continues to meet knowing what the other wanted then they have no one else to blame if it goes wrong.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"What's the thoughts on poly then compared with fwb etc??"

Ahh here what the hell does polly do and bring to the table

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

And you are delusional if you think there aren't women the length and breadth of Ireland taking advantage too and not giving a shit.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"What's the thoughts on poly then compared with fwb etc??

Ahh here what the hell does polly do and bring to the table "

Puts the kettle on

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By *avana_oh_na_naWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Bingo!

I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.

Did you really just say "someone is doing it wrong"?!

Because you know if women get treated like crap, it must be their own fault. My god woman, i know you're from a generation skewed by the patriarchy but COME ON."

What are you on about. Don't even try that argument. If someone allows someone else to use them they have no one but themselves to blame. If someone is treating you like crap you walk away no matter what age you are. That is having respect for yourself. And yes it can be damn hard to walk away I know because I did and it took me while to but it also taught me a lesson to not settle for less and if someone makes me feel like I'm being used to walk away. And sorry but trying to act like women are always the victims is naive. Men are just as likely to be used by women.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

And playing the size card never wins friends or influences people.

After all to borrow a quote from another thread " most men prefer a little jiggle"

Attitude is also a determining factor in relationships and if one party has a bad attitude it's not attractive at all.

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By *rinibooWoman
over a year ago

clare

"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb!

This

In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more.

100% (and by someone I mean me usually) "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA is exactly that...thanks for everything hope you had as good a time as l had ..take care, bye.

FWB is something way more than NSA there is a mutual respect part that both have for each other in ways other than sex which at times may lead to deeper feelings which may not neccessarily be a bad thing .

Of the two ? both have their pros and cons but definetely sex is way better in the FWB dept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb is best.

You're both on the same page and know what you like. There's no awkwardness either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

N s a for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id prefer a fwb or a part time boyfriend.. Apply within

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Where do I get my application form

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

"Fwb preferably 2 fwb's "

One for now one for later?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fwb preferably 2 fwb's

One for now one for later?"

Sure you know my work schedule at least with 2 bound to be one of them free

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Going by those definitions I have/had many fwbs just because I like my meets with a bit of classy frills and a repeat option.

Aren't labels great, they never match and always cause arguments.

Anyway I'm greedy, I'm having both. Like someone said further up why settle for less?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SMT

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"SMT

Suck my tits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SMT

Suck my tits?

In your dreams only DH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb! "

100% this

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

This thread just shows that not everyone is on the same page with terminology.

I'm good with FB or FWB, not interested in ONS. In my mind neither FB or FWB have strings attached.

To me, a fuck buddy is sex with no meeting or socialising outside of meeting for sex/play. It can be long term, it can include staying overnight, for me it often means being mates.

A FWB would only differ from that in that we do other activities together as well as sex.

As for catching feels, I love a lot of my friends. Doesn't mean I have to jump on the conventional relationship escalator with them just because I also happen to be sexual with any of them.

I'm very happy being 'officially' single & have no intention of cohabiting with anyone in the future. Sure, someone could happen along to change my mind, but I'm not looking for it.

I have found a lot of people tell you they want FWB but often behave as if the F is silent.

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

FWB.

If a ONS is great then I'd want it to be more than ONS. If a ONS is bad then it can be awkward.

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By *upermanslovechildMan
over a year ago

Glasnevin

"I still say Fwb for me , as cold emotionless meets I couldn't do . Each to their own . "

Same here, some connection is always a good thing to have.

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

Fwb or nsa.

As long as regular

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Fwb works well for me but very hard to find someone you really like and want to see them on the regular...and them feel the same

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By *r mrs sexyirisheyesMan
over a year ago

Bangor

FWB works well for me and my FWB, we are both married but not to each other, we meet 3/4 times a month, sometimes more if we can both make it, we are both happy in our own family life’s but the sec we have is so so good, she said I have improved her home sex life as we try lots of things but her hubby wouldn’t, it’s been going on 4 years and gets better each time we meet

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

I've had successful FWB situations and not so successful. Provided both are on the same page, yea it's for me. As soon as the feels kick in on whatever side & they aren't reciprocated, time to go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB...

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By *iggBadDaveMan
over a year ago

Ards

Difficult one , in theory fwb every time , issue I had in the past is it can lead to jealousy and other issues. Definitely the more you get to know someone the better the sex gets . For me casual is my preference after learning the hard way ,

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

FWB for us we like to have a couple but we also have this independently

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By *m158Couple
over a year ago

Cork

FWB for us....pretty difficult to make that connection so to have that someone extra that can help spice things up every now and then is what we keep searching for

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Well she called me her fwb yesterday so at least I know what I am offically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB

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