FabSwingers.com forum: Question for all: genuinely looking for thoughts of others.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never posted on the forum before so I said I would.

I have put off meeting some seriously hot, fit rides in the past because I’m slightly insecure about my wobbly bits and some surgery scars! Was in a long term relationship so it didn’t bother me too much.

So I guess my questions are:

One: What are the best positions to hide said wobbly bits? My belly is mine.

Two: Any tips to just get over myself, what gives you the confidence to get down to it?

Three: Do guys and Gals really care, or does the heat of the moment just let you move past the wobbly bits, to get to the important bits?

Serious and funny advice most welcome. I feel like my sexual prime is passing me by, because of my insecurities. Cheers.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

The wobbly bits are all part of the experience.

I've been amazed to see photo's on here of stretch marks,cellulite,and all sorts of weird and wonderful body shapes.

One thing the posters all share is an atitude of this is me....its who I am and I'm hot as fuck....get over yourself if you don't like it.

Op if someone wants to meet you and you want to meet them...go for it...life is too short

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Best advice I would have is to represent yourself honestly and you are now. If your meet knows that you have a tummy and chooses to meet you, then they obviously dont have a problem with that. Too often folks might send a old pic or something. Dont. Be upfront warts and all.. and if they arent interested then it's their loss. As long as you represented yourself accurately then there I'll be no surprises when it comes to naked-time.

Secondly, beauty magazine beauty is bullshit. It's not what makes someone attractive and its what makes you a good fuck.

Thirdly, make her best you can of what you've got to maximise your confidence. Try different underwear and shapewear sets and find one you feel sexy in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tip? Men won't care so long as they're getting the ride

In seriousness, any mature adult knows there's no such thing as the perfect body. Unless someone is photoshopping their pics or misrepresenting themselves in their description (that includes age, in our book), then we're expecting what we see in the profile with a few extra lumps, bumps and scars, we all try to show our best selves in our pics!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've wobbly bits as well particularly my stomach which I hate. But the guys I have met don't seem to have minded at all and I think that has helped my confidence. But it takes time and is a work in progress both building my confidence and getting rid of the wobbly bits.

All you can do is chat to people you get in with and see how it goes. I'm always truthful about my wobbly bits when chatting so guys don't expect a slim person when they meet me.

If you do get negative comments and sadly it happens try and ignore them as it's usually someone who after you say no has to throw something back to try and insult you. At the end of the day it's a meaningless comment from a ramdom stranger when that happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your belly bothers you, keep suspenders or a body stocking on, but really, everyone has some part they don't like themselves, and quite often, we build it up it our heads to be a much bigger issue than it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own preferences on here.And as someone with my own wobbly bits its never prevented me from having meets. If who youre meeting doesn't want u for who you are or what ur shape is. That's their loss not urs.. Get urself out there and be urself.. Hope you go on to have plenty of fun xxx

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Sexual attraction is as much if not more about what's between your ears than what's between your legs.

There is no such thing as the perfect body so embrace who you are and adjust and amend if you feel like it but just own your body as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say don't cover up in person. Talk about it before your meets and then if they bail they bail (the vast majority wont). When you get down to whatever you're into theres no point in compromising the things you like to cover yourself up, you wont enjoy it as much. Try to accept it. Plus you look great .

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Most guys are perfectly fine with "wobbly bits" especially when fun and chemistry abounds between two hot and willing people

To the breast of my knowledge

all positions with a woman experiencing "the wobbly bits phenomenon" seemed to pass off without incident so great sex isn't affected either

Main thing is to meet people (when it's safe to), chat, have the banter, enjoy the chemistry and don't second guess yourself

Also, lots to be said about nice lingerie on most shapes and sizes, so if you need someone to go to a lingerie shop with you ...I'll bring a packed lunch

Have fun!

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By *ildmovementMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think this is a bigger issue for the ladies than the gents or at least that is what I have found with partners in the past. I really don’t think that guys have an issue with it and find most guys like natural curves. But even if they do it still doesn’t help a woman’s own issues with herself.

One thing I know that has helped in the past is to buy lingerie that covers the bits you don’t like and leave it on during the first or second physical meet you are having with your impending meet. That should give you the confidence to to get started. In the heat of the moment I find all insecurities go out the window.

The only thing to avoid is the pricks that have that putting down attitude to make themselves feel important! It wouldn’t matter if you were a supermodel then they will still put you down and try and make you feel insecure.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

No one is perfect op, and in my own personal experience most guys do not care about lumps and bumps. A lot of men like them.

Keep it real in your pics and that way you know when meeting people that you've portrayed yourself accurately. That's all you can do!

Oh and embrace your body. You look great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexiness comes in many forms OP don't worry about wobbly bits

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

In my experience, men don't see little details like stretch marks etc. They look at the lady as a whole and that includes personality and confidence.

Also, i disagree that you have reached your sexual peak. Wait til you hit your 40's and beyond, it's like a sexual revolution for many women. Wonderful things await you, my girl

- Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience, men don't see little details like stretch marks etc. They look at the lady as a whole and that includes personality and confidence.

Also, i disagree that you have reached your sexual peak. Wait til you hit your 40's and beyond, it's like a sexual revolution for many women. Wonderful things await you, my girl

- Mrs"

Yes..l would agree..l met a lady here that told me she just totally went off the sexual reichter scale when she hit her 40's... and yes..she proved her point

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

OP, you're absolutely gorgeous and any man on the site would be lucky to get a whiff of you!

I'm a good 90% wobbly bits and I can assure you that not only do most men not mind, they prefer a little jiggle.

The rock hard body type is definitely portrayed as the ideal, but I think most men would agree that soft flesh is much more sexy, sensual and enjoyable.

As for confidence, fake it til you make it. Dress yourself up in gorgeous lingerie, keep some of it on if it makes you feel more comfortable!

Eventually, as you explore more, you'll hopefully become empowered and feel sexy in the body you have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never posted on the forum before so I said I would.

So I guess my questions are:

One: What are the best positions to hide said wobbly bits? My belly is mine.

Two: Any tips to just get over myself, what gives you the confidence to get down to it?

Three: Do guys and Gals really care, or does the heat of the moment just let you move past the wobbly bits, to get to the important bits?

Serious and funny advice most welcome. I feel like my sexual prime is passing me by, because of my insecurities. Cheers. "

You look great OP

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By *ohnFKMan
over a year ago

Where the Streets Have No Name

One and three possibly have the same answer.

Perhaps I am speaking for myself here bit 'We don't really care'. The attitude,the cheekiness and (dare I say it)'the confidence' are what really turn us on. Sexy smile and bold eyes are definitely a plus of course

Number 2? Tough one. I suppose you can't simply 'choose' to be confident. It probably grows organically from positive experiences. It's a bit of a mind trick- but try only focus on complimentary messages, fab'd pics, meets where your opposite wanted round 2,3, 4 and 5 etc.... and on the flip side immediately block out/try to forget any negative comments/feedback....do not dwell on those for a second.

"Keep away from people who belittle your ambition...small people always do that"

But to be honest,..looking at your profile, I can't imagine you get anything but hounded by guys who have nice things to say about what they see!!.

And you're also fricking hilarious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the input. You are a solid bunch.

Life is too short. Gonna focus on my good parts.. like my massive tit.....alating conversation skills. Cheers all.

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By *eminexWoman
over a year ago

some where in outer space

There's Feck all ppl who have no wobbly bits ! ....or scars or tiger stripes as i call them !

I wouldn't be fond of my belly but I've never had any one mention it as above ppl said if u have arranged a meet have honest pics etc thy know wht you are like ..

Own it girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone of a larger size I have experienced it all here from the nasty abuse to the sly abuse but I have met some amazing guys who made me feel sexy as hell. I have definitely learnt to love my body since joining (still a bit to go) I recently did a boudoir photoshoot and honestly there isn't one pic I look at and see my size. And I plan to so another one next year.

If a guy wants to meet you and you want to meet him go for it (or a couple or woman).

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By *lavemale66Man
over a year ago

Carlow

OP you look great in your pics and as all previous posts have said rest your mind. Anyone who says you are anything other than beautiful isn't worth listening to or meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. You have nothing to be worried about

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By *expitCouple
over a year ago

cork

I totally understand where your are coming from i too am worried over my stomac hence why i have had only fun with 3 guys . But to be honest we are our own worse enemies . Have a glass of vino and try relax . Im coming around slowly and going by your pictures your stunning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your photos show sexyness. And sexy also it's a state of mind. If you feel sexy you are, full stop.

Now let me ask you, how many lives do you have?... Please don't let less important things to stop you from enjoying the pleassures that are awaiting for you out there. Life is now! A litle advice I'd give you is to self love your body more often. The more you know it the better you comunicate your needs, likes and dislikes to others at the moment of delivering and receiving pleassure. Go out and kill it!

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