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"I had a single profile before i met the boss. Personally I just didnt respond if not interested. Because unfortuntately when you say no, no matter how polite you are, they either get offended or try to change your mind. #nomeansnolads" This was after chatting for a bit. I was interested but he came across as a bit pushy so I changed my mind. Then he got all stalker on me. Is this the norm how? | |||
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"Yes. Yes it is. " FFS. | |||
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"I’m really struggling with this. I’m struggling with saying no and it being accepted. I’m quite able to block before anyone starts stating the obvious. Twice now, guys have taken it a step further and gotten friends to message following a “No and Block”. They either ask for a reason, request another chance and then immediately follow by being downright abusive. I can’t report them because they block the minute they send the message, cutting off the option. It’s clear I’ve had a lucky escape but Christ its freaking me out. Women of fab, is this the norm now? You chat to someone for a few messages, you aren’t feeling it and they take such exception to you saying “thanks but no thanks” that they lose their shit? " There are two types of guys in this joint ...those that can take rejection..and those that can't .. | |||
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted. No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me. Boggles the mind." Saaaaaame! If I get ghosted or don't get a reply I can make up a nice story to myself about them falling off a cliff or something that's not about rejecting me at all, MUCH better. | |||
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"I don't respond if I'm not interested for exactly this reason, I just delete. If they message again I block. Same goes if we've been chatting tbh (talking about a few messages back and forth, not days or weeks of texting), if I'm not into it I'll stop responding or if they continue to hassle me, I block. You absolutely do not owe anyone a response, not because it's good manners, not because they took the time to message you, not for any reason. We are strangers on the Internet. Words on a screen. It's not a big deal not to get an answer from someone you sent an online message to. If guys have an issue with us not responding or blocking, they need to take it up with their fellow men who can't take a polite rejection without resorting to harassment or abuse, not us. " I totally agree with you. We are strangers on the internet. If I'm not interested I ignore ...if I respond it doesn't mean " the deal is sealed"...yet a lot of guys think I'm theirs!! They get shitty if I don't message.. Do they not realise that most women may be mother's,carers,career women . ie lots of things to occupy their minds besides that stupid cock pic! | |||
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted. No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me. Boggles the mind." Totally agree with you! | |||
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted. No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me. Boggles the mind. Saaaaaame! If I get ghosted or don't get a reply I can make up a nice story to myself about them falling off a cliff or something that's not about rejecting me at all, MUCH better. " I laughed out loud here!! So funny !!! | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again " How about you just... Don't message again? | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? " because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block " But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? " ehh duhh, that's my point | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point " OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? | |||
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"I can block guys fine. I have no issue saying no when things go stale. The issue is how to say it so they don’t turn into raving loons that get their mates to message me to harass and insult me. If anyone can tell me how to report a user using just their name that would be enormously helpful. " I am going to block u click on my profile then read across the top it let u block me back and report my profile to administration | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? " Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. | |||
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"I can block guys fine. I have no issue saying no when things go stale. The issue is how to say it so they don’t turn into raving loons that get their mates to message me to harass and insult me. If anyone can tell me how to report a user using just their name that would be enormously helpful. I am going to block u click on my profile then read across the top it let u block me back and report my profile to administration " Ur blocked click on the profile and then on menu its all there post when ur done so i can unblock u and perve ur pics | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. " Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it. So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it. So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. " This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...? Here are the scenarios - You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending! | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it. So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...? Here are the scenarios - You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending! " But but but u might grow to like me | |||
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""Good-morrow, Danke schoen por el mensaje, it has warmed the depths of my heaving bosom to read such distinguished locution. Regrettably, however, I must inform you that I am unable to partake in the entanglement of our bottom beards for you see I am a mere ghost forever destined to wander this earthly plane an insatiate husk. 100 years ago after having escaped capture and justice for the trial of de-penising over fifty men I was hit by a blimp. I can only manifest into living form twice every century and I've used my latest opportunities up in order to send you this acknowledgement and see what using a "She-Wee" felt like. If you're still around come the year 2101 please send me copious pictures of your penis, along with your views on eunuchs, so that we may arrange our rendezvous. Faithfully yours" " Can I borrow that Peader | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it. So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...? Here are the scenarios - You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending! " Alot of people mass delete mail so your shit out of luck then hahaha | |||
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"Don't block them, ignore thier messages. These men are dangerous and typically end up on Worlds Scariest Stalkers. As long as they cannot get your real personal info keep ignoring thier messages. Also name and sgame them for what its worth on here." , if you name and shame you will get a ban from mods. it's happened to alot here | |||
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"There's a seriously ugly thread of entitlement from men on here. You see so many moaning about how no women with reply to them with their blank profiles and cock/Sky remote pictures. They don't take into account at all that the ratio is about 100 men to every 1 women. Any time a woman on here showed me her inbox it had more yellow than an episode of The Simpsons. A blank profile will get you nowhere so stop moaning. Any time I send a woman a message and it's read but not replied to, I don't give it a second thought. If she does reply to say no thanks, I appreciate the effort and wish her the best. Nobody owes anyone else anything on here." Well if her box is yellow I would advise her to visit her Doctor. | |||
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again How about you just... Don't message again? because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? ehh duhh, that's my point OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked. I don't have to re write its still there. women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it. So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...? Here are the scenarios - You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you. You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending! But but but u might grow to like me " Some guys can take a polite rejection, only to reappear weeks later with the same introductory message and pics, completely oblivious to the fact they have already messaged you before. | |||
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