FabSwingers.com forum: Feelings

By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Genuine question for those on here with more experience than me

If you meet someone and have sex,how do you stop yourself from having feelings for that person afterwards

Do you find it easy to forget them afterwards or is there always something imprinted inside your head

About them

Do you find it easy to just think of it as sex

Not very sure I'm describing this very well as I'm fairly confused to be honest

But sure maybe let me know how you felt afterwards when you first started

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I guess we only human, but when you sign up to a site like this you gotta be aware its casual fun with no strings. In saying that people have gone on to date etc.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's important to not get caught up in the idea that feelings are somehow weak, or wrong. It's utterly normal and natural that if you like someone and enjoy having sex with them, you will feel something. It doesn't mean that it has to be anything more. I also think people can mistake ego gratification for feelings for another, or become addicted to a high of meeting them, when this is really about oneself and what may be lacking in other areas of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to keep it straight in your head, sex is sex and nothing more.

The problems happen when the lines get blurred, unfortunately there can be some game playing as well, but you are just unlucky if you meet one of them.

R and I met through here so it does happened sometimes.

Not much use am I?

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I found it was basically a learning curve. I struggled when I was first here. But I've learned that it's ok to care about the person as a genuine friend but you know that it won't go any further than that.

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

We're only human at the end of the day. Even I have feelings lol. I've lost a good friend over feelings

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

The easiest way to avoid is not to see the same person too many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're only human at the end of the day. Even I have feelings lol. I've lost a good friend over feelings

Just one? You are doing well so

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"I found it was basically a learning curve. I struggled when I was first here. But I've learned that it's ok to care about the person as a genuine friend but you know that it won't go any further than that.

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear. "

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ...."

Nothing wrong with enjoying someone's company, but you absolutely have to be on the same page.. Because its a dangerous wee game

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By *ustkrissMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Nothing wrong with feelings,I just don't want the normal relationship settle down stuff. I think if your sexually attracted there will be feelings after a while.

Roxy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ...."

I'm not much of a believer in fwb to be honest. People are deluding themselves that it's not a relationship and it's almost inevitable that someone will get hurt.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Don't ask me. I fucked here up here in the past with my ex.. we told ourselves it would be OK. It wasn't.

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

"Don't ask me. I fucked here up here in the past with my ex.. we told ourselves it would be OK. It wasn't. "

Yea, we've got carried away too

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ...."

I think you have to like the person you are meeting and getbon with them. For me it's not about just the sex with anyone. But you also have to be on the same page with each other and know where the lines are. If you are both on the same page it's fine. It's only if the line gets crossed that it becomes an issue.

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ...."

Only you can know if you're on dangerous ground and none of us can tell you whats right for you.

I think it might depend on how often you're meeting up. I have friends that I can do all that stuff with but we don't meet regular enough for it to get too serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some solid advice floating around here.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It also might help that I genuinely don't want to be in a relationship myself. So it's easier for me to keep the lines clear.

Thanks ...this has explained it better than I did with my stupid head on me today

We've had a conversation about being friends with benefits to be honest but I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ....

And being upfront and honest about what you both want also helps but there's no specific blueprint as everyone is different.

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

We have genuine fuck buddies but that is it, meet a few times feel comfortable with them, but always nsa.

Suits us all

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

Fwb definitely leads to feelings. Been there and dont want to repeat

In my opinion the site is about meeting new people and enjoying the swinging side. I notice a lot of profiles dont like that, but we are all here to enjoy the sex. Ofherwise just sign up to tinder

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"We're only human at the end of the day. Even I have feelings lol. I've lost a good friend over feelings

Just one? You are doing well so"
aww ive lost a few friends on my time on here. This lady was a real close friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ...."

I mean tbh..... thats pretty much a relationship no matter what tag you put on it (or avoid putting on it).

You can be a couple without losing fab from your wold.. plenty couples here.

As for what is or isn't normal you nailed it....WHO GIVES A FUCK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're only human at the end of the day. Even I have feelings lol. I've lost a good friend over feelings

Just one? You are doing well soaww ive lost a few friends on my time on here. This lady was a real close friend "

Ah well, you win some, you lose some I guess.

Of course it always depends on how it was handled at the end doesn't it really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'm enjoying the bits outside the bed just as much as inside the bed

I mean we've gone to pubs,restaurants,Hotels walks on beaches and that's the bit that I'm confused about

Whats normal or not normal or who gives a fuck whats what ....

I mean tbh..... thats pretty much a relationship no matter what tag you put on it (or avoid putting on it).

You can be a couple without losing fab from your wold.. plenty couples here.

As for what is or isn't normal you nailed it....WHO GIVES A FUCK"

Bingo, whatever works for you, as long as nobody gets hurt..

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong. "

Lol.. That's a first

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong.

Lol.. That's a first "
I know!! I'm in as big a shock as you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong.

Lol.. That's a first I know!! I'm in as big a shock as you are

Ahh well if you set the ego aside, get on your knees and beg forgiveness she made decide life is too short to fight.

Who knows

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Thanks to all for the advise ....might even go easy on the puzzle monday since you've cheered me up

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

"Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong.

Lol.. That's a first I know!! I'm in as big a shock as you are

Ahh well if you set the ego aside, get on your knees and beg forgiveness she made decide life is too short to fight.

Who knows

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lol I'm on my knees feckin dropped a pound

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

"Genuine question for those on here with more experience than me

If you meet someone and have sex,how do you stop yourself from having feelings for that person afterwards

Do you find it easy to forget them afterwards or is there always something imprinted inside your head

About them

Do you find it easy to just think of it as sex

Not very sure I'm describing this very well as I'm fairly confused to be honest

But sure maybe let me know how you felt afterwards when you first started "

Just tell yourself this is only a bit of fun nothing else.. No feelings needed.. It works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very much so as I say we're only human even I get things wrong.

Lol.. That's a first I know!! I'm in as big a shock as you are

Ahh well if you set the ego aside, get on your knees and beg forgiveness she made decide life is too short to fight.

Who knows

lol I'm on my knees feckin dropped a pound

Bahahaha, sure you never know what you might find

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

More of an issue for singles then couples i think...

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"More of an issue for singles then couples i think..."

Couples have more to lose from developing weelings for people outside their relationship/marriage

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"More of an issue for singles then couples i think...

Couples have more to lose from developing weelings for people outside their relationship/marriage"

Absolutely true a lot more to lose ..but less likely to happen

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

This is the very reason we don't do regular anymore, on 2 Occasions guys thought they could demand I meet them and not others

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

No interest in relationships so I'm good at keeping it no strings. Having said that, I do like the intimate moments around the sex, ie. being able to just lie there after it all holding each other and talking, laughing or maybe even just laying in silence basking in the joy of sharing time with someone.

Just because it's no strings doesn't mean there can't be affection.

Well that's my experience anyway.

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"No interest in relationships so I'm good at keeping it no strings. Having said that, I do like the intimate moments around the sex, ie. being able to just lie there after it all holding each other and talking, laughing or maybe even just laying in silence basking in the joy of sharing time with someone.

Just because it's no strings doesn't mean there can't be affection.

Well that's my experience anyway."

This

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

That about sums it up g.p.80

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because it's no strings doesn't mean there can't be affection.

Well that's my experience anyway."

Can only echo this!

I was crazy lucky to find a couple who I'd consider two of my best friends on here and that level of connection always led to incredibly intimate encounters as well as just being comfortable laying there after!

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

Just because it's no strings doesn't mean there can't be affection.

Well that's my experience anyway."

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because it's no strings doesn't mean there can't be affection.

Well that's my experience anyway.

Can only echo this!

That's not the same though as going on "dates" with people. We enjoy this type of intimacy too, doesn't mean we're going to the cinema or out for dinner with them every couple of weeks.

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