FabSwingers.com forum: THIS IS A JOKE

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey Guys, growing very frustrated on here the past year. I think I’ve messaged nearly every girl that caught my eye at least once. Always Politely and respectfully. Have pics including face pics to show I’m genuine I am also verified and a gold member. Don’t get it. What the hell am I doing so wrong like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK, if say maybe plump out your profile a bit, you only have 2 public pics which are very similar. (no public com pics but use your imagination)

Write a bit more about what you like etc.

Try and get some more veris, coffee meets or a social or 2.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It could be any number of things. Age, content of your messages, not enough info on your profile.

If you've been here a year you've no doubt seen profiles being referred to as shop windows.

If you want to entice anyone into your shop you need to make an effort with the window display.

Too much in the window and they'll be disappointed when they get inside and find all the good stuff was in the window. Not enough and they'll walk on by.

Consistency is essential. Make an effort in your pics and bio as well as your messages and people will be more inclined to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve got two pictures which are basically the same and literally only show your underwear area. You’re leaving people NO change to see what any of your body is like - legs, arms, shoulders, stomach, back, cock etc ... no interesting poses with clothes on or angles

Your bio is very very scant too.

I’m actually surprised you got one veri based on what you have provided as it’s very very basic and having been on this over a year surely you’d have had the intelligence or effort or desire to have taken the time to check out other profiles to see how to improve.

Your profile paired with this cry poor me post smells of laziness and petulance. You are either unaware of what is required or else aware but way too lazy. Either option isn’t likely to endear people to you.

The people who “do better” just know how. This goes for most things in life. We must figure out for ourselves how to succeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get it

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

Maybe add a photo with white pants, that should do it

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Hey Guys, growing very frustrated on here the past year. I think I’ve messaged nearly every girl that caught my eye at least once. Always Politely and respectfully. Have pics including face pics to show I’m genuine I am also verified and a gold member. Don’t get it. What the hell am I doing so wrong like.

You'e a Gold member? Well why didn't you say so!! Legs spreading all across Northern Ireland as we speak !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were you expecting....Sex!!!. You need to fill out you profile , talk about yourself. Not getting any replies is standard on here. Dont get upset over it. Dont forget covid has stopped a lot of people meeting now as well. Stick with it buddy.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

You are taking this FAR too personally. This is a website on the Internet for Christ's sake. Chill the fuck out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this forum post a satirical observation?

The title reads 'THIS IS A JOKE'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'e a Gold member? Well why didn't you say so!! Legs spreading all across Northern Ireland as we speak !!"

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Is this forum post a satirical observation?

The title reads 'THIS IS A JOKE'"

He means it as in "Goddamn this is a fucking JOKE"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'e a Gold member? Well why didn't you say so!! Legs spreading all across Northern Ireland as we speak !!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this forum post a satirical observation?

The title reads 'THIS IS A JOKE'"

What he said

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Hang in there covid isn't helping things at the mo. Be polite and have a bit a aul banter on the fourms mabye get an aul coffee meet or 2 and possibly a social when things get back to normal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this forum post a satirical observation?

The title reads 'THIS IS A JOKE'"

Actually I’m not mocking, I was serious. I’ve been on off this site for the best part of the year had 20+ photos up change my profile pics and bio lots based on successful profiles. However stil nothing hence the frustration.

Thank for the dig. Poor me. I’m a growing adult and was looking advise sorry you read differently

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is no need for the nastiness when someone asks for help. Back to the OP and keep it civil please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op dont mind the digs on the thread... asking for feedback id a good thing, its not surprising more people dont do it though looking at the replies on here.

As some helpful people have said bump up the amount and variety of your pics. A little more effort into the bio could help too.

Getting involved in the forums is what became my big break though on here.

Obviously people are even more hesitant to meet at the moment.

Frustration is not an appealingolk though so maybe take the status down

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

Belfast-carlingford

If it’s annoying that much. You need to take a break from here for your own mental health. Don’t get bogged down in it all, just relax and go with the flow

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Op dont mind the digs on the thread... asking for feedback id a good thing, its not surprising more people dont do it though looking at the replies on here.

As some helpful people have said bump up the amount and variety of your pics. A little more effort into the bio could help too.

Getting involved in the forums is what became my big break though on here.

Obviously people are even more hesitant to meet at the moment.

Frustration is not an appealingolk though so maybe take the status down

What boobs said. Ill always look a bio before i read a message and if theres nothing there that grabs me i wont pursue things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would kind of agree with the last post

don't let this affect your ego, i'm amazing in real life for other things and on this site as a single man nobody gives a toss

you are kind of doing better than me anyway

also its a pandemic so just accept that people are scared as hell to meet, and if they do want to meet it's with someone they know because covid-19 only infects people you don't know i guess

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"If it’s annoying that much. You need to take a break from here for your own mental health. Don’t get bogged down in it all, just relax and go with the flow "

Thats what I was trying to say. If you're finding any website that frustrating then it may be time to take a step back For bit. It's not worth getting frustrated over.

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

I was going to say your a very small fish in a very big pond but a better analogy would be a very small rod on a very big boat.. Your bait needs to be better than the competition, its that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unfortunate it's Fab maths only so much vagina to go around.

Men come on the forums complaining get lots of advice and do nothing about it. It's unfortunately not dial a ride here. Put in the effort to reap the Fab rewards. Good luck on your Fab adventures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you from Navan ? That could be the problem

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

I think you picked the wrong day for a thread like this, Monday is only 4 days away keep the chin up I might join in with a rant too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you picked the wrong day for a thread like this, Monday is only 4 days away keep the chin up I might join in with a rant too

Best news all day..i thought today was Tuesday

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

Just another thing to point out being a site member doesn't give you instant access to sex and that status isn't doing you any favours your veris seems to speak highly of you so why not continue that connection like its not a race to get the most meets or replies quality over quantity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op dont mind the digs on the thread... asking for feedback id a good thing, its not surprising more people dont do it though looking at the replies on here.

As some helpful people have said bump up the amount and variety of your pics. A little more effort into the bio could help too.

Getting involved in the forums is what became my big break though on here.

Obviously people are even more hesitant to meet at the moment.

Frustration is not an appealingolk though so maybe take the status down

Thank you very constructive

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"I think you picked the wrong day for a thread like this, Monday is only 4 days away keep the chin up I might join in with a rant too

Best news all day..i thought today was Tuesday

Your very welcome the days do feel like deja vu lately lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it’s annoying that much. You need to take a break from here for your own mental health. Don’t get bogged down in it all, just relax and go with the flow "

In check, just get frustrating I guess no shows. Lies. Etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agreed I appreciate that alot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because it's actually me taken time out of my day. I'm a gentleman not always looking for sex but that connection. I know it's a "sex site" but I support the site because I dont feel alone. But when I'm ignored so so much it seems desperate, an attempt at looking for immediate meets. Nothing further from the truth. I'm a gentleman, up for a laugh and it always isnt reciprocated. That's what my rant was about...... good luck bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're doing nothing wrong ...ladies rule this joint and they decide who they'll meet or won't meet and you can be the perfect gentleman you are but it ain't no guarantee at all ...l wouldn't be able to give you any advice on anything here only please don't let it get to you or spoil your fun logging on.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

You have to think about how you approach the site. It's too easy to blame others or the site or whatever for you lack of meets/sex. You are only the latest in a long line of guys (it's mainly guys) that seems to think there's a magic system to get meets there isn't. But there is one nearly sure fire way to not get meets and it's starting a moaning thread about how much of a joke the site is and why after you sent messages to everyone that you fancy and didn't get the ride.

The advice I give to everyone struggling is its s numbers game you have to stand out from the crowd there's 1000s of blokes all looking for the same thing you are so what makes you different ?

I've been around a long time and met lots of people. There are 100s of blokes better looking with bigger cocks than me but they can't get meets but I have and I can because I go to events , I join in the banter on the forums and I never bitch and moan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thing is I log on with greats intents and compliment quite a few. It's just so boring when you do it and it's not reciprocated I guess. Thanks for the advise. It's not a plea of whining me. I just grew frustrated. So to everyone reading ..... that's all it was. You all started here knowing what it's like. Doesnt change my perception just taught me a lesson

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"Because it's actually me taken time out of my day. I'm a gentleman not always looking for sex but that connection. I know it's a "sex site" but I support the site because I dont feel alone. But when I'm ignored so so much it seems desperate, an attempt at looking for immediate meets. Nothing further from the truth. I'm a gentleman, up for a laugh and it always isnt reciprocated. That's what my rant was about...... good luck bro "

Firstly, this isn't an attack, you just need to see things from differant perspective. You may well be a gentleman and send nice messages and take time out of your day to do it, but that doesn't mean that the people you send messages to owe you time out of their day to respond to you, because they don't. Once you accept that and put less expectation on your attempts at starting a cobversation you might find it easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

While I take your comments on board I ain't looking for that wham bam moment. I love the flirting and passion. I want that social. I want that meet. However what I'm frustrated on is the lack of substance. Females thinking im after the above. I'm not. It has to be mutual. What I'm frustrated at is the shitty non existent profiles that lead you on. Set dates and time dont show up etc. The girls that have a million guys , of which you mentioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just log on, enjoy and join in with the craic and banter on the forums, let the ladies see your personality and who knows where that will take you.

Oh and get some more pictures.. But not cock pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

loud and clear thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd just log on, enjoy and join in with the craic and banter on the forums, let the ladies see your personality and who knows where that will take you.

Oh and get some more pictures.. But not cock pics! "

This is good advice.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"While I take your comments on board I ain't looking for that wham bam moment. I love the flirting and passion. I want that social. I want that meet. However what I'm frustrated on is the lack of substance. Females thinking im after the above. I'm not. It has to be mutual. What I'm frustrated at is the shitty non existent profiles that lead you on. Set dates and time dont show up etc. The girls that have a million guys , of which you mentioned "

If you've been stood up then report the profiles. Admins might not take action straight away, but there IS a system to deal with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is I log on with greats intents and compliment quite a few. It's just so boring when you do it and it's not reciprocated I guess. Thanks for the advise. It's not a plea of whining me. I just grew frustrated. So to everyone reading ..... that's all it was. You all started here knowing what it's like. Doesnt change my perception just taught me a lesson "

You will only prove it has truly taught you a lesson of you take the help on board and drastically improve your profile. Which by your negative replies I sense you won’t do this. Hopefully for you you do.

If you’re feeling frustrated then this is the right wrong place to air it as people will remember you as a moaner and a poor me. When you’re in these moods, log out to Feck and go talk to a friend about other shit and do something you’re interested in in real life.

It’s a hard station (pun) here if you’re a single male

. But if you’re polite and not carpet bombing every woman or couple with the same insincere compliment and shape up your profile things could look very positive for you.

You’ve already got one good veri. Talk to her maybe even instead of us.

If you use your cop on you should realise that this is just a microcosm of life for horny fuckers haha and that you need to stand out or have your selling point.

As another fella said, and i’m similar, there are tonnes of guys on here hotter, fitter and with better appendages than me, but I use what strengths I have - which I feel are humour, ability to converse and talk to people along with intelligence and some cheekiness.

You can’t just expect it to fall into your lap. And please don’t send the usual one line cringe compliments to women. Read their profile, relate your opener to something that stands out and talk to them like people, not sex objects on a pedestal. Also, don’t confuse my advice with telling you to write and essay. Only needs to be a few lines where they don’t feel too objectified

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

OP try the dating site where you swipe. Iv found that women are much chattier there. Easier to strike up a convo and take it from there

Fab has its place. But its not something you should put all your eggs in

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I understand that it must be very frustrating for guys on here. Sending first messages are not easy I've sent a few myself and it's difficult to know what to say. I know you say you compliment etc in your message but so do most new messages women get. I don't get a lot of messages and I have my filters set quite tight. But like others have said your profile is your shop window. I look at that before I even open a new message if the profile doesn't appeal to me then I may just send back a no thanks message or if there is nothing on the profile bar a one line bio and pics that dont appeal to me or no pics then I delete the message.

Also like some of the others said take part in here chat and get to know people.

If it does get to you too much then take a break for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve got two pictures which are basically the same and literally only show your underwear area. You’re leaving people NO change to see what any of your body is like - legs, arms, shoulders, stomach, back, cock etc ... no interesting poses with clothes on or angles

Your bio is very very scant too.

The people who “do better” just know how. This goes for most things in life. We must figure out for ourselves how to succeed "

About sums it up

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine

You'e a Gold member? Well why didn't you say so!! Legs spreading all across Northern Ireland as we speak !!"

Lolol rude but funny

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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Is this forum post a satirical observation?

The title reads 'THIS IS A JOKE'

Thank for the dig. Poor me. I’m a growing adult and was looking advise sorry you read differently

I think your profile is grand maybe add a bit about you.. I know socials are a bit tricky right now but try and meet for coffee with people just a meet and greet for people to see you ste real and genuine it will happen. Positive vibes will bring positive tribes. X

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