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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City

It’s like dealing with teenagers. I’m only back on after a break and absolutely sick of it already. Guys are now setting up multiple Kik and Fab accounts and hoping from account to account. Messaging repeatedly and not backing off, getting pissy when you say no. Then reproaching me from another account. No means no. FFS!!

Seriously I’ve seen how rude some women are but after the last few days, I don’t bloody blame them. Never had this before. It’s driving me nuts. What are other people doing??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use filters and initiate contact yourself with those who spark interest. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters and ignore anyone that isn't verified or doesn't look interesting.. Sprinkle the block button liberally

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

have as many filters as I can in place and otherwise its blockety block. It gets tedious and is a total pain in the ass but i think these sort of occurrences usually ebb and flow.

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By *ischief2020Man
over a year ago

Borderline

It seems to me that they think this is a fuck site that I nce you’re on here you’re game to have sex with anyone They can’t get it into their heads that you and other women are actual people. Most likely comes from being anonymous online.

Cut off their goolies!

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"Filters and ignore anyone that isn't verified or doesn't look interesting.. Sprinkle the block button liberally "

I need to block unverified. It’s crappy cos I’ve met a couple of great guys that were unverified but I think it’s needs must now.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Filters and ignore anyone that isn't verified or doesn't look interesting.. Sprinkle the block button liberally

I need to block unverified. It’s crappy cos I’ve met a couple of great guys that were unverified but I think it’s needs must now. "

Think you can specifically block new members!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

We had a new couple message us about a week ago, a few replies. Grand, then read the last message and went to reply later that day and they had blocked us.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"It’s like dealing with teenagers. I’m only back on after a break and absolutely sick of it already. Guys are now setting up multiple Kik and Fab accounts and hoping from account to account. Messaging repeatedly and not backing off, getting pissy when you say no. Then reproaching me from another account. No means no. FFS!!

Seriously I’ve seen how rude some women are but after the last few days, I don’t bloody blame them. Never had this before. It’s driving me nuts. What are other people doing?? "

Lots of new members here since lockdown as people didn't have a social life so came on here instead. Put some messaging filters in place, especially for new and unverified members

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section "
m

I don’t want to block males

I wish there was an asshole filter but I can’t seem to find it...

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west


"You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section m

I don’t want to block males

I wish there was an asshole filter but I can’t seem to find it... "

LOL @ asshole filter... love it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section m

I don’t want to block males

I wish there was an asshole filter but I can’t seem to find it... "
as a bisexual lad I could really do with the asshole filter as well and possibly I'm straight but curious but not bi but not gay filter that would be a bonus

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section m

I don’t want to block males

I wish there was an asshole filter but I can’t seem to find it... "

Block newbies, no public pics(even tho so many can cheat that one even tho they always claim they don't ) it cuts down a lot of the messages I found.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"It’s like dealing with teenagers. I’m only back on after a break and absolutely sick of it already. Guys are now setting up multiple Kik and Fab accounts and hoping from account to account. Messaging repeatedly and not backing off, getting pissy when you say no. Then reproaching me from another account. No means no. FFS!!

Seriously I’ve seen how rude some women are but after the last few days, I don’t bloody blame them. Never had this before. It’s driving me nuts. What are other people doing?? "

Welcome back to fab anyway now let's breath and slowly count to 10 slowly then back again then slowly repeat with me woosa breath in then again woosa now your back in the room calm less stressed less pissed off and your welcome if you need this again please pm me anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh we were all new once , let them find their way .... otherwise just block and get on with it

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By *rsmiley69Man
over a year ago

Cavan Monaghan

Just destroying it for the rest of us, been here a long time an not verified unfortunately, I’d like to think I’m polite an not pushy,

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Ah look hey it is what it is we gotta sort through em an ignore if they getting too much to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be a real. If you don’t have a verification within a certain timeframe your account is suspended until you get one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a real. If you don’t have a verification within a certain timeframe your account is suspended until you get one!!"

But how would you get one if it was suspended?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah sure they come and go , storm in area cup ..... sure we all know where the block button is

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

Set your filters and just delete the bad ones.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol"

True or who is using other peoples pics worse is when some one breaks someones trust and uses their pics without knowledge. Usually ones who have multiple profiles cos they can't get meets on their own seem to be the worst offenders tho for that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol

True or who is using other peoples pics worse is when some one breaks someones trust and uses their pics without knowledge. Usually ones who have multiple profiles cos they can't get meets on their own seem to be the worst offenders tho for that. "

Only the lowest of the low would resort to that.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol

True or who is using other peoples pics worse is when some one breaks someones trust and uses their pics without knowledge. Usually ones who have multiple profiles cos they can't get meets on their own seem to be the worst offenders tho for that.

Only the lowest of the low would resort to that."

That is true they are the dregs of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a real. If you don’t have a verification within a certain timeframe your account is suspended until you get one!!"

And what timeframe do you suggest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a real. If you don’t have a verification within a certain timeframe your account is suspended until you get one!!"

Yea an hour or fuvk off our website ya gobshite . I hear ya. Say it louder for the folks in the back there lad !!!!!¥?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol

True or who is using other peoples pics worse is when some one breaks someones trust and uses their pics without knowledge. Usually ones who have multiple profiles cos they can't get meets on their own seem to be the worst offenders tho for that.

Only the lowest of the low would resort to that."

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By *ired-BNMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"There should be a real. If you don’t have a verification within a certain timeframe your account is suspended until you get one!!

And what timeframe do you suggest "

Nah ideas like that would create a more desperate response for men to try and meet and get verified. It’s unfortunate alright that there are pests but using filters and not changing the foundation of the site would keep a more natural feel, allowing everyone else to still enjoy the social side of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabswingers is also social media and a business. The more users are on the site, the more potential subscribers and word of mouth. They also have a business relationship with Lovehoney. The higher the number of accounts, the more valuable Fabs is to Lovehoney. There are probably more examples. So they are not going to remove anyone. And because it is free, people leave and rejoin much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To OP, to seize full control, block all single guys like Casey Lee recommended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen so many come and go...so many ppl with different profiles too it’s hard to know who’s who lol

True or who is using other peoples pics worse is when some one breaks someones trust and uses their pics without knowledge. Usually ones who have multiple profiles cos they can't get meets on their own seem to be the worst offenders tho for that.

Only the lowest of the low would resort to that.

That is true they are the dregs of fab. "

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"To OP, to seize full control, block all single guys like Casey Lee recommended. "

Why would I do that when it’s single guys I want to chat to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To OP, to seize full control, block all single guys like Casey Lee recommended.

Why would I do that when it’s single guys I want to chat to? "

Then just ignore the ones you aren't interested in

Then ignore all their "manners" bullshit, and "ignorant" bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To OP, to seize full control, block all single guys like Casey Lee recommended.

Why would I do that when it’s single guys I want to chat to? "

With that filter you can still message them and anyone you message will still be able to message you. It will just require you to make first contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To OP, to seize full control, block all single guys like Casey Lee recommended.

Why would I do that when it’s single guys I want to chat to? "

You contact the guys you like. No single guy can contact you. This includes good and annoying. It's an option if you are really being demented. Or orther option is allow all guys contact you and take the good with the bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can flip between both.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary


"It’s like dealing with teenagers. I’m only back on after a break and absolutely sick of it already. Guys are now setting up multiple Kik and Fab accounts and hoping from account to account. Messaging repeatedly and not backing off, getting pissy when you say no. Then reproaching me from another account. No means no. FFS!!

Seriously I’ve seen how rude some women are but after the last few days, I don’t bloody blame them. Never had this before. It’s driving me nuts. What are other people doing?? "

Is that more than one guy with the second account?

Just block em...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is annoying OP and I'm sure it's very frustrating. Not all of us newbies are like that though there are a few diamonds in the rough

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"Use filters and initiate contact yourself with those who spark interest. Simple"

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard for genuine guys to get a break on here...... so many assholes obviously ruining any chances a decent guy has of making new friends.

Very frustrating from a guys point of view too, to be honest.

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By *edknobsMan
over a year ago

mullingar


"Hard for genuine guys to get a break on here...... so many assholes obviously ruining any chances a decent guy has of making new friends.

Very frustrating from a guys point of view too, to be honest."

True..assholes.. neanderthals.... Probably the very "men" that would run a mile... not knowing what to do in the company of a woman

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By *unguyhere2020Man
over a year ago

Galway can travel

Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified

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By *edknobsMan
over a year ago

mullingar


"Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified "

Agreed, difficult... But there is never an excuse for being rude, and as for being pushy and not taking "no" for an answer, is bombarding gonna change things??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified "

What about them?

No one is entitled to meet just because they joined the site.

Yes in these times of social distancing and restrictions a new member will not have the opportunity to to visit clubs or organised socials, but then I suppose we really shouldn't be meeting at all at present.

You can still try to build a rapport with others on line, but again that still doesn't entitle anyone to meet when restrictions are lifted.

Also not everyone demands that others are meet verified, we do, yes, but many others don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be terrible to be in such high demand though .... like ladies must get hundreds of messages every day.... how do they keep track of who's who's

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


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Is that more than one guy with the second account?

Just block em..."

He had more than one Kid account - i suspect another Fab account but not sure...

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By *ed just Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin City


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Agreed, difficult... But there is never an excuse for being rude, and as for being pushy and not taking "no" for an answer, is bombarding gonna change things??"

This. I've no problem speaking to new people or unverified people. IN fact, just because someone is verified, doesn't mean they aren't rude dickheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure hes felt the wrath of your scorn ..... ye sent him packing.... thing is he wasnt the first and wont be the last

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine

Either block them, report them or just don't answer

There is absolutely no need for anyone to be rude, guys I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is annoying OP and I'm sure it's very frustrating. Not all of us newbies are like that though there are a few diamonds in the rough "


"Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified "

I actually reached out and messaged two unverified male newbies recently and had coffee with both of them. They both had interesting well written profiles and really good photos which is rare here. I know it's used as a excuse all the time but both got verified within a month because they had good profiles. So I personally think it's a feeble excuse. Make an effort and you reap the rewards

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine


"That is annoying OP and I'm sure it's very frustrating. Not all of us newbies are like that though there are a few diamonds in the rough

Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified

Good for you

I actually reached out and messaged two unverified male newbies recently and had coffee with both of them. They both had interesting well written profiles and really good photos which is rare here. I know it's used as a excuse all the time but both got verified within a month because they had good profiles. So I personally think it's a feeble excuse. Make an effort and you reap the rewards "

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"That is annoying OP and I'm sure it's very frustrating. Not all of us newbies are like that though there are a few diamonds in the rough

Hi what about the honest new members who cant get a met because they are not vertified

I actually reached out and messaged two unverified male newbies recently and had coffee with both of them. They both had interesting well written profiles and really good photos which is rare here. I know it's used as a excuse all the time but both got verified within a month because they had good profiles. So I personally think it's a feeble excuse. Make an effort and you reap the rewards "

We will meet a sound newbie over a cocky "fill in later been here before know how it works" any day of the week

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By *ubJesseMan
over a year ago

by the airport

As a single guy , I even have filters to stop guys and newbies from messaging me. They don’t take straight for an answer

And I’d also rest some portion of blame with the site itself for having such ancient software that makes it difficult to filter this better.

Perhaps something like Reddit , which has a karma score. So you can upvote and downvote people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can block unverified members as well as block males from mailing you it's on the mail filter section m

I don’t want to block males

I wish there was an asshole filter but I can’t seem to find it... "

If you figure it out will ya let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s like dealing with teenagers. I’m only back on after a break and absolutely sick of it already. Guys are now setting up multiple Kik and Fab accounts and hoping from account to account. Messaging repeatedly and not backing off, getting pissy when you say no. Then reproaching me from another account. No means no. FFS!!

Seriously I’ve seen how rude some women are but after the last few days, I don’t bloody blame them. Never had this before. It’s driving me nuts. What are other people doing?? "

6 weeks not one message sent to the pleasure consultant without initiation.

Recommendation .. rejoin as a male

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