FabSwingers.com forum: Changing your mind

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you capable of changing your mind and if so what's the best example of changing your mind on a topic you felt strongly about ?

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over a year ago

For years I was adamant that dinosaurs couldnt have feathers.

I just refused to accept it as I didnt want the badass illusion of them that I learned as a kid, to be shattered by images of them clucking and flapping about the place.

Now i actually think the opposite. How amazing it is that everything from feathers for insulation, to hollow bones to support their enormous size, eventually all came together to support the completly unrelated practice of flight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For years I was adamant that dinosaurs couldnt have feathers.

I just refused to accept it as I didnt want the badass illusion of them that I learned as a kid, to be shattered by images of them clucking and flapping about the place.

You're the most interesting forum member on here for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue "

That's interesting . What was it changed your mind ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For years I was adamant that dinosaurs couldnt have feathers.

I just refused to accept it as I didnt want the badass illusion of them that I learned as a kid, to be shattered by images of them clucking and flapping about the place.

I recently got chickens and they're just like weird like dinosaurs. It's kind of terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never changed my mind about anything really. But tbf, it's only because I'm always right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never changed my mind about anything really. But tbf, it's only because I'm always right.

Is that your genuine response ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never changed my mind about anything really. But tbf, it's only because I'm always right.

Is that your genuine response ? "

Um. No. It was a joke... I'll just put myself to bed now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never changed my mind about anything really. But tbf, it's only because I'm always right.

Is that your genuine response ?

Um. No. It was a joke... I'll just put myself to bed now.

What have you last changed your mind on or what have you changed your mind in the past that you previously held a strong opinion on ?

A lot of people think they are right all the time and no amount of facts can break through their cognitive dissonance be it emotional/indoctrinated beliefs etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue

That's interesting . What was it changed your mind ?"

Probably that with age novelty of playing with women and ffm threesomes have worn off and I realised that most of my life it's been only men except for... maybe 2-3 women who ever managed to make me reach the big O.

Not saying all men have, only saying that men I've ever met have been with have done way more powerful things..

And porn of course to help me with the visual image

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue

That's interesting . What was it changed your mind ?

Not saying all men have, only saying that men I've ever met have been with have done way more powerful things..

And porn of course to help me with the visual image

Thank you for your honesty. I've been on quite a sexual evolution myself over the last 20 years !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changed my mind about climate change because the evidence is mounting too quickly

Changed my mind about eating meat as a result of the above

Changed my mind about not wanting children because my ex wanted them, turned out my initial instincts on that one were spot on!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

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"All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue "

Fair play to them being able to keep you happy for 2 months

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By *hivers2020Woman
over a year ago

lolli land

I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good....

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts "

Exactly this. I'm evidence based. Show me the evidence and I'm converted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Exactly this. I'm evidence based. Show me the evidence and I'm converted."

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good...."

Give it time...give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good...."

It is a dark scary place with lots of big bad monsters......boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good....

Give it time...give it time

Im trying hard. Its time consuming though. Fun anyway

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good....

It is a dark scary place with lots of big bad monsters......boo

Its like the little kid asking his grandad to look under the bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I changed my mind about the irish forum, I thought it was a dark and scary place to place myself in. But so far so good....

It is a dark scary place with lots of big bad monsters......boo

Big bad monsters that surely would melt with a rub on his back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most recent thing was probably Covid.

If you had asked me in March I'd have said ah its just a bad flu.....

A big one and one that was spoken about recently in here was my own attitude to travellers.

I'd have been very prejudiced towards them after years of working in public leisure centres.

It's something I have to actively work on rather than a natural change though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Ive changed my mind about both being and not being on fab..... seem to be far from alone in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

I said I was buying a PlayStation 5 not I think I'm buying an Xbox series x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Covid19 as well i heard about it in January didn't really want to listen to it or believe it now i know how serious it became from march onwards

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"All my life I used to think that mfm threesome was most useless form of group sex as the girl just ended up sucking cock most of the time.

Now I think it's extremely hot to have two men: four hands, two months and two cocks to spoil me rotten.

P.s. way overdue "

Agree 100%. It's only in the situation that you realise there's nothing hotter than being spitroasted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn. "

I'm particularly interested in this.. it seems like quite the eye opener. If you are comfortable... would you mind elaborating context on your previous thoughts to what you think now ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts "

Maybe your opinion evolving might be a more suitable phrasing for you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Exactly this. I'm evidence based. Show me the evidence and I'm converted."

May I ask...(I agree with you by the way) but what framework do you happen to use ?

I try to educate myself through science when it's applicable and also try to challenge my own biases before reaching conclusions which may be subjective for me .

Outside of that I try to research statistics to come to a more informed opinion . I'm lucky in that I've never had a FB account so don't get involved in some of the anarchy I hear going on there .

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By *hivers2020Woman
over a year ago

lolli land

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Maybe your opinion evolving might be a more suitable phrasing for you ?"

Possibly. I like to hear different peoples viewpoints incase they see things completely different to how I see it and can tell me something I haven’t considered

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Maybe your opinion evolving might be a more suitable phrasing for you ?

Possibly. I like to hear different peoples viewpoints incase they see things completely different to how I see it and can tell me something I haven’t considered"

Best way to be .

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn.

I'm particularly interested in this.. it seems like quite the eye opener. If you are comfortable... would you mind elaborating context on your previous thoughts to what you think now ?"

It's not for a public forum but the gist of it is that I always believed my purpose in life was to help and support others but then realised I had forgotten to look after myself while doing all that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn.

I'm particularly interested in this.. it seems like quite the eye opener. If you are comfortable... would you mind elaborating context on your previous thoughts to what you think now ?

It's not for a public forum but the gist of it is that I always believed my purpose in life was to help and support others but then realised I had forgotten to look after myself while doing all that. "

It wasn't a sudden realisation either. It took years which is why I'd call a mind change rather than a realisation.

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By *shtimer05Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Recently one of my friends came out to me about what he went through in an abusive relationship. I was on the phone when he told about this to me. I was telling myself ‘wtf, why couldn’t he push back and stand up for himself and why’s he being a wuss’. But when I met him that evening I realised his pain looking at him. He was in love with the wrong person but couldn’t move away and was depressed and suicidal. I never knew he was going through this until he came out. So I’m never gonna judge a persons state of mind by what they are portraying outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn.

I'm particularly interested in this.. it seems like quite the eye opener. If you are comfortable... would you mind elaborating context on your previous thoughts to what you think now ?

It's not for a public forum but the gist of it is that I always believed my purpose in life was to help and support others but then realised I had forgotten to look after myself while doing all that.

It wasn't a sudden realisation either. It took years which is why I'd call a mind change rather than a realisation. "

I think this is something that dawns on a lot of us in middle age. We're responsible for our own happiness, not everyone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ankle socks is another one. I vehemently dispised them for a long time. No self respecting Alpha Male such as myself could ever saunter around flaunting his ankles for all and sundry to gawk at lol

Plus, the temperature gradient of having that section of leg exposed while the rest was covered just sounded annoying.

However, if you're doing any sort of exercise, having regular socks falling down your leg constantly pulling them up... its a pain in the hoop. I've definitely changed my mind on that important issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest change of mind I had was in becoming a parent

And of course, the change from a believer in Christianity to atheism

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Changed my mind about specific events or individuals in both a positive and negative way.

Changed my mind about 6 years ago about my own contribution to humanity.

Not quite an "It's a wonderful Life" realisation but in the grand scheme it was a definite about turn.

I'm particularly interested in this.. it seems like quite the eye opener. If you are comfortable... would you mind elaborating context on your previous thoughts to what you think now ?

It's not for a public forum but the gist of it is that I always believed my purpose in life was to help and support others but then realised I had forgotten to look after myself while doing all that.

It wasn't a sudden realisation either. It took years which is why I'd call a mind change rather than a realisation.

I think this is something that dawns on a lot of us in middle age. We're responsible for our own happiness, not everyone else's"

I was conditioned by circumstance and had been a carer from the age of 12 so I completely bypassed my teenage years and had settled in a particular pattern for almost 3 decades. It had nothing to do with middle age because I was aware of it all along but didn't have the strength to seek an alternative.

Once I did start to progress it still took 10 years to take the first step towards that mind change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ankle socks is another one. I vehemently dispised them for a long time. No self respecting Alpha Male such as myself could ever saunter around flaunting his ankles for all and sundry to gawk at lol

Plus, the temperature gradient of having that section of leg exposed while the rest was covered just sounded annoying.

However, if you're doing any sort of exercise, having regular socks falling down your leg constantly pulling them up... its a pain in the hoop. I've definitely changed my mind on that important issue

I have seen a number of men in my life taking this particular journey and it never fails to make me smile seeing then become such passionate advocates of the ankle sock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ankle socks is another one. I vehemently dispised them for a long time. No self respecting Alpha Male such as myself could ever saunter around flaunting his ankles for all and sundry to gawk at lol

Plus, the temperature gradient of having that section of leg exposed while the rest was covered just sounded annoying.

However, if you're doing any sort of exercise, having regular socks falling down your leg constantly pulling them up... its a pain in the hoop. I've definitely changed my mind on that important issue

Ankle socks in slacks or other form of pants is a no no Sleepyhead

Shorts okay..... this is a rock in the h'Atlantic we're on not the Mediterranean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I would say my willingness to listen to alternative opinions, to learn from them and as much as I can, is mine in itself. Rather than existing in an echo chamber.

I've never been dismissive of differing views but I would say I've been naive, certainly growing up; we all tend to accept what we're taught rather than question it sure!

It's not a sign of being weak-willed to change your opinion nor is it necessarily stoic to be so set in your beliefs.

However, having said all that, fruit does not belong on pizza and I am prepared to die on that hill!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

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However, having said all that, fruit does not belong on pizza and I am prepared to die on that hill!

Isn't tomato a fruit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't tomato a fruit

"Objection! Leading the witness your honour"

My lawyers have advised me not to answer that question

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Exactly this. I'm evidence based. Show me the evidence and I'm converted.

May I ask...(I agree with you by the way) but what framework do you happen to use ?

I try to educate myself through science when it's applicable and also try to challenge my own biases before reaching conclusions which may be subjective for me .

Outside of that I try to research statistics to come to a more informed opinion . I'm lucky in that I've never had a FB account so don't get involved in some of the anarchy I hear going on there ."

Much the same actually. I will read scientific papers and articles in areas in general that interest me. Science, technology, medicine, parenting, food, electronics, loads of stuff. Anything where I'm undecided or feel I need to review an opinion. Obviously my own morals and feelings inform my opinions. We will all interpret data differently due to our lives so far and our experiences..but data can override previous opinion if its sufficiently strong. I've flip flopped on a few things. Drug policy, trans rights, and some green issues being a few. This evidence based approach is the reason im an athiest, and the reason I speak up against homeopathy / chiropractors / organics, and such nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d often change my stance on something with the more information I receive, I wouldn’t say it’s changing my mind, it’s more so getting all the facts

Exactly this. I'm evidence based. Show me the evidence and I'm converted.

May I ask...(I agree with you by the way) but what framework do you happen to use ?

I try to educate myself through science when it's applicable and also try to challenge my own biases before reaching conclusions which may be subjective for me .

Outside of that I try to research statistics to come to a more informed opinion . I'm lucky in that I've never had a FB account so don't get involved in some of the anarchy I hear going on there .

I could very easily echo so much of that post ! I think I'm in love lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ankle socks is another one. I vehemently dispised them for a long time. No self respecting Alpha Male such as myself could ever saunter around flaunting his ankles for all and sundry to gawk at lol

Plus, the temperature gradient of having that section of leg exposed while the rest was covered just sounded annoying.

However, if you're doing any sort of exercise, having regular socks falling down your leg constantly pulling them up... its a pain in the hoop. I've definitely changed my mind on that important issue

Ankle socks in slacks or other form of pants is a no no Sleepyhead

Shorts okay..... this is a rock in the h'Atlantic we're on not the Mediterranean

Ah yeah, I still wouldnt wear them with long slacks. I have some dignity haha.

But def with shorts.

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

Getting rimmed. Didn't expect to enjoy it but found it a real turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The biggest change of mind I had was in becoming a parent

And of course, the change from a believer in Christianity to atheism

I'm an atheist myself and althought baptised a catholic and assigned the belief system I'm not sure how much credibility I ever gave it .

The more I looked at it the more nonsense I foundand the more I questioned those who "believed" the more I realised many of them have a want to believe rather than looking at any particular evidence.any I have found were completely ignorant to many parts of the bible which should surely be a foundation of their beliefs .

Out of curiosity would you count yourself as sporitual ?

I'd have thoughts about collective conscoousness and necoming aligned with those on a similar wavelength

.almost a cosmic consciousness if you like. I'm grateful for my limited time as an expression of the universe manifesting a way of observing itself. We are made of star stuff afterall !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still can't fully.get on board with the feathers on them dinos, I hope Jurrasic park doesn't get remaid in that way...or get canceled propagating dino-stereotypes

Like other users say, changing your mind with more evidence is good. Being able to critically analyses the information is important too other wise any information can away you.

Relatively recently a big one was on Free Will. Not Free Willy before anyone gets smart

People rarely change their mind I. Real time it's usually only after that we can allow the idea that we are wrong to sink in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the light on the fridge does go out when you close the door, turns out it does but dont ask me how i know

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I change my mind all the time! Especially with opinions on things, I'm always open to hearing other perspectives and looking for new information. That said, it takes a persuasive argument to actually sway me.

Things I've changed my mind about have been - casual sex (I'm not actually that into it) , non-monogamy (I am definitely monogamous and think that non-monogamy is not successful for the vast majority of people), marriage (not of benefit to women in any way, no idea why we do it) , kids (not sure I want them anymore).

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