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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey fabbers I’ve recently lost my dear dear wife to the cunting Big C and nowadays don’t know wot to do where to go what is left or right

So plz drop me a pm to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that! I can't relate with any of that, but hope you get through these tough times.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Sorry for your loss op.

I've lost 3 family members to it in the last 6 years including my mum so I know where you're coming from.

Hope you find the strength you need to get through and have a good support network.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Im sorry for your loss op.

It's a horrible disease and too many are lost to it every day.

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

There is usually support groups to help with bereavement sorry for your loss, check local papers for adds or ask family and friends x

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Ah look u need to talk to a counsellor ..they brilliant and very understanding...hope that's your own underwear u displaying on pics .stay strong and respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PM me anytime OP. Its good to talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about that such a terrible thing to go through. My neighbour recently lost his partner to cancer. He's joined the local Mans Shed and he finds it great distraction working on various projects and he's gotten to meet new people from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanx fabbers

Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense

Just feel lost at minute

I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky

But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice as much

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Thanx fabbers

Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense

Just feel lost at minute

I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky

But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice as much "

Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.

What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had

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By *en474Man
over a year ago

antrim

I know how you feel, I’m just on the boat to Liverpool ,going to my mums funeral on Tuesday, xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know how you feel, I’m just on the boat to Liverpool ,going to my mums funeral on Tuesday, xx"

Sorry to hear , mind urself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanx fabbers

Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense

Just feel lost at minute

I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky

But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice

Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.

What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had"

No thank you so much , a very respectful thing to write , I’ve great memories , she fought with such dignity

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Thanx fabbers

Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense

Just feel lost at minute

I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky

But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice

Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.

What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had

No thank you so much , a very respectful thing to write , I’ve great memories , she fought with such dignity "

I'm listening...lets hear about her if you want to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear about that such a terrible thing to go through. My neighbour recently lost his partner to cancer. He's joined the local Mans Shed and he finds it great distraction working on various projects and he's gotten to meet new people from it."

Thank you

I will not dismiss any advice

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By *rinibooWoman
over a year ago

clare

I lost my husband 5 years ago . I felt like I lost everything . But since joining here my confidence has come on so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss, Big C is such a cruel terrible disease and has effected us all in some way. Always good to talk thou.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay strong my fellow fabber, I'm not going to try to imagine how tough it is but stay positive and your head up you won't be long getting back on the horse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been through the same myself some years ago. It is NOT easy and despite what very well meaning people will say - it does not get better with time. What does improve with time is how you, yourself, deal with the pain and the loss. But the pain never goes away so it is best to accept that early on and concentrate on keeping yourself sane and normal. I had young kids so that kept me busy and possible drove me even more insane !!

Do NOT sit at home - get out, circulate, take up a hobby or a past time. I took up hillwalking, mostly alone, to help clear the head and then a few other pastimes where I was mingling with people. Keep yourself fit and active and eat properly.

It is all about having a good work/life balance and keeping yourself occupied when not at work.

Sitting at home on your own will kill you.

Reaching out like you have done here is a big step - but a word of caution - too much sympathy can act like a drug and you start to wallow in it after a while and thee is no progress

Most of all set up a routine - get up early, write some daily pages, visit friends you have not seen in a long time etc - just keep yourself busy.

Feel free to message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sun shines down upon us

and gives us warmth and light.

Then when the day has ended,

it disappears from sight.

Though we're left in darkness,

the sun it has not died,

for it's still shining brightly

on the world's other side.

So it is when one we love

comes to their end of days.

They've just gone to the other side

to shine their loving rays.

That's why heaven is a place

that glows beyond compare.

The lights of those who've left us

are brightly shining there."

Stay strong, Ohpee

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Sorry for your loss OP ,life can be cruel !

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sorry for your loss is right I lost my mother to Cancer a year on Thursday Thursday coming if you need talk, you can reach out to me.

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By *acmullyCouple
over a year ago

in the land of diet coke and club orange

Sorry for your loss op

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I lost my husband 5 years ago . I felt like I lost everything . But since joining here my confidence has come on so much "

My God you were so young to lose your husband

I can't even begin to imagine what that was like but wish you well in the future

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By *ewadventures2017Couple
over a year ago

some where near

Been there ...life will go on and in time you will move on

Give yourself time to get in a good place nothing will change the love or memories you have for your darling wife

It's great that you have family and friends that supports you

Everyone is different how they deal with things so no right or wrong way to do it

Stay safe and mind yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thnx Again

The weekend was tough

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