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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

I believe everyone sees this and a lot of people do this:

Write in someone's veri "highly recommend to meet"

I understand that this is supposed to be a compliment, but....

Not everyone is looking for the same thing, so is recommending someone in a veri you leave is fair? Especially when it's someone's very first meet and a veri.

Does it not give newbies a wrong impression of the whole fab world and what it contains?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am sure people can do what they want when they want on here as they all do,don't need anyone's opinions or input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand where you're coming from, Ohpee, with regards to the impression it may give to the person receiving it. Certainly with new members/first verifications; they could be forgiven for believing it's more like TripAdvisor

However, I think it's just one of those clichés that has been around for so long. As you say it's meant in a positive manner so it can be easy to see it on another verification and put it in your own as a wee compliment. Much like "treat them with respect" etc.

I see those types of intended compliments as just a product of Fab as they're what so many are exposed to when it comes to verifications.

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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Am sure people can do what they want when they want on here as they all do,don't need anyone's opinions or input "

100%. Only problem is that most newbies join here, read all the veris and assume it's dial a ride service.

Then may potentially meet one person/couple who are into that kind of thing and reinforce their belief.

Next thing you know - their self esteem is harmed, they feel ignored and feel that the whole world is against them when their messages get unanswered and nobody ever responds to their "I'm in your area, wanna fuck now" calls.

My bottom point was - high expectations drive to big disappointments and fab does have the tendency of lowering people's self esteem equally men's as well as women's. And all of it. Literally all of it comes down to people's expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs isn't even swinging in N.Ireland if you think it is well then all the best in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs isn't even swinging in N.Ireland if you think it is well then all the best in life "

Aren't you a happy chappy.. Im not sure the OP was asking if fab in NI was meeting the definition of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go get a wee bf lad

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Don't think it's somethhing we normally write but have seen it quite often .It's like recommending a tradesman or woman amd not something we relate to a sexual experience !

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By *ocktailsdreamsMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Fabs isn't even swinging in N.Ireland if you think it is well then all the best in life

Aren't you a happy chappy.. Im not sure the OP was asking if fab in NI was meeting the definition of swinging "

Hahaha and another haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am sure people can do what they want when they want on here as they all do,don't need anyone's opinions or input

100%. Only problem is that most newbies join here, read all the veris and assume it's dial a ride service.

Then may potentially meet one person/couple who are into that kind of thing and reinforce their belief.

Next thing you know - their self esteem is harmed, they feel ignored and feel that the whole world is against them when their messages get unanswered and nobody ever responds to their "I'm in your area, wanna fuck now" calls.

My bottom point was - high expectations drive to big disappointments and fab does have the tendency of lowering people's self esteem equally men's as well as women's. And all of it. Literally all of it comes down to people's expectations. "

This joint is like a jungle in so many ways ,as in there are all types moving through it ,and yes it is of course demoralising when people send messages and get no reply BUT rejection is a huge part of this jungle ,yes the ladies here might be looking to get laid but maybe just not with everyone that mails her ,and verifications are also full of ladies who say " don't pass this chance to meet this guy " etc etc blah blah but you'll notice there's never a play verification at a later date ..so a lady has now told other ladies not to pass up whichever guy she met without having a clue of what he's like to play with..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends on how much u read into what someone else has wrote in someone vert.

Personally myself a vert for me is that they showed up.after that I make up my own mind by chatting to them.but everyone differs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a noob, I find a lot of verifications cringe worthy. I don't want to know details of someone's 'oral skills,' or how tight their pussy / ass is. Surely the verification is just to confirm they exist, they showed up and that they were good company?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just dont like verifications period. I appreciate they might help to out the psychopaths and serial killers tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep supposed to verify a person is real. It's not an amazon review

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

There's a set of standard sentences used for veris and that is one of them. They're normally used when people don't know what to say about their meet (for various reasons). It's what I regard as a poor or shite veri.

So no high expectation from my point of view, quite contrary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a set of standard sentences used for veris and that is one of them. They're normally used when people don't know what to say about their meet (for various reasons). It's what I regard as a poor or shite veri.

So no high expectation from my point of view, quite contrary. "

I agree.

In addition I think it says alot about the intellect of the person leaving the verification when they can't think or articulate for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a set of standard sentences used for veris and that is one of them. They're normally used when people don't know what to say about their meet (for various reasons). It's what I regard as a poor or shite veri.

So no high expectation from my point of view, quite contrary. "

Cock to die for, what fab is all about, yada, yada

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually try to comment on something they brought that's unique to them... But not always easiest... Anyways I'm away to check veris I've given in case I've said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe everyone sees this and a lot of people do this:

Write in someone's veri "highly recommend to meet"

I understand that this is supposed to be a compliment, but....

Not everyone is looking for the same thing, so is recommending someone in a veri you leave is fair? Especially when it's someone's very first meet and a veri.

Does it not give newbies a wrong impression of the whole fab world and what it contains?

"

I just checked the veris I left and must say used phrase "highly recommend" just once but truly think he deserves this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe everyone sees this and a lot of people do this:

Write in someone's veri "highly recommend to meet"

I understand that this is supposed to be a compliment, but....

Not everyone is looking for the same thing, so is recommending someone in a veri you leave is fair? Especially when it's someone's very first meet and a veri.

Does it not give newbies a wrong impression of the whole fab world and what it contains?

"

First I am so happy there is a place to talk about this because if you try and talk about this kind of thing with most people you get blocked or labeled strange haha...which is probably connected to your point haha.

I didn't see it mentioned in the thread but I might have missed it.

For me the big issue is the ratio. I am not sure on exact numbers but a girl who was on here that I am friends with said she could log on and find over a thousand messages.

I would not find that. Hahaha

It's a numbers game:

The male expireance from the start is a meat market. You have no voice also for the most part, and I feel terrible for the people who cannot articulate themselves through no fault if there own they get screwed. You cannot be yourself in comments because the demand is so high so you must conform and say very generic answers all the time. This then teaches many people to conform to all the other tropes like what you (OP mention)

It's very good when you can be yourself. If the ratio of couples..girls...and guys were equal oh for sure you could be yourself, but not here. I personally give as an original a verification as I can and often receive the same. But I am not sure if that is good/bad as of yet.

Also to add to OP. I think reccomend is subjective so if the person's taste recommending it aligns with yours then it is good.

It's also often a person with less imagination + compounded by common trophs. ..also some people are not familiar at writing on digital interfaces.

Apolagies I just had to vent also. But all true

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