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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville

The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

I take one for the team as long as the Mrs is hot

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Uuuuugh such a pain when it happens.

Usually the female half is stunning and the guy is just ...

This is one of the reasons why we never arrange or promise any sex.

We are always still very happy to meet them for drinks or a night out but always no matter how attractive/unnatractive they are - we will not arrange any sex with them and will make it clear from the get go.

Also no, neither of us will take one for the team.

I am mainly straight and will only play with a right woman when I'm in a right mood so a man who I find unnatractive is no good for me. Same goes for Dirk- I would never ask him to have sex with anyone he doesn't find attractive just because I may fancy their other half. Fair is fair.

And yes it's hard. Extremely hard to find that one couple where all 4 people click together

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I don't know what any of you look like but as a couple how would it make you feel if another couple said the same thing to you

"Im sorry one of you is hot but the other one is isnt,but we will take one for the team

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By *exysam and StuartCouple
over a year ago

over the hills and far away

We have found this to be the case as a couple. There is no way I (Sam) would take one for the team and neither would Stu. We do however do solo meets which can eliminate this issue

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville


"I don't know what any of you look like but as a couple how would it make you feel if another couple said the same thing to you

"Im sorry one of you is hot but the other one is isnt,but we will take one for the team "

Of course not. We would just slowly ease of messaging and let it flitter out. No need to be hurtful

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville


"We have found this to be the case as a couple. There is no way I (Sam) would take one for the team and neither would Stu. We do however do solo meets which can eliminate this issue "

Yes we do meet separately too. It solves the problem as long as the other couple meets solo too. Otherwise a hot guy can escape me lol

Mrs here btw

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By *exysam and StuartCouple
over a year ago

over the hills and far away


"We have found this to be the case as a couple. There is no way I (Sam) would take one for the team and neither would Stu. We do however do solo meets which can eliminate this issue

Yes we do meet separately too. It solves the problem as long as the other couple meets solo too. Otherwise a hot guy can escape me lol

Mrs here btw "

For sure all parties have to be happy for the solo meets to happen

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville


"We have found this to be the case as a couple. There is no way I (Sam) would take one for the team and neither would Stu. We do however do solo meets which can eliminate this issue

Yes we do meet separately too. It solves the problem as long as the other couple meets solo too. Otherwise a hot guy can escape me lol

Mrs here btw

For sure all parties have to be happy for the solo meets to happen "

Just has to be said.

You are both 10/10 and we would both happily take one for the team

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare


"We have found this to be the case as a couple. There is no way I (Sam) would take one for the team and neither would Stu. We do however do solo meets which can eliminate this issue "

Love this, if defo take one for yer team lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Ur 10 out of 10 is another's meh do remember that people are attracted to each other for lots of different reasons

I'd never take one for the team no mather how good looking they are

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Very rare that the male half is more attractive unless meeting with us obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rare that the male half is more attractive unless meeting with us obviously "

Dog house tomorrow

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By *aughty Diary vol.69Couple
over a year ago

Area 69 county


"The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level"

We like to have quality time with normal and fun people, rather than having stunning couple with fantastic bodies and no brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is relative, although I have seen couples where I think ‘he’s punching’. In those scenarios, the Mr is obviously a great guy and fulfilling in ways not immediately obvious at first glance.

I guess that is part of the reason some hotwife? I’m glad for it if so. As a man if the Mr is less attractive it doesn’t bother me

I have also seen lots of well matched couples and even ones where I would say the Ms is punching...and that by proxy I am too by getting to play with an attractive partner of a very good looking man.

Comfort and trust is more important, but if someone’s looks are not your type/insufficient to make you comfortable and attracted...I wouldn’t take a hit for the team. I would never advise having sex with someone you aren’t attracted to.

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over a year ago

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

We meet separately as well as together so it’s rarely an issue for us.

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland


"Very rare that the male half is more attractive unless meeting with us obviously "

Us ladies are very hard done by

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

When we first got into swinging we started looking for bi female couples, but finding a couple where we both found the female attractive and mrs fancied the man was very hard.

That said it often comes down to charisma and chemistry over looks.

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here . "

Somehow I doubt you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level"

Looking at couple profiles many of them shows only female part and hiding hubby.Avoid those straight away unless photos of both are sent to us.Always social meet before arranging any play unless we know people we are meeting. We never take one to the team.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are "

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x"

So true Bo x

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x"

Ah no I don't, more of a joke. I'm more than happy with my place in the pecking order but I also understand now that it is very often the case it's rare for all four to feel attraction on a level that they all want to do terrible things to each other. Before starting out here I never would have thought taking one for the team was a thing. The things one does for love hey

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By *yeCandyDublinCouple
over a year ago

Lucan

We learnt very early on that one of us would potentially always be taking one for the team...it’s extremely difficult to find a couple where all 4 connect and fancy the pants off each other - although luckily it has happened on a few occasions. We find what works for us brilliantly is that we play at parties and while at those we play as if we are singles...no rules just once we are both happy and having a laugh. We both love party nights as a result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Uuuuugh such a pain when it happens.

Usually the female half is stunning and the guy is just ...

This is one of the reasons why we never arrange or promise any sex.

We are always still very happy to meet them for drinks or a night out but always no matter how attractive/unnatractive they are - we will not arrange any sex with them and will make it clear from the get go.

Also no, neither of us will take one for the team.

I am mainly straight and will only play with a right woman when I'm in a right mood so a man who I find unnatractive is no good for me. Same goes for Dirk- I would never ask him to have sex with anyone he doesn't find attractive just because I may fancy their other half. Fair is fair.

And yes it's hard. Extremely hard to find that one couple where all 4 people click together "

This was the reason fab didnt work for us when I was in a couple.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


" Looking at couple profiles many of them shows only female part and hiding hubby.Avoid those straight away unless photos of both are sent to us.Always social meet before arranging any play unless we know people we are meeting. We never take one to the team. "

There's usually a good reason why some/many couples profiles have no pics of the man. Hence, we always glide on by - Mrs

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Hands down my husband is the better looking of us but neither of us would ever take one for the team. I would be dry as a bone and bored rigid having sex with someone I wasn't attracted to.

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x

Ah no I don't, more of a joke. I'm more than happy with my place in the pecking order but I also understand now that it is very often the case it's rare for all four to feel attraction on a level that they all want to do terrible things to each other. Before starting out here I never would have thought taking one for the team was a thing. The things one does for love hey"

Would it be easier for a man to take one for the team? I don't think I could but I think hubby would. And I don't mean that to sound bad but I think women need more connections where as men don't think as much off it?

I Could be totally wrong!

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"Hands down my husband is the better looking of us but neither of us would ever take one for the team. I would be dry as a bone and bored rigid having sex with someone I wasn't attracted to.

"

Would love to see him so, you look hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x

Ah no I don't, more of a joke. I'm more than happy with my place in the pecking order but I also understand now that it is very often the case it's rare for all four to feel attraction on a level that they all want to do terrible things to each other. Before starting out here I never would have thought taking one for the team was a thing. The things one does for love hey

Would it be easier for a man to take one for the team? I don't think I could but I think hubby would. And I don't mean that to sound bad but I think women need more connections where as men don't think as much off it?

I Could be totally wrong! "
From me personally you are totally wrong. I could never ‘take one for the team’.

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

Pictures vs reality there is a big difference in our experience...

3 times ever herself was happy to fuck a guy.... kinda sad isn't it

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"Really interesting topic. About a year two years ago we had lunch with a very attractive couple we had previously played with at a party, they are vastly more experienced than we are. Lots of very open advise on how to deal with people and how they choose who to play with couples or singles

We hadn't even thought of it before until she mentioned taking one for the team on occasion so Mr could play with the more attractive partner of people the met on their travels. In their case they were happy to do so and it had worked both ways. Funny but as the conversation progressed I was finishing my carrot cake and thought...hold on a minute and I the weak link here .

Somehow I doubt you are

I agree with Inquisitive your pictures are amazing. Don't ever think of yourself like that x

Ah no I don't, more of a joke. I'm more than happy with my place in the pecking order but I also understand now that it is very often the case it's rare for all four to feel attraction on a level that they all want to do terrible things to each other. Before starting out here I never would have thought taking one for the team was a thing. The things one does for love hey

Would it be easier for a man to take one for the team? I don't think I could but I think hubby would. And I don't mean that to sound bad but I think women need more connections where as men don't think as much off it?

I Could be totally wrong! "

I'm sure many do but personally no, I have more respect for myself than to put myself in that position. The whole point of being here is to add to our experience. Then again others are more than happy to do so to keep their other half happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would it be easier for a man to take one for the team? I don't think I could but I think hubby would. And I don't mean that to sound bad but I think women need more connections where as men don't think as much off it?

I Could be totally wrong! "

I mean, if I was with someone and they really wanted to sleep with Jessica Alba's husband then I'd be willing to make that sacrifice

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"Would it be easier for a man to take one for the team? I don't think I could but I think hubby would. And I don't mean that to sound bad but I think women need more connections where as men don't think as much off it?

I Could be totally wrong!

I mean, if I was with someone and they really wanted to sleep with Jessica Alba's husband then I'd be willing to make that sacrifice "

Yeah I suppose if Mrs wanted to sleep with Margot Robbies husband I might....just might consider taking one for the team

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you


" Looking at couple profiles many of them shows only female part and hiding hubby.Avoid those straight away unless photos of both are sent to us.Always social meet before arranging any play unless we know people we are meeting. We never take one to the team.

There's usually a good reason why some/many couples profiles have no pics of the man. Hence, we always glide on by - Mrs "

As were looking to meet straight guys these days we have assumed its redundant have pics of Mr on profile

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth

I only ask as we get messages saying Mrs so hot blah blah. Would love to f#ck her. And I'm like you haven't seen my face? And before you say oh that would be the next message tbh they aren't interested and the whole face thing doesn't seem to be a deal breaker.

Yes there are fine male bodies on here but I wouldn't in a million years say I'd love to f#ck one without seeing their face?

Now obviously they are a small % so interesting to see what other men would do?

And I asked hubby and he said no he wouldn't either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Looking at couple profiles many of them shows only female part and hiding hubby.Avoid those straight away unless photos of both are sent to us.Always social meet before arranging any play unless we know people we are meeting. We never take one to the team.

There's usually a good reason why some/many couples profiles have no pics of the man. Hence, we always glide on by - Mrs

As were looking to meet straight guys these days we have assumed its redundant have pics of Mr on profile "

Well yes in your case it may have sense. However we meant couples meeting couples above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well yes in your case it may have sense. However we meant couples meeting couples above."

That’s exactly the reason we try to keep a very balanced profile. Even if she’s hotter of the two of us, we feel it’s only fair to give couples a proper idea of our bodies and shapes and even vibe. We see so few couples giving a proper view of the guy and it’s difficult for D then to know if she’ll be attracted to him without having to go explicitly ask for a sufficient amount of photos of the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was the case before, and nothing happened. I didn't promise anything either.

Another time though I thought the same, but we clicked really well, and the chemistry was a turn on. So I went ahead with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level"

I would still meet , they could be have the most awesome personality and they could be as hot as hell when it comes to bedroom play between the sheets. Just saying.

Taking one for the team wouldn't be a word I would use its all about having some fun in great relaxing company.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I don't know what any of you look like but as a couple how would it make you feel if another couple said the same thing to you

"Im sorry one of you is hot but the other one is isnt,but we will take one for the team

Of course not. We would just slowly ease of messaging and let it flitter out. No need to be hurtful "

There's being hurtful and there's being honest. We'd tell people nicely if there wasn't an attraction and would expect the same in return. That's not being hurtful. At least then you know the score and can move on

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By *aughty Diary vol.69Couple
over a year ago

Area 69 county


"The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level

I would still meet , they could be have the most awesome personality and they could be as hot as hell when it comes to bedroom play between the sheets. Just saying.

Taking one for the team wouldn't be a word I would use its all about having some fun in great relaxing company.

"

This

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

We’ve had this discussion between ourselves.

But as I’m hard to please and the Tabster won’t take one for the team, we’re pretty much fucked

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"Very rare that the male half is more attractive unless meeting with us obviously

Us ladies are very hard done by "
yea hes so much better than looking than you - pete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both need to feel an attraction (and not necessarily just looks because that's subjective) or its not happening. Neither of us would take one for the team, nor be asked or expected to. We'd hate to think that someone felt they should do the same with us - personally if I (Mrs) got the tiniest inkling of that I'd be out the door like a shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting subject. We came to the conclusion meeting single gents is far less complicated. Other alternative is small parties where we are both free agents

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

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By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate"

We have already discussed this, neither of us is going to take your me for the team. I agree, women are probably fussier than men but not that desperate that they would ride anything. I know Mr wouldn't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate"

This is very true I think. For that reason I think just for once in this pretty misogynistic world the power lies with the woman and rightly so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The scenario. You spot a hot couples profile. You like the pics. They seem nice cool people. You start to chat. It's all going well. Them you are sent more pics to seal the deal. Them it happens. One of the couple is beautiful / handsome. The other is not....

The question is this. Have you come across many couples with one very hot person and one not so much. It could be a hot Male and plain female or vice versa. The dilemma. Do you take one for the team. Maybe even alternate each time it happens or do you gently decline to meet. Keeping in mind a good time can still be had because you have all clicked on a personality level"

This happens me all the time and I hate to be rude and say yes I like you but not your partner I just decline if I don’t like both it’s a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us the guy does not really matter that much, we would happy play with a couple where the female is deffently hotter than the make, the big thing for us is the energy they both bring to the play and yea we are one of those couple where herself is way way hotter than himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a social meet with a couple and it went well, all good fun but we didn't progress any further. Sometimes you don't click on an attraction level.

Taking one for the team is a bad idea.

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By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan


"For us the guy does not really matter that much, we would happy play with a couple where the female is deffently hotter than the make, the big thing for us is the energy they both bring to the play and yea we are one of those couple where herself is way way hotter than himself "

That's not taking one for the team, surely taking one for the team is where you don't like/fancy the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a social meet with a couple and it went well, all good fun but we didn't progress any further. Sometimes you don't click on an attraction level.

Taking one for the team is a bad idea."

For us it's not really about taking one for the team, we would of course never play with someone we did not like but there has been times where the guy has not been as attractive as the girl but as a couple they have been a lot of fun and we totally enjoyed our time with them the fact himself is straight and herself is very bi tends to be mean we both find women more attractive anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us it's not really about taking one for the team, we would of course never play with someone we did not like but there has been times where the guy has not been as attractive as the girl but as a couple they have been a lot of fun and we totally enjoyed our time with them the fact himself is straight and herself is very bi tends to be mean we both find women more attractive anyway "

I think I understand there and glad it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us it's not really about taking one for the team, we would of course never play with someone we did not like but there has been times where the guy has not been as attractive as the girl but as a couple they have been a lot of fun and we totally enjoyed our time with them the fact himself is straight and herself is very bi tends to be mean we both find women more attractive anyway

I think I understand there and glad it works out for you."

That's what swinging is all about, what works for some might not work for others but as long as everyone is happy then fuck it and enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here originally apart of a couple. My girl wanted to try her first lesbian experience so we agreed on a threesome and on fab we went.

And I personally experienced this.

One lady flat out said how she found my partner attractive but not me. What can you do. She was up front.

Another lady in particular and us were messaging. We all exchanged pics and her response was how sexy she thought my girl looked but how she was just gonna focus on her and not me should we do meet.

Like saying this would some how make us want to meet her more?!

Sounded like she just wanted me to watch even tho we specifically stated we all have fun. We realised that and ignored her. Life is too short to be dealing with people who want to be suited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say couple inequality , and this goes both ways is why we have never broke our couples duck

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

christ I thought it was hard being single on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've found this before and no doubt been on the other side of it. It is what it is but neither of us will take one for the team.

We have passed before and will do again unless we are both happy. No plate shaggers here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate"

Probably true in the main.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate"

You're contradicting your own statement though. If the chances of a guy taking one for the team are low that means very few would.

If indeed as you say that they would mostly get up on a plate then the chances are high.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The chances of 4 people all fancying their opposite number is slim. That's to be expected. Threesomes are so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

Probably true in the main. "

Awk, c'mon...needs a bit of pattern at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

Probably true in the main.

Awk, c'mon...needs a bit of pattern at least "

@Pete, you're standards are slipping

I only put out for royal doulton quality and above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally think one part of a couple should never take a bullet for the other regarding this. If they do and do it repeatedly they need to have a look at their relationship. We have seen it happen and it is usually down to one part of the couple being a toxic individual or something similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

You're contradicting your own statement though. If the chances of a guy taking one for the team are low that means very few would.

If indeed as you say that they would mostly get up on a plate then the chances are high."

I would assume they meant that because a lot of men would get up on a crack in a plate they wouldn't actually see it as taking one for the team

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

You're contradicting your own statement though. If the chances of a guy taking one for the team are low that means very few would.

If indeed as you say that they would mostly get up on a plate then the chances are high.

I would assume they meant that because a lot of men would get up on a crack in a plate they wouldn't actually see it as taking one for the team"

Exactly, pity some others can't see the obvious point in my statement

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

You're contradicting your own statement though. If the chances of a guy taking one for the team are low that means very few would.

If indeed as you say that they would mostly get up on a plate then the chances are high.

I would assume they meant that because a lot of men would get up on a crack in a plate they wouldn't actually see it as taking one for the team

Exactly, pity some others can't see the obvious point in my statement "

As clear as mud

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

You're contradicting your own statement though. If the chances of a guy taking one for the team are low that means very few would.

If indeed as you say that they would mostly get up on a plate then the chances are high.

I would assume they meant that because a lot of men would get up on a crack in a plate they wouldn't actually see it as taking one for the team

Exactly, pity some others can't see the obvious point in my statement "

Have to be honest I thought the exact same as RB and thought I was reading it wrong but couldn't figure it out.

So kept my mouth shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be honest here, the chances of a man taking one for the team are quite low, in my opinion. Any guys I know would ride a crack in a plate

Probably true in the main.

Awk, c'mon...needs a bit of pattern at least "

Only the best fine china for me!!

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville


"The chances of 4 people all fancying their opposite number is slim. That's to be expected. Threesomes are so much easier"

Lots of interesting opinions guys. We tend to agree with the above. We have found it a lot easier to keep everyone happy with a mix of 3sum meets and small parties. We dont rule out meeting couples of course but the dynamic is definitely the hardest to get right of all the swinging scenarios

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By *ab_lovers2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

naughtyville

We are hoping to test this theory this week lol

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