FabSwingers.com forum: Masterbation abstinence

By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

Recently took a week off and to be honest the only real change i noticed was the obviously massive jump in sex drive. Dont think ive gone down on her that much in years

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

I took a week off and cannot believe how much my eyesight has improved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

So my question has anyone tried to go without for a while? Did you experience benefits and what were these? Do you think it gave you more control over your sword of joy and did it help you to up your sexual skills and stamina? "
i might go a week from time to time when I'm very busy with work but never really noticed a higher sex drive while busy it was when the pressure would ease....oh man horny isn't the word for how I would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never noticed a difference.

I go through pretty big swings in my sex drive so the amount I masterbate has always varied quite a bit.

When my sex drive is low I could go weeks without and it doesn't increase my productiveness, energy or increase my desire for sex.

When my sex drive is high and I masterbate alot again no change in my day to day life, but the masterbating does very little to reduce my drive at those times.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've gone months at a time and even up to a year and didn't find any difference.

Must be at least 2 years since I last watched porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load...

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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Recently took a week off and to be honest the only real change i noticed was the obviously massive jump in sex drive. Dont think ive gone down on her that much in years

So you could argue she benefited by you being more attentive when you finally had sex again (assuming she likes oral).

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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load... "

Have you ever thought of experimenting a bit longer and gaining control over that crazy craving?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load...

Have you ever thought of experimenting a bit longer and gaining control over that crazy craving? "

Surely the longer you abstain, the bigger the cravings will become and the less control over cravings you are likely to have?

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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load...

Have you ever thought of experimenting a bit longer and gaining control over that crazy craving?

Surely the longer you abstain, the bigger the cravings will become and the less control over cravings you are likely to have?"

Not sure if that's necessarily the case. The first week could be the hardest (no pun intended) and after that you get more and more used to having no sex/masterbation

so it might get easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldnt abstain from masturbation it all i have too look forward to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if that's necessarily the case. The first week could be the hardest (no pun intended) and after that you get more and more used to having no sex/masterbation so it might get easier. "

Yeah, i'm sure after 'masterbation cold turkey' of period of time it does become easier and less likely to have cravings for sex/masterbation but the next time you do have sex or masterbate you will be back to square one again re-cravings.

I find it difficult to see where the benefits of abstaining would lay?

Assuming current masterbation levels isn't leading to any situations below:

1. Over use and damaging yourself

2. Impacting the ability to hold down a job due you're cravings

3. Impacting any social or personal relationships due to you're cravings

4. Being evicted due to the repeatitive squeeky bed noises pissing off the next door neighbours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I'd have less control over the organ if I went too long without masturbation. I gave it up for a few weeks when I was younger and actually had a wet dream two weeks in. I see no benefits from abstaining despite what some studies day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load...

Have you ever thought of experimenting a bit longer and gaining control over that crazy craving?

Surely the longer you abstain, the bigger the cravings will become and the less control over cravings you are likely to have?

Not sure if that's necessarily the case. The first week could be the hardest (no pun intended) and after that you get more and more used to having no sex/masterbation

so it might get easier. "
on two occasions went 8 and 10 months without sex while single and it wasn't on my mind all day everyday but I did think about it occasionally, its only natural that you would think about it when your looking for someone to meet but as for going without it while in a relationship, I'm not sure about that, I've never abstained from it while with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a big thing "No Fap November" challenge that seems to be doing the rounds the past few years. People tweeting "Day 20, found it hard today, but I'm definitly learning a lot about myself" type tripe.

People are strange

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

"Recently took a week off and to be honest the only real change i noticed was the obviously massive jump in sex drive. Dont think ive gone down on her that much in years

So you could argue she benefited by you being more attentive when you finally had sex again (assuming she likes oral)."

No argument needed, she benefitted for sure

To clarify, this was while i abstained. We still played, i just stopped before cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I abstain for a week it results in a crazy craving for sex and shooting a fairly big load...

Have you ever thought of experimenting a bit longer and gaining control over that crazy craving? "

Once.. Didn't end well. When I did mastaubate the place looked like a cream pie fight had taken place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gave the NoFap a go. Lasted three weeks and two days. I would have lasted longer if my body played ball. Woke every morning in a state of glory , my man hood taunting me 'go on ,you know you want to'.

Was proud of my just over three week stint

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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Not sure if that's necessarily the case. The first week could be the hardest (no pun intended) and after that you get more and more used to having no sex/masterbation so it might get easier.

I find it difficult to see where the benefits of abstaining would lay?

Assuming current masterbation levels isn't leading to any situations below:

1. Over use and damaging yourself

2. Impacting the ability to hold down a job due you're cravings

3. Impacting any social or personal relationships due to you're cravings

4. Being evicted due to the repeatitive squeeky bed noises pissing off the next door neighbours

What I've read there's a good amount of young man trying it when masterbating to porn gets out of hand and mental and maybe even physical desensitisation kicks or having problems with premature ejaculation (rush the wank before mum comes into the room syndrome) or ED in connection to porn consumption.

I'm not saying this should be a regular thing but to explore your body fully and gain more control over your little lad it could be a interesting experiment.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

From the female perspective:

After having been separated and without a sexual encounter/relationship for 17 months, during which I went through phases of what I would consider healthy and unhealthy amounts of masturbation and watching porn, I met someone whom I had a relationship with for a number of months. Considering I was out of a 22 year committed relationship/marriage, the initial first "get together" with another man, though hot and horny, I couldn't/didn't orgasm with him... various reasons...I held off my first orgasm, which would have been mind blowing, as I a) wanted the pleasure to last but always knew if I hold off, then I can't cum, b) knew that I would be put off keeping going with the session as I had a thing in my head about feeling "dirty" after cumming (something that has been with me throughout my life, which I since have dealt with and no issues with anymore

I kept masturbating while in this relationship, but had trouble in the first few weeks with my orgasm, which had absolutely nothing to do with the man I was with or the skills he had. Our encounters were hot and sexy, he knew exactly how and where to touch me but I just couldn't get out of my head to let go. And there was an element of desensitisation in me due to masturbation. He was obviously quite upset and initially took it personally too, thinking it was him. We talked things through and I decided that I would abstain from masturbation...which I did for 3 weeks

(though he found that difficult to believe, given my sex drive lol)...and lo and behold, the first orgasm with him was absolutely mind blowing, with many more to come (excuse the pun lol), and a subsequent "healthier" amount of masturbation when in a relationship...my first experience being able to talk about my sexuality openly, without judgement from another, which in fact, led me here

I do have a tendency now to abstain from masturbating when I know I will be having sex as I do find it desensitizes me to a certain extent, and having gone without an orgasm for a few days, makes those even more intense when with my partner...

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying this should be a regular thing but to explore your body fully and gain more control over your little lad it could be a interesting experiment. "

Desensitisation obviously could be the biggest drawback from over masterbating but I would assume that would require a seriously unhealthy amount of times per day to desenititise yourself like that.

( P.s.

@ at little lad comment slipped in there

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Him: Hasn't actually done it in well over a month.

Her: Wands daily

I get very cranky if I go 3 days without a cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it for a while last november,then found myself with a regular partner for the fist time in ages

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

After 3 or 4 days my balls start hurting so I have to get it out of there. It's almost for medicinal purposes at that stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't go a day without playing with myself or watching porn for that matter great way to relieve stress looking forward to getting home from work and having fun

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sligo

Couldn’t not have a wank. I love it, It feels good and it costs nothing. Money can’t buy you wankiness.

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

I can only talk from personal experience; I’m definitely a big advocate for sexual abstinence.

I feel stronger; alert, motivated, energetic the list goes on and sex is 100 times better.

Of course it could all just be in my mind but either way I know how it makes me feel. It’s a big sacrifice but even from a self control point of view it’s absolutely worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to masturbate a lot more often, especially going through my hormonal teenage years.

I stopped watching porn because honestly Incan see it becoming addicting, and I know many people who are addicted to it.

Like anything, porn and masturbation can be great, but in moderation. To many people rely on it and don't realise.

Do it, just do it in a healthy manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have abstained for 3 months many years ago which was a struggle initially but beneficial that I could abstain if I wish..

I found I was definitely crankier though..

So Wanking is good for my mental health!

I masturbate regularly enough now and porn does not have to be the stimulant as my sexual imagination/fantasies can be just as good.!

I never heard of No Fap but will check it out ..

Thanks OP

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

I regularly experiment with this. So,

Edging for a month, no ejaculation. Blue balls and lots of leakage.And I could chop down a forest with an axe.

Masturbating to orgasm daily for 365 days as an experiment in prostate health. Very successful, much healthier prostate at the end.

No porn, no masturbation for 30 days, irritable, cranky, high energy for a week then settled into being a very productive human, got loads done.

I've gone for long periods without sex(6 months) , frustrated and horny, but very productive in art, and fitness, etc.

Right now libido is low, and havnt had an orgasm in two weeks.Not much desire, either. I put it down to the miserable weather.

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By *ajRallying555Man
over a year ago

Galway .Limerick

I put it up on forum here before that I didnt do anything for 6 months. Nobody seemed to believe me. I really enjoyed being with a Lady after that length without cumming

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun. "

Ahh having a willy for a single day is the easy bit, its the pressure and responsability associated with having one longterm thats the tough bit

** runs and hides

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun. "

How long before you'd be sending cock pics to everyone om Fab?

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun. "

Then you'd have the dreaded manflu to deal with. Coronavirus is nothing compared with the manflu

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By *atmite1970Man
over a year ago

Galway

I wank 2 to 3 times a day, the very odd time I have missed a day, but that is very far and few between. So could not imagine going a week never mind more without having a few wanks, now I’d not need a rest to love giving oral please and the pleasure I feel from pleasing someone and feeling their body’s shudder from the results.... I just have a high sex drive

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By *ountrygent90Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Have experimented with this. Longest was a month. It does have some benefits, mentally and physically. The release at the end is worth it, especially if it’s sex.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun.

How long before you'd be sending cock pics to everyone om Fab?

I’d be so chuffed of my proud yet mediocre erection that I’d put A photo of it in my profile picture and rename myself “supercock6969suckit”. I’d send every woman the same badly spelt cut and paste message and be a total asshole to anyone that replied saying No Thanks Then I’ll change my update to “Im Horny, can accom, who wants to sit on my cock” and be confused yet furious when I get no requests. At that point my cock will be sore from wanking and my back will be sore from posing and I’ll crawl into bed hoping I wake up with my nice neat pussy back then next morning.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun.

How long before you'd be sending cock pics to everyone om Fab?

There's a difference between having a dick and being a dick

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun.

How long before you'd be sending cock pics to everyone om Fab?

There's a difference between having a dick and being a dick

LOL. So there is.

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By *rct4Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

From the female perspective:

Kinky"
set up your own clinic lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

Why would u abstain

u wake up its there winking at u begging to be stroked why wouldn't u

Some bat shit crazy ideas being floated by Thrump id say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is mainly about male masterbation respectively abstinence but feel free to contribute anything similar from a woman's point of view.

While we know there's benefit in masterbating such as stress relief, regeneration of sperm and risk reduction of prostate cancer.

There's claims that masterbation abstinence for a period of time can be beneficial such as being more productive, feeling more confident and having more control over your libido and your cock!

There's even a movement called NoFap that recommends a 3 month abstinence from masterbating but also from watching porn to fight the averse affects of porn (over)consumption.

Why would u abstain

u wake up its there winking at u begging to be stroked why wouldn't u

Some bat shit crazy ideas being floated by Thrump id say

CJ. Word on the street is you can change hands without missing a stroke ...can you confirm this rumour??

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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Why would u abstain

u wake up its there winking at u begging to be stroked why wouldn't u

Some bat shit crazy ideas being floated by Thrump id say

I know, I know it's tricky for you to comprehend CJ, look it's more something for the younger ones. We understand at this stage of your life you're simply happy when you wake up in the morning and you're little fella is still alive and functioning. So to show him a bit of affection is only natural.

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By *ames_SoloMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

If I go a week or two without, and no porn...

- Gets rid of desensitisation (essential)

- My cock feels kinda renewed hahah. Feels better when I have sex again.

- That buzz of feeling horny.

If I go to a club, I find I masturbate so much more for days after.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Incel nonsense

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I did 11 months (didn't quite make the year) of [voluntary] celibacy because I had heard of it as a spiritual practice and I wanted to see if it would change how I felt about monogamy.

I can't say I noticed any major differences that I could directly attribute to not tapping bit I did get into a great fitness routine during covid, so maybe that had something to do with it?

It actually took me a short while to reconnect with my sexuality afterwards and I was open to the idea of monogamy by the end of it, until I met someone who was polyamorous and decided I'd just embrace that.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Yes and yes.

I pretty much dont masturbate anymore. No particular reason just over a period of time I started to just not feel the need.

I feel that sex is better for me and having not watched porn at all for about six months I can say that I have become aware of its affect on things I thought I liked while having sex and the things I am now begining to understand that really underpin my sexuality.

I've gained confidence myself sexually and my understanding of what I like and where my boundaries are.

I also had the snip last year and this has a profound effect on the way I orgasm. There's no little voice. No worry, just total abandon.

I should qualify this by saying that I have an active and fulfilling sex life and so the status quo might very well change with time.

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By *ames_SoloMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yes and yes.

I pretty much dont masturbate anymore. No particular reason just over a period of time I started to just not feel the need.

I've gained confidence myself sexually and my understanding of what I like and where my boundaries are.

I also had the snip last year and this has a profound effect on the way I orgasm. There's no little voice. No worry, just total abandon.

I should qualify this by saying that I have an active and fulfilling sex life and so the status quo might very well change with time."

Curious to know how no porn worked out for you.

I've started to avoid watching/looking at it now, but always run into it on this site with the pics.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

" Curious to know how no porn worked out for you.

I've started to avoid watching/looking at it now, but always run into it on this site with the pics. "

For one thing I've found that I have a much broader appreciation of body types. Looking at profiles doesn't feel like looking at porn for me and I honestly feel like the range of people I am attracted to has increased by a wide margin.

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By *ild_flowersCouple
over a year ago

Bukkakevile

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun. "

You can borrow mine...

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By *oinNumberMan
over a year ago

Not in

In my 20’ I went a year without a wank.

Just as a challenge, I know weird.

Well, after about every 3 months I’d have a serious wet dream.

My conclusion was, the stuff is supposed to come out regularly and will

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"I’d love to wake up one morning and have a willy

. I think I’d lie in bed all day playing with it. Then wander around waving it everywhere, twitching it for the camera, see what it’s like to wank.

I think it sounds great fun.

You can borrow mine..."

Can you imagine the other way round

We would be going round sticking everything in there and dry humping all sorts

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I largely don’t masturbate

And go long periods without porn which I find horribly addictive and terrible for erections and increasing the risk of premature ejaculation

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