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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I noticed a few posts in married men recently and it got me thinking about my stance towards married/attached women.

I’ve had sex with lots of married women but more often than not it is with the hubby’s consent, or even presence.

I have had sex with married women in the past and didn’t know they were married.

Upon finding out, I was a little annoyed but not very.

Now I don’t think it would bother me so long as the parameters of NSA are stuck to. I don’t want an axe in the back or a relationship from such a meet - so maybe it would be best I didn’t even know? But if the experience was good and then it wouldn’t spoil the meet on me, although honesty up front would be appreciated.

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By *iamo69Man
over a year ago

South

Feel for married men and women in marriages that don't forfill them.

Yes I get it you can love someone but need extra etc.

I dont judge.. Non my business

I have met married before yes

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

I’m all for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that being involved married people is taboo and dangerous and supposedly off the menu just increases the appeal and attraction for some people, I suppose. Anyone who really believes in monogamy and who has a strong, happy, fulfilled marriage wouldn't bother tho. But people change over time and develop too - so they look for escapes and affairs to make them feel validated or excited again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them."

Best way to be, I guess. Just wondering tho - do you find that it reduces how special and private your marriage feels - or does it enhance it and make it even better ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on here to judge if other peoples morals are held to a high enough standard or not.

I'm here to connect with and have relatively 'short term' fun with selected people. If a woman is comfortable enough that she can have sex with someone while married/in a relationship who am I to question what they should or should not be doing. It's their choice.

I also get why many people would not be comfortable with this scenario and that's perfectly understandable view to hold also.

If we all stick within our own moral bubbles and not judge others then tis should not be a concern

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By *upermanslovechildMan
over a year ago

Glasnevin

I'm all for it, tbh I get a kick out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them.

Best way to be, I guess. Just wondering tho - do you find that it reduces how special and private your marriage feels - or does it enhance it and make it even better ?"

It was hes idea to join up so he enjoys it as much as me.hes cuckhold so he loves me going off having fun.it works well for us and never had any issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them.

Best way to be, I guess. Just wondering tho - do you find that it reduces how special and private your marriage feels - or does it enhance it and make it even better ?

It was hes idea to join up so he enjoys it as much as me.hes cuckhold so he loves me going off having fun.it works well for us and never had any issues."

Well that's great that you are both suited to it - takes courage to do that.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The stance towards married women SHOULD be the same as towards married men.

Unfortunately as women here are scarce, then more men have compromised their morals due to short supply.

I'm talking in general terms.. there are of course men and women who never cared about being with a cheater, and also those who wouldnt dream of playing with one.

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By *ore of thatMan
over a year ago

skerries

Everyone to their nown .no one knows what's going on in relationships .so if it works for someone .that's their own personal decision .and should be respected .

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

It makes no difference if it's male or female. I spent 25yrs with someone that cheated on me. It wasn't from the lack of sex but in chatting to the person he cheated with it was. What im saying here is that no matter how careful you think you are you will get caught. If you're not happy leave. Most importantly don't bring other people into your deception.

Question for you.... if you found out that your partner was having sex with random strangers off a site would you be okay with it?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our opinion is we treat them the same as married men. Avoid like the plague as it will only lead to one thing.... DRAMA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them.

Best way to be, I guess. Just wondering tho - do you find that it reduces how special and private your marriage feels - or does it enhance it and make it even better ?

It was hes idea to join up so he enjoys it as much as me.hes cuckhold so he loves me going off having fun.it works well for us and never had any issues."

I`m single but honestly dont get the moral code or snobbery to married men or women although having them knowing about it is different granted.. I actually think a married woman playing in here is outrageously hot.. but I dont judge or ask do they know because its not my business

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"The stance towards married women SHOULD be the same as towards married men.

Unfortunately as women here are scarce, then more men have compromised their morals due to short supply.

I'm talking in general terms.. there are of course men and women who never cared about being with a cheater, and also those who wouldnt dream of playing with one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married and on here with hubbys consent.anyone i plan on meeting for drinks fun etc im always honest from the start with them.

Best way to be, I guess. Just wondering tho - do you find that it reduces how special and private your marriage feels - or does it enhance it and make it even better ?

It was hes idea to join up so he enjoys it as much as me.hes cuckhold so he loves me going off having fun.it works well for us and never had any issues.

Married couples having their own full consent and a private arrangement are the polar opposite of cheaters.

There is no snobbery when it comes to married people who don't cheat, but are "playing" (meeting, having sex, socializing) with other people with their own partners full knowledge and consent

Gotta love how many people get those two things completely confused.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

The nastiness from the vast amount of sanctimonious couples on here to married men is astounding. I’ve encountered a couple of utter asshole couples but I generally avoid couples as the bitching isn’t worth it. I’ve chatted to one or two since then that were very friendly but, holy hell, grow up. Being told I’m DRAMA when they don’t even know me is juvenile.

A FB and I were looking for another couple for some fun and the messages he got back were utterly disgusting. The judgmental bullshit was mind boggling considering we weren’t exactly asking for a copy of their marriage certificate. We just gave up.

No-one knows ANYONES story. Permission or not, we’re all adults. Labels don’t fit everyone.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Sweet Jesus these married threads are done to death on here. They are just as bad as the single lads repetivee threads.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

For a swinging site so many spend a lot of time on the roundabout.

#fabroundabouters

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Basically some people think cheaters are dirt full stop regardless of the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not another thread

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Not another thread

Oh ye it's like deja vu with all the same comments as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deja vu all over again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The obsessive behavior of some on these married threads is astounding. Would they not be better off concentrating on their own fab journeys rather than everyone else's. They are coming across so uptight and self righteous that I'm sure its very off putting on those purer than snow fab members who are Dying to meet them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married,co habiting,open relationships,.. if you don't know the full details of these situations then you are in no position to judge, because all you're doing is generalising....a bit like people who would condemn anyone on a swinging site as sex crazed perverts!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Married,co habiting,open relationships,.. if you don't know the full details of these situations then you are in no position to judge, because all you're doing is generalising....a bit like people who would condemn anyone on a swinging site as sex crazed perverts!

OP is fairly clear that he's talking about people playing without their partners consent. Noone is saying there is anything wrong with anyone playing with their partners consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP is fairly clear that he's talking about people playing without their partners consent. Noone is saying there is anything wrong with anyone playing with their partners consent. "

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you

"The obsessive behavior of some on these married threads is astounding. Would they not be better off concentrating on their own fab journeys rather than everyone else's. They are coming across so uptight and self righteous that I'm sure its very off putting on those purer than snow fab members who are Dying to meet them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but none of us know what happens behind closed doors in any relationship, including those on here who constantly profess to be in wonderful relationships. By all means make your own individual decisions regarding individuals you choose to meet or not meet,but don't generalise,life isn't that black and white!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

You are of course welcome your opinion.. but I would disagree. In my opinion it IS black and white as far as loyalty to a life-partner is concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are of course welcome your opinion.. but I would disagree. In my opinion it IS black and white as far as loyalty to a life-partner is concerned. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are of course welcome your opinion.. but I would disagree. In my opinion it IS black and white as far as loyalty to a life-partner is concerned. "
...yes we're all entitled to an opinion,and these conversations tend to go around in ever decreasing circles because there is(in my opinion)no difinitive answer!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"You are of course welcome your opinion.. but I would disagree. In my opinion it IS black and white as far as loyalty to a life-partner is concerned. "
if your partner refused you sex and wouldnt do anything to get his libido back, would you A) stay with him without sex or B) cheat or C) have sex elsewhere and tell him beforehand?

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth

Can we get Bat-Bull on this, he did an excellent defending male cheaters last week maybe he'd help out female ones this week?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"You are of course welcome your opinion.. but I would disagree. In my opinion it IS black and white as far as loyalty to a life-partner is concerned. if your partner refused you sex and wouldnt do anything to get his libido back, would you A) stay with him without sex or B) cheat or C) have sex elsewhere and tell him beforehand?"

D) Explain that I need sex and that we need to fix our sex life, and that if we can't then I'll need to very reluctantly have sex somewhere else with permission, or if that can't happen then we will have to plan seperating.

Not having sex is a legal ground for divorce, as is irreconcilable differences. Its unreasonable to expect a healthy sexual being to forego sex completely.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Not having sex is a legal ground for divorce, as is irreconcilable differences. Its unreasonable to expect a healthy sexual being to forego sex completely. "
I'm guessing u dont agree with cheating then?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Its well documented here on fab that people apply a double standard to meeting women as opposed to men, there's no way a cpl will ask a woman can they video chat with her partner just to be sure he's on board with her playing away. Unicorns are rare and hard to find there's no way they apply the same judgments for both sexes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its well documented here on fab that people apply a double standard to meeting women as opposed to men, there's no way a cpl will ask a woman can they video chat with her partner just to be sure he's on board with her playing away. Unicorns are rare and hard to find there's no way they apply the same judgments for both sexes "

Totally agree with you.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Oh ffs just meet who you want to meet. Don't meet those who you dont want to meet for whatever reason.

And leave the preaching and superior attitudes for those who might actually give a rats ass about your opinions.

These threads go round and round same people saying the same stuff. No one is going to change anyones mind so just do your own things and stop worrying about what others are doing.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

You're dead right Bo...

...let's meet

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"You're dead right Bo...

...let's meet

Smart ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh ffs just meet who you want to meet. Don't meet those who you dont want to meet for whatever reason.

And leave the preaching and superior attitudes for those who might actually give a rats ass about your opinions.

These threads go round and round same people saying the same stuff. No one is going to change anyones mind so just do your own things and stop worrying about what others are doing. "

Well said

sure we're all here for the ride (literally)

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

3 profiles same guy?

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

"Oh ffs just meet who you want to meet. Don't meet those who you dont want to meet for whatever reason.

And leave the preaching and superior attitudes for those who might actually give a rats ass about your opinions.

These threads go round and round same people saying the same stuff. No one is going to change anyones mind so just do your own things and stop worrying about what others are doing. "

Exaclty this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been trying to sleep with a married women for years. However my wife still turns me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our opinion is we treat them the same as married men. Avoid like the plague as it will only lead to one thing.... DRAMA"

Yup.. in a nutshell..and plus if a person is anyway consciencious or doubtful they shouldnt be doing it then the whole enjoyment of what it should be is severely diminished..as the " what if " is constantly playing on their mind

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"3 profiles same guy?"

Defo 2.. Not sure about the 3rd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we get Bat-Bull on this, he did an excellent defending male cheaters last week maybe he'd help out female ones this week?

Did someome call for a Bat-Bull?!

*ahem* at the risk of mansplainimg - ACTUALLY my defense of people who operate sexually or emotionally outside of their marriage vows was meant to stand for both genders, it's why I made the conscious decision to try and use the indefinite articles, "person" and "they"/"them" - when it comes to human behavior I don't actually see a fundamental difference in how the genders operate (surface cosmetic details certainly, but people are people).

So to see my... I wouldn't call it a defence, more of an attempt to understand and empathise... of the aforementioned people, please see my other thread.

Oh and I'm definitely me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm laughing as some of the people whinging about this thread are some of the same people who would tell you if you don't like a thread don't look at it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I'm laughing as some of the people whinging about this thread are some of the same people who would tell you if you don't like a thread don't look at it

Lol I was going to post this exact thing.. But I don't want to be *bullying" anyone into not posting their opinion so I kept quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm laughing as some of the people whinging about this thread are some of the same people who would tell you if you don't like a thread don't look at it

Lol I was going to post this exact thing.. But I don't want to be *bullying" anyone into not posting their opinion so I kept quiet. "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Good boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spending time in these threads is counter prodigy the and bears now fruit remember. Such a waste of time. Dathai out xx

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By *olm_irishMan
over a year ago

Clonee

"The nastiness from the vast amount of sanctimonious couples on here to married men is astounding. I’ve encountered a couple of utter asshole couples but I generally avoid couples as the bitching isn’t worth it. I’ve chatted to one or two since then that were very friendly but, holy hell, grow up. Being told I’m DRAMA when they don’t even know me is juvenile.

No-one knows ANYONES story. Permission or not, we’re all adults. Labels don’t fit everyone. "

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By *ore of thatMan
over a year ago

skerries

Agree

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