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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD" I’m not sure I agree with you here.! I have met cooked with pushy women two. I think it’s all about attitude and Cooke’s are are harder to be compatible with as there are two people to get on with and like if things are to move forward. Again not everyone can be tagged with the same tag but find one half of a couple is into it and the other half seem like they were forced to go along with things which makes for an akward moments sometimes. | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD" This has been my experience in chatting to some couples. The initial message is flirty and obviously from the lady but as the chat progresses the tone changes and becomes aggressive and full of instruction as to what will be required from me. Once I point out that I don't meet anyone without at least one social I get asked why I'm even on the site if I'm coming out with shit like that. I politely decline their kind offer to be their toy and leave the chat as dummies are spat out. | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD" I actually find it the opposite usually if its a pushy couple it's the woman I find who gets pushy. Usually they want to 'treat' the guy and cannot understand why I won't drop everything to meet him.Just because she finds him attractive therfore I should and should be willing to take instructions from her as well on what to do. Sometimes she thinks saying she will join in should make me want to meet. When I point out she needs to read my profile then you tend to get the crap. Most guys from couples usually are okay I find you get the odd one who is pushy but in my experience it's usually the woman who is. In saying that I've also had some really nice couples contact me. But this is fab you get people male and females who are pushy and get snotty when turned down. It's just how you allow it to effect you that really matters. Me I just ignore and move on. There's plenty of decent people on here that a few cockwombles won't ruin it for me and the block button is always there as well if they get too pushy. | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD I’m not sure I agree with you here.! I have met cooked with pushy women two. I think it’s all about attitude and Cooke’s are are harder to be compatible with as there are two people to get on with and like if things are to move forward. Again not everyone can be tagged with the same tag but find one half of a couple is into it and the other half seem like they were forced to go along with things which makes for an akward moments sometimes. " Fair point. Pushey women are out there alright. MsD | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD I actually find it the opposite usually if its a pushy couple it's the woman I find who gets pushy. Usually they want to 'treat' the guy and cannot understand why I won't drop everything to meet him.Just because she finds him attractive therfore I should and should be willing to take instructions from her as well on what to do. Sometimes she thinks saying she will join in should make me want to meet. When I point out she needs to read my profile then you tend to get the crap. Most guys from couples usually are okay I find you get the odd one who is pushy but in my experience it's usually the woman who is. In saying that I've also had some really nice couples contact me. But this is fab you get people male and females who are pushy and get snotty when turned down. It's just how you allow it to effect you that really matters. Me I just ignore and move on. There's plenty of decent people on here that a few cockwombles won't ruin it for me and the block button is always there as well if they get too pushy. " Cockwombles????  that’s a new one on me | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD I’m not sure I agree with you here.! I have met cooked with pushy women two. I think it’s all about attitude and Cooke’s are are harder to be compatible with as there are two people to get on with and like if things are to move forward. Again not everyone can be tagged with the same tag but find one half of a couple is into it and the other half seem like they were forced to go along with things which makes for an akward moments sometimes. Fair point. Pushey women are out there alright. MsD" Honestly not trying to make a point, just and observation from my experience. What’s the saying in the movie “ The Full Monty” there nothing queerer than folk | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD I’m not sure I agree with you here.! I have met cooked with pushy women two. I think it’s all about attitude and Cooke’s are are harder to be compatible with as there are two people to get on with and like if things are to move forward. Again not everyone can be tagged with the same tag but find one half of a couple is into it and the other half seem like they were forced to go along with things which makes for an akward moments sometimes. Fair point. Pushey women are out there alright. MsD Honestly not trying to make a point, just and observation from my experience. What’s the saying in the movie “ The Full Monty” there nothing queerer than folk "Everyone comes across all scenarios on here....pushey guys, pushey women and pushey couples. We get it all! We have just found it mostly pushey guys.....they like to push it to get me in my own. Not gonna happen!  | |||
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"Think you will find its the guy being the pushey one and messaging even after you dont reply or say no thanks. They dont say who is messaging but generally you can tell by the language used who is. I would think its fairly obvious if someone didnt reply that they werent keen. Fair enough. Sending more messages is just wrong. MsD I’m not sure I agree with you here.! I have met cooked with pushy women two. I think it’s all about attitude and Cooke’s are are harder to be compatible with as there are two people to get on with and like if things are to move forward. Again not everyone can be tagged with the same tag but find one half of a couple is into it and the other half seem like they were forced to go along with things which makes for an akward moments sometimes. Fair point. Pushey women are out there alright. MsD Honestly not trying to make a point, just and observation from my experience. What’s the saying in the movie “ The Full Monty” there nothing queerer than folk
Everyone comes across all scenarios on here....pushey guys, pushey women and pushey couples. We get it all! We have just found it mostly pushey guys.....they like to push it to get me in my own. Not gonna happen! "What is the Dublin saying, God loves a trier but hates a chancer | |||
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"One point i tend to not agree with here is no reply meaning a no if you not interested i think it most polite to ans back a simple no thanks simple clear message an everyone knows where the stand" This does not work with alot of men as once you reply many continue to message even if that message is NO. Believe me was very polite in the beginning and then they get nasty. Much easier deleate. | |||
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"Our biggest bugbear on fab is couples with bi females insisting that I (female) don't know what I'm missing by not engaging in play with the female half. Far pushier than a lot of men, who tend to get all the bad press here." Yup get them too. Imagine me playing with a pussy  ... no thanks! | |||
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"Our biggest bugbear on fab is couples with bi females insisting that I (female) don't know what I'm missing by not engaging in play with the female half. Far pushier than a lot of men, who tend to get all the bad press here. Yup get them too. Imagine me playing with a pussy ... no thanks! "Us straight females are in the minority on here. I don't get it, sorry  | |||
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"Our biggest bugbear on fab is couples with bi females insisting that I (female) don't know what I'm missing by not engaging in play with the female half. Far pushier than a lot of men, who tend to get all the bad press here. Yup get them too. Imagine me playing with a pussy ... no thanks! "Yuck  | |||
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...male or female.
It's mostly me doing the chatting (female part of couple) and we always say who's doing the chatting, or endeavour to anyway... sometimes we forget to sign off too  .
I wouldn't consider myself pushy at all, so no answer or a reply with "no" for us means we respectfully leave you be.
I rarely chase but do follow up on winks and messages or a possible "looked at me" whereas himself might go searching if we know we have a day we might be able to meet socially. And he is always respectful and we are forthcoming with face pics if we are interested in a profile as we believe because our time is so limited to meet (socially) that physical attraction needs to be given to an extent for the possibility of more down the line.
Unfortunately not all couples are married or living together, or just FB for that matter, as in our case - we're a couple but not living together - and it then takes more time to discuss who both parties are interested in too, never mind trying to arrange a social with respective work and family commitments. Some people don't seem to understand that either!
We also fully believe that anyone who wants to engage with us, needs to be "into" both of us, which also makes it more difficult to find someone compatible. We definitely are not looking for a "toy" but someone who gets as much out of a fun session as we would. Whereas we do have certain kinks and fantasies, which we'd like to fulfill, only ever a social will actually establish that attraction is there all round and we would then hope that "play" follows naturally where all involved are comfortable and at ease rather than to work to a script where everyone has been "told" what to do or how to behave - this is a concept that I just wouldn't be able to get my head around at all!!! Follow the instructions and do as you're told, how archaic and unnatural... 
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"My experience as a singles profile has been usually single gents being pushy... never couples or ladies. My experience in a couple's profile is very new. And we usually have single gents blocked as the inbox gets too busy to manage. Unless we are actively searching for a single man, in which case some can be pushy with their constant follow up. I am direct if not interested and will keep conversing if there's a possibility for a social at some stage down the line. I have found that it's mostly the male counterpart of a couple that converses, if they do say who's chatting. I've rarely come across a pushy couple though ...male or female.
It's mostly me doing the chatting (female part of couple) and we always say who's doing the chatting, or endeavour to anyway... sometimes we forget to sign off too .
I wouldn't consider myself pushy at all, so no answer or a reply with "no" for us means we respectfully leave you be.
I rarely chase but do follow up on winks and messages or a possible "looked at me" whereas himself might go searching if we know we have a day we might be able to meet socially. And he is always respectful and we are forthcoming with face pics if we are interested in a profile as we believe because our time is so limited to meet (socially) that physical attraction needs to be given to an extent for the possibility of more down the line.
Unfortunately not all couples are married or living together, or just FB for that matter, as in our case - we're a couple but not living together - and it then takes more time to discuss who both parties are interested in too, never mind trying to arrange a social with respective work and family commitments. Some people don't seem to understand that either!
We also fully believe that anyone who wants to engage with us, needs to be "into" both of us, which also makes it more difficult to find someone compatible. We definitely are not looking for a "toy" but someone who gets as much out of a fun session as we would. Whereas we do have certain kinks and fantasies, which we'd like to fulfill, only ever a social will actually establish that attraction is there all round and we would then hope that "play" follows naturally where all involved are comfortable and at ease rather than to work to a script where everyone has been "told" what to do or how to behave - this is a concept that I just wouldn't be able to get my head around at all!!! Follow the instructions and do as you're told, how archaic and unnatural...
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"One point i tend to not agree with here is no reply meaning a no if you not interested i think it most polite to ans back a simple no thanks simple clear message an everyone knows where the stand" And you answer and abuse starts. I try to answer all, but there are some messages so bad delete is best | |||
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"One point i tend to not agree with here is no reply meaning a no if you not interested i think it most polite to ans back a simple no thanks simple clear message an everyone knows where the stand And you answer and abuse starts. I try to answer all, but there are some messages so bad delete is best " I've only got my singles profile 6 or 7 months but my block list is relatively short, and I've rarely experienced "abusive" messages, pushy yes, but very rarely abusive... maybe a polite no, which is politely repeated if necessary, is the reason why, maybe the filters help? Who knows? We have no one blocked on our couples profile...
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"One point i tend to not agree with here is no reply meaning a no if you not interested i think it most polite to ans back a simple no thanks simple clear message an everyone knows where the stand And you answer and abuse starts. I try to answer all, but there are some messages so bad delete is best " anybody that ans a polite no thanks with abuse r just on here for that reason to abuse an will do it anyway but i do get your point delete is handier | |||
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"One point i tend to not agree with here is no reply meaning a no if you not interested i think it most polite to ans back a simple no thanks simple clear message an everyone knows where the stand" I used to reply with a polite no thank you and 9 times out of 10 you’d get the why not ? Or give me a go you won’t regret it or other such shite So I don’t bother Replying most the time . | |||
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"Ok I get it. Single lads can be pushy and to a certain point i get it. But why are couples sometimes so pushy (again not all). When I was in a couple here I would send a message and if it was a no I walked away. Not even the if you change your mind message. " From personal experience: I do feel like a biggest cock block. Not because I back out of any play, but because I back out of any contact when people become too forward. Not pushy (I rarely ever let anyone get to the pushy stage). A lot of couples(as well as men and women) treat fab as some kind of Facebook marketplace: meet, have a drink and a quick chat, go fuck. Quick and easy transaction. It's okay if you're into it. What I personally find really disappointing is that so many couples deliberately choose to ignore our preferences. Thinking that couples being exposed to being on the receiving end of things they don't like being offered to them. They should know better. Getting messages which are a complete opposite of what we are looking for is degrading. Are we not worth 20 seconds that it takes to read a profile? | |||
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"I remember getting a message at about 2 in the morning from a couple in a different county asking do I want to play with the female half right now. I had absolutely no interest and even if they were nearby I still wouldn't have any interest so I didn't reply. I swear, not even 10 minutes later I received another message telling me how much of an idiot I am for not taking them up on their offer and that I'm a time waster. Boggles the mind" I was staying overnight in a midlands county just pre covid and got a message from a couple 10 miles from where I was asking if I was able to accommodate as they were horny and could be there in 30 mins. This was at 6am. I looked at their profile which stated clearly in capital letters. " WE HAVE NO INTEREST IN MEETING SINGLE GUYS" I replied and pointed this out to them while also saying that they could see on my profile that I don't ever met like that and prefer to get to know people through chat and socials. They were very pleasant and said I was a total timewaster and "what was the point of being on fab while in their county and yet not be prepared to play on demand?" Their exact words btw. | |||
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"Ok I get it. Single lads can be pushy and to a certain point i get it. But why are couples sometimes so pushy (again not all). When I was in a couple here I would send a message and if it was a no I walked away. Not even the if you change your mind message. From personal experience: I do feel like a biggest cock block. Not because I back out of any play, but because I back out of any contact when people become too forward. Not pushy (I rarely ever let anyone get to the pushy stage). A lot of couples(as well as men and women) treat fab as some kind of Facebook marketplace: meet, have a drink and a quick chat, go fuck. Quick and easy transaction. It's okay if you're into it. What I personally find really disappointing is that so many couples deliberately choose to ignore our preferences. Thinking that couples being exposed to being on the receiving end of things they don't like being offered to them. They should know better. Getting messages which are a complete opposite of what we are looking for is degrading. Are we not worth 20 seconds that it takes to read a profile? "Impressive photos. Took about 30 seconds though  | |||
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"I remember getting a message at about 2 in the morning from a couple in a different county asking do I want to play with the female half right now. I had absolutely no interest and even if they were nearby I still wouldn't have any interest so I didn't reply. I swear, not even 10 minutes later I received another message telling me how much of an idiot I am for not taking them up on their offer and that I'm a time waster. Boggles the mind I was staying overnight in a midlands county just pre covid and got a message from a couple 10 miles from where I was asking if I was able to accommodate as they were horny and could be there in 30 mins. This was at 6am. I looked at their profile which stated clearly in capital letters. " WE HAVE NO INTEREST IN MEETING SINGLE GUYS" I replied and pointed this out to them while also saying that they could see on my profile that I don't ever met like that and prefer to get to know people through chat and socials. They were very pleasant and said I was a total timewaster and "what was the point of being on fab while in their county and yet not be prepared to play on demand?" Their exact words btw. " Ah the ol' you're on a sex site so you must want sex right now or you're wasting everybody's time | |||
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