FabSwingers.com forum: Finding friends

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dunno is anyone else in this position but this post is for anyone who is looking for friends.

Not sexy time friends but actual friends.

Guys and gals welcomed.

Finding my circle of friends smaller these days due to life and them moving abroad

Be nice to meet some new people.

So anyone else like this please comment below

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By *witchcarlosccsMan
over a year ago

dublin

Hello Miss Steele how are you?

I am in the same situation as you, I am a foreigner living in Dublin for just over two years.

I have not managed to make a group of friends.

Good initiative!!!

let's see what we achieve.

Have a happy day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you would be surprised how many people are in the same situation, my friends I grew up with, we have all moved on in life and I would never see any of them. Work mates are fine but I would not class them as friends. And as for living as a "blow in" in Ireland well your doomed for a lifetime as an outsider, people view you with suspicion while their own are "salt of the earth". Pubs even pre covid are impossible to meet anyone for a simple chat even, all in all it can be very lonely at times.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Also.. I'm from a minority that at least LOOKS like the native Irish. The ones with the real problems are the ones that look different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the old agage of join a club holds thru...some here may want to be friend friends but most here for 1 thing.

Try the meetup . com website for all sorts of social groups in your area...certainly in dublin they are very popular, dont know if as popular in galway.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway. "

Im a blow in myself. I dont mind that the locals don't fully accept me, as they see me as being a bit "weird" by their standards, different accent, no religion, different outlook on life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my closest friends is from the States. She said "you know, when I got here, I though Irish people really meant it when they said you must call round sometime" and "it took me a while to figure out that when Irish people say I won't keep you, they're really telling you to fuck off"

My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My closest and only real friend is living in Denmark. I don’t really have any good friends here. It would be nice to meet make some new friends but I’ve found that lots of people only pretend

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It takes time and patience to get to know the locals. It's possible. Anyhow my experience as a blow in has shown that there's always peeps in the same position, either foreign nationals or from other parts of the country. With these it's easiest to connect and make friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately, as an introvert, I don't need many friends, I can afford to be choosy.

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By *rkkidMan
over a year ago

Cork

Yeah, when I first moved from Dublin to Cork found it hard at first..

New home new friends, but moving into a small town it felt i was kept at an arms length.. And the odd thing is i made better friends more quickly with people from England n further abroad.. Still friends to this day(6 years)..

I agree somewhat in the comment above, some only value the gossip..

I joined two clubs as such with motorbikes and d gym(with intention of creating new friendships).. i ended up leaving d gym as found i was putting all the effort in.. they obviously had enough friends. Which is fine also..

Join a group you have a keen interest in. I'm sure will get lots of suggestions

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By *oryou47Man
over a year ago

carlow

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Seems near impossible to make friends on this as most just want a quick fuck and move on would love to be proved wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great idea OP. Lived in UK for many years . Now down in Kerry, and its hard to get to know people. Def interested.

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

I’ve made loads of friends through fab and socials. Everybody in the community is normally so open and welcoming and you always have a topic an interests in common that you can talk about.

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

The meetup groups where great before the covid shite kicked off.

I spend most of my time alone and its hard sometimes but you do get used to it, buy this year has been a total disaster for meeting people.

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency."

Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.

Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.

Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place.

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By *lavemale66Man
over a year ago

Carlow

I'm in a different boat in my quest for friends in that I'd like to meet people who would be accepting of me as a cd. I have a few female friends who are brilliant and have no problem meeting me when I'm en femme but I don't get to meet them often enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it's really difficult to form genuine friendships as you get older. I suppose life gets busier the older you get. You don't have the same amount of time to invest and lack of responsibilities that you have when you're younger. So the little free time people have they probably prioritise existing friendships...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell into a job 14 years ago with alot of overtime and one by one my friends disappeared. My fault i know telling the gang era not tonight.

I started a new 9 to 5 in January and im getting my life back in order but friendship is hard .

Im always around for a cuppa if anybody is nearby

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency.

Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.

Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.

Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place."

Another blow in here, and totally agree with everything said above. I've made some close friends through work and other things, but very few are what I'd actually consider a close friend.

Sounds like we need a fab blow in club

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I'd hate to think friendships are not formed because of someone's nationally and as an Irishman living in Ireland I know my experience is different to anyone that suffers because of this.

I know what its like to wonder is that it when it comes to making friends especially at my age

I don't have friends from school or any I grew up with so was in the same boat

While its great to have good neighbours and to be able to call in any time to chat or have a beer its not the same thing

I joined an organisation 3 years ago ( won't name it as people on here are also members ) but I've made some decent friends through it in that time

Never give up

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By *razySexyCoolCorkWoman
over a year ago

Cork

As we get older it's definitely harder to make friends. Everyone is busy doing their own thing with young families etc. I live in a small town and would hope we're welcoming to anyone new to town. I love making new friends. I joined Meet up years ago and met some lovely people there. There's GirlCrew too, not sure if that's in Galway though.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I'd hate to think friendships are not formed because of someone's nationally and as an Irishman living in Ireland I know my experience is different to anyone that suffers because of this.

I know what its like to wonder is that it when it comes to making friends especially at my age

I don't have friends from school or any I grew up with so was in the same boat

While its great to have good neighbours and to be able to call in any time to chat or have a beer its not the same thing

I joined an organisation 3 years ago ( won't name it as people on here are also members ) but I've made some decent friends through it in that time

Never give up "

Like you I've no friends from school or the old days. I gave up trying to maintain those friendships when I realised I was the only one trying to stay in touch.

I spent many many years with just work colleagues but none of those could be classed as close friends.

I have been lucky enough to have a group of close friends now that I can go on outdoor adventures with.

I made a few very good friends both male and female through fab when I was on previously and those friendships have developed over the last couple of years. Strictly platonic but built on mutual experiences and things in common.

Since rejoining last year I've once again been privileged to have met some amazing people who I am proud to call friends.

They have been very supportive and I hope I have been just as good a friend as they have been to me.

I keep my circle small and value those within it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to make friends as well. Have been let down by a good few so called friends over the years so struggle to full trust people.

I have been in clubs before but I have never been able to say I was in a position to call anyone in the clubs as friends

I would interested in this as I feel that i can be more myself in the fab world

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow didnt think there be so many responses thanks so much guys. Anyone interested in a friend group let me know. Could be fun.

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By *mokey and the bandit 1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency.

Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.

Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.

Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place.

Another blow in here, and totally agree with everything said above. I've made some close friends through work and other things, but very few are what I'd actually consider a close friend.

Sounds like we need a fab blow in club

Or fabfriends

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By *ark751000Man
over a year ago

wexford

I'd be up for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you get older you become more discerning.

Also, you realise people come in and out of your life all the time so you learn to let go sooner. Not saying it doesn’t make you feel bad. They say in truth we only really have a few-say 3 or 4 genuine friends who we will know forever. folks who will be there when it's great and not so great.

Next year I will be losing two of my current friends/social group. I will make the effort to keep in touch and hope it’s not goodbye. One is going to live in Australia permanently and the other in Spain permanently.

I have learnt to get rid of those toxic folks who masquerade as a friend.

You first need to learn to live on your own and to thrive on your own. I think a lot of folks put up with shite from others because they have a need to be with people.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have 2 friends who I have known for 20 years or more who I am still close to even tho one of them lives the other end of the country.

Since joining fab I have been lucky enough to meet a couple of people who have become genuine true friends.

But I think as you become older it is harder make friends.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

"I dunno is anyone else in this position but this post is for anyone who is looking for friends.

Not sexy time friends but actual friends.

Guys and gals welcomed.

Finding my circle of friends smaller these days due to life and them moving abroad

Be nice to meet some new people.

So anyone else like this please comment below

Yeah id say a good few is in this same boat I've never exactly had many friends and those I did have I lost due to my life being controlled for 10 years but anyways enough of me going about my past problems I'm always online so feel free to chat away to me anytime even if it's a hello

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If anyone interested and wants me to set up the group just send me ur username in mail. This group is purely for friendship. So if u looking to get ur leg over jog on haha

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

This sounds fun diffo be interested

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By *in86Man
over a year ago

louth

Recently moved to the big smoke. Im like babe: pig in a big city wudn mind makin a few new friends up there

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Would be interested in joining a group could be good fun

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

I've met lots of friends through the swing social scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone interested and wants me to set up the group just send me ur username in mail. This group is purely for friendship. So if u looking to get ur leg over jog on haha

Cant pm you

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