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By *eaAndBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

First of the bat... zero judgment on the rights or wrongs of playing away from home without your partners knowledge. It’d be great if we could steer away from that for the purposes of the thread.

So, we are obviously are here as a couple so we can chat between ourselves about our adventures, experiences and fantasies. It goes no further and we don’t hide anything from each other. I think if I was trying to hide any of this from Ben my anxiety levels would be off the scale. I’m just curious as to how people who are playing away manage to maintain real life and their fab experience without unbearable levels of anxiety as surely the stakes are extremely high if found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think you can equate your levels of anxiety as someone who wouldn't play away to someone who would.

Its like I wouldn't shop lift I'd feel shit and anxious. Someone who would shoplift probably gets a rush from it.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's a bit like scat.. Some people enjoy rubbing someone else's shit all over themselves, eating it, masturbating with it etc.. which is a bit like the mentality of someone betraying someone they love. Some people are fine with that. Others find it pretty disgusting.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I was married for about 14/15 yrs the last 6 mabey or more i cheated....some on a short scale one for two yrs....at the start it was hard to cover my tracks but i quickly adapted very careful about meeting the buzz was something else and the more i got away the better the buzz the taught of getting caught made it addictive when he was working evening shift id say i was going to my sister's for a night she's lives two hrs away or was going out with work or girlfriends....i was going to Canada for 6 wks and while i was gone he found a few emails on the computer not proud but it made me realise how shitty i treated people......

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"First of the bat... zero judgment on the rights or wrongs of playing away from home without your partners knowledge. It’d be great if we could steer away from that for the purposes of the thread.

So, we are obviously are here as a couple so we can chat between ourselves about our adventures, experiences and fantasies. It goes no further and we don’t hide anything from each other. I think if I was trying to hide any of this from Ben my anxiety levels would be off the scale. I’m just curious as to how people who are playing away manage to maintain real life and their fab experience without unbearable levels of anxiety as surely the stakes are extremely high if found out. "

I guess it mostly depends on why people are on if it's someone just looking thrills but otherwise happy and close to their partner then yes it's probably a bigger risk. But there's a lot of people who are in relationships that aren't as close as you and Ben. Who don't communicate or chat or have a level of intimacy and leaving is not always an option. Despite people making it sound like leaving is easy it's not. I know as I was in a relationship that was like that and did leave in the end but only after something happened that made me realise I had to get out or next time it would be even worse. But that catalyst doesn't always happen and if it hadn't happened to me I probably would have stayed even tho I was more lonely in that relationship than I am being single and I had friends not speak to me after I left and had to basically start all over and it was scary and horrible and it took me years to realise I made the right decision so I can see why people stay especially after a long time with someone.And yes they are running a risk but sometimes people need more than just existing. And a lot of people don't or can't communicate with their partner. I know my partner at the time refused to with me when it came to our relationship even after what happened he refused to talk or anything he didn't see anything wrong at all. In the end when one refuses to you just give up trying to talk after a while.

People who find a true partner who they can communicate with and be open about everything are very lucky. And sadly hard to find.

But everyone has a reason for being here yes some are just looking for a thrill others have their own personal reasons and it is up to them why they are here and not up to me to judge. A lot will blanket people who are on here as just cheaters who deserve what they get but it's not black and white at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play away myself without knowledge, the women I've been with have been married like myself so it's been very very descreet from both sides plus I never judge, we all have our needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single myself but I’ve been with a man who was married and he was guilt ridden when things got abit strong between us . He broke up then Cos he felt he was putting his pleasure ahead of his responsibilities which in all fairness I had to accept as I was just the other woman and had no rights to any thing from him . I didn’t meet him knowing he was attached and feelings made it hard to stop wanting him even knowing he was then !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m single myself but I’ve been with a man who was married and he was guilt ridden when things got abit strong between us . He broke up then Cos he felt he was putting his pleasure ahead of his responsibilities which in all fairness I had to accept as I was just the other woman and had no rights to any thing from him . I didn’t meet him knowing he was attached and feelings made it hard to stop wanting him even knowing he was then ! "

Not nice with him not Letting you know from the start, your a great person who I know on here for a while now and didn't deserve that . And I always let ppl know from the beginning plus it's on the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a rush to be had from risk-taking, it can become an addiction.

People who are low in empathy simply won't care

Others probably get a passive aggressive pleasure from deceiving their partner

More will be unable to sleep at night from the stress of the duplicity but may still be unable to stop

Others will cheat once and then never again

Everyone is different, ultimately we all do as we choose

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I wouldnt be able for it. I have a concience.

My ex cheated on me for years. He could lie his way through life & to me yet sleep beside me each night.

Different strokes for different folks. My ex is an extreme narcissist...maybe that explains it.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m single myself but I’ve been with a man who was married and he was guilt ridden when things got abit strong between us . He broke up then Cos he felt he was putting his pleasure ahead of his responsibilities which in all fairness I had to accept as I was just the other woman and had no rights to any thing from him . I didn’t meet him knowing he was attached and feelings made it hard to stop wanting him even knowing he was then !

Not nice with him not Letting you know from the start, your a great person who I know on here for a while now and didn't deserve that . And I always let ppl know from the beginning plus it's on the profile"

Lmfao...yeah he defo shouldn't lie to her... the wife grand but you really have to be hinestbon here

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I’m single myself but I’ve been with a man who was married and he was guilt ridden when things got abit strong between us . He broke up then Cos he felt he was putting his pleasure ahead of his responsibilities which in all fairness I had to accept as I was just the other woman and had no rights to any thing from him . I didn’t meet him knowing he was attached and feelings made it hard to stop wanting him even knowing he was then !

Not nice with him not Letting you know from the start, your a great person who I know on here for a while now and didn't deserve that . And I always let ppl know from the beginning plus it's on the profile

Lmfao...yeah he defo shouldn't lie to her... the wife grand but you really have to be honest on here "

Great point to be fair (and I corrected your typo )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cheated once back when I was in a relationship, slept with a woman after working in her house that morning.

When I got home to my then GF that evening I almost completely broke down due to the overwhelming sense of guilt and feeling I betrayed someone, never had felt that way before and I never want to again

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By *ubcouple99Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I personally never felt the need to cheat on mrs dub she’s amazing in bed and ticks everything for me and made my wildest fantasies come true ,if I cheated the sex would never be as good and then you have to try and hide it ,er no thanks dont need that shit ,and when your wife makes a girl squirt on your first fab encounter you know that girl is a keeper

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By *hris 1000200Man
over a year ago

kells

There are no wrights or wrongs, just the persons perception of their situation, my own situation is a sexless relationship, which at present I'm finding it hard to continue with,,there are lost of reasons "to cheat",as well as lot to stay ,financially, children, etc.if there was sex in my relationship I wouldn't be here

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