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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?"

Or even worse just one emoji I am so old I don't understand them!

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By *arajeanCouple
over a year ago

mayo

Totally agree if sending needs to put a bit of thought into message not just one line .if you want reply needs say something that's catches your attention and makes it interesting.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Or even worse just one emoji I am so old I don't understand them! "
I think it happens after 14 hour shifts in our jobs , You see nice people nice profile as above and it’s good reminder of hot people that if you look for later you never find again, I don’t understand emojis either

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Or even worse just one emoji I am so old I don't understand them! "

Wow, even better! haven't been lucky enough to get an 'emoji' message yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Totally agree if sending needs to put a bit of thought into message not just one line .if you want reply needs say something that's catches your attention and makes it interesting. "

... and then they start threads here complaining about not getting replies

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Or even worse just one emoji I am so old I don't understand them! I think it happens after 14 hour shifts in our jobs , You see nice people nice profile as above and it’s good reminder of hot people that if you look for later you never find again, I don’t understand emojis either "

Isn't that what the Hotlist is for? That way you can secretly perve for a while without ruining everything with that first 'hi'

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc."

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted "

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

We don’t reply to one word intro messages as a rule - a rule we sometimes break depending on desirability of the couple - we acknowledge the hypocrisy and we do feel a bit hollow in those circumstances.

We have been known to reply to newbies advising them, politely, of the general antipathy towards one word messages but our enthusiasm for this has waned also as communication skills and etiquette ain’t just something you learn after joining this site.

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not "

This is a good point, but I suppose the problem is when you've a few of this hi how are you messages every day or the how's lockdown treating you it just gets boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not

This is a good point, but I suppose the problem is when you've a few of this hi how are you messages every day or the how's lockdown treating you it just gets boring. "

Oh don't worry I've got a few of them messages and they drive me daft as I have worked all through lockdown. But as I've said I'd sooner get hi how are you than a post about his big dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ??? "

I thought women didn't message first???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ??? "

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent jokes,commented on their profiles, sent shitty lust texts and even the hi ones. Theres no point writing an essay tbh ,they'll write back if they like your profile and wont if they dont .

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you? "

I have messaged first and it actually is not that easy to think of something interesting and unique to send to someone you don't have a clue about bar what you read in the profile. And yes all my messages have been answered but had I been a guy sending the same message to females I bet most have been deleted as they were pretty basic messages as I drew a complete blank as I tried to write it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you?

I have messaged first and it actually is not that easy to think of something interesting and unique to send to someone you don't have a clue about bar what you read in the profile. And yes all my messages have been answered but had I been a guy sending the same message to females I bet most have been deleted as they were pretty basic messages as I drew a complete blank as I tried to write it. "

I don't think I've ever sent one

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you?

I have messaged first and it actually is not that easy to think of something interesting and unique to send to someone you don't have a clue about bar what you read in the profile. And yes all my messages have been answered but had I been a guy sending the same message to females I bet most have been deleted as they were pretty basic messages as I drew a complete blank as I tried to write it.

I don't think I've ever sent one "

I sent a few after your threads about women sending messages or winks last year. Feck ya anyhow

Mind you I've sent one or two after seeing comments or profiles I thought were good as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you?

I have messaged first and it actually is not that easy to think of something interesting and unique to send to someone you don't have a clue about bar what you read in the profile. And yes all my messages have been answered but had I been a guy sending the same message to females I bet most have been deleted as they were pretty basic messages as I drew a complete blank as I tried to write it.

I don't think I've ever sent one

I sent a few after your threads about women sending messages or winks last year. Feck ya anyhow

Mind you I've sent one or two after seeing comments or profiles I thought were good as well. "

I'm great for starting a thread telling other people to wink or send a message not so great at doing it myself lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ???

This is why I don't message first because I'd honestly wouldn't know what to say other than hi, how are you?

I have messaged first and it actually is not that easy to think of something interesting and unique to send to someone you don't have a clue about bar what you read in the profile. And yes all my messages have been answered but had I been a guy sending the same message to females I bet most have been deleted as they were pretty basic messages as I drew a complete blank as I tried to write it.

I don't think I've ever sent one

I sent a few after your threads about women sending messages or winks last year. Feck ya anyhow

Mind you I've sent one or two after seeing comments or profiles I thought were good as well.

I'm great for starting a thread telling other people to wink or send a message not so great at doing it myself lol"

So I see

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"We don’t reply to one word intro messages as a rule - a rule we sometimes break depending on desirability of the couple - we acknowledge the hypocrisy and we do feel a bit hollow in those circumstances.

We have been known to reply to newbies advising them, politely, of the general antipathy towards one word messages but our enthusiasm for this has waned also as communication skills and etiquette ain’t just something you learn after joining this site."

Totally agree on that. We find that when we do reply to these messages, the convo quickly fizzles out anyway, so now we don't bother replying to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely after reading a person's profile you can come up with something to say in a first msg. Be it humour something serious or even their general location. As you girls always say.... just put some effort in and of course read the profiles. If you can't find sonething you say after that then maybe you need to rethink your strategy.

Just saying.... for a friend

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not "

I'm afraid we tend to put equal weighting on both types, as they all end up the same anyway ....... unanswered.

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I'm so glad you said "people" and not just guys. As it's not just the male of the species that has this aversion to a somewhat interesting first msg. Hi or hello or hey. It's like.... is like to talk to you but not that much that I have to put some effort in. I'm a woman after all and you should count yourself lucky that I'm messaging you.

Dare I say double standards ??? "

In terms of effort, the guys put in far more than anyone else. The couples are the worst, we have found - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not

I'm afraid we tend to put equal weighting on both types, as they all end up the same anyway ....... unanswered."

Than if messages not up to standard why not block everyone from messaging your profile and you do the messaging? Would save ye getting the crap ones

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not

I'm afraid we tend to put equal weighting on both types, as they all end up the same anyway ....... unanswered.

Than if messages not up to standard why not block everyone from messaging your profile and you do the messaging? Would save ye getting the crap ones "

Because now and then we get nice messages too. The crap messages don't bother us too much, i'm not complaining, it's more a case of wondering what they hope to achieve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I kinda prefer the hi how are you than the copy and paste tripe of what he's going to do to me or how he's going to rock my world etc.

How do you know the 'hi how are you' isn't also copied and pasted

Well it's better than "do you want a big dick".

Let's put it this way if you were out at night and a guy spoke to you at a bar and said " hey how are you" what would your reply be?

Whereas if he turned around and said "I've a big dick"

Guess everyone has different opinions on what's a good message or not

I'm afraid we tend to put equal weighting on both types, as they all end up the same anyway ....... unanswered.

Than if messages not up to standard why not block everyone from messaging your profile and you do the messaging? Would save ye getting the crap ones

Because now and then we get nice messages too. The crap messages don't bother us too much, i'm not complaining, it's more a case of wondering what they hope to achieve "

Getting the ride I guess lol

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By *uess.who30Man
over a year ago

Galway/Dublin/London

In a way.. its beneficial, you get an early insight into the person and their level of effort which will likely cross over into other things...

Could you imagine the disaster it would be if the time wasters were actually smart enough to make themselves seem genuine?

The place would be anarchy... for me, im happy for them to continue with said messages... let the difference in authenticity be clear to see, dont make it harder on yourself lol

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


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Than if messages not up to standard why not block everyone from messaging your profile and you do the messaging? Would save ye getting the crap ones

Because now and then we get nice messages too. The crap messages don't bother us too much, i'm not complaining, it's more a case of wondering what they hope to achieve

Getting the ride I guess lol"

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"In a way.. its beneficial, you get an early insight into the person and their level of effort which will likely cross over into other things...

Could you imagine the disaster it would be if the time wasters were actually smart enough to make themselves seem genuine?

The place would be anarchy... for me, im happy for them to continue with said messages... let the difference in authenticity be clear to see, dont make it harder on yourself lol "

Oh god yeah, great system for filtering, just wanted an insight into how their brains worked. I guess it's other body parts which are at work instead

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"In a way.. its beneficial, you get an early insight into the person and their level of effort which will likely cross over into other things...

Could you imagine the disaster it would be if the time wasters were actually smart enough to make themselves seem genuine?

The place would be anarchy... for me, im happy for them to continue with said messages... let the difference in authenticity be clear to see, dont make it harder on yourself lol

Oh god yeah, great system for filtering, just wanted an insight into how their brains worked. I guess it's other body parts which are at work instead "
Yes I enjoy the simple hi to and we can take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kaizer regularly gets one worders like "wow" or "beautiful"!

Short yet powerfully moving messages all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I have yet to find the sweet spot between “Hi, how are you today?” and basically repeating my whole profile in the first message

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

Oh don't count them winks out just yet since I've been here I've had 2 winks all happening this week so I'm on a roll atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truthfully, if they open with a "Hi" and we like the look of their profile then we'll usually reply. If conversation develops over a few messages then it's all good. If it's like pulling teeth then we're likely to bail.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?"

Hi

Lol...sorry, had to...

I wonder how many of those "hi" introductory message people will actually reply to this question...

My feeling is that those who genuinely post in the Forum will try to make more of an effort in their introduction - and yes, it is difficult to come up with something original to grab the attention of that profile, as everyone has a preference on how they like to be approached as we can see from the answers in this thread!

I have approached people through my singles profile as well as my couples profile, and always give a unique introduction on what I'm about, what attracted me to the profile and generally try to add some humour - which is usually easy enough as I tend to go for the more "original" profile with either funky pics or a decent original text or combination of both.

As to the "hi" messages I get, usually I put them off with "not interested" (yes, I generally try to reply to everyone - my filters are set quite tight so not a huge number of messages to get through ), or if they have an interesting profile, something that catches my eye, then I'll entertain to see if it can go anywhere, chat wise...

Kinky temptress

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By *ofusplus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Hi

Lol...sorry, had to...

I wonder how many of those "hi" introductory message people will actually reply to this question...

My feeling is that those who genuinely post in the Forum will try to make more of an effort in their introduction - and yes, it is difficult to come up with something original to grab the attention of that profile, as everyone has a preference on how they like to be approached as we can see from the answers in this thread!

I have approached people through my singles profile as well as my couples profile, and always give a unique introduction on what I'm about, what attracted me to the profile and generally try to add some humour - which is usually easy enough as I tend to go for the more "original" profile with either funky pics or a decent original text or combination of both.

As to the "hi" messages I get, usually I put them off with "not interested" (yes, I generally try to reply to everyone - my filters are set quite tight so not a huge number of messages to get through ), or if they have an interesting profile, something that catches my eye, then I'll entertain to see if it can go anywhere, chat wise...

Kinky temptress"

That's the problem, I'm preaching to the converted on here

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

I wonder do people think they have to pay by the letter. Its like the old small adds day where you needed a list of code to work out what they want...

Swm wltm bif gsoh for rts or ltr. Wtr waa....

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Hi

Lol...sorry, had to...

I wonder how many of those "hi" introductory message people will actually reply to this question...

My feeling is that those who genuinely post in the Forum will try to make more of an effort in their introduction - and yes, it is difficult to come up with something original to grab the attention of that profile, as everyone has a preference on how they like to be approached as we can see from the answers in this thread!

I have approached people through my singles profile as well as my couples profile, and always give a unique introduction on what I'm about, what attracted me to the profile and generally try to add some humour - which is usually easy enough as I tend to go for the more "original" profile with either funky pics or a decent original text or combination of both.

As to the "hi" messages I get, usually I put them off with "not interested" (yes, I generally try to reply to everyone - my filters are set quite tight so not a huge number of messages to get through ), or if they have an interesting profile, something that catches my eye, then I'll entertain to see if it can go anywhere, chat wise...

Kinky temptress

That's the problem, I'm preaching to the converted on here "

Lol...yes, you are!!!

Kinky

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

As for addressing "people", as one poster mentioned, he was delighted to hear it wasn't solely addressed to "gents"... and I've just seen a post on a different thread, which mentions women to be the "better messengers" for the introductory message...my personal experience, though I've not been approached half as much by ladies, more by couples and mostly by gents - is that I have yet to receive an original message with more than a couple of words from ladies!!! So percentage wise that makes us ladies look rather sad and pathetic because I have had a huge amount of funny, witty, intelligent and filthy conversations with the male on here... This is said without wanting to be derogatory or condescending to anyone - we all have our strengths and weaknesses... and the one thing I always bear in mind is that some just converse better in person, others converse better in writing and some have the gift of the gab - and can do both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?

Or even worse just one emoji I am so old I don't understand them! "

There is no such thing as Old in life! Just saying

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it out of boredom?"

I have only ever got this from a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question to people who send 'hi' and 'hello' one-word first messages. This is without any prior contact (winks etc). Why don't you make more of an effort? Do you hope to get an actual reply or are you just sending it

I have only ever got this from a couple "
Gab yes your so right there, Articulate in person but not on the page

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