FabSwingers.com forum: In general, are people rude on here... ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The forums, in messages, just in general?

I've noticed it more and more lately.

- with regards to the forum there is certainly an element of people like to disagreeing. Doesn't matter what you can say. People are gonna twist or take the wrong end of the stick.

- with messages or meeting -

The cheer aspect of mailing some is enough to warrant rude behaviour (looking at some of you ladies)

Then there's a lot who want you to bend over backwards. You accommodate them. You send your face pic first. You forfill what they are wanting or piss off. Etc.

Some get in a huff if you say no etc.

All in all just seems to be so much dickish behaviour.

Am I alone? Lol

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By *ore of thatMan
over a year ago

skerries

No your not wrong you are spot on .especially if you are some one who is not a regular on the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No your not wrong you are spot on .especially if you are some one who is not a regular on the forum "

Yeah

And apologies for the typos in my original message. Autocorrect strikes again.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

So what you're saying the bigger the cock choice for us women the more dickish we get. Everything seems to be infectious these days...

On a serious note, respect should be mutual, if that's not given, quickly move on, all you can do.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

If you are getting rude replies to your emails the simple solution is to stop sending emails and let the women send the first email that way you can ask for a face pic first..

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The forums people will always disagree some will be on just to stir as well. It is what it is. The more you chat the more people will chat back. Some will like you some won't. Just engage with the ones who you get on with really.

In messages I'm rarely rude even if I get abuse 95per cent of the time I'll just delete.

Don't jump through hoops for anyone. If you don't want to send face pics etc don't. I personally never ask for one but I find if we chat for a while one of us normally sends one anyhow. If someone is rude just move on. You will always get it on a site like this it's up to you how you let it effect you tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bud there more polite now than before lock down wait till leo says do what ye want you'll never get a reply again

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

Manners cost nothing,treat people with respect and there will always be people who like to stir shit up or disagree with you I find all the ladies to be sound as a pound haven’t chatted to anybody rude yet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manners cost nothing,treat people with respect and there will always be people who like to stir shit up or disagree with you I find all the ladies to be sound as a pound haven’t chatted to anybody rude yet!!"
that's cos you haven't messaged me

messing I'm lovely

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

People get things wrong in day to day things... why should it be any different on here

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

"People get things wrong in day to day things... why should it be any different on here

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very true

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

messing I'm lovely

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you seem lovely too greta22 love the pics that’s very impressive balance act you got there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

messing I'm lovely

you seem lovely too greta22 love the pics that’s very impressive balance act you got there "
it's cos bars are closed people need somewhere to put there drink

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

messing I'm lovely

you seem lovely too greta22 love the pics that’s very impressive balance act you got there it's cos bars are closed people need somewhere to put there drink

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they couldn’t pick a better spot lol

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Disagreement is awesome. The world would be a very dull place if we all agree all the time. As long as noone gets personally attacked then it's all good. A big range of different opinions is a wonderful thing.

Also, there is no reason to be rude to anyone for no reason.. but if you send a rude message, or attack anyone else, or call anyone names, or exhibit intolerant views towards people different to you.. then you deserve to be taken down a peg or 2 and I will delight in doing so.

My 2 cents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed. I find a lot coming from long standing members. I think theres an element of believing they have some sort of higher position on fab, knowing their friend group is there to back them up with the rude/snide comments designed to stir things up but vague enough to play victim.

You'll learn who they are pretty quickly but be aware they're all talking about you in private so offending one means you've offended them all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agreed. I find a lot coming from long standing members. I think theres an element of believing they have some sort of higher position on fab, knowing their friend group is there to back them up with the rude/snide comments designed to stir things up but vague enough to play victim.

You'll learn who they are pretty quickly but be aware they're all talking about you in private so offending one means you've offended them all.

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say increasingly boring as opposed to anything else, sending messages whether theres an attraction or not will fizzle out over time.

People are not meeting for obvious reasons and cracks are starting to appear in the desperate ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general?

People are rude everywhere.

But they only see rudeness in others,never in themselves

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I proberly come across as rude on here or in pms i get bored easy especially with the same aul chestnut messages being churned out over the last few wks:

Hey..

Hi..

Hello..

How's lockdown..

Doing anything exciting over the weekend or did ye do anything exciting over the weekend..

If ye get them messages constant it wears your last nerve..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the whole point of a forum is Agree to disagree. It's pretty much for an open discussion so you need both sides otherwise it wouldn't be fun in my opinion!

I can see what your saying also its very clicky'ish at times but I guess I'm just getting used to this site

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

You'll also find people who like to think they warrant your time and they can be as obnoxious as they want on the forums and then feel that others are talking about them.

One minute they are all things to all men and agree with every comment and next they are telling everyone they are wrong and need to listen to them.

People are no more rude or nasty on here than they are in real life.

The only difference is that on here they can hide behind a keyboard and pick and choose their targets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I proberly come across as rude on here or in pms i get bored easy especially with the same aul chestnut messages being churned out over the last few wks:

Hey..

Hi..

Hello..

How's lockdown..

Doing anything exciting over the weekend or did ye do anything exciting over the weekend..

If ye get them messages constant it wears your last nerve.."

You seem to be very self aware though. That's the key I think.

Some people seem to talk about how other people should behave, yet they cant hear the arrogance coming out of the mouths sometimes.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I wouldn't call it rude, it's more like some people have less tolerance for stupid comments and remarks.

I've rarely looked at a post and thought it was overly rude, however I was called a snowflake on here once for pointing out a blatant double standard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOBODY IS FUCKIN RUDE IN THIS FUCKIN PLACE..... RIGHT?!?

Just kidding

Make love not war

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Some people can be sarcastic or argumentative in the forums but they would be pretty dull if we all thought alike.

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
over a year ago

Northside

I can't comment on rude messages simply because I very rarely send messages, therefore get very few back. The forums are different because everyone has an opinion and some people don't care if their comment offends others. I find that in the "real world" people are very rarely openly rude,but on here there's an element of anonymity. That allows them to be rude,smart,bitchy or just plain nasty without having to deal with the recipient face to face. I can picture them at a social or on a meet and they'd be nice as pie. It's very easy to see who the genuine ones are and to avoid the unpleasant ones. And besides, Life's too short to put up with bullshit...so comment when you want to,scroll on when you need to and just enjoy yourself! That's my tuppence worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums, in messages, just in general?

I've noticed it more and more lately.

- with regards to the forum there is certainly an element of people like to disagreeing. Doesn't matter what you can say. People are gonna twist or take the wrong end of the stick.

- with messages or meeting -

The cheer aspect of mailing some is enough to warrant rude behaviour (looking at some of you ladies)

Then there's a lot who want you to bend over backwards. You accommodate them. You send your face pic first. You forfill what they are wanting or piss off. Etc.

Some get in a huff if you say no etc.

All in all just seems to be so much dickish behaviour.

Am I alone? Lol "

Nope ! Cause they get told mass off desperate creeps and the actual genuine dudes there aren’t sleazy get treated just as you explained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes most of couples are very rude , they are treating single profile's specially men's , like outsiders, like there is only them on this site and we have to wait for their needs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't comment on rude messages simply because I very rarely send messages, therefore get very few back. The forums are different because everyone has an opinion and some people don't care if their comment offends others. I find that in the "real world" people are very rarely openly rude,but on here there's an element of anonymity. That allows them to be rude,smart,bitchy or just plain nasty without having to deal with the recipient face to face. I can picture them at a social or on a meet and they'd be nice as pie. It's very easy to see who the genuine ones are and to avoid the unpleasant ones. And besides, Life's too short to put up with bullshit...so comment when you want to,scroll on when you need to and just enjoy yourself! That's my tuppence worth

This

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Casa Del Fun

"You'll also find people who like to think they warrant your time and they can be as obnoxious as they want on the forums and then feel that others are talking about them.

One minute they are all things to all men and agree with every comment and next they are telling everyone they are wrong and need to listen to them.

People are no more rude or nasty on here than they are in real life.

The only difference is that on here they can hide behind a keyboard and pick and choose their targets. "

Yep, I agree with what you’re saying there RB

Sometimes though, messages, whether text or in mail, can be misconstrued and crossed wires and misunderstandings can happen.

But there’s always the one or two who are just bitter people (it’s actually harder to be bitter as you have to keep thinking in the negative all the time), or the condescending type (that means talking down to someone

)...

It’s so easy for some to hide behind their keyboard, but they’re probably as quiet as a little Dormouse in real life

A happy HUMP day to all the Dormice out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This"

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread. Half the time it isn't worth the hassle replying to threads as people don't read what is said and take it out of context.I have met some wonderful people on here in the chatroom and that outweighs the negative shit

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"The forums, in messages, just in general?

I've noticed it more and more lately.

- with regards to the forum there is certainly an element of people like to disagreeing. Doesn't matter what you can say. People are gonna twist or take the wrong end of the stick.

- with messages or meeting -

The cheer aspect of mailing some is enough to warrant rude behaviour (looking at some of you ladies)

Then there's a lot who want you to bend over backwards. You accommodate them. You send your face pic first. You forfill what they are wanting or piss off. Etc.

Some get in a huff if you say no etc.

All in all just seems to be so much dickish behaviour.

Am I alone? Lol "

I'm an absolute cunt but I freely admit it.

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By *exy Saucy SocialsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Disagreement is awesome. The world would be a very dull place if we all agree all the time. As long as noone gets personally attacked then it's all good. A big range of different opinions is a wonderful thing.

My 2 cents. "
on the button girl love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NOBODY IS FUCKIN RUDE IN THIS FUCKIN PLACE..... RIGHT?!?

Just kidding

Make love not war

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums, in messages, just in general?

I've noticed it more and more lately.

- with regards to the forum there is certainly an element of people like to disagreeing. Doesn't matter what you can say. People are gonna twist or take the wrong end of the stick.

- with messages or meeting -

The cheer aspect of mailing some is enough to warrant rude behaviour (looking at some of you ladies)

Then there's a lot who want you to bend over backwards. You accommodate them. You send your face pic first. You forfill what they are wanting or piss off. Etc.

Some get in a huff if you say no etc.

All in all just seems to be so much dickish behaviour.

Am I alone? Lol

I'm an absolute cunt but I freely admit it."

Sure your from Galway we all know your a cunt haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well said.

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By *imon2016Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Yes for the most part I'd find women and couples quite rude on here. I'm always polite in messages, never spam, send anyone multiple messages. Never copy and paste the same message. I always follow the persons wishes for particular subject lines to show I've read the profile. If a woman likes 6ft guys, I dont message that person. I appreciate the volumes women get, so if the message is unread that's fair enough. But if its read without a PFO copied and pasted I find that a little rude. But I'd still never msg the woman saying I'd found it ignorant/rude. I just move on I guess. My 2 cents as they say.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Sure the wimmin do be buckin' mad half the time!

Rude hoors, always saying no, so they are!

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By *imon2016Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Sure the wimmin do be buckin' mad half the time!

Rude hoors, always saying no, so they are!

Ain't that be true brother

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By *imon2016Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Any minute now...the ass lickers will pile in...disagree completely...hoping this will ingraciate them with others...not because they actually disagree with me...which is a completely fair point of view to hold....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, in my opinion...no people on here are generally not rude, some lovely peeps too, but I've experienced some undesirables too who have no basic manners whatsoever or an idea how to speak to another human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are only rude to people who are rude to us.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"we are only rude to people who are rude to us. "

Isnt that the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are only rude to people who are rude to us.

Isnt that the truth

much prefer to be rude and nude with people

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send or receive many messages on here so I can't say whether people are overly rude or not. The last rude one I received was from a well established forum couple who told me it was a pity I was so ugly during a face pic Friday thread.

In regard to rudeness on the forums there seem to be a lot of people who rarely contribute to any threads talking about cliques and bullying but as yet haven't offered any evidence of this and if it is the case and it's as widespread as they suggest they should be reporting to admin.

Otherwise block and move on

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I'm never rude to anyone who doesn't deserve it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Yes for the most part I'd find women and couples quite rude on here. I'm always polite in messages, never spam, send anyone multiple messages. Never copy and paste the same message. I always follow the persons wishes for particular subject lines to show I've read the profile. If a woman likes 6ft guys, I dont message that person. I appreciate the volumes women get, so if the message is unread that's fair enough. But if its read without a PFO copied and pasted I find that a little rude. But I'd still never msg the woman saying I'd found it ignorant/rude. I just move on I guess. My 2 cents as they say."

Not replying to a message is not rude.

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By *eddy and legsCouple
over a year ago

the wetlands

"I don't send or receive many messages on here so I can't say whether people are overly rude or not. The last rude one I received was from a well established forum couple who told me it was a pity I was so ugly during a face pic Friday thread.

Otherwise block and move on "

My number one hate about this site is you can't block people in the forums.

Certain people have no contribution to make other than being argumentative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Otherwise block and move on

My number one hate about this site is you can't block people in the forums.

Certain people have no contribution to make other than being argumentative."

No they're not

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By *eddy and legsCouple
over a year ago

the wetlands

Otherwise block and move on

My number one hate about this site is you can't block people in the forums.

Certain people have no contribution to make other than being argumentative.

No they're not

Suck my ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Otherwise block and move on

My number one hate about this site is you can't block people in the forums.

Certain people have no contribution to make other than being argumentative.

No they're not

Suck my ...

Bit rude

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By *eddy and legsCouple
over a year ago

the wetlands

Otherwise block and move on

My number one hate about this site is you can't block people in the forums.

Certain people have no contribution to make other than being argumentative.

No they're not

Suck my ...

Bit rude

It's a swinger site, can I not ask for a blow job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how sensitive you are. But I noticed we humans are becoming too sensitive and docile on this age of machines does it all...

It's good. People are becoming more kind at the same time

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