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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking serious advice.

2 men message me.

Number 1 is married to an ex friend of mine and sets up profiles on other social media to message me at all hours. I've continually warned him that i am fed up and will send all screenshots to his wife. I have the evidence of him admitting who he was. This has been going on about 6 months on and off. This is not through fab.

2. I was on fab before, a guy i used to meet messaged on an unverified profile and worked out it was him. I've since removed my pics etc. He is now on as part of a couple, I've blocked them so they won't see this but he wants to meet behind his partner's back, i have repeatedly said no but he's starting to pi** me off with messages even when i blocked his account, he got another one.

Advice for both situations - stay quiet ignore and block continually until they get bored or tell their respective other halves?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Tell them you're going to give them 24 hrs to stop and then share their messages to their partners and block if they dont

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

I'm afraid to say when you block a profile it doesn't stop them seeing your forum posts. just stops them contacting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like he wants out of his marriage, but hasnt the courage to do it himself so wants you to do the dirty work for him. There are 100s of women here he can pester without picking the one person who will rat him out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening. "

That or you're something special

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening.

That or you're something special "

No definitely not, both men i would describe as having high sex drives, add in lockdown and they are probably bored and frustrated. Thinking with the wrong head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening.

That or you're something special "

I was thinking the exact same thing

You sexy thang

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening.

That or you're something special

No definitely not, both men i would describe as having high sex drives, add in lockdown and they are probably bored and frustrated. Thinking with the wrong head "

I would block and block some more

Do you want drama at your door??

You dont know how the spouses will react.

Not worth the drama and bs at your door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No definitely not, both men i would describe as having high sex drives, add in lockdown and they are probably bored and frustrated. Thinking with the wrong head "

Oh, I actually heard about this on the radio the other day. I cant remember the statistic from the survey, but something like 60% of people have admitted to texting an ex since lockdown. And another certain % of people who were in relationships texted an ex.

Seems to be a weird phenomenon due to isolation and sexual frustration, people in lockdown are reminiscing on the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No definitely not, both men i would describe as having high sex drives, add in lockdown and they are probably bored and frustrated. Thinking with the wrong head

Oh, I actually heard about this on the radio the other day. I cant remember the statistic from the survey, but something like 60% of people have admitted to texting an ex since lockdown. And another certain % of people who were in relationships texted an ex.

Seems to be a weird phenomenon due to isolation and sexual frustration, people in lockdown are reminiscing on the past."

There's a term for that "Submarining, a newly named trend, begins when someone with whom you have romantic involvement, ghosts — or disappears from your life without notice — only to resurface, with no apology and acts as if no time had pass"

I personally call it the Ghost of Fucks past.. they come back to haunt you. A few Casper the Ghost types sliding into my DM's during lockdown

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Just keep blocking them and ignoring them.

When they getting the cold shoulder all the time they will eventually give up or find someone else to hassle.

You are thinking too much about it when you don't need to. You don't want to have contact with them so just ignore any contact and block the profiles.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Even if you blocked him he will still see this if he comes on the forums.That may not be a bad thing.

Personally I would just block and delete don't even open the messages. They will get fed up eventually otherwise you are drawing all sorts of drama you may not want into your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore both of them, don't react in any way, don't even bother tp block, starved of attention or being able to provoke any reaction they will move on.

Personal experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one on fab isn't married, the one away from fab is.

Both have been warned continually yet there's a part of me doesn't want to send the women the screenshots. I've been adamant with saying no to them but must be cotton wool between their ears as they aren't listening.

That or you're something special

No definitely not, both men i would describe as having high sex drives, add in lockdown and they are probably bored and frustrated. Thinking with the wrong head

I would block and block some more

Do you want drama at your door??

You dont know how the spouses will react.

Not worth the drama and bs at your door."

You are a poet and u dont know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete block on all social media, delete numbers etc. Their circus let them deal with it. If you don't want the drama at your door.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Dont even read the messages. Delete unread. They will give up

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Delete, ignore, delete, ignore and keep doing this, also try to put your mindset into ignore so that these messages don't annoy you. Telling the partner won't stop him mailing you ....good luck OP xx

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

You seem still replying to them, stop feeding them. Don't talk to them anymore, ignore them, it might take a while but it will go away.

By exposing them to their partners you will create new problems for yourself, the kind of drama everyone right in their head will steer away from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry the burden of information alone ... you may think your doing the right thing by telling the partner but your actually just unloading unnecessary shit on their lap.

As others are saying delete and ignore ... enjoy the dick pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Will take the majority advice and i generally do ignore messages and do keep blocking but will now ignore all messages but have the screenshots just incase either of them was stupid enough to not log off something and partners find it to prove my side was always a no interest and hopefully in time they do get truly bored. I see I'm not the only one to be in this position which is reassuring on actions to take. I hate drama and really don't want it at my door but feel sorry for the women who think they've got the ideal man will lock my profile down for a while and make the first move with any profiles i like

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Don't respond to him in anyway.. Youre just feeding him if you do

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