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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone got the definitive answer to this? I have very recently separated from my wife, it happened on the day the lockdown was announced and I had to move out a couple of weeks later. We are about to begin mediation and access is not an issue between us but I haven’t found a new place to live yet and have had to move temporarily to a house 50k away from my family home, am I allowed to travel to see my kids? What do I need if anything to pass the regular Garda checkpoints as getting turned back or arrested would be a nightmare at this point, I need to maintain contact.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I was told by HSE to limit it to 1 household if at all possible.

I had breast cancer in 2017 so I am classed as high risk so my 2 kids have not gone to their dad. He is spitting fire as he is an unreasonable fucker. He doesnt care about my health.

I think you should be ok though. Are you planning on spending time with your kids at her house?

MsD

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By *amesmckMan
over a year ago

city

Yes.

Google judge mary larkin ennis district court.. about 2 weeks ago.

Went through a spouse for trying to use c19 as an excuse to deny access.

Its the 2km rule when you get there is the biggest problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

Google judge mary larkin ennis district court.. about 2 weeks ago.

Went through a spouse for trying to use c19 as an excuse to deny access.

Its the 2km rule when you get there is the biggest problem.

I’ll look that up, thanks.

"

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD "

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx"

Thanks for that, I hope you stay safe during this and good luck to you too

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx

Thanks for that, I hope you stay safe during this and good luck to you too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Google judge mary larkin ennis district court.. about 2 weeks ago.

Went through a spouse for trying to use c19 as an excuse to deny access.

Its the 2km rule when you get there is the biggest problem.

"

Haha knowing Mary personally I can only imagine

OP, I think you should be fine, maybe a letter from your ex's solicitor confirming that access is verbally agreed as whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx"
retard there his kids as much as yours if hes in isolation an not mixing there no reason for him not to see them an for you to keep them from him you breaking the law a father as much right to see his kids as mother no matter what

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

He has a partner and she has 3 kids. 1 was tested too. I know for a fact he has been spending time with her and lying to me saying he wasnt. I cannot trust him one bit.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

He is a retard on so many levels. Not going to explain my ex and what he has done to me and the kids.

My health and not dying is a priority of mine...no matter what.

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By *uttercupsixCouple
over a year ago

Roscommon


"Has anyone got the definitive answer to this? I have very recently separated from my wife, it happened on the day the lockdown was announced and I had to move out a couple of weeks later. We are about to begin mediation and access is not an issue between us but I haven’t found a new place to live yet and have had to move temporarily to a house 50k away from my family home, am I allowed to travel to see my kids? What do I need if anything to pass the regular Garda checkpoints as getting turned back or arrested would be a nightmare at this point, I need to maintain contact."

Where court ordered access is in place the advice is to stick to it as long as no one is at risk. As you have no formal arrangement in place yet, how about phoning your local Garda station & asking do you need any particular paperwork eg a letter from a solicitor.

Best of luck & stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see your frustration and would agree that no one would ever stop me seeing my kids either, but the word retard probably isn't the best word to use as an insult.

I would try contact your solicitor as suggested above and go through the proper channels.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I can see your frustration and would agree that no one would ever stop me seeing my kids either, but the word retard probably isn't the best word to use as an insult.

I would try contact your solicitor as suggested above and go through the proper channels."

I have called him far worse....trust me. No one can tell me what I should not call that mam after he physically, emotionally and financially abused me and continues to do whatever damage he can to me and via our 2 kids. He is their father and I feel sorry for them tbh as he is a covert narcsisst. Evil man.

Thanks xx

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

As a parent to children with multiple disabilities who has to fight daily for their inclusion acceptability and basic human rights, there really is no more of a sinking feeling when someone thinks using the word retard is okay to use as an insult.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

But its ok for him to call me a whore and a slut. Push me, run me off the road in his car, insult me multiple times to name but a few things.

Right.....retard it is then. Again....no one knows my ex and my situation.

Thanks for your opinions.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Vile

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By *in86Man
over a year ago

louth


"But its ok for him to call me a whore and a slut. Push me, run me off the road in his car, insult me multiple times to name but a few things.

Right.....retard it is then. Again....no one knows my ex and my situation.

Man jus wanted some advice on access to his kids not to hear this drama ffs u really think this is the place and people wanna hear derogatory comments

Thanks for your opinions. "

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By *in86Man
over a year ago

louth


"As a parent to children with multiple disabilities who has to fight daily for their inclusion acceptability and basic human rights, there really is no more of a sinking feeling when someone thinks using the word retard is okay to use as an insult."

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

My choice of word was perhaps inappropriate & not meant as an offense to anyone on here.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My choice of word was perhaps inappropriate & not meant as an offense to anyone on here.

MsD"

Well done you've clearly been pushed to the edge in your situation. Respect for coming back to apologise

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

Up here agreed access is permitted distance is irrelevant, most self impose the quarantine! people I know dont others still do and it seems ok by law, best check to be sure with your solicitor

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"As a parent to children with multiple disabilities who has to fight daily for their inclusion acceptability and basic human rights, there really is no more of a sinking feeling when someone thinks using the word retard is okay to use as an insult."

1000% agree.Its never acceptable for people to use this word when insulting someone.Shows massive ignorance.

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By *o strings but a G-stringMan
over a year ago

city


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx"

If you cannot facilitate his access you should in the first instance offer him full custody for the duration of covid 19 and pay him the same upkeep for the kids that be normally pays you.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

You're allowed see your child unless like in my case it put others at risk due to health problems.

I've not seen my little man for 7 weeks and it's torture.

we chat via video call but he's only 3. so it's hard.

The sooner this is all over the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're allowed see your child unless like in my case it put others at risk due to health problems.

I've not seen my little man for 7 weeks and it's torture.

we chat via video call but he's only 3. so it's hard.

The sooner this is all over the better "

i'm in the same boat here. me and her mother agreed it was best that my eldest daughter stayed with her mother during this period. her mother had suspected covid but the test came back negative. it's a killer but as you said it yourself better to not put people with health issues at risk.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"You're allowed see your child unless like in my case it put others at risk due to health problems.

I've not seen my little man for 7 weeks and it's torture.

we chat via video call but he's only 3. so it's hard.

The sooner this is all over the better

i'm in the same boat here. me and her mother agreed it was best that my eldest daughter stayed with her mother during this period. her mother had suspected covid but the test came back negative. it's a killer but as you said it yourself better to not put people with health issues at risk."

ultimate case of punishing yourself to save others. but it's the thing we must do.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Has anyone got the definitive answer to this? I have very recently separated from my wife, it happened on the day the lockdown was announced and I had to move out a couple of weeks later. We are about to begin mediation and access is not an issue between us but I haven’t found a new place to live yet and have had to move temporarily to a house 50k away from my family home, am I allowed to travel to see my kids? What do I need if anything to pass the regular Garda checkpoints as getting turned back or arrested would be a nightmare at this point, I need to maintain contact."

Of course your allowed to go visit your kids. They will need to see you as much as you need to see them. Even if you only get to sit in the car maintaining social distance. We must not forget to keep in mind the mental health of kids they may need to see their parents more now than ever. This is a very confusing scary time for our kids.

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By *onjuan234Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"Yes.

Google judge mary larkin ennis district court.. about 2 weeks ago.

Went through a spouse for trying to use c19 as an excuse to deny access.

Its the 2km rule when you get there is the biggest problem.

"

I have to say she is a very fair judge when it comes to family law, i was stopped at a check point by the guards bringing my kids to their mother but had the court order so waved me through

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx retard there his kids as much as yours if hes in isolation an not mixing there no reason for him not to see them an for you to keep them from him you breaking the law a father as much right to see his kids as mother no matter what "

Sorry man you missing the bigger picture here . Yes he may have access, butt these are not normal times . A person's health in a high risk situation is more important.

Mr dirty

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Has anyone got the definitive answer to this? I have very recently separated from my wife, it happened on the day the lockdown was announced and I had to move out a couple of weeks later. We are about to begin mediation and access is not an issue between us but I haven’t found a new place to live yet and have had to move temporarily to a house 50k away from my family home, am I allowed to travel to see my kids? What do I need if anything to pass the regular Garda checkpoints as getting turned back or arrested would be a nightmare at this point, I need to maintain contact."

Hi op tried to message you but your filters stopped me

Can you message me please for some advise

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By *onjuan234Man
over a year ago

Limerick

If it is court ordered then you have to carry out the access, that is the official line they are taking but if there is a health concern you can face time the access too, it is a grey area and i suppose each case will be different, my ex lives with her mother who is probably in the elderly category but my ex still insists on the access, i carry it out to not make an drama out of it but its my exs mother who is at risk, do i give a fuck about her no i don't

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I have nearly 50/50 coparenting with my ex who lives more than 2k away. We have been running as per normal. We treat both houses as effectively 1 blensed household. I'd go to court if necessary to defend this position. Worked fine so far.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I have been stopped with the kids in the car on the way between houses and was waved on no problem when I explained that my ex and I coparent. Childcare is one of the travel exemptions.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I have nearly 50/50 coparenting with my ex who lives more than 2k away. We have been running as per normal. We treat both houses as effectively 1 blensed household. I'd go to court if necessary to defend this position. Worked fine so far."

MY brother is the same. There is no way his kids would cope not seeing him for weeks on end. He collects his kids every other week with no issues atal..

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I have nearly 50/50 coparenting with my ex who lives more than 2k away. We have been running as per normal. We treat both houses as effectively 1 blensed household. I'd go to court if necessary to defend this position. Worked fine so far.

MY brother is the same. There is no way his kids would cope not seeing him for weeks on end. He collects his kids every other week with no issues atal.. "

Well this is Mr D here now, i aint seen my kids in person since this lockdown, as my ex didnt want to take chance as she has to mind her mum now, so cant come to the family home but i understand, my kids are not happy but its a scarifice i have given and it sucks !

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It all depends on the individual circumstances. I'm lucky that I have a decent relationship with my ex and we are able to work together to mind the kids. Neither one of us would consider putting the other in a situation where the other didn't have access. It's not a question of access.. it's about a totally shared responsibility.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx

If you cannot facilitate his access you should in the first instance offer him full custody for the duration of covid 19 and pay him the same upkeep for the kids that be normally pays you. "

First of all, he pays me 0 maintenance and hasnt done so in nearly 2 years despite earning well over 100k a year.

I would never ever deny him his access to our kids. I am high risk as I had cancer and have to practically self isolate. As do our kids as they were with me before the lockdown commenced. I was advised this by the HSE twice and in no incertain terms from my GP and oncology team.

There is no way in hell this man would take our kids for the duration of the lockdown. I can tell you that. He never wants to help me out or be reasonable, ever.

MsD

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"It all depends on the individual circumstances. I'm lucky that I have a decent relationship with my ex and we are able to work together to mind the kids. Neither one of us would consider putting the other in a situation where the other didn't have access. It's not a question of access.. it's about a totally shared responsibility."

I agree. And its about respecting the other parent.

2 things my ex has not got for me at all: a shared interest in our kids, fairness or respect for me.

I know this is extremely hard on the kids and him. They facetime him as much as they want. This is not a situation I am relishing at all and I cannot wait for it to end for all of us.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am planning on travelling to the family home to see them a couple of times per week,I’m not in physical contact with anyone else atm, I’m living on my own and no one is health compromised. My ex and myself are in agreement vis a vis us both seeing the kids as often as possible to maintain some continuity, they are teenagers so it’s important to keep things as normal as possible. Thanks MrsD

Well then I think you should be fine. We have court ordered access which they recomment you maintain at all times, which I have...bar this exception.

I had to get a letter from my GP too as my ex was going mad. I didnt ask to get cancer & be high risk! Retard.

Good luck xx retard there his kids as much as yours if hes in isolation an not mixing there no reason for him not to see them an for you to keep them from him you breaking the law a father as much right to see his kids as mother no matter what

Sorry man you missing the bigger picture here . Yes he may have access, butt these are not normal times . A person's health in a high risk situation is more important.

Mr dirty "
yes well if she is at a higher risk of getting sick because of her health then maybe she should of went into isolation herself an let father look after kids the way i see it as was in my case the kids were just used to get at the ex when they seen a chance to do so ive been through it

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