FabSwingers.com forum: The less sex you have, the less you want/think about it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The more sex you have, the more you want it, the less sex you have, the less you want/think about it"

I heard this off someone before and I'm curious how true it is for people.

For me it's definitely true. I feel asexual at times, often when I'm not having sex for long periods.

However when I do get it even once, it kicks my libido into gear and I'm always looking for it for a period.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Yep I’m exactly the same. Not had any in a looooong time and now I’m like meh.. no desire for it. Just as well really or I’d be climbing the walls.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

100% agree.

We have had sex each of the last 4 days, prior to that it was possibly a week with lady things and kids.

But once you start you want it more and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes think that, then my libido sneaks up and kicks me in the ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely true for me. Went without from late 20's to mid 30's and I don't think I missed it.

Since joining fab though I have realised sex is enjoyable, I'm allowed enjoy it, allowed want it. And I do miss it now lol

One good thing about lockdown is I'm learning about my body and my wants and what turns me on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know my male friends say they wank once or twice a day.

How true it is I dont know. sometimes I think its bravado because that's what they think they're supposed to say.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Totally agree OP.

If you dont have it, you dont want it or know what you are missing.

The more you have, you know you are missing out on something and think about it constantly.

I was told in my previous relationship, he was the one with the higher sex drive. I realise it was me actually...I was just suppressed and made me feel inadequate.

I am constantly thinking of what myself and MrD couls be doing! Always horny.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know my male friends say they wank once or twice a day.

How true it is I dont know. sometimes I think its bravado because that's what they think they're supposed to say."

Regular ejaculation is important for prostate health....just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""The more sex you have, the more you want it, the less sex you have, the less you want/think about it"

I heard this off someone before and I'm curious how true it is for people.

For me it's definitely true. I feel asexual at times, often when I'm not having sex for long periods.

However when I do get it even once, it kicks my libido into gear and I'm always looking for it for a period.

You?"

I think it's actually quite natural to have peaks and troughs.

When I was younger man there was no stopping me, I attended my first party at 19 and come 6am I was looking around for anyone who was still awake and game to have fun!

I'm 35 now and I'm lucky if I can top 3 times a night at an event. (VERY lucky.)

I've gone to many events and not played at all. I can also be quite picky, or a snob - depending on whom you ask, so don't always feel the need. I'm happy to go and socialise for the most part. I'm also on some meds which seems to be knocking the bollox of my sex drive so I guess it's all interlinked.

But I do have periods werein I'm rampant. And during those periods I'm also an absolute filth bag!

At the moment I think we all have more important things to be concerned with, and I'm not entirely sure if the meet/party scene will bounce back after the pandemic. I've heard some people voice reservations about going to a crowded pub, let alone an enclosed area were the crowd intends to swap bodily fluids in VERY close proximity.

It's a pickle.

Swinging will happen but I'm not sure about eventa.... For at least a year or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree OP.

If you dont have it, you dont want it or know what you are missing.

The more you have, you know you are missing out on something and think about it constantly.

I was told in my previous relationship, he was the one with the higher sex drive. I realise it was me actually...I was just suppressed and made me feel inadequate.

I am constantly thinking of what myself and MrD couls be doing! Always horny.

MsD"

When it's not that you don't want sex at all, just sex with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know my male friends say they wank once or twice a day.

How true it is I dont know. sometimes I think its bravado because that's what they think they're supposed to say."

Oh I wank twice a day but I think I'm just chasing the endorphin rush!

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Totally agree OP.

If you dont have it, you dont want it or know what you are missing.

The more you have, you know you are missing out on something and think about it constantly.

I was told in my previous relationship, he was the one with the higher sex drive. I realise it was me actually...I was just suppressed and made me feel inadequate.

I am constantly thinking of what myself and MrD couls be doing! Always horny.

MsD

When it's not that you don't want sex at all, just sex with him

I want sex with other people too. Doing what was always in my head. And being made to feel that that is ok and not weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""The more sex you have, the more you want it, the less sex you have, the less you want/think about it"

I heard this off someone before and I'm curious how true it is for people.

For me it's definitely true. I feel asexual at times, often when I'm not having sex for long periods.

However when I do get it even once, it kicks my libido into gear and I'm always looking for it for a period.

You?"

Yep same here with me, i am not wanting all that much now tbh, i am happy out in my ow skin for now. I definitely still think about it and have a little play with myself here and there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want sex with other people too. Doing what was always in my head. And being made to feel that that is ok and not weird. "

Nothing under the Sun is unnatural.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know my male friends say they wank once or twice a day.

How true it is I dont know. sometimes I think its bravado because that's what they think they're supposed to say.

Regular ejaculation is important for prostate health....just sayin'

Sometimes I actually do it just for this reason

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By *onalladMan
over a year ago

Tralee

What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally agree OP.

If you dont have it, you dont want it or know what you are missing.

The more you have, you know you are missing out on something and think about it constantly.

I was told in my previous relationship, he was the one with the higher sex drive. I realise it was me actually...I was just suppressed and made me feel inadequate.

I am constantly thinking of what myself and MrD couls be doing! Always horny.

MsD"

I understand that completely, when it's a discussion and I say I don't wank much etc I get a weird judgy look and it makes me feel like I'm odd or different in a negative way.

But when I'm in a relationship or having regular fun with someone, I've always been the one with the higher sex drive.

It's why I think the initial quote is accurate so I say that from now on usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know my male friends say they wank once or twice a day.

How true it is I dont know. sometimes I think its bravado because that's what they think they're supposed to say.

Regular ejaculation is important for prostate health....just sayin'

Sometimes I actually do it just for this reason

I totally believe you

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By *hoknows82Man
over a year ago

Nenagh / South Dublin

I haven't had any since all this started and I can't stop thinking about sex.

It's genuinely wrecking my head at this stage and I'd prefer to take a tablet to remove all urges. I'd love to be asexual right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't had any since all this started and I can't stop thinking about sex.

It's genuinely wrecking my head at this stage and I'd prefer to take a tablet to remove all urges. I'd love to be asexual right now.

That's tough going,I know people laugh and say you could have worse problems, no amount of rationalising removes a fundamental drive. A high libido can be a curse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog! "
this is exactly what I miss. Even when I am having regular sex I don't always have tenderness intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog! this is exactly what I miss. Even when I am having regular sex I don't always have tenderness intimacy. "

Lee and I are apart during lockdown and while I miss sex, it's hugs,spooning,and pillowtalk that I crave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog! this is exactly what I miss. Even when I am having regular sex I don't always have tenderness intimacy.

Lee and I are apart during lockdown and while I miss sex, it's hugs,spooning,and pillowtalk that I crave"
. Ya you can't beat it.

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By *eaAndBenCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Nothing under the Sun is unnatural.

In the context of fully informed consenting adults there isn’t but sadly there are plenty of unnatural (and illegal) practices people engage who argue that their urges are natural.

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By *onalladMan
over a year ago

Tralee

"What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog! this is exactly what I miss. Even when I am having regular sex I don't always have tenderness intimacy. "

Intimacy is number one for me - sexy isn't enjoyable without it imo

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By *eaAndBenCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

In terms of libido my greatest regret is having been on the pill for so long. It seriously suppressed my drive. Since stopping it whilst I am probably more hormonal

I am much keener generally. Only time I’m less so is just before my period when my boobs seem to swell and become tender and heavy. Straight after to mid cycle I can’t get enough and tend to be kinkier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I long for is the physical intimacy and the beautiful feeling that touch and kissing gives. Everything else follows naturally or can be sorted by yourself but at the end ofor the day you can't beat a good hug and a snog! this is exactly what I miss. Even when I am having regular sex I don't always have tenderness intimacy.

Intimacy is number one for me - sexy isn't enjoyable without it imo"
me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing under the Sun is unnatural.

In the context of fully informed consenting adults there isn’t but sadly there are plenty of unnatural (and illegal) practices people engage who argue that their urges are natural. "

There's an interesting debate to be had there with regard to what exactly we mean by "natural".

I'd agrue that anything within the confines of nature falls under the umbrella. That, of course, does not mean that all impulses are without damage or pain to others or aren't illegal. Violence is natural but we as conscious, self aware and moral human beings shouldn't choose to inflict it upon others, but it still falls within the realm of natural behaviour.

Sorry OP for getting off the beaten track!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

^ it's ok, I know when the spotlight is there you'll push me to the side to get it!

joking of course......

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