FabSwingers.com forum: Agressive profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

What misogynistic about a husband saying what his wife prefers?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you are way off. Although we don't have anything like mentioned on our profile, we also tend to speak about ourselves in third person.

It's easier to say 'he/she', than it is to say 'I' and explain who is speaking each time.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

A lot can be lost or misunderstood in text. Just sayin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over! "

Well it's the Mrs vagina so she can dictate whatever she likes

I personally had to start getting a lot blunter on my profile to put off the fuckwits. I am actually quite charming in person but I grew weary of the messages I was getting so I had to spell out what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Well it's the Mrs vagina so she can dictate whatever she likes

Exactly, these days, we find it far simpler to be unwelcoming in tone, anyone who wants to take offence at how we choose to word our profile is free to avoid us, it's a win-win!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Yes some portay themselves on their profiles in a rather repulsive way. Maybe they haven't grasp yet the concept of mutual attraction.

Just use it as a stay-away-from-filter.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Well it's the Mrs vagina so she can dictate whatever she likes

And does it really work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some lovely down to earth women and couples on Fab, but like any sphere of endeavour one is likely to stumble upon less desirable elements of society. I make no bones about the fact that I find high drama and entitled women a huge turn-off. Solely because I refuse to entertain the aforementioned uncool entitled women no matter how beautiful they are, people automatically assume that I'm an aggressive misogynistic right wing good ole boy. When nothing could be further from the truth.

In reality, I'm much more of a laid back hippie surfer non- conformist free spirit who has a healthy disrespect of authority.

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By *ohng69Man
over a year ago

athenry

"I've met some lovely down to earth women and couples on Fab, but like any sphere of endeavour one is likely to stumble upon less desirable elements of society. I make no bones about the fact that I find high drama and entitled women a huge turn-off. Solely because I refuse to entertain the aforementioned uncool entitled women no matter how beautiful they are, people automatically assume that I'm an aggressive misogynistic right wing good ole boy. When nothing could be further from the truth.

In reality, I'm much more of a laid back hippie surfer non- conformist free spirit who has a healthy disrespect of authority. "
and living in the 19th century

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What misogynistic about a husband saying what his wife prefers?"
Nothing at all but its the use of herself or the Mrs. I know Im sounding pedantic but its words!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on."
True. Agreed. Just an observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Well it's the Mrs vagina so she can dictate whatever she likes

Good point. It probably is only way to deal with fools.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Well it's the Mrs vagina so she can dictate whatever she likes

Yup. Completely agree. My profile grew to be what it is over 2 yrs. It used to be all nicey nicey and had to toughen it up. Still no use though as 95% of guys message after getting distracted by the pretty pics and never bother reading the profile anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What misogynistic about a husband saying what his wife prefers? Nothing at all but its the use of herself or the Mrs. I know Im sounding pedantic but its words! "

Personally I find people with completely pointless and useless warnings to Institutions more off putting than how a comole choose to describe each other.

But the joy of fab is we can all do what we like with our profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What misogynistic about a husband saying what his wife prefers? Nothing at all but its the use of herself or the Mrs. I know Im sounding pedantic but its words!

Personally I find people with completely pointless and useless warnings to Institutions more off putting than how a comole choose to describe each other.

But the joy of fab is we can all do what we like with our profiles."

Yep its a free wotld. But just an observation. Can be off putting if the male comes across as a control freak or single woman comes across as angry and precious! Everyone to their own I suppose!

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Oooooh I've lost count the amount of times I've updated our profile with some grumpy sentences after opening numerous horrible messages. Then after a while once the steam subsided - changed it to a softer wording.

As Rosy said - we all are just people and came here with good intentions but after so many fuckwits your patience runs very thin and we get shorter and snappier with pretty much every one.

Why not just leave? Those few diamonds you find now and then and a huge amount of friends you make within the community are really worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

Ah yes! A chance to see just how fortunate all ye lucky ladies really are

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By *rmrspumpCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"What misogynistic about a husband saying what his wife prefers? Nothing at all but its the use of herself or the Mrs. I know Im sounding pedantic but its words!

Personally I find people with completely pointless and useless warnings to Institutions more off putting than how a comole choose to describe each other.

But the joy of fab is we can all do what we like with our profiles.

Yep its a free wotld. But just an observation. Can be off putting if the male comes across as a control freak or single woman comes across as angry and precious! Everyone to their own I suppose! "

Trust me, no couples or single girls on here are losing sleep about a few guys finding thier profile off putting. It's like telling a crack dealer to work on his social skills to sell more crack, that crack sells itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over! "

don't like it don't read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on. True. Agreed. Just an observation. "

I know exactly what you mean OP and respect the fact that you're just trying to open it up as a discussion. However, pick and choose who to respond to carefully because those agressive types will come here to tell you to gtf over it.

As it says above, best not to even acknowledge these profiles.

Sometimes people will take power wherever they can get it, if not in their real lives, it will be online and unfortunately for others who aren't desperate for it, we will be on the receiving end so I ignore any profile like that.

However, some nice people I'm sure are behind some of them and are just pissed off by the hoards of desperate men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on. True. Agreed. Just an observation.

As it says above, best not to even acknowledge these profiles.

However, some nice people I'm sure are behind some of them and are just pissed off by the hoards of desperate men."

Yes very wise words. Thanks. As in life the vast majority like yourself are spot on!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on. True. Agreed. Just an observation.

As it says above, best not to even acknowledge these profiles.

However, some nice people I'm sure are behind some of them and are just pissed off by the hoards of desperate men.

Yes very wise words. Thanks. As in life the vast majority like yourself are spot on! "

Some also seem to come on and the profiles don't actually look too bad but when you see what they post on here in forum's or messages you realise the profile is just something that they think will pull you in sadly you see the comments etc and realise the person is someone who you wouldn't have anything to do with. They seem to always be looking to stir at other people constantly. So it's not just the profiles you need to take into account.l always pay heed to what people post in here and make private notes. Luckily a fair few are outside my filters so they can't message me. Always have to look at silver linings on here especially as the lockdown seems to be bringing quite a bit of frustration and attitudes out in people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on. True. Agreed. Just an observation.

As it says above, best not to even acknowledge these profiles.

However, some nice people I'm sure are behind some of them and are just pissed off by the hoards of desperate men.

Yes very wise words. Thanks. As in life the vast majority like yourself are spot on!

Totally agree, I've been disappointed and surprised a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't see an issue in any such profile to be fair, Ohpee, if they write "herself" etc; certainly not to the extent that it could be deemed "bullying" or aggressive!

With couples you're addressing two people so why can't it appear that both have an input into the profile? Who's to say that it's not the "Mr" who writes his own likes/dislikes and the "Mrs" does the same? Both saying "I like..." would surely lead to mass confusion

All you're doing is distinguishing preferences in a scenario where two people share the one profile.

It could be argued that the presumption it's one person writing and managing a couples profile is most ignorant misconception on Fab.

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By *heVirginianMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

Great point - what about giving us guys a sample of the idiotic messages you get? Like an idiots Hall Of Fame without their names of course ; ) With people understandably venting here, the rest of us might learn something.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

One person's impression of an aggressive attitude will be different to the next. Some might read a profile and find it reasonable and understandably straightforward while others would find it argumentative and aggressive.

It's whatever works for the creator of the individual profile.

Like others have said though not all profiles are consistent and that can often become apparent in the forums in the way they respond to comments or speak down to people and are always right regardless of what others think.

The current situation is affecting everyone's mood and bringing out the worst in some but others don't need an excuse to be aggressive and opinionated.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"One person's impression of an aggressive attitude will be different to the next. Some might read a profile and find it reasonable and understandably straightforward while others would find it argumentative and aggressive.

It's whatever works for the creator of the individual profile.

The current situation is affecting everyone's mood and bringing out the worst in some but others don't need an excuse to be aggressive and opinionated. "

I agree RB that's so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just ignore profiles that don't interest you. People are allowed to write whatever they want. There are plenty I read and just go nope and move on. True. Agreed. Just an observation.

As it says above, best not to even acknowledge these profiles.

However, some nice people I'm sure are behind some of them and are just pissed off by the hoards of desperate men.

Yes very wise words. Thanks. As in life the vast majority like yourself are spot on! "

Thanks

happy to chat if you ever feel you ever need some friendly perspective on things

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

I never came across those types of profiles & the examples you gave sound more like their preferences. Each to their own profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's whatever works for the creator of the individual profile.

The current situation is affecting everyone's mood and bringing out the worst in some but others don't need an excuse to be aggressive and opinionated. "

I'm with you on that, it's getting pretty heated in here at the moment i must say. And that is the reality biting

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Carole fucking baskin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carole fucking baskin

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

There is NO WAY l would put myself in that position ,not a hope ,l receive very little or no Messages and tbh that's cool with me , Absolutely no way would l want the head frying scenario of a complete yellow wall of Messages that ladies get for one day never mind every day ..which l'm sure so many are all of the exact same variety as well..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

It's crazy but this time i am much happier, i have every single filter there is there turned on. I enjoy perving pictures and the forums. I will chat to a few friends here but that's it, I don't want shit loads of pms everday, no thanks.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

i might start replying with wow thats a fantastic dick pic. email me lorena.Bobbit@yahoo and we can set something up

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

It's not the amount (most of us mortals receive very few messages on a normal day), it's the amount of repetitiveness, sleaze and sheer rudeness. It's the fact that 90% of all received messages will be either "hi", "wanna fuck" or "fuck you, you fat stuck up cunt".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

So true I have filters tight but still get those ones even tho I don't get a load of messages I get at least 2 or 3 of those daily especially at the moment. Just delete and block most without even opening them as I get the gist now before I do.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"As part of Fab orientation single guys should be made run a single female's profile for just one day. Then you would understand why our patience is tested

Only way to avoid those three categories of messages is to have a behavioural IQ test when you're creating a profile and filter people out by points lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can see some rather messed up profiles.

I like to think that being on fab is like the stock exchange. Couples and women are like gold and silver. But men? Penny stocks. Just the way it goes. About 40 men to one woman I reckon lol.

Because of that many men will mail everything they can. It has to be said there is a lot of dickheads on fab. "giz your number?" - "wanna ride? I can be over to yours in an hour" no hi how are you or anything lol.

Now some women and couples get annoyed at that. Understandably. So they start to hate the crap.

It also has to be said that some women and couples get an artificially created ego due to the amount of attention they get. Suddenly setting unrealistic amounts of criteria someone must fall under.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"You can see some rather messed up profiles.

I like to think that being on fab is like the stock exchange. Couples and women are like gold and silver. But men? Penny stocks. Just the way it goes. About 40 men to one woman I reckon lol.

Now some women and couples get annoyed at that. Understandably. So they start to hate the crap.

It also has to be said that some women and couples get an artificially created ego due to the amount of attention they get. Suddenly setting unrealistic amounts of criteria someone must fall under.

Good, reliable, respectfull, intelligent men are very much valued, appreciated and are very much welcome by all. They have their value not in gold, but platinum as believe me here on fab there's far less men as described above than women or couples.

About the criteria - people come here to fulfil their fantasies on their terms. If their criteria doesn't suit you or someone it doesn't matter, it's easy to move on there's someone for everyone.

Altough some take on an attitude of "I like a challenge" and "I'm the exception" this is mainly what makes things go wrong very quickly.

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By *ipsandthighsMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over! "

Id have to agree with this totally puts me off messaging. That said im sure there is a high percentage that are nice that portray poorly enough.I dont know why women dont just filter the age bracket to lower messages then change it accordingly.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Because regardless of age filters there are always men who are assholes

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By *ipsandthighsMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Because regardless of age filters there are always men who are assholes

I dont doubt that i can see both sides but his thoughts on it carry alot of substance.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"Why are some profiles so agressive in tone?

I appreciate there are clowns who have no manners in harrassing women and they need to set a bar.

But its moreso in reading some couple profiles in particular which are angry in tone and give a whiff of bullying and domineering men which are a complete turn off.

Im not in the domination-submissive sphere, so I cant comment there but the tone of some ordinary couple profiles is very misogynist talking about "herself likes.." "The Mrs prefers.." etc.

Im no snowflake but its not nice! Just sayin. Okay rant over!

Because regardless of age filters there are always men who are assholes

I dont doubt that i can see both sides but his thoughts on it carry alot of substance."

I dont see the terms he used as misogynist. I regularly refer to my hubs as himself when im talking about him on forums does that make me a misandrist? No. the way i look at it is if the profile doesnt grab you then move on rather than throwing out labels about people you dont know. (not referring to you btw) sometimes a profile can look great and then you see the comments on forum or in messages and you go uh oh not for me. Sometimes a profile comes across as blunt and yet they are the nicest people in the world. Fab is large enough for everyone to find their type and who they click with. just my tuppence anyway

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By *ipsandthighsMan
over a year ago

dublin

Yea all seems fair enough.

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