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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

What's up fabba dabba dooers

Question.. after having a cam chat with a beautiful fab lady tonight I was astonished to hear the actual amount of messages she received daily... as in the several hundred mark

I know women are getting hit up far more than us brutish louts but I didn't think it was this much of a gap

So I'm asking if you send a message with pic, you meet the lady's criteria (at least in your own head but they dont open it

Should you send a message again down the line?? Just in case the first was missed?? I get they may have seen it and not be interested but how to know for sure

Obviously I dont want to piss anyone off or overstep as I'm not a lurker, creep or a "hey nice tits wanna bang" kinda bloke

I have a good sense of how to interact with, treat a women and generally try not to be an asshole and if they're not into me I'm cool with that (it's sad this needs to move stated)

I'd love to hear the female perspective on this as I'm generally unsure as to what the best course of action is in these situations

Much love.. stay safe and sane

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

If you felt like the two of you were really vibing I would wait a couple of days and message again. I know I miss a lot of messages so I don't think there is any harm once you're not spamming here haha

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By *enchtouristCouple
over a year ago

Armagh

We don't get even a smidgen near that volumn of messages and some get missed really easily. If shes that much some days her inbox might be the last place she wants to look lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get many messages but have experienced a few repeat offenders, obviously not site supporters so they don't remember sending the message the first, second or third time. At the 3rd one I now block .

If you thought your chat went well, pop her a message, if she interested she will see your message

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I keep my filters on so I don't get that many I couldn't be dealing with that many messages. I try and answer the polite I messages I get. But I still tend to miss some who I have chatted to. If you did get on well there is no harm in sending a message to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I can say that the best advice I ever read on here was to delete any and all 'sent' messages.

In your example, Ohpee, you note that they haven't opened it and that's why you would wonder whether to message again. If you take away that, albeit natural, instinct to see the status of your message then you'd be amazed at the difference it makes mentally! In my opinion it can be unhealthy to constantly check such things as there could be so many reasons and unknowns;

They may be signed in but not in an appropriate place to read any messages. They could have opened it then marked it "unread" until they're in a better position to reply even. If it were a couple it could be unopened or marked "unread" again until both get a chance to read it etc.

I know messages can get lost amongst others but I always look at it as if someone wants to reply, they well; what's to be, will be!

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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Thanks for the advice folks.. sorry I probably didn't make it clear in my opener

The lady I was camming with tonight we got chatting through the first message I sent her

But other's I have sent to different women may not get opened.. when I heard how many she was receiving then it's easy to see how this can happen regularly even if the person could click with you if they seen it

... but the flipside is you could be thinking this and they're like nah he's awful, not my type, attached etc

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By *ecentguy321Man
over a year ago

nearby

Id say no. Its easy to scan through messages and delete. I understand not replying to everyone

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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you felt like the two of you were really vibing I would wait a couple of days and message again. I know I miss a lot of messages so I don't think there is any harm once you're not spamming here haha"

Cheers DublinGirl, your post in the blocked thread got me thinking how many potential assholes are us non assholes competing with here

As your block list is immense

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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Personally, I can say that the best advice I ever read on here was to delete any and all 'sent' messages.

In your example, Ohpee, you note that they haven't opened it and that's why you would wonder whether to message again. If you take away that, albeit natural, instinct to see the status of your message then you'd be amazed at the difference it makes mentally! In my opinion it can be unhealthy to constantly check such things as there could be so many reasons and unknowns;

They may be signed in but not in an appropriate place to read any messages. They could have opened it then marked it "unread" until they're in a better position to reply even. If it were a couple it could be unopened or marked "unread" again until both get a chance to read it etc.

I know messages can get lost amongst others but I always look at it as if someone wants to reply, they well; what's to be, will be! "

That's some sage advice Pete, noce one

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough


"Personally, I can say that the best advice I ever read on here was to delete any and all 'sent' messages.

In your example, Ohpee, you note that they haven't opened it and that's why you would wonder whether to message again. If you take away that, albeit natural, instinct to see the status of your message then you'd be amazed at the difference it makes mentally! In my opinion it can be unhealthy to constantly check such things as there could be so many reasons and unknowns;

They may be signed in but not in an appropriate place to read any messages. They could have opened it then marked it "unread" until they're in a better position to reply even. If it were a couple it could be unopened or marked "unread" again until both get a chance to read it etc.

I know messages can get lost amongst others but I always look at it as if someone wants to reply, they well; what's to be, will be! "

This is 100% me. Some I read then mark unread to come back to it, but if a second message is sent to me and I don't reply,most likely I am not interested. If someone keeps sending me messages and I don't reply I am 100% not interested. But to answer your question OP,no harm in throwing her a message, but if she doesn't reply, after the cam chat you may not be her type, so I would leave it at that.

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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Personally, I can say that the best advice I ever read on here was to delete any and all 'sent' messages.

In your example, Ohpee, you note that they haven't opened it and that's why you would wonder whether to message again. If you take away that, albeit natural, instinct to see the status of your message then you'd be amazed at the difference it makes mentally! In my opinion it can be unhealthy to constantly check such things as there could be so many reasons and unknowns;

They may be signed in but not in an appropriate place to read any messages. They could have opened it then marked it "unread" until they're in a better position to reply even. If it were a couple it could be unopened or marked "unread" again until both get a chance to read it etc.

I know messages can get lost amongst others but I always look at it as if someone wants to reply, they well; what's to be, will be!

This is 100% me. Some I read then mark unread to come back to it, but if a second message is sent to me and I don't reply,most likely I am not interested. If someone keeps sending me messages and I don't reply I am 100% not interested. But to answer your question OP,no harm in throwing her a message, but if she doesn't reply, after the cam chat you may not be her type, so I would leave it at that."

Cheers Snowy.. yeah its not with this lady that it's the case.. we messaged back and forth from the off

But when I realised that the women here can be getting a silly amount of messages it got me thinking should I chance it again (with different ladies)as they may have missed it

But your advice is sound so I'll take it on board

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough


"Personally, I can say that the best advice I ever read on here was to delete any and all 'sent' messages.

In your example, Ohpee, you note that they haven't opened it and that's why you would wonder whether to message again. If you take away that, albeit natural, instinct to see the status of your message then you'd be amazed at the difference it makes mentally! In my opinion it can be unhealthy to constantly check such things as there could be so many reasons and unknowns;

They may be signed in but not in an appropriate place to read any messages. They could have opened it then marked it "unread" until they're in a better position to reply even. If it were a couple it could be unopened or marked "unread" again until both get a chance to read it etc.

I know messages can get lost amongst others but I always look at it as if someone wants to reply, they well; what's to be, will be!

This is 100% me. Some I read then mark unread to come back to it, but if a second message is sent to me and I don't reply,most likely I am not interested. If someone keeps sending me messages and I don't reply I am 100% not interested. But to answer your question OP,no harm in throwing her a message, but if she doesn't reply, after the cam chat you may not be her type, so I would leave it at that.

Cheers Snowy.. yeah its not with this lady that it's the case.. we messaged back and forth from the off

But when I realised that the women here can be getting a silly amount of messages it got me thinking should I chance it again (with different ladies)as they may have missed it

But your advice is sound so I'll take it on board"

Send the second message is my advice, there could be any number of reasons for no reply, but after that, delete and move on.

Good luck on here OP

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell


"If you felt like the two of you were really vibing I would wait a couple of days and message again. I know I miss a lot of messages so I don't think there is any harm once you're not spamming here haha

Cheers DublinGirl, your post in the blocked thread got me thinking how many potential assholes are us non assholes competing with here

As your block list is immense "

Yeah, my block list is ridiculous but until the other night I didn't use any filters and that 250 is over the entire year or so that I've been here. But trust me, a non asshole in a sea of assholes stands out like a sore thumb.

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By *iquidRaven OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you felt like the two of you were really vibing I would wait a couple of days and message again. I know I miss a lot of messages so I don't think there is any harm once you're not spamming here haha

Cheers DublinGirl, your post in the blocked thread got me thinking how many potential assholes are us non assholes competing with here

As your block list is immense

Yeah, my block list is ridiculous but until the other night I didn't use any filters and that 250 is over the entire year or so that I've been here. But trust me, a non asshole in a sea of assholes stands out like a sore thumb. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally respond to most messages, where it appears the person has made some kind of effort. I personally don't like it when people message more than once,especially when they do it repeatedly with multiple profiles, as one particular gem does intermittently....

No response IS a response as far as we're concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to respond to most if not all messages but don't anymore as it's way too time consuming. I tend to use my block button to out repeat spammers.

I do like to be polite and often thought an auto thanks but not thanks respond would be a good feature.

Regardless of number of texts received I would always spot ones I'm interested in hearing from.

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