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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone,

So im looking for the best message to send too someone to get a response, and not just left on read/instant delete.

So I read the profile and try and talk about what they want, who they are, show an actual interest ect, but no luck.

Just need something to help spark an interest, any help would be greatly appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theirs not such thing tho...you may be gentle genuine str8 fowards and honest it depends on people if they give the trouble to reply

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We like a personal but witty first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interest in the profile, ask or mention a certain topic from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one person will give you the same answer. Stick in there have patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

So im looking for the best message to send too someone to get a response, and not just left on read/instant delete.

So I read the profile and try and talk about what they want, who they are, show an actual interest ect, but no luck.

Just need something to help spark an interest, any help would be greatly appreciated!"

I’d always look for someone who’s response is about them but also nods to the fact they’ve taken the time to look through your profile.

The ones that are dead in the water for me are the ‘heys’, the ‘generic copy and paste’, the ‘omg your profile is so hot’ etc... give me a hello, this is a bit about me and this is why I’m interested in you anytime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAF usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horses for courses. There is no "set" message (or you will end up copying and pasting). There has been some generally good advice here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

So im looking for the best message to send too someone to get a response, and not just left on read/instant delete.

So I read the profile and try and talk about what they want, who they are, show an actual interest ect, but no luck.

Just need something to help spark an interest, any help would be greatly appreciated!"
women respond to criticism invoke an intelligent response by criticism of the fundamentals of their very long and often negative profiles but all the while telling them what a babe they are

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Show interest in who you message and not just that you are messaging all the 18 to 99 year olds on here and wouldn’t have a willy pic as the first pic on your profile as people often check your profile before deciding if they reply, ignore or delete. Good luck, I’m sure you will get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show interest in who you message and not just that you are messaging all the 18 to 99 year olds on here and wouldn’t have a willy pic as the first pic on your profile as people often check your profile before deciding if they reply, ignore or delete. Good luck, I’m sure you will get there. "

He's got 3.. because 1 just wouldn't be enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Show interest in who you message and not just that you are messaging all the 18 to 99 year olds on here and wouldn’t have a willy pic as the first pic on your profile as people often check your profile before deciding if they reply, ignore or delete. Good luck, I’m sure you will get there.

He's got 3.. because 1 just wouldn't be enough."

Im taking this comment as a sign, and just leave it with 1

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By *ookingandexploringCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

I'd like to read a little more about you on your profile.

Profiles are funny things, there is no golden profile or golden message.

Personal opinion here... Drop the bit about not being verified?

I agree with the other feedback about show a link to having read the profile.

Sometimes someone's status can give you a opening message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Personal opinion here... Drop the bit about not being verified?

I agree with the other feedback about show a link to having read the profile.

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This.

Don't get hung up on the verification system. Be yourself and send a polite, decent, fun message. You sound very polite and it won't take long.

Oh not sure about the profile name though. There are lots of big dicks here, in every sense! Perhaps you have a better selling point?

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be exactly what they're looking for.

It doesn't matter how good your profile is, or how good a message you send, if they don't fancy you, it ain't gonna happen, and if it ain't gonna happen, chances are you're not going to be getting a reply.

Sorry to be the one to break it to you, but that's life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Personal opinion here... Drop the bit about not being verified?

I agree with the other feedback about show a link to having read the profile.

This.

Don't get hung up on the verification system. Be yourself and send a polite, decent, fun message. You sound very polite and it won't take long.

Oh not sure about the profile name though. There are lots of big dicks here, in every sense! Perhaps you have a better selling point?

Good luck."

Well the username is a nickname that was given too me haha, thought Id use it, but cant change it anyway, not a site supporter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd like to read a little more about you on your profile.

Profiles are funny things, there is no golden profile or golden message.

Personal opinion here... Drop the bit about not being verified?

I agree with the other feedback about show a link to having read the profile.

Sometimes someone's status can give you a opening message... "

What other kind of stuff do you think I should put?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a typical first message i send i always get a reply........

Hi maam I'm texting you today because you were entered into our draw for free platinum membership and you are this months lucky winner, please get back to me with naked pics if you want to collect the prize.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Classic!! Must be in sales!?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's no particular best message OP. Just be yourself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no particular best message OP. Just be yourself. X"

agreed, do read their profile & don't appear desperate lol

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Generic send to all messages stand out a mile like the Everest glossy junk mail that comes through your door and just ignored. A personalised message is better and shows someone you at least think they are worth the time.

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