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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I've been on here for about couple of weeks now but do not seem to have joy in making any kind of positive contact. By this, I mean i'm not receiving any replies.

I did only have my account verified today.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. I'm sure you've figured out by now that men vastly outnumber women, so your profile has to really stand out, as does your initial message to anyone you contact.

You might want to consider including a face photo, but I appreciate that isn't something everyone is comfortable with. Very few women have public face photos but you need to be grabbing their attention - not the other way round.

You could include some more general information about you and what you like apart from the intimate stuff.

What do you want to say in your opening message? I'd suggest it's elaborating on what you're looking for and what you are like, but avoid being crude and vulgar. Also ask about the other person too. Don't be completely general as you won't stand out.

But my best advice is be patient and get used to rejection. It happens to every guy on here. You've only been on here 2 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your age range is going to limit you a lot as there don't seem to be that many 18-40 on this site.

You certainly need more photos, just please not of your cock- you can keep those in your friends only folder.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

How many 18-40 year olds do you think are on the site, then how many in your area ?

Add to this, how many will be impressed with a picture of an arm ? The other guys around you have nothing to worry about, those women will have plenty of choice of other guys showing more than arms on their profile.

The text is nothing special either, does it accurately describe you, your personality and what you offer and want from a meet ?

Nobody can write the text for you, but you can get ideas off other successful guys on here. Do some research, suited and booted photos look good so maybe start with that.

It’s a hard truth on here, that a woman will get messages, no matter what photos or text she puts on her profile. Guys on the other hand have to truly work to get any interest, profile, contribute to forum posts, send decent messages and accept most wont be answered, or attend clubs and socials.

But plenty of guys get more luck the more they work on here.

Good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your replies.

Some food for thought.

It's much apprecaited.

I will definitely update profile with more information and specifying what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your replies.

Some food for thought.

It's much apprecaited.

I will definitely update profile with more information and specifying what I'm looking for.

"
just bad timing in three or four months time maybe 6 months to a years time you may have more luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say that you're verified, you are referring to Photo-verification.

Just to clear that up. You have not been verified by other members by way of a meet.

As you say, you've only been here 2 weeks. That is nothing. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here between 6 months and a year.

There is no magic formula to getting a reply. Most, if not all, of those you message will check out your profile before even thinking about looking at what you've sent them. You may well have written the best, most polite message possible and have the best profile text ever created, but if they don't fancy you, there would be no point in replying, would there?

Lets look at it another way. Nobody owes you a reply. A lot of women here get hundreds of messages per day. They're often very busy just trying to get through them. Can you imagine them responding to every one of them just to tell them 'thanks, but no thanks'?

And usually, when they do, they can get messages coming back either asking why not, trying to convince them, or, in some cases, get abuse hurled at them.

The site FAQ's make it very clear that a non-reply should be regarded as a 'no thank you'

You should ask yourself what your expectations were on joining the site. This is NOT as sex site. It is a swinging site. People who are on here are not here to fuck anyone and everyone. Single men outnumber women and couples anywhere from 100 to 1 upwards, so be prepared for very much of the same. Even those of us who have been using fab for years have similar issues (I recently returned after a break)

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