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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been on here for a while now but don't seem to have much luck. When I message people who catch my eye, some reply but after a few messages just stop replying. Some send one reply and then nothing and some don't reply at all. I've tried all manner of messaging styles and friends tell me I'm reasonably attractive...so what am I missing? Any tips would be great

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Are the content of your messages only about sex or compliments? Cause after a while I'd lose interest

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's hard to say, I'd reply to you based on your profile, but it depends what the message says as well. Are you going right in talking about sex or meeting up? If the conversation fades quickly you probably just weren't compatible anyway.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

I wrote this a few hours ago for a similar thread:

There are no hard and fast rules to messaging. You have to be yourself and temper and steer them according to how you’d like to. What works for some people doesn’t for others, but genuine, personal messaging will always cut through any kind of forced statements or attempts to bullshit someone into bed. Each discourse is unique and will move at its own pace. I’ve had first message to social to play meet in under a day or several months; it isn’t a one size fit all kind of deal. Just be honest, if it doesn’t last then it’s usually because it wasn’t meant to. Good luck.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Well, speaking AS a couple! we appreciate when people read our profile, the amount of messages where people think its a cuck thing etc is far too high!

We also appreciate a little humour about this entire tense situation! humour works. and in our case.. getting right to the point. heres a face pic. heres a dick pick.. what you think. that sort of thing xD

so yeah, we aren't after mr charisma 3000. as ultimately, we want 'animated sex toys' xD but we have to know you have some form of well, humanness! :P

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Latch onto a common interest if possible. The guys that talk music or clown costumes with me usually get constant chat. Sometimes location - I'm near Cardiff so guys sometimes mention a visit and a place they liked here.

Imagine that we met at a bar and started with a hello - where would you go from there? And accept that most people you meet in a bar and say hello to you wont bother chatting for long as there's not enough interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wrote this a few hours ago for a similar thread:

There are no hard and fast rules to messaging. You have to be yourself and temper and steer them according to how you’d like to. What works for some people doesn’t for others, but genuine, personal messaging will always cut through any kind of forced statements or attempts to bullshit someone into bed. Each discourse is unique and will move at its own pace. I’ve had first message to social to play meet in under a day or several months; it isn’t a one size fit all kind of deal. Just be honest, if it doesn’t last then it’s usually because it wasn’t meant to. Good luck."

Yep. You should also consider that whoever you message will check out your profile before even thinking of opening it.

If they don't like what they see or simply don't fancy you, it really won't matter what you've written.

I get the sense that most of those who ask why they're not getting responses may perhaps be of the impression thst people of fab will shag anyone and everyone.

Remember, single men are the biggest group on here and hugely outnumber women and couples

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