FabSwingers.com forum: first meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hope some of you might help me.

Ive been on this site a while and yet to meet anyone, ive tried my best to message people and activally engaged with people but it all comes down to me not having any verifications. Could anyone suggest anything to help me

Thanks, Chris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope some of you might help me.

Thanks, Chris "

Your age will be a factor unfortunately.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Not having verifications is not the only reason you don’t have meets. In fact it’s very rarely that big a deal, otherwise none of us would get meets. If you had some ‘before’ then just contact hose people and get them to reverify you. It’s that big a deal go to a club or fab social and pick up a veri there.

You are very young. Not many 20 year olds have either the emotional maturity or experience to be genuine swingers. Most guys of your age join fab because they’re not getting any elsewhere, and that’s unlikely to endear you to women looking for younger guys. Your profile text backs that up. It’s too ‘I can be either this or this’ and would you really meet a woman or couple who’s 99 y/o? It smacks of desperation.

Sorry fella, but you’re going to find it very hard on here. Have you considered Tinder?

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Not having verifications is not the only reason you don’t have meets. In fact it’s very rarely that big a deal, otherwise none of us would get meets. If you had some ‘before’ then just contact hose people and get them to reverify you. It’s that big a deal go to a club or fab social and pick up a veri there.

Sorry fella, but you’re going to find it very hard on here. Have you considered Tinder?"

Unfortunately I have to agree with the above some single guys our age do have the maturity to be on here but it’s like finding a needle in the haystack. Also trying going to clubs or going into chat, maybe even change your approach slightly when messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say "First meet" - been on here for a while and not had any meets.

Your profile says you've been on fab before and had a few veris.

Are you lying in your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive said this on other posts and will say it again.

Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I hope some of you might help me.

Thanks, Chris "

I also joined here at a young age. Unfortunately, a lot of women are ageist - which is their right ofcourse. What I eventually did was worked out how old I really was, then made a new profile.

The difference in responses was noticeable.

Anyway, there are still many more factors other than age. You're still going to have to compete.

I started reading women's psychology books, making female friends, etc. Eventually, I come to have a better understanding of how women think. That helped me massively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, when people ask for profile advice they will read through your existing one and look for stuff that doesn’t look right.

You’re 20, you’ve just come out of a long relationship but you were on here before and managed to get some verifications.

That’s a lot to pack into a young life so far and I think people might question it. That’s not nit picking it’s just being honest with you.

The obvious thing to do is seek reverifcation from a previous meet. It will certainly show that you are genuine and willing to meet.

Good luck OP.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Look through the huge amount of posts from single men who have struggled and the advice given.

Find a social or someone friendly like me who will meet for a social to verify you as genuine. I'm normally north west.

Use the best advice to help you to refine your approach, profile etc. Check your expectations too. Good luck!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" Could anyone suggest anything to help me

I suggest you take the last line off your profile about having been here a long time and not getting any attention. It makes you sound like a toddler having a tantrum.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

" Could anyone suggest anything to help me

I suggest you take the last line off your profile about having been here a long time and not getting any attention. It makes you sound like a toddler having a tantrum. "

Yes I was going to say that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A while

You've been here 9 weeks OP.

That's nothing.

Most single guys wait between 6 months to a year before getting their first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A while

You've been here 9 weeks OP.

That's nothing.

Most single guys wait between 6 months to a year before getting their first meet. "
loool like me ahah

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

I’ve been here 5 years plus and can count the amount of meets I’ve had from here on 1 hand.

I’ve had a lot more luck on other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am having same trouble I left and came back and got somebody from my old account to veri me again but it's my age

I am 47 and yet it's to old for most on here nobody seems to bother once over 45 I was here a year and only got one meet so I left but now back and seems to be the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive said this on other posts and will say it again.

I totally agree with this. It's not your age it's how you conduct yourself and how you communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read your profile.

Enough comments have said alit really.

I know at 20 I was out with my friends social evenings parties I certainly wouldn't be on here.

Still now I out the immature 40's Yr olds.

Women are fussy as about 100 men to 1 lady.

Good luck.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Unfortunately, a lot of women are ageist - which is their right ofcourse. "

Devil here. I am one of those horrible 'ageist' women who would not meet anyone younger than 35. I do not want to be someone's experiment, and in the past I learned that younger men may have all the talk, but don't have the walk. And I am selfish, I want an orgasm (or 10! Lol).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm anyone local for a meet?

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Erm anyone local for a meet?"

Wrong section? Also, hijacking other people's threads is not appreciated here, start your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was only joking calm down dear its only a commercial.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"Yes I am having same trouble.... I am 47 and yet it's to old for most on here nobody seems to bother once over 45 "

I hate to contradict you, but that’s just not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol next you will he calling me a terrorist for hijacking threads hahahahahaha lighten up its a sunday ffs.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's usually something more than a lack of veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blaming on lack of verifications is just an excuse and rarely the truth. People don't meet people;e because some stranger has commented on someone people are often put off by other things in truth maybe you should evaluate what you say to people as thats far more likley to be the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Could anyone suggest anything to help me

I suggest you take the last line off your profile about having been here a long time and not getting any attention. It makes you sound like a toddler having a tantrum. "

Could you check mine too? Does mine sound desperate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wanna Thank everyone for replying to my question and giving some very helpful advice.

Just to clarify, I had an account a while ago and met a couple of people, and had to delete it due to commitments. now I have a new account and the people that I met before either, hasn't replied about verifying me again or they are no longer on the site.

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By *ricksydemonMan
over a year ago

llandudno

Try a social meet in a club maybe be yourself and relax you hopefully can get a veri that way then you're up and running. Relax and dont stress too much

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