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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha "

You do exactly the same, you find someone willing to give you the experience/opportunity.

Or you find a way to get it yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha "
a great example but just approach those that dont require veris they far outweigh in numbers those that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been new at some point. Get yourself to a club or a social and get a veri that way

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha a great example but just approach those that dont require veris they far outweigh in numbers those that do "
I’ve actually had girls say to me it my problem haha

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"We have all been new at some point. Get yourself to a club or a social and get a veri that way "
I’ve been to club twice on my own and no luck

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"We have all been new at some point. Get yourself to a club or a social and get a veri that way

I’ve been to club twice on my own and no luck "

It's not luck. Notwithstanding that, ask the club management if they would verify you.

Sorted.

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha "

if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your first mistake is looking for someone to blame.

Try being more positive and take a pro-active approach.

A careers adviser would recommend that you tailor your CV to the type of job you're looking for, capitalising on your strengths and skills and you should think of your profile in much the same way.

Your profile is your shop window.

Most will look at your profile before even thinking about opening any message you might have sent them and you only get one chance to make a first impression.

If, on the other hand, you're waiting for others to find you, you're going to be in for a very long wait.

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

You can get verified on webcam on the forum, you can have a social.

You are one of tens of thousands of men on here, if you aren't going to make an effort why should women choose you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them..."
I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"You can get verified on webcam on the forum, you can have a social.

You are one of tens of thousands of men on here, if you aren't going to make an effort why should women choose you? "
I don’t think your following what I’m saying girls won’t go on a social unless you have a certain amount of verification

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It's not anyone's "fault." It's a choice.

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet "
well some one is in the wrong either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can get verified on webcam on the forum, you can have a social.

You are one of tens of thousands of men on here, if you aren't going to make an effort why should women choose you? I don’t think your following what I’m saying girls won’t go on a social unless you have a certain amount of verification "

Just accept that they don't want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone "

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet well some one is in the wrong either way "

Careful now

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

The amount of times I’ve had girls say to me I’m not interested your fake because you’ve only got 1 verification is beyond a joke haha

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone "

they only want to meet verified men, you're not verified, therefore they don't want to meet you...their reasons are theirs and theirs alone and are perfectly valid no matter how much you disagree with them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of times I’ve had girls say to me I’m not interested your fake because you’ve only got 1 verification is beyond a joke haha "

You're making things up now, shhhh

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

"
haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"The amount of times I’ve had girls say to me I’m not interested your fake because you’ve only got 1 verification is beyond a joke haha

You're making things up now, shhhh"
haha wish I was

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"The amount of times I’ve had girls say to me I’m not interested your fake because you’ve only got 1 verification is beyond a joke haha "

I'm confused now...so you do have a verification?

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"The amount of times I’ve had girls say to me I’m not interested your fake because you’ve only got 1 verification is beyond a joke haha

I'm confused now...so you do have a verification? "
yes but I’ve been on here for 1year and only verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha "

Because maybe they think that 'you can't handle the truth'

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By *ndiscloseddesiresWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham


" haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha "

Because quite often on here if women say they are not interested they get replies telling them what a slut they are, how ugly they are or how the original messenger wasn't interested anyway (even though they initiated contact. ) It is by far safer for women to ignore messages or reply with a subtle let down than tell exactly what they think. I used to be honest, I learnt very quickly it is by far easier to ignore messages you are not interested in.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't think anyone is to blame ,

Maybe some people have had bad experiences with unverified people so choose not to meet them

It can be hard for single men to get meets and become verified,but don't give up .Like others suggested try a social ,good way to meet others.

You could go on cam and ask someone to verify you too.

I haven't looked at your profile,but make sure you fill it in well and when messaging read profiles and send personal messages where you can.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nobody is in the wrong, you both have a different set of requirements, that's all. I wouldn't dwell on the people that don't want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe some people have had bad experiences with unverified people so choose not to meet them"

An excellent point.

I used to be of the view that everyone starts off as unverified and we all need to start somewhere, and so I used to be quite open to meeting people regardless of whether they had been verified or not.

Guess the percentage of no-shows I've had from unverified users.

Yep. 100%

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha

Because maybe they think that 'you can't handle the truth'"
who are they to assume though haha

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I don't think anyone is to blame ,

Maybe some people have had bad experiences with unverified people so choose not to meet them

It can be hard for single men to get meets and become verified,but don't give up .Like others suggested try a social ,good way to meet others.

You could go on cam and ask someone to verify you too.

I haven't looked at your profile,but make sure you fill it in well and when messaging read profiles and send personal messages where you can.

"
that’s what I’m trying to say girls don’t want a social because I’ve only had one verification since last year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women don't owe you a chance and they don't owe you a meet.

As others have said, there will be plenty that don't require someone to be verified. Just accept their decision and move on, nobody is to blame.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet well some one is in the wrong either way "

Effort in means rewards out. You need to do this and not expect others to do it for you. People are here to fulfil their own desires and needs, not yours. It's not the women who are in the wrong for having preferences. You've been given lots of good advice on this thread, you need to act on it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Maybe some people have had bad experiences with unverified people so choose not to meet them

An excellent point.

I used to be of the view that everyone starts off as unverified and we all need to start somewhere, and so I used to be quite open to meeting people regardless of whether they had been verified or not.

Guess the percentage of no-shows I've had from unverified users.

Yep. 100%"

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha

Because maybe they think that 'you can't handle the truth' who are they to assume though haha "

They can assume whatever they want.

Who are you to question their choices?

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet well some one is in the wrong either way

Effort in means rewards out. You need to do this and not expect others to do it for you. People are here to fulfil their own desires and needs, not yours. It's not the women who are in the wrong for having preferences. You've been given lots of good advice on this thread, you need to act on it. "
so I’m in the wrong In a way I think I know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know its a girl :o

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they just don’t fancy you and it’s the kinder to say that.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha "

It's nobody's "fault".

Would you fuck every single woman that sent you a FaF message and a minge pic?

Of course you wouldn't, you wouldn't be attracted to many of them.

Guess what, and this is "hold the front page news" stuff, women feel exactly the same.

You're not what they're looking for.

The end.

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"if you're not what they're looking for, why do they have to give anyone a chance? they're here to fulfil their own desires, not perform a public service...it's nobodies fault, you're just not for them... I know that I’m on about girls that only want to meet verified men even if they like them they still won’t meet just because of that reason alone

I think you'll find that in actuality, this is more likely to be a convenient excuse and their way of 'letting you down gently'

haha well why don’t they tell the truth haha

Because maybe they think that 'you can't handle the truth' who are they to assume though haha

They can assume whatever they want.

Who are you to question their choices? "
can they presume

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

It's nobody's "fault".

Would you fuck every single woman that sent you a FaF message and a minge pic?

Of course you wouldn't, you wouldn't be attracted to many of them.

Guess what, and this is "hold the front page news" stuff, women feel exactly the same.

You're not what they're looking for.

The end. "
wow the micro aggression haha

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Apportioning blame will decrease your already slim chances of getting your dick wet well some one is in the wrong either way "

Err... why is anyone in the wrong? It's an optional activity, and if it doesn't work out you can do something else.

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

Is there anyone who won’t meet someone because they don’t have any verifications or not many verifications

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha

It's nobody's "fault".

Would you fuck every single woman that sent you a FaF message and a minge pic?

Of course you wouldn't, you wouldn't be attracted to many of them.

Guess what, and this is "hold the front page news" stuff, women feel exactly the same.

You're not what they're looking for.

The end.

wow the micro aggression haha "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha "

There’s no blame. It’s circumstance and choice.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Is there anyone who won’t meet someone because they don’t have any verifications or not many verifications "

You've been given advice about how to do this re socials clubs etc. Lose the entitlement and start putting in some effort. I'm out, before I say something untoward.

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"Is there anyone who won’t meet someone because they don’t have any verifications or not many verifications

You've been given advice about how to do this re socials clubs etc. Lose the entitlement and start putting in some effort. I'm out, before I say something untoward. "
why would you say something untoward’s it’s just a debate haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i like someone enough and want to meet them. Veris dont ever come into it!

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Omg am I actually reading this? “Someone is in the wrong” haha wtf! There is no right or wrong in this situation. It’s all personal choice. You just need to accept it.

From a personal point of view i would likely be questioning why in a year do you only have 1 veri. To me that rings alarm bells of fab being wank fodder. I’d take more of a chance with someone who is brand new and no veri’s than someone who’s been active a year but only had 1 veri

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"If i like someone enough and want to meet them. Veris dont ever come into it!"

This exactly. I had a number of meets before my first veri. Why aren’t you displaying your only verification? That’s far more suspect than not having any.

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By *hillboy OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"Omg am I actually reading this? “Someone is in the wrong” haha wtf! There is no right or wrong in this situation. It’s all personal choice. You just need to accept it.

From a personal point of view i would likely be questioning why in a year do you only have 1 veri. To me that rings alarm bells of fab being wank fodder. I’d take more of a chance with someone who is brand new and no veri’s than someone who’s been active a year but only had 1 veri "
you have just made my point exactly haha I’ve had one verification in a hole year because of that point haha

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Omg am I actually reading this? “Someone is in the wrong” haha wtf! There is no right or wrong in this situation. It’s all personal choice. You just need to accept it.

From a personal point of view i would likely be questioning why in a year do you only have 1 veri. To me that rings alarm bells of fab being wank fodder. I’d take more of a chance with someone who is brand new and no veri’s than someone who’s been active a year but only had 1 veri you have just made my point exactly haha I’ve had one verification in a hole year because of that point haha "

I hate to tell you this, but that’s not why you’ve only got one veri. Otherwise nine of us would have any.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

You know when someone asks a question, and 75 people give them exactly the same answer, and yet the 75 are all wrong?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You know when someone asks a question, and 75 people give them exactly the same answer, and yet the 75 are all wrong?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I'd say, 'no verifications, no meet' because I don't want to meet but don't want to be too harsh

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Jesus, it's not a woman's "fault" for choosing to not talk to someone for any reason at all. What an Awful choice of language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having looked at your profile, I'd suggest that your lack of verifications is the least likely reason why you're struggling, but as you haven't specifically asked for profile advice, I'm not permitted to provide any

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Is there anyone who won’t meet someone because they don’t have any verifications or not many verifications "

If you messaged me I wouldn't meet you but not because you had no veris.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Have you put your correct age on your profile OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i like someone enough and want to meet them. Veris dont ever come into it!

This exactly. I had a number of meets before my first veri. Why aren’t you displaying your only verification? That’s far more suspect than not having any. "

Exactly the fact that 1 verification comment is hidden would put us off more than if there was no verifications aswell.

KJ x

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Have you put your correct age on your profile OP?"

That made me do a little wee...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you get in a cage with a bear but you don’t know what type? Or get in a cage with a koala. This is why women don’t rush in to meets. Get to socials and be social.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Anyone else blocked by the OP?

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

Yep ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

Yeah us as well.

KJ

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

People having no verifications was not a problem for me. Until time and time again I'd verify them which they asked for and they didn't return with a verification and they hide the fact they've met me even if it was socially.

They never spoke to me after that.

Being used to get a verification isn't nice. Just like being used to get into a club, now I won't entertain anyone's new or not so new chance to experience a club.

So I won't verify until they verify me

Which means without verification the person can't verify I'd rather save myself my dignity by not meeting someone who potentially wants a step up and has no interest in me.

I won't do webcam verifications since in person they may not be who they make themselves out to be on webcam.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

I think he has just hidden his profile rather than blocked individuals on the thread

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

Yeah us as well.

KJ "

He's probably had his account suspended

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

Yeah us as well.

KJ

He's probably had his account suspended"

Or just hates everyone and block list is a mile long

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

I think he has just hidden his profile rather than blocked individuals on the thread"

No. If it was hidden it would say hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

Yep, me too.

Oh well, some people clearly don't want to be helped.


"People having no verifications was not a problem for me. Until time and time again I'd verify them which they asked for and they didn't return with a verification and they hide the fact they've met me even if it was socially.

They never spoke to me after that.

Being used to get a verification isn't nice. Just like being used to get into a club, now I won't entertain anyone's new or not so new chance to experience a club.

So I won't verify until they verify me

Which means without verification the person can't verify I'd rather save myself my dignity by not meeting someone who potentially wants a step up and has no interest in me.

I won't do webcam verifications since in person they may not be who they make themselves out to be on webcam."

Completely agree.

On my previous profile (I had a bit of a wobble about a year and a half ago and deleted my account - only to return about a week later) I'd find that after a meet, I'd leave a veri for someone only to find that they wouldn't return the favour.

Even after a polite request - and, even worse, after saying that they would.

I began wondering if there were a lot of people that didn't like leaving veris or if it was just that they didn't like doing them for single males.

In fact, I once met a couple who very rarely met single men and they soecifically asked me NOT to leave them one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

I think he has just hidden his profile rather than blocked individuals on the thread"

In that case if would be displayed as such, rather than the 'blocked' message.

I wonder if he's had his account suspended for some reason if we all appear to have been blocked.

maybe he's upset someone

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

You cannot blame people for not wanting to sleep with you. It is their choice, and they are not at fault.

At the start of the thread you said people were at fault for not sleeping with you because you didn't have a verification. Then it turns out you do have a verification, but you still want to blame people for not sleeping with you because you've only got one.

We only meet with single guys, and the people we meet with will generally have no verifications, or perhaps one. So it would seem more likely to us that if so many people are turning you down for the same reason then it is probably an excuse, and they don't want a vindictive debate as often happens when you say no. Whatever their reason is, it's their choice and there is nothing you can do about it. However if you are being turned down by a range of people then the only common factor is you, so perhaps you would be better of working out what it is about you that is turning people away.

Many women will do a little homework when they become interested in someone. They will look at the profile, the veri's, the pics, even the status because it helps to get a good understanding of who they are thinking of meeting. They might also look at how the person interacts elsewhere on the site, for example what threads they have written on the forum, and their attitude when given friendly advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

I think he has just hidden his profile rather than blocked individuals on the thread

No. If it was hidden it would say hidden "

Anyone else clicked on the green arrow?

Enlightening

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

I think he has just hidden his profile rather than blocked individuals on the thread

No. If it was hidden it would say hidden

Anyone else clicked on the green arrow?

Enlightening "

Oh....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

The feeling is reciprocal

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve thought about this for awhile now and I thought I would mention it on here. When a girls says I don’t want to meet because you haven’t get a verification or if she just blanks you because you haven’t got one then who’s fault is it is it the man or is it the girls for not giving that man a chance it all boils down to the question you used to ask yourself when you left school and was looking for a job and they would say to you you haven’t got any experience and you would say to yourself how am I meant to get experience if your not willing to take me on haha a great example but just approach those that dont require veris they far outweigh in numbers those that do I’ve actually had girls say to me it my problem haha "

I seriously hope there are no ‘girls’ on here

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Has he blocked anyone who commented on this thread?!

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

blocked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he blocked anyone who commented on this thread?! "

I haven’t ever seen him before and I’m blocked, so I presume he is suspended

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

Yep, me too.

Oh well, some people clearly don't want to be helped.

People having no verifications was not a problem for me. Until time and time again I'd verify them which they asked for and they didn't return with a verification and they hide the fact they've met me even if it was socially.

They never spoke to me after that.

Being used to get a verification isn't nice. Just like being used to get into a club, now I won't entertain anyone's new or not so new chance to experience a club.

So I won't verify until they verify me

Which means without verification the person can't verify I'd rather save myself my dignity by not meeting someone who potentially wants a step up and has no interest in me.

I won't do webcam verifications since in person they may not be who they make themselves out to be on webcam.

Completely agree.

On my previous profile (I had a bit of a wobble about a year and a half ago and deleted my account - only to return about a week later) I'd find that after a meet, I'd leave a veri for someone only to find that they wouldn't return the favour.

Even after a polite request - and, even worse, after saying that they would.

I began wondering if there were a lot of people that didn't like leaving veris or if it was just that they didn't like doing them for single males.

In fact, I once met a couple who very rarely met single men and they soecifically asked me NOT to leave them one."

Maybe they say they rarely met single men and have asked all of the ones they met not to leave one, that way they don't look like they have many meets.

Verifications on here have pros and cons. My old account (which I deleted and had 4 month break) I had 117 verifications varying from webcam, social meets i.e. clubs and 1 to 1 socials, sex meets and repeated meets with playmates when we'd gone to an event at a club we would verify that.

I got told I was a high hitter. But they never bothered to read my verifications people just assumed I'd had sex with everyone on the list.

Then the "hidden" ones basically ones that they've left fab and disappear or I've blocked them and vice versa.

People take verifications one way or another they make their own assumptions and have opinions.

I know quite a few women on here happy to call women sluts for all the verifications which is ridiculous because it's a swingers site for sexually liberated people. But these women hide theirs and knowing that many have had sex with her because what these women can't control is the other person displaying their verifications left unless they actually block them.

There are a lot of high and mighty up their own arse people on here male and female. Men do just as much as the women, and say things like if a woman has lots of verifications they wouldn't meet them but they have sex with more women they make new accounts or just never verify. So verifications are good and bad and it only shows you a potentially good outcome meeting someone. They may have glowing verifications from beautiful women but their behaviour is completely different when you're not to that standard of appearance as if you're worth less than them you don't deserve respect. I've been told I didn't deserve respect and the reason guys treated me so badly was because of all my verifications to them I was a worthless slut and was meant to spread my legs for everyone because my verifications gave that impression in their opinion even though reading them would have proved differently. That's why I quit fab. That's my experience anyway and. So without getting to know someone properly in all likelihood these days il put off meeting whether verified or not.

Verifications prove nothing except they have been known to turn up to a meet, they are known to give pleasure and they are known to behave, known they play bare by terms of "filled her/him up" "pussy/ass dripping with cum" "pumped a load in" etc nothing definitive about them just that it's been known to happen on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a bit weird commenting on this sort of thing because what the hell do I know. I understand the feeling of frustration when you think you're in the right and other people are making your life difficult out of stupidity. In my own personal experience I'd say that this was often due to my own arrogance and also ignorance but assuming that there are times when it was the other persons fault, I still think it is important to allow people to make their own mistakes and learn from then. If I'm angry at someone else's shortsightedness then there is usually a hidden underlying selfish motive of mine.

An example would be where a woman complains that she can't meet any decent guys, then I see on her profile that she has a long list of superficial demands. On the surface I'm thinking it's her own fault for going after the wrong type of guy, if only she'd listen to my advice, but the real motive is that I'm jealous she doesn't have any interest in guys like me.

There's a reason we say all is fair in love and war, they both cut through the self-deceptive crap we tell ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

Yep haha

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?

Yep, me too.

Oh well, some people clearly don't want to be helped.

People having no verifications was not a problem for me. Until time and time again I'd verify them which they asked for and they didn't return with a verification and they hide the fact they've met me even if it was socially.

They never spoke to me after that.

Being used to get a verification isn't nice. Just like being used to get into a club, now I won't entertain anyone's new or not so new chance to experience a club.

So I won't verify until they verify me

Which means without verification the person can't verify I'd rather save myself my dignity by not meeting someone who potentially wants a step up and has no interest in me.

I won't do webcam verifications since in person they may not be who they make themselves out to be on webcam.

Completely agree.

On my previous profile (I had a bit of a wobble about a year and a half ago and deleted my account - only to return about a week later) I'd find that after a meet, I'd leave a veri for someone only to find that they wouldn't return the favour.

Even after a polite request - and, even worse, after saying that they would.

I began wondering if there were a lot of people that didn't like leaving veris or if it was just that they didn't like doing them for single males.

In fact, I once met a couple who very rarely met single men and they soecifically asked me NOT to leave them one.

Maybe they say they rarely met single men and have asked all of the ones they met not to leave one, that way they don't look like they have many meets.

Verifications on here have pros and cons. My old account (which I deleted and had 4 month break) I had 117 verifications varying from webcam, social meets i.e. clubs and 1 to 1 socials, sex meets and repeated meets with playmates when we'd gone to an event at a club we would verify that.

I got told I was a high hitter. But they never bothered to read my verifications people just assumed I'd had sex with everyone on the list.

Then the "hidden" ones basically ones that they've left fab and disappear or I've blocked them and vice versa.

People take verifications one way or another they make their own assumptions and have opinions.

I know quite a few women on here happy to call women sluts for all the verifications which is ridiculous because it's a swingers site for sexually liberated people. But these women hide theirs and knowing that many have had sex with her because what these women can't control is the other person displaying their verifications left unless they actually block them.

There are a lot of high and mighty up their own arse people on here male and female. Men do just as much as the women, and say things like if a woman has lots of verifications they wouldn't meet them but they have sex with more women they make new accounts or just never verify. So verifications are good and bad and it only shows you a potentially good outcome meeting someone. They may have glowing verifications from beautiful women but their behaviour is completely different when you're not to that standard of appearance as if you're worth less than them you don't deserve respect. I've been told I didn't deserve respect and the reason guys treated me so badly was because of all my verifications to them I was a worthless slut and was meant to spread my legs for everyone because my verifications gave that impression in their opinion even though reading them would have proved differently. That's why I quit fab. That's my experience anyway and. So without getting to know someone properly in all likelihood these days il put off meeting whether verified or not.

Verifications prove nothing except they have been known to turn up to a meet, they are known to give pleasure and they are known to behave, known they play bare by terms of "filled her/him up" "pussy/ass dripping with cum" "pumped a load in" etc nothing definitive about them just that it's been known to happen on occasion."

Well that’s cleared that up then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe his interest in serial killers is scaring them off. ( good old green arrow)

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Anyone else blocked by the OP?"

I can neither confirm nor den....... ahhh feck it.

Yep.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think ultimately the only person you can change is yourself. If your approach isn't working, alter it.

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