FabSwingers.com forum: Fakes or are we too suspicous

By *milyandoliver OP Couple
over a year ago

North East

Seem to come accross a lot of fakes or profiles after a few messages make us think they are a bit strange/fake.

What measures do people take when in contact with new people?

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

Yes there's a few males pretending to be single girls on here and pretend to a couple as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely come across a fair few fake profiles.

I won't exchange messages with any profile that is verified as female.

I've just posted a question which may be relevant here...

Maybe a daft question, and not very exciting, I know, but does anyone have a plausible explanation for why someone might use a screen print as a profile pic? Am I missing something?

I don't want to accuse anyone of being a fake if there's an obvious reason that's eluded me...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What are people defining as fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be interested know how many fakes there are here. Saying that I got called fake the other day as I'm looking for a woman to meet my husband, But we clearly have multiple verifications of both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I definitely come across a fair few fake profiles.

I won't exchange messages with any profile that is verified as female.

I've just posted a question which may be relevant here...

Maybe a daft question, and not very exciting, I know, but does anyone have a plausible explanation for why someone might use a screen print as a profile pic? Am I missing something?

I don't want to accuse anyone of being a fake if there's an obvious reason that's eluded me..."

So if someone is verified as female you wont message them. Seems a bit odd. That's saying all verified single females are likely to be fake in your opinion.

So on that basis what do you use as measures to decide a profiles validity if verification isnt sufficient for you

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By *ouisa42Woman
over a year ago

Nr Ely

As a single female (as rare as unicorn poop yea I know?!?) who has been verified (not by 1000's cause I don't wanna fuck the world in two months) I regularly get called fake. Its very annoying that by being choosy you get lumped into the fake category!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female (as rare as unicorn poop yea I know?!?) who has been verified (not by 1000's cause I don't wanna fuck the world in two months) I regularly get called fake. Its very annoying that by being choosy you get lumped into the fake category!!!"

I've been threatened with being reported on more than one occasion when I've decided a guy isnt for

me after chatting a while

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By *avartMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think it's common sense as always.

Is there any excuse in this day and age not to have recent sharp photos that are not screen grabs?

I've seen profiles with old or blurry pics. Why?

I've also seen profiles where it's a female for example appears to have different sized breasts in different photos.

Seeing photos over a period of time that are clearly the same person is reassuring.

I also look for pics where people are smiling - clean teeth etc and also things like clean nails and the house not looking like a shit tip in the background.

Basically, go with your gut. Ask questions. If people get squirrelly, ask yourself why.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I think it's common sense as always.

Is there any excuse in this day and age not to have recent sharp photos that are not screen grabs?

I've seen profiles with old or blurry pics. Why?

I've also seen profiles where it's a female for example appears to have different sized breasts in different photos.

Seeing photos over a period of time that are clearly the same person is reassuring.

I also look for pics where people are smiling - clean teeth etc and also things like clean nails and the house not looking like a shit tip in the background.

Basically, go with your gut. Ask questions. If people get squirrelly, ask yourself why."

You know tits can change size? Losing/gaining weight, hormones, pregnancy, illness etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it compulsory to be photo verified

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I never trust pics I see on here as pics can be easily taken from anywhere and I never easily share pics either.

For me the following tell tale signs have worked:

1) wanting a face pic when she or they haven't got 1 themselves.

2) not willing to video chat at all.

3) send u a fake pic (obviously fake to you)

4) claim to be new yet aren't.

5) been on site for over a year and no veris.

How do i overcome the above?

My solution is chat but never send or ask for a pic. Instead I always ask for a video chat. It can't be manipulated or photoshopped. Most pics are best angle or whatever and I rather see the real deal early on.

If I get a no to video chat from them then their loss not mine.

As you can see from my verifications I have been here over 6 years but not too many veris altogether as I'm both careful and of course choosy/picky. Oh and now I travel globally which reduces play time too lol

Hope that helps.

Oh and feel free to read my fun & crazy profile. It's another way I out fakes and time wasters. If a female or couple haven't the decency time or courtesy to read about me why would I allow them or her to enjoy me? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get couples that message first, we reply and they never message back

we have our suspicions these are fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replying to one of previous poster: call me fake, but I would not video chat, or give away my phone number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send pics or do wank chat, that seems to work quite well

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think fake is a label that people use for others when they discover they can't have what they want or feel entitled to have with that particular person. I often get called fake when they haven't read my profile. People use the site for their own needs, just because they don't match yours it doesn't make them fake. They are just using the site how it suits them at that particular time. Having said that I agree that some have fake pics, ie pics not of themselves, best thing to do about that is report them to admin.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

When u get pissed about, let down, stood up and strung along. U do become very sceptical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, my mistake.

I meant to say that that I won't message unless verified! Oops

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, my mistake.

I meant to say that that I won't message unless verified! Oops "

Fair enough when I looked back I figured it may be that

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

Doesn't make them fake. Neither does not doing video chat or phone calls.

As said above, just because someone doesn't use the site the same way you do, that doesn't make them fake.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

Doesn't make them fake. Neither does not doing video chat or phone calls.

As said above, just because someone doesn't use the site the same way you do, that doesn't make them fake. "

But in the instance I gave, why would you? Explain why someone would load a public face pic that once it’s on the net it’s on forever no matter what you think but then won’t write their user name on a piece of paper take pretty much the same pic (which doesn’t go public) to get photo verified.

There is no logic, so for us there must be another reason, ie they can’t do that pic because they are not their photos.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you go to clubs you know that the couples you meet there are real.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

We only meet recently verified x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accept someone as real if I have seen them live and interacting on webcam, I don’t rely on green flags or veris. It is the best way to root out fakes.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I only accept someone as real if I have seen them live and interacting on webcam, I don’t rely on green flags or veris. It is the best way to root out fakes."

Just because someone doesn't want to switch on a webcam it doesn't make them fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only accept someone as real if I have seen them live and interacting on webcam, I don’t rely on green flags or veris. It is the best way to root out fakes."

I never go on webcam mostly because I dont have one. I clearly dont exist and am fake. Thank you for letting me know

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By *milyandoliver OP Couple
over a year ago

North East

People/person claiming to be one thing but actually another. Or profiles created by bots.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We don’t cam or use the chat rooms, never have, never will.

What we do is Kik video call, still no numbers given out so still secure etc.

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By *milyandoliver OP Couple
over a year ago

North East

Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? Just on fab with a few pics then head to a public meet or do you just use clubs to meet?

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We read profiles and verifications and sometimes have a chat with people to see they are genuine as we have Been caught out in the past, but most of our meets are at club now, to get rid of fakes who haven't got the balls to turn up, haven't tried looking to meet single women on here as we can't accom and finding one who can. Is needle in haystack, to many people spoil it for others

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

"We don’t cam or use the chat rooms, never have, never will.

What we do is Kik video call, still no numbers given out so still secure etc.

You can no longer video call on kik

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"We don’t cam or use the chat rooms, never have, never will.

What we do is Kik video call, still no numbers given out so still secure etc.

You can no longer video call on kik "

Oh poo, presume that happened when it was sold? Last time we did use it was about six months ago..

The other thing you can do is have a Fab sim or phone. Not using it atm. Turn it off, no random messages from the past..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? Just on fab with a few pics then head to a public meet or do you just use clubs to meet?"

Personally we chat on here then move to kik with our separate accounts and create a group chat so people can see who says what. Then organize a social meet first

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? "

I arrange to meet through messages on Fab. Giving a phone number means they are invited to be my friend on Facebook and can see my surname. I only give my number to people after I have met them a couple of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet?

I too never give my number. It's not info they need to arrange a meet. Manage just fine messaging through here

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

This old chestnut.

I'm always surprised at how many folk seem to find 'fake' profiles. If you do. Report, delete block move on.

If its happening a lot change something.. what works for me gut instinct, too good to be true likely is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This old chestnut.

I'm always surprised at how many folk seem to find 'fake' profiles. If you do. Report, delete block move on.

If its happening a lot change something.. what works for me gut instinct, too good to be true likely is.

I agree, or meet only in clubs. Be safe out there people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only ever exchange a few messages and and if we're interested we will ask for a social very quickly. That s out most fake or uninterested couples profiles or profiles where just one half is messaging without checking with the other half.

Our opinion is that if people can't work out if they might be interested after a few messages it's unlikely that it will work out in person so we just move on. We won't take any messaging off site until we've met people in person with the exception of confirming a meet via a phone or video call that we are both real people.

For single male profiles we now just tell them to meet us at a club (unless they have really good recent verifications), as we find that with 99.9% of contacts we'd exchange a few messages and then when we suggested meeting then they would start making excuses that they were busy or they want to "just chat" instead or some other poor excuse.

Out of hundreds of messages where we have told guys which club to meet us at we think we have had exactly 1 guy actually make the effort to turn up (who is now a regular for fun). The rest have always made excuses or not turned up.

We did make an effort to meet a single new and local unverified guy last night for a social, nothing was "wrong" with his profile but unsurprisingly he stood us up and blocked us at the last minute but he is no longer on the site, we kind of expected this would happen but were going out anyway so it wasn't a great loss.

In all honesty if it seems off or too good to be true then it probably is, don't get bothered by it and don't get drawn into long conversations that go nowhere, just drop them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? Just on fab with a few pics then head to a public meet or do you just use clubs to meet?"

I'm guessing that question may have been for me. I did use to give away my phone number, but then got across a few twats. That made me very quickly learn not to give my number away and to learn how to block numbers. I prefer to keep all my conversations on here, including arranging meets. Or there are apps (like KIK or Telegram) that allow me to contact people without the need of a phone number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're known as bitter pricks hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

Doesn't make them fake. Neither does not doing video chat or phone calls.

As said above, just because someone doesn't use the site the same way you do, that doesn't make them fake.

There is no logic, so for us there must be another reason, ie they can’t do that pic because they are not their photos.

I have had my face visible and never photo verified... I just didn't think about it n waited until I could get verified from meeting someone... I also won't talk on the phone or cam... Maybe I am a massive fake?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? Just on fab with a few pics then head to a public meet or do you just use clubs to meet?"

You can send any pics, from your phone, via your fab, so ya know... I only communicate on here or kik, with the majority if Fabbers I know

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

Doesn't make them fake. Neither does not doing video chat or phone calls.

As said above, just because someone doesn't use the site the same way you do, that doesn't make them fake.

There is no logic, so for us there must be another reason, ie they can’t do that pic because they are not their photos.

I think really the OP is aiming at those not verified at all though, but could be wrong. We did the same but went to the local club after a while (Newbie nerves) & got verified by them & a few regulars we chatted to.

If you want something you make the effort, if all you are doing is being fake/pic collecting/leading people to nowheresville or are just not quiet what you seem on here then you won't.

It's all quite simple really.

Lets be honest a single unverified female profile won't stay unverified for long if they are genuine & want to meet, a single guy or couple could sit on here a year or more easily unverified if all they do is message via here. Especially if they only want to meet said single females.

It's just maths & numbers at the end of the day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never trust pics I see on here as pics can be easily taken from anywhere and I never easily share pics either.

For me the following tell tale signs have worked:

1) wanting a face pic when she or they haven't got 1 themselves.

2) not willing to video chat at all.

3) send u a fake pic (obviously fake to you)

4) claim to be new yet aren't.

5) been on site for over a year and no veris.

How do i overcome the above?

If I get a no to video chat from them then their loss not mine.

Hope that helps.

It seems a bit unfair to say if we refuse a video chat then we are fake. I do not do phone verifications or video chats as I have a young family so do not want them in the background. No hiding in the bedroom either as my kids find that kind of thing their challenge to pester mommy

Hahaha

I rely on my verifications as the way to show we are a genuine real couple. We've been called fake due to my partner answering most of the messages a few weeks ago while I was poorly/busy. It's very awkward to prove you are genuine on here.

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

We have had men pretending to be a couple.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We only chat and meet at clubs.

We had to many let downs.

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By *milyandoliver OP Couple
over a year ago

North East

So whats your first step to actually meeting then? Arrange a meet directky on here or using kik and presumably meet in a public place or club?

We just dont like wasting too much time chatting etc then for people to disapear. A few messages, exchange numbers then social meet. We have met a few genuine this way. We always give our numbers out first as well.

Its when people are so vague then you ask for a tiny bit of comitment ie whatsapp, kik, video or call to female/female vari or social meet and they get all wierd or simply disapear makes you wonder what they are really wanting. Maybe they are shy.

At least weve never had a no show that would really annoy me as our nights out a few and fare between.

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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Meetings are Realy gauged by and down to your own judgement and rules (stick to them don't be swayed by others) we have meet with people either at hotels, neautral ground a nice pub or wine bar. Even our own or their own home. That latter option obviously depends on how you feel there must be a connection.

But always remember we are supposed to be grown up adults and if no spark not a problem We don't understand why some people get hung up over the word NO we use it frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, it would be really helpful if you used "reply+quote" option as then we'd know who you are asking.

How I personally arrange meets (even though I am not meeting at present): I use Fab for all the communication I need, as you can send direct photos (if needed, though I tend to say I have no photos other than what's showing on my account) and in my opinion the site is good enough. I may use Kik/telegram but not keen as found plenty of pics collectors on Kik with no intention of meeting.

When I was meeting, 99% of my first meets were happening in a public place, with a possibility of taking it further on the day. Nowadays I prefer meeting people in clubs, by chance, when I'm there with either my partner or my FWB. As I'm already planning to be there, have already someone with me, so if the person I was chatting with doesn't turn up at the club, I wouldn't be at a loose end.

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

The explosion of digital technology has rendered virtually everyone with the ability to pretend to be anyone or anything.

Fab is saturated with people who have different expectations than the majority, of what constitutes 'real' or 'decent' or 'fair'. In fact Fab is just saturated with people.

It was way less problematic from 2007-2010 as most people had to use a laptop/tower to access the site, rather than being able to cut and run on their phone!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Biggest and easiest is face pics on a profile but not photo verified.

So you won’t get photoverified because of not wanting your face all over the net but will use it on your profile???

Hmmm okay

Doesn't make them fake. Neither does not doing video chat or phone calls.

As said above, just because someone doesn't use the site the same way you do, that doesn't make them fake.

There is no logic, so for us there must be another reason, ie they can’t do that pic because they are not their photos.

I've got another reason, I don't want to get photo verified, I'm well meet verified so I'm clearly who I say I am. If you think not being photo verified makes me fake, so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be very wary, over half the profiles on fab are fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be very wary, over half the profiles on fab are fake."

Not convinced it's over half unless fake includes those whove dared to turn people down or ignore messages

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

If women do not want to rush to me, remove their clothing and have meaningless wonderful mutual sexual satisfaction then they must be fake!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Be very wary, over half the profiles on fab are fake."

That's completely untrue.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Seem to come accross a lot of fakes or profiles after a few messages make us think they are a bit strange/fake.

What measures do people take when in contact with new people?

Thanks

If it does not feel right it probably isn't.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I never trust pics I see on here as pics can be easily taken from anywhere and I never easily share pics either.

For me the following tell tale signs have worked:

1) wanting a face pic when she or they haven't got 1 themselves.

2) not willing to video chat at all.

3) send u a fake pic (obviously fake to you)

4) claim to be new yet aren't.

5) been on site for over a year and no veris.

How do i overcome the above?

If I get a no to video chat from them then their loss not mine.

Hope that helps.

Hahaha

A video call could be just for 1 minute or less. A simple hello see it's me and I see it's you. A video call doesn't have to be a conversation but even a quick 10second visual confirmation and perhaps verbal hello too.

And there are many ways to get around even doing it at home. It can be done in the car or out on a walk. It's about making it possible that's all.

We all have various reasons to trust or not trust people. Of course calling one fake too quickly is foolish but over time one builds an intuitive feeling to know what works for them.

What is wrong is if anyone calls another fake publically. That's just slander and something I know many here do in their private Facebook groups etc.

This kind Of playground behaviour is what we all should try and rise above of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be very wary, over half the profiles on fab are fake.

That's completely untrue. "

Ok ok, maybe it's nearer two thirds but you get my point.

Be very careful and wary, there are a lot of fake profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a message an hour ago calling me a fake because he asked to chat on whattsapp or kik and I said I only chat here.

He then blocked me.

Super. Him blocking me saves me from having to do the same to him

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Make it compulsory to be photo verified "

A - how will that stop fake profiles

B - what about the people will leave, or won't join, because they don't want to have a personal photo on a website?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should do photo verification before you can become active on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should do photo verification before you can become active on here."

Don't you have to send em a full nude, or sumin daft?! If that is the case and they made it compulsory, then I would never have joined

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

When you have been on Fab as long as us (as alot of you have), it kinda becomes a sixth sense. You just know when a profile is not right.

Our rule of thumb is we never meet anyone without verifications, we then follow their verification trail, not just the person who verified them, but the person who verified the person who verified them. CONFUSED?? Sorry, but I (think) I know what I mean.

Point being, go on your first instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should do photo verification before you can become active on here.

Don't you have to send em a full nude, or sumin daft?! If that is the case and they made it compulsory, then I would never have joined

Maybe two photos dated or somet.

Who said nude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you have been on Fab as long as us (as alot of you have), it kinda becomes a sixth sense. You just know when a profile is not right.

Point being, go on your first instinct."

I do what you do...

Never been caught out yet in 6 years x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Be very wary, over half the profiles on fab are fake.

That's completely untrue.

Ok ok, maybe it's nearer two thirds but you get my point.

Be very careful and wary, there are a lot of fake profiles."

I still disagree with that number. What do you think of as fake? For me, the only fake profiles are the ones using pictures of someone else or who blatantly lie about who they are in order to get a shag.

I've been called fake because I only meet in clubs, because I won't play with couples, because I only meet on Fridays, because I won't go to a hotel, because I won't add them on kik/snapchat/whatsapp/facebook, because I'm not photo verified, because I had major surgery and wasn't meeting. Not one of those things means I'm fake yet the word gets thrown at anyone who doesn't agree with how others use the site.

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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"When you have been on Fab as long as us (as alot of you have), it kinda becomes a sixth sense. You just know when a profile is not right.

Point being, go on your first instinct.

I do what you do...

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Agreed, Its down to each persons, personal approach to the site and their own (not others) rules. So many single guys pretending to be a couple or single lady for instance.

But there are some genuine people on here Just have to apply your own rules to find them.

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

We get stung with these types quite a bit, some of you saying no to sending face pics, how do you say no nicely because surely you want to exchange to see if you all attracted to each other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should do photo verification before you can become active on here.

Don't you have to send em a full nude, or sumin daft?! If that is the case and they made it compulsory, then I would never have joined

When I joined I had to either pose naked or just my face with the words fabswingers.com and my username. I couldn't get into anything on the site until I was accepted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen a guy make a profile then delete it, only to make a new one the next day what's that about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant to add this has gone on for months and he uses a slightly different name each time

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I meant to add this has gone on for months and he uses a slightly different name each time "

Just leaves then decides to come back, alot of people do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every day though hes deleted the one he made yesterday and now I've just seen hes made another one an hour ago, that's odd ive blocked at least 20 of his profiles, but the next day hes back again lol always using the same sort of name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't help but be suspicious when there are that many fakes going about seen loads and not just women a lot of males with models pics and such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear it as a term of endearment

. It's just people throwing their toys out of the pram.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think fake is a label that people use for others when they discover they can't have what they want or feel entitled to have with that particular person. I often get called fake when they haven't read my profile. People use the site for their own needs, just because they don't match yours it doesn't make them fake. They are just using the site how it suits them at that particular time. Having said that I agree that some have fake pics, ie pics not of themselves, best thing to do about that is report them to admin. "

The funniest fake pics are those with a source identification word in the corner. Reverse imaging proves it. How on earth are the pic moderators allowing these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they join in the night they are most likely horny and gone the next day after a wank

One that have been in for ages small profile no pictures and never met. These are just talkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many men who pose as a female just to get messages. I,m a TVs and verified yes and I get messages from these so called women but you can spot them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah.. thing about my profile, i'm outright and honest about what i'm looking for

With the green tick. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theirs a few young girls on here pretending to be unicorns but we all know they dont exist right?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't see how we can be certain somebody is a fake in many cases without corroboration. I look at it as a scale between very low and very high confidence in somebody being genuine.

The real red flag for me is a profile with no avatar, no gallery, no photo or personal verifications and only a few words of profile text. They have the lowest confidence level and I wouldn't touch them with somebody else's bargepole. Somebody else can be the opposite and I have high confidence.

However, it's possible to be be wrong in both cases we should always be cautious.

Luke

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By *al343Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Best and fastest means to find out is snap chat.. obviously without the filters, and if it isn’t a there and then photo it comes up with time and date... if that happens then hit the block button!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile pic, no pics in their gallery, no veri's or veris hidden is an absolute non starter for us.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Reverse Google!

If someone has stolen photographs from the internet then as far as I'm concerned they are not genuine.

I've had people steal my photos and pass them off as their own on this site. Recently my photos ended up on hamsterxx!!

Stay safe fabsters. There are some strange people out there!!

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By *aughtyus_maximusMan
over a year ago

Derby and Nottingham

Yeah, alot are fake.

A good start is only chat to site supporters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of picture collectors and fake profiles we have encountered are huge,we have started conversations only for them to then vanish once asked for proof they are genuine,can count on one hand the people we have found are genuine and having same issues as we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to come accross a lot of fakes or profiles after a few messages make us think they are a bit strange/fake.

What measures do people take when in contact with new people?

Thanks

X "

None I just get on with it

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

Been called fake despite having veris/pics ect, laughable considering the people usually calling me fake have zero verifications and zero pictures on their profiles.

I don't give out my number anymore (due to people abusing it in the past), christ they even abuse your kik now if you block them.

I also dont cam to "prove Im real" because I tend to find those banging on about camming are only interested in that and not meeting.

I guess it's not so bad if you're a woman meeting guys and I do feel sorry for couples, you don't deal with it as much as a woman. But I just report and move on now.

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By *omputer_guyMan
over a year ago

carlow

Finding people are very cautious if you are new here trying to get that initial

Opportunity or meet or even just some conversation is tricky as we don’t get the benefit of the doubt most of the time. I do understand why lots of spam phishing and dodgy people and bots out there but it has made starting out fresh on here a challenge.

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By *ich_and_LizCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand all the negative comments towards what are fake profiles, sometimes I feel you are just banging your head against a wall, I went to a club and got verified by the couple who worked there and someone I met in the club, it has worked better for me because I have met genuine people and they now know i am genuine.

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

I’ll take my chances to meet them for a social first! It is what it is I suppose!

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

No photo veri after a month, probably fake

Too full on. Sexting right away.

Honestly there's so many ways to verify people and if they're real they shouldn't be mad about you asking.

We even verify people in kik chats. Send a live camera pic in the chat and under the photo it will say 'camera'. If it's a photo from their gallery it doesn't say anything under.

Weve asked people on Snapchat to send a photo holding up 1, 2 or 3 fingers

you've gotta get creative sometimes.

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By *omputer_guyMan
over a year ago

carlow

"No photo veri after a month, probably fake

Too full on. Sexting right away.

Honestly there's so many ways to verify people and if they're real they shouldn't be mad about you asking.

We even verify people in kik chats. Send a live camera pic in the chat and under the photo it will say 'camera'. If it's a photo from their gallery it doesn't say anything under.

Weve asked people on Snapchat to send a photo holding up 1, 2 or 3 fingers

you've gotta get creative sometimes. "

See I agree with that I don’t mind proving that I’m real. But hate being dismissed or decided that I’m fake before even given the opportunity. I’ve gotten lucky and been verified once with a nice coffee social. But beyond that it’s been very quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really fed up with flakes

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Out of interest why would you not share your phone number? How do you arrange a meet? Just on fab with a few pics then head to a public meet or do you just use clubs to meet?"

We never share our number, until we have met. We use messages here to arrange meet.

When P was single, she arranged a meet and after a no show she went home, only to get texts saying how great she looked sat waiting (describing what she had been wearing).... for this our numbers stay private until we have met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for profiles that sound real and where messaging focuses on what they want from fab meets, but not in an explicitly sexual way (see below re wank chat).

Consistency in pics. I’m coming across a lot of profiles with some real pics mixed in with elements stolen from the web (torso shots, ripped abs, massive cocks).

I generally steer well away from wank chat if I actually want to meet them. Sometimes I just want the wank chat but I never expect to meet wank chatters.

I won’t provide loads of pics, don’t cam and rarely message outside of fab with new contacts. That makes me boring for pic collectors.

And I leave crucial details out of meet arrangements. If it hasn’t occurred to them a couple of days before the meet that we haven’t arranged a time or a location then I know they’re not serious.

But generally, I’m giving up on messaging as a way to meet people and meeting people at clubs or word of mouth recommendations.

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By *ettyboob72Woman
over a year ago

Manningtree

Personally, I've been given a heads up tbis week of another woman using my photos to get meets, I apologise to anyone that may have fallen for her scam,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I've been given a heads up tbis week of another woman using my photos to get meets, I apologise to anyone that may have fallen for her scam, "

You do have some really lovely photos, particularly the May ones.

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By *he Hussy and The VoyeurCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

A few things we look for are low resolution pictures. Heavily edited and cropped photos. We check which verifications lead to which profiles to see if the same profiles verify other suspicious profiles.

These usually point to the same culprits that verify other fake profiles. This isn't always the case, but it has proved helpful identifying most.

We tend to know lots of people from clubs and the scene that we see quite often, but to verify every time you see each other is pointless. Club reviews can be a good indicator as to who some of the genuine couples are if that is where they go to socialise and play, but if people prefer private meets it can be quite difficult to identify which aren't real.

Just using common sense and intuition is all we can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep talking if they are fakes they won't last long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a hell of a lot of fakes on here mainly men pretending to be a couple which in itself is pretty pathetic we have learned just to move on and ignore them

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