FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve come back to fab 3 time’s now and not having much lucky any advise would be great

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP,

First things first, What do you think your doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I’m not sure my profile is ok second when I message someone I normally say hi and try to start a polite conversation first and before I know it I’m blocked or i don’t get a reply back not sure about my pics like I say any help would be great last time I was here I just got abuse

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Pics aren't great, 41 and can't accommodate screams cheat even if you aren't, profile doesn't say much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok noted so what pics do you suggest and how can I spice up my profile 41 separated living between places that’s why I can’t accommodate yet

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Ok I’m not sure my profile is ok second when I message someone I normally say hi and try to start a polite conversation first and before I know it I’m blocked or i don’t get a reply back not sure about my pics like I say any help would be great last time I was here I just got abuse "

So lets take it stage by stage, the first one of course is your profile, your shop window if you like.

You've already identified that your shop window has problems, what can you do to fix it? Where are the problems?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So lets take it stage by stage, the first one of course is your profile, your shop window if you like.

You've already identified that your shop window has problems, what can you do to fix it? Where are the problems?"
pass lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We or I reply to all messages and sending just a HI will get you just a hi back with zero chance of my wife being interested in chatting.

Read the profile and construct a decent message and send a face pic.

Good luck.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I'd say you need better pictures.. verifications are always good to have posted. Your bio is a bit short, but to be honest if the messages you are constructing are mindful of peoples bios and are specific to them, then id say it would have to be the pictures

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Are you reading profiles before messaging OP?

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By *bw becWoman
over a year ago

East Coast

"I’ve come back to fab 3 time’s now and not having much lucky any advise would be great "

Ok, firstly you have to remember that there’s 2 woman to every so many men on fab. Some women give the majority a bad name and are rude and won’t reply.

Personally, as someone else said. If I get an ‘hello’ message, I do a one word answe back. Even a “how you doing” only warrants good thanks, you? It’s not an ice breaker, doesn’t make me think you’ve done anything other than cut and paste the same message to the closest 50 woman in the hope of a reply.

I think your photos are ‘ok’. At least you have some pics. Some accounts are really lazy, which looks like you’ve something to hide. Agree with pp’s that 41 and can’t accom smacks of married or living with mummy. Can you afford hotels for the ‘right woman’, do you drive and are happy to travel? If you say you’re between places but looking for regular, it looks a bit as if you’re looking for somewhere to do your laundry! I think you need to make your profile a bit more honest about your situation, but humorous at the same time. If you’re really stuck for profile ideas have you done a search of other men in your area to see what they’re saying?

If you’re setting up your car boot stall to get someone to buy your junk, it doesn’t hurt to look at the competition, work out a weak point and advertise your stuff as better than the next stall. What’s you’re unique selling point, what are you particularly good at, what do you want, are you willing to be led astray, or do you know what’s what and that’s it? Can you do any magic? Can you breathe through your nose or are your hands small and you can make them disappear?

Read your profiles through someone else’s eyes, you say you’ve come back to fab 3 times, stop leaving so you’ve been here longer. If you have any veris, display them. At the end of the day: if you read your profile and think ‘yeh; I’d reply to that’ cut and paste a chat up line message and throw it at as many female profiles as you can find. If you throw enough shit at the fan, something will eventually stick.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

OP Your profile text is is just long sentence without any punctuation. So are your forum posts. If you don’t now how to punctuate, you’ll need to solicit some help, because you are unlikely to get any responses if your messages are similarly constructed.

Your profile doesn’t say anything about you whatsoever. Not a single thing.

A social is an absolute given, so don’t even mention it. It sounds as if you think you’re being really considerate and obliging, rather than stating what every single one of us already knows. More over, having a ‘connection’ doesn’t prevent bad sex. That’s not what a social is for.

No one is going to bother contacting you purely to ask you “anything”. If you don’t let them have all the information they need then you will never, ever get a single reply or message.

Look at other men and woman’s profiles and see what works and what speaks to you. Sit down with a pen and paper and put some effort into it. Put what you want, who you ‘are’, and what you can offer into you text and make it as interesting and vibrant as you can.

Do something about your awful pictures.

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By *bw becWoman
over a year ago

East Coast

Excuse my typos, it’s early!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you think bigandhairy is a tempting name ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is one sentence where you mention a few things. Try to separate it.

Pictures are not very appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you reading profiles before messaging OP? "
always sometimes I just say good morning to everyone and that gets me blocked lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think bigandhairy is a tempting name ?"
that’s what I am lol

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

"Are you reading profiles before messaging OP? always sometimes I just say good morning to everyone and that gets me blocked lol "

So if you're reading bios then send a message related to the bio and the profile. And just because you might be big and hairy doesn't mean that's how you have to market yourself. The uninspiring close up belly shots leave a lot to be desired, I personally prefer a mirror picture when it comes to looking at guys bodies. But if we're being honest maybe you just need to check how you are actually talking to people before you complain that you have no luck

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