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"I'm having a debate with my mate because I think theres nothing wrong if I answer my door to a delivery guy postie or a guy in general just in my boxers or briefs ! Is it a big deal " | |||
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"And what happens when your usual posture is sick and you didnt realise it's a woman today and she files a complaint about you or calls the police because you decided to be disrespectful and involve an outsider who didnt consent. What if you answer the door in your boxers and the little man falls out but at the same time a mother and child are walking past, congratulations shes definitely calling the police and now your on the sex offenders list or at a minimum in court explaining your actions "sorry judge I thought it seemed like a perfectly good idea" No just no! Men, please engage your brains before you post something or do something. " Must point out this is one man’s ‘bright’ idea. Most men wouldn’t dream of doing this for the reasons cited by other posters. | |||
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"I'm having a debate with my mate because I think theres nothing wrong if I answer my door to a delivery guy postie or a guy in general just in my boxers or briefs ! Is it a big deal " being a posties myself, the answer is no its not okay my female colleagues hate it all it does is get you reported to the police and a nice letter explaining you will no longer receive and mail and you can come and collect it from you local delivery office. and if you move and get a redirection to some where else which is covered by another delivery off they get told as well. we are trying to do a job and immature customers that think its okay to do stupid things like this just piss us off, ask your self would you do it in front of your mother no so why do it to us  | |||
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" ask your self would you do it in front of your mother no so why do it to us "I think anyone that would be worried about their mother seeing them in their boxers has bigger problems! | |||
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"I used to deliver parcels, strangely enough it was much more often ladies who would answer the door in underwear, little nighties or just a towel than chaps who underdressed, especially in student areas. B" A friend of mine used to be a delivery driver and I sometimes travelled with him. It was definitely way, way more common for women to answer the door underdressed than men! As it happened, that suited us just fine, but I agree entirely with the points being made about consent. Generally speaking, the women that opened the door in less than full dress did so because they had been in bed or were in a hurry to answer, but sometimes it was undoubtedly deliberate. Usually it was just a towel or a flimsy nightie, but it wasn't unknown for ladies to come to the door completely topless. Twice (when I wasn't present) my friend was invited in for "a bit more", which ended up with him receiving a BJ. Luckily those women made our day, but they were taking a risk by exposing themselves - for various reasons the driver(s) might not have welcomed such advances. | |||
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 but I agree consent is a huge part of the games we love to play and opening the door to strangers undressed could potentially upset and offend so it would be easier on all parties not to do it if able to get dressed, if you literally can’t get clothes quick enough then hide behind the door and just have some respect and fore thought for the person on the other side of the door, if it’s a female/Male who is delivering and they are just as kinky as u and in the right mood then their actions may differ but I feel this is a highly rare occurrence and there is a better chance she/he reports you!
At the end of the day it’s all about respect in everything we do on here, and I feel if you can’t respect people who aren’t even on this site and are just members of the public then that will start to make its way into your meets and socials etc | |||
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" being a posties myself, the answer is no its not okay my female colleagues hate it all it does is get you reported to the police and a nice letter explaining you will no longer receive and mail and you can come and collect it from you local delivery office. and if you move and get a redirection to some where else which is covered by another delivery off they get told as well. we are trying to do a job and immature customers that think its okay to do stupid things like this just piss us off, ask your self would you do it in front of your mother no so why do it to us "The Police in your county must not be as busy as they are here. Reporting someone for answering the door in their boxer shorts? | |||
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Which is probably why a lot more women do it than men in my experience, they know they aren't perceived as dangerous and unsettling, whereas a man is usually much more aware that he is seen that way?
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"I do see the point about it being one rule for both genders, but generally I can see why it's viewed differently. It's a fact that men are more physically intimidating and stronger therefore a scantily clad lady isn't perceived as threatening in the slightest, whereas a similarly clad bloke would cause a lot to shit themselves!
Which is probably why a lot more women do it than men in my experience, they know they aren't perceived as dangerous and unsettling, whereas a man is usually much more aware that he is seen that way?
B"I don’t think it’s a case of appearing dangerous, the way I have taken the thread (I could be wrong) is that it’s a respect thing not a “predator” type of thing? If a female answering the door exposing herself to a married man may offend just as much as a male answering the door to a single female? Or married female. I think if a man was to open the door with a boner and then proceeded to make unwanted advances to females or even males then that crosses every line imaginable 100% not acceptable and should be dealt with. Same applies to women, I think sometimes we think that because women don’t appear “dangerous” then that gives the impression they are allowed to get away with certain things men aren’t? Especially on this site you have to be accepting of both men and women in the same way (without crossing lines) and I think the same applies in everyday life otherwise we then have inequality and I’m all for equality... I also think that when you work in a certain job where you are entering another persons personal space and property you have to kind of expect to see these things from time to time, Window cleaners are a perfect example, if you ask a window cleaner how many boobs, dicks and bums they have seen by accident the numbers would be very high? As long as there are no advances made at the door that are unwelcome and offensive then purely opening the door to accept a parcel in your boxers, bra, dressing gown etc is just a completely normal thing for someone living in their own homes. It’s a really tough area to debate as opinions will vary so much that I don’t think there will ever be a middle ground. | |||
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"I do see the point about it being one rule for both genders, but generally I can see why it's viewed differently. It's a fact that men are more physically intimidating and stronger therefore a scantily clad lady isn't perceived as threatening in the slightest, whereas a similarly clad bloke would cause a lot to shit themselves!
Which is probably why a lot more women do it than men in my experience, they know they aren't perceived as dangerous and unsettling, whereas a man is usually much more aware that he is seen that way?
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I don’t think it’s a case of appearing dangerous, the way I have taken the thread (I could be wrong) is that it’s a respect thing not a “predator” type of thing?
If a female answering the door exposing herself to a married man may offend just as much as a male answering the door to a single female? Or married female.
I think if a man was to open the door with a boner and then proceeded to make unwanted advances to females or even males then that crosses every line imaginable 100% not acceptable and should be dealt with. Same applies to women, I think sometimes we think that because women don’t appear “dangerous” then that gives the impression they are allowed to get away with certain things men aren’t?
Especially on this site you have to be accepting of both men and women in the same way (without crossing lines) and I think the same applies in everyday life otherwise we then have inequality and I’m all for equality...
I also think that when you work in a certain job where you are entering another persons personal space and property you have to kind of expect to see these things from time to time, Window cleaners are a perfect example, if you ask a window cleaner how many boobs, dicks and bums they have seen by accident the numbers would be very high?
As long as there are no advances made at the door that are unwelcome and offensive then purely opening the door to accept a parcel in your boxers, bra, dressing gown etc is just a completely normal thing for someone living in their own homes.
It’s a really tough area to debate as opinions will vary so much that I don’t think there will ever be a middle ground."It is a tricky one, but no matter how much the sexes are equal, they ARE different. As such a semi-naked woman presented to a man will either be seen as a turn on, a welcome distraction or even if he doesn't find her appealing something to have a joke about in the pub later as in a "WTF??" moment, I'm willing to wager 99 times out of 100 no man would even think of reporting her to authorities? Most women deliverers would think they had either disturbed her getting ready and empathise with her or dismiss it with a "Put some clothes on woman!" joke, even so I'd be amazed if even 4-5% would consider the incident report worthy. With a man on the other hand...I think a decent amount of male couriers would react with either disgust or unease, probably about a third of them, more so if the bloke in question had a knowing twinkle in his eye ha! A majority of female couriers would be hugely uneasy and be mentally checking escape routes off the grounds quickly while they shoved the parcel at him to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible. It's a fact that men are hardwired to look primarily for sex, so almost all male visitors would see a scantily clad woman as either a rather delightful distraction OR at the least certainly not a threat. Whereas they would associate the male nakedness as either an advance or a display of prowess and possibly aggression. It's also a fact that women are hardwired to look primarily for relationships and furthermore they KNOW that men hunt sex much more so they would see a provocatively dressed man is making a blunt advance, whereas a scantily clad woman would be much more likely to be a victim of circumstance and being in a rush to them. B | |||
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"I do see the point about it being one rule for both genders, but generally I can see why it's viewed differently. It's a fact that men are more physically intimidating and stronger therefore a scantily clad lady isn't perceived as threatening in the slightest, whereas a similarly clad bloke would cause a lot to shit themselves!
Which is probably why a lot more women do it than men in my experience, they know they aren't perceived as dangerous and unsettling, whereas a man is usually much more aware that he is seen that way?
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I don’t think it’s a case of appearing dangerous, the way I have taken the thread (I could be wrong) is that it’s a respect thing not a “predator” type of thing?
If a female answering the door exposing herself to a married man may offend just as much as a male answering the door to a single female? Or married female.
I think if a man was to open the door with a boner and then proceeded to make unwanted advances to females or even males then that crosses every line imaginable 100% not acceptable and should be dealt with. Same applies to women, I think sometimes we think that because women don’t appear “dangerous” then that gives the impression they are allowed to get away with certain things men aren’t?
Especially on this site you have to be accepting of both men and women in the same way (without crossing lines) and I think the same applies in everyday life otherwise we then have inequality and I’m all for equality...
I also think that when you work in a certain job where you are entering another persons personal space and property you have to kind of expect to see these things from time to time, Window cleaners are a perfect example, if you ask a window cleaner how many boobs, dicks and bums they have seen by accident the numbers would be very high?
As long as there are no advances made at the door that are unwelcome and offensive then purely opening the door to accept a parcel in your boxers, bra, dressing gown etc is just a completely normal thing for someone living in their own homes.
It’s a really tough area to debate as opinions will vary so much that I don’t think there will ever be a middle ground.
It is a tricky one, but no matter how much the sexes are equal, they ARE different. As such a semi-naked woman presented to a man will either be seen as a turn on, a welcome distraction or even if he doesn't find her appealing something to have a joke about in the pub later as in a "WTF??" moment, I'm willing to wager 99 times out of 100 no man would even think of reporting her to authorities? Most women deliverers would think they had either disturbed her getting ready and empathise with her or dismiss it with a "Put some clothes on woman!" joke, even so I'd be amazed if even 4-5% would consider the incident report worthy.
With a man on the other hand...I think a decent amount of male couriers would react with either disgust or unease, probably about a third of them, more so if the bloke in question had a knowing twinkle in his eye ha! A majority of female couriers would be hugely uneasy and be mentally checking escape routes off the grounds quickly while they shoved the parcel at him to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.
It's a fact that men are hardwired to look primarily for sex, so almost all male visitors would see a scantily clad woman as either a rather delightful distraction OR at the least certainly not a threat. Whereas they would associate the male nakedness as either an advance or a display of prowess and possibly aggression.
It's also a fact that women are hardwired to look primarily for relationships and furthermore they KNOW that men hunt sex much more so they would see a provocatively dressed man is making a blunt advance, whereas a scantily clad woman would be much more likely to be a victim of circumstance and being in a rush to them.
B"Yea I would agree with that | |||
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