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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As in - probably I should get some. New Year's resolution, that.

How do you deal with rejection? Especially when you can see your messages are being read and people are going so far as giving your profile a read?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't take it personally. It's about them and their circumstances/ wants, not you.

Find other emotional outlets so less of your worth is tied up here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it personally. It's about them and their circumstances/ wants, not you.

Find other emotional outlets so less of your worth is tied up here. "

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse "

Oh Amber, that's rotten. I can only imagine. Sooooo much quieter in single man land.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse "

Yeah, "you've got a hole, you'll do" is pretty gross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse

Yeah, "you've got a hole, you'll do" is pretty gross. "

Once I called someone out for giving me abuse about being fat minutes after he tried it on and I'd rejected him. His response was, and I quote (English wasn't his first language): "it's only the pussy that counts, what's around it doesn't matter". Exactly the reason why I'm trying to phase myself off this (at times) toxic website.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse

Yeah, "you've got a hole, you'll do" is pretty gross.

Once I called someone out for giving me abuse about being fat minutes after he tried it on and I'd rejected him. His response was, and I quote (English wasn't his first language): "it's only the pussy that counts, what's around it doesn't matter". Exactly the reason why I'm trying to phase myself off this (at times) toxic website. "

That’s so gross. I’m so sorry you have to put up with that sort of behaviour.

Makes me doubly irate I don’t get the chance to prove my non-horrible credentials more often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely needed by men on here. By all accounts they get treated like shit and have to plug on regardless. Good luck!

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

My personal view is sometimes, when I tried to be friendly and polite .Saying no thanks! People then send you messages of abuse. Now I ignore if don't interest me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a male, you’re in a heavily populated group, one which is filled predominantly by idiots who don’t know or care how to treat a lady.

The ladies are inundated and quite understandably put a lot of barriers around them to filter out these cretins and protect their safety.

Your objective is too keep plugging away and find away around their barriers and filters.

“Seek and thou shall find”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind women rejecting me as iv got quite a unique look and i know alot of women wont be interested, so it just makes it more special when u find someone that is interested but it is annoying when someone describes u exactly but then says ur not their type but i just laught it off now as their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse "

You are very attractive, such a sexy mouth! Ignore the dickheads, enjoy the flirty chat and know that the one is out there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just remind myself that I can't be everyone's cup of tea. It's a good reality check in my opinion, keeps me from getting big headed from all the fake, pandering attention from all the "any hole is a goal" type of men on here. From a single female's point of view, as bad as rejection feels a lot of the time having people very obviously only trying it on out of sheer desperation feels a million times worse

Oh Amber, that's rotten. I can only imagine. Sooooo much quieter in single man land."

Thank you. Unfortunately it comes with the territory, which I expect is why you are not getting responses. For all the polite, decent men on here there are twice as many trolls who will send you vile abuse even if you reject them gently. That's not to say that all the responses I've received to rejections have been horrible; in fact I receive many "no worries, thanks for the reply" style messages but it's the few horribles that do tend to stick in your mind.

Personally I only respond to messages from people who have clearly read my profile and have used my code word, even if that's to say "sorry but I'm not interested". If they have taken the time to read about me then I will take the time in return to acknowledge them but on the other hand, going by personal experience, I do understand why many women choose not to.

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By *ablooneoffMan
over a year ago

basildon

If my messages are deleted or unread I simply move on if I get a no thank you I reply “thanks for the reply “ how hard can it be for guys to be nice it gives the rest of us a hill to climb thy sometimes is very high luckily I have had meets and can show my worth as a gentleman

Good luck amber

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