FabSwingers.com forum: My profile must be rubbish?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know a cock pic doesn't help but it is a sex site after all?

Other than that, is there anything about my profile that justifies me getting nowhere at all?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Well your first mistake is thinking this is a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well your first mistake is thinking this is a sex site. "

Completely agree

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Swinging, for a lot, is as much about the social aspect as it is about the sex x

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By *umkisscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If you want honest feedback...

Usual mistakes; cock pic only (although a fairly decent cock pic admittedly), says straight but looking for men (mixed messages), profile text is a bit "I want this, I love this" rather than saying what you would bring to the table

And the bit about "hubby is fine to listen, watch or join in" would definitely put us off. This is a swinging site so kind of a given really, not something to list as a perk!

Just our two cents...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's constructive thank you.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Fighting against the masses I'm afraid.

So many single guys so little time to play

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't mind the cock pic, it's the fact that you have no other pictures on show that would mean I probably wouldn't reply to you.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Your name is misleading and implies a couple. We resent it when single guys do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a cock pic doesn't help but it is a sex site after all?

Other than that, is there anything about my profile that justifies me getting nowhere at all?

Any help would be greatly appreciated."

Sorry us girls can't be dial a shag for you.....

Google is your friend, plus deep pockets!!

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

This is not a sex site. It’s a swingers meeting place. Suggest you attend clubs and socials as guys become more than yet another cock pic when they’re chatting with you in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Re-written, Is it any better now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not seen the previous version, this one's looking ok though there are still some bits that need ironing out.

You're saying you've got a cock pic because it's a sex site (it's not!), then in your profile text you say you'd love to meet a couple for 'mutually exclusive' relationship, and that you don't want to meet couples who have multiple partners in a week. Sorry to break it to you, OP, but that's what swinging is supposed to be about, being able to meet other people, socially and, if wanted, sexually, too. Not restricting yourself to just one partner.

I'm not saying you're not going to find a couple who may want an exclusive relationship with just you, but it's not going to be easy.

Definitely more pics, please! Everyone knows how a cock looks like.

Good luck and happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi folks could you look at my profile let me know what you think of it please

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I've not read either version. My 2p's worth. Its generic advice.

1p. Your profile won't appeal to all, so those saying its not for them isn't a problem unless they're your target audience.

2p. If you think it informs others of your wants desires and sells you to others leave it as it is.

3p. Create interest in the words and pictures you use.

4p. Do it your way you can't do it any other.

5p. I'm Not very good a witht pennies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not seen the previous version, this one's looking ok though there are still some bits that need ironing out.

I'm not saying you're not going to find a couple who may want an exclusive relationship with just you, but it's not going to be easy.

Definitely more pics, please! Everyone knows how a cock looks like.

Good luck and happy Fabbing"

Agree it's like your saying you want to meet a couple on a swinging site who once they have found you are to stop swinging?

We have never known a 3rd party male who wants to find a couple who on meeting him are to effectively quit swinging and then become essentially monogamous with him.

You see something new everyday.

Good luck OP

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 18/12/19 01:41:34]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging, for a lot, is as much about the social aspect as it is about the sex x"

This!!! the social side is fantastic..love it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also it says you can't accommodate its worth explaining why if there's a genuine reason e.g shared house etc.

That way people won't assume you are cheating.

If it's because you are cheating (surely it isn't given that you want a couple to become exclusive to you) then at least be upfront about it so people can then make an informed choice.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a 51 year old TV cross dresser and see how much luck you have on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading some of these single men needing profile advice threads makes me feel like a spectator at a execution.....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If it reflects you, then don't change a thing OP.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

The opening sentence of your OP tells everyone what they need to know. You are getting the results you deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well your first mistake is thinking this is a sex site. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 18/12/19 09:18:36]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a cock pic doesn't help but it is a sex site after all?

Other than that, is there anything about my profile that justifies me getting nowhere at all?

Any help would be greatly appreciated."

I know that a pic of me after coming straight off the back of a fortnight away with work and taking the bins out, snapped hastily with a Nokia 3310 wouldn't help our profile much.

The difference being that at no point did I even consider putting it on our profile regardless?

If you KNOW this for yourself already then why have it as your only pic, much less as your avatar?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Well your first mistake is thinking this is a sex site. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not read either version. My 2p's worth. Its generic advice.

1p. Your profile won't appeal to all, so those saying its not for them isn't a problem unless they're your target audience.

2p. If you think it informs others of your wants desires and sells you to others leave it as it is.

3p. Create interest in the words and pictures you use.

4p. Do it your way you can't do it any other.

5p. I'm Not very good a witht pennies.

Hehe love this response

And my pennieth worth is stop the confusion and sex might be a part of a swinging life but this isn't a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well on the plus side it's more than 2 words long. We personally don't like cock pic as a profile pic. Try adding some more pictures and not just of your cock at 100 different angles.

Remember it's a swinging site not a sex site.

Try looking and reading some male profiles. Some guys have been very successful. Get Some direction from them but remember to taylor your profile to you.

Don't layout all your wants and needs on your profile. It's good to read what you can offer.

Read profiles when messaging. Respect people's profiles if you don't meet or match their criteria don't think 'sod it I'll message and try my luck because you will fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell people what your into that isn't sex. What are your hobbies and interests. It's alot easier to strat a conversation about something you got in common.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

In your revised profile you say you’re going to indicate what you can bring to the table, but then, apart from promising to turn up, you continue listing what you want....

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

lovely cock...

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Swinging, for a lot, is as much about the social aspect as it is about the sex x

This!!! the social side is fantastic..love it!!!"

I don't think I'd have sex much if I had to rely on just fab. The clubs are a great place to see someone in 3D and gauge attraction instead of relying on just pics and text. Plus it's great to chat in person with like minded people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Re-written, Is it any better now?"

Do you think it's better - that's what matters!

Remember to read their profiles too and ask questions about it to try and get a response x

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for some good posts. Nice when blokes don't just get slated. A refreshing change.

I bet i'm not the only bloke who thinks of this as a sex site! Lol

I know it's more than that. Exclusive...i don't mean for life. Just for a while, assuming there are couples who come here looking for a third wheel (or leg) to add to the mix.

OK, so i didn't go down the root of popping to Boots for a miniature anti-perspirant to make my cock look huge! Lmao

I am attached and wished my partner would swing but she won't. We've talked about it and since ot's about the only thing less than perfect in our relationship we have agreed that am allowed to socialise (and more) with another couple. Hence wanting it to be mutually exclusive. I would say i have permission but do people actually read past that or believe it if they do?

Just skipped it but would not omit it when messages are received/sent.

My hobbies are flower arranging, dress making, visiting orphanages and children's hospitals and given one wish i'd ask for world peace! Lmfao

OK... that last bit was a complete lie, except for world peace. I might go for unlimited wishes and make number 2 world peace! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a huge difference between a swinging Male and a man who is looking for sex. The swinger has learned how to talk to people, how to approach and how to be appealing. We only meet swingers and it’s easy to tell the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for some good posts. Nice when blokes don't just get slated. A refreshing change.

I bet i'm not the only bloke who thinks of this as a sex site! Lol

I know it's more than that. Exclusive...i don't mean for life. Just for a while, assuming there are couples who come here looking for a third wheel (or leg) to add to the mix.

OK, so i didn't go down the root of popping to Boots for a miniature anti-perspirant to make my cock look huge! Lmao

Just skipped it but would not omit it when messages are received/sent.

My hobbies are flower arranging, dress making, visiting orphanages and children's hospitals and given one wish i'd ask for world peace! Lmfao

OK... that last bit was a complete lie, except for world peace. I might go for unlimited wishes and make number 2 world peace! Lol

What you will find is many couples will consider playing with a single male who is married / attached but has permission but they would expect to be able genuinely confirm thats the case.

So would your wife confirm you can play away to the other female of the couple on the phone. Our experience is most men run for the hills at that request because they were lying about having permission but if you do have permission that confirmation call wouldn't be an issue?

KJ x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I know a cock pic doesn't help but it is a sex site after all?

Other than that, is there anything about my profile that justifies me getting nowhere at all?

Any help would be greatly appreciated."

Inject some of your personality in to your profile instead of being a advert for beige furniture.

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By *irandhisbitchCouple
over a year ago

Goole area

Put a torso pic on, it's not as seedy as a cock pic, or a suited from behind Mr Grey kinda look!!

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