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By *tefanCool OP   Man
over a year ago

Monaghan

How do you start a conversation on this site. No matter what u try people don't like come on strong people think ur a creep. Be polite and people think ur harmless and not fit for this site. Confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say something that makes it clear you've read their profile, comment on something you like, or have noticed or have in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you start a conversation on this site. No matter what u try people don't like come on strong people think ur a creep. Be polite and people think ur harmless and not fit for this site. Confused"

Many people wont talk to a pictureless and poorly written profile. That may be why your having trouble!

Poppy

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By *tefanCool OP   Man
over a year ago

Monaghan

I've had pictures up and was advised to take them down to keep them private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not Gunna lie I agree, not being a moaner but its crazy. I don't wanna come across as a creep or message like mad but then I wanna have banter and wanna show abit spice either in my bio or even with my pictures. Like WTF I need help

I've taken down all face pics and also wonder what it is I've actually got to do to be successful with this site. I've got NO Verifs which could be one reason one but Im genuine soooooooo yeah...Help a brother, peeps. Frustrating

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Opening message should contain something they've put on their profile, just to show you're being attentive and not planning to waste their time.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Best bet is to read someone's profile ans make it a personal message.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Be engaging ask question not make statements about yourself

Make sure sure you've read there profile

And not be pushing or demanding to start with

Don't open with what you'd like to experience with that person

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've had pictures up and was advised to take them down to keep them private "

Why do you think this was good advice ?

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By *ettyboob72Woman
over a year ago

Manningtree

Defi it's my make the message personal to the profile, do not send a generic hi how are you etc, it shows you can't be bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had pictures up and was advised to take them down to keep them private "

If someone advised you to jump off a cliff, would you do it?

It's your profile and therefore ultimately entirely up to you whether or not to display photos and which photos to display.

You will, however, find it much more difficult on fab without photos on your profile.

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By *tefanCool OP   Man
over a year ago

Monaghan

I had a face Pic up and was told it was a bad idea to have face Pic as profile Pic and by reading ladies pages they don't like dick pics

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe try a pic of your body that is neither face nor dick ?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Not Gunna lie I agree, not being a moaner but its crazy."

Sorry, but your profile pic is your cock measured against a remote control. Instant, unread message delete from us.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"How do you start a conversation on this site."

No profile pic and only one (dick) pic in your (poorly written) profile. If you messaged us it'd be deleted based on those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A personalised message has far more chance of getting someone's interest.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Something that shows you have read someone's profile is always best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were to put percentages to it, it would read like this

Polite message = 1%

Profile related message = 15%

Something filthy minded = 84%

The maths don't lie ladies

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Just say something that makes it clear you've read their profile, comment on something you like, or have noticed or have in common."

But don't comment on their pictures, because apparently that's creepy....

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"Not Gunna lie I agree, not being a moaner but its crazy. I don't wanna come across as a creep or message like mad but then I wanna have banter and wanna show abit spice either in my bio or even with my pictures. Like WTF I need help

I've taken down all face pics and also wonder what it is I've actually got to do to be successful with this site. I've got NO Verifs which could be one reason one but Im genuine soooooooo yeah...Help a brother, peeps. Frustrating"

Get to a club to get verified.

I work in a club and verify newbies when they attend.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Ok.... Try putting "important Account information" in the subject box. For the first two lines of the message, write something like "Congratulations, being our 10 million'th message sender.. You have won!"

At least you know it'll get read!

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

If you messaged us using text speak - as you have in your post - we would ignore you.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Not Gunna lie I agree, not being a moaner but its crazy. I don't wanna come across as a creep or message like mad but then I wanna have banter and wanna show abit spice either in my bio or even with my pictures. Like WTF I need help

I've taken down all face pics and also wonder what it is I've actually got to do to be successful with this site. I've got NO Verifs which could be one reason one but Im genuine soooooooo yeah...Help a brother, peeps. Frustrating"

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Well, here's a case in point: if you want to talk in 'street speak' like Wu Tang Clan, Big Daddy Kane or Busta Rhymes then that's fine. But if you want to write an introductory message to someone on here then make sure it's grammatically correct, polite, natural and articulate.

And you don't want to undo all that with a photo of your cock against a remote control in the same vein as Flavor Flav wearing his huge clock around his neck.

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Good luck bro.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I wouldn’t accept a message from a profile with no picture. I’d delete straight away. And if the message made clear that they hadn’t read my profile I’d delete that too.

I wouldn’t want war and peace as a opener though. Tbh you won’t please everyone.

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