FabSwingers.com forum: Would you ask random woman to go for coffee????

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe random women would like to volunteer to taste my coffee

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I have been asked before, and if I felt like it I would go. I don't think it's a big deal, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely!! Faint heart never won fair lady!! Start with a compliment and dont stand too close when you ask!! Lol

Best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure why not ? ..If there's an attraction and you're not stepping on anybody's toes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ooooo cool, seems to be easy here hehe thanks to all

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Wish I had the bottle to ask a random lady "out of the blue" for coffee....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish I had the bottle to ask a random lady "out of the blue" for coffee....!!"

Why don't you try it ? You would be surprised, the worst they can say is no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

Why don't you hold the traffic up and say hey love give me blow job is really what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner "

Partners these days all got open relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

There she was walking down the street... Oi love blow job me you mean

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Wish I had the bottle to ask a random lady "out of the blue" for coffee....!!

Why don't you try it ? You would be surprised, the worst they can say is no thank you.

That is true

But add that to general shyness around women (especially ones you don't know) and cripplingly low self esteem then I think I'd rather not chance it.

Because it will only reinforce the deeplygheld belief that I am unattractive to the opposite sex....

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By *im ZeeMan
over a year ago

north staffs/cheshire

I have asked girls I’ve not known to join me for a coffee, as I’m an ugly Cnut most have turned me down but a couple have accepted and we have become good friends since.

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Maybe I am just too forward, I have on many occasions spoken to a particularly stunning BBW in the street and told her just that... "Hope you don't mind me saying that you are truly stunning" some blush and walk off but many light up and smile... I believe in spreading a little happiness in this cruel world. Couple of times have had dates from it. Why shouldn't you talk to ladies, are you scared?

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe I am just too forward, I have on many occasions spoken to a particularly stunning BBW in the street and told her just that... "Hope you don't mind me saying that you are truly stunning" some blush and walk off but many light up and smile... I believe in spreading a little happiness in this cruel world. Couple of times have had dates from it. Why shouldn't you talk to ladies, are you scared?

Have fun

Scared maybe not, but you know yourself, in real world any reaction might happen, just trying toget some idea of possibilities based on experience people here...forum here should be the best place for this type of questions....thanks for your input into conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

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I always do, and its incredible how many women accept the invitation.. Just remember to smile deeply as you ask. Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping

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I always do, and its incredible how many women accept the invitation.. Just remember to smile deeply as you ask. Enjoy.

Yeah Mike, love what you just said....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being approached with a compliment, from a man or woman....

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP - go for it. I have been asked a few times. It was very flattering. I also said yes each time as I like a confident man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love being approached with a compliment, from a man or woman...."

Yeah but would you go for coffee or maybe still accept the compliment and ring Gards haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP - go for it. I have been asked a few times. It was very flattering. I also said yes each time as I like a confident man. "

BOOOOOOOM, very important message, we should organise training session for guys interested....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

In the 70s when we were single it was a common occurrence to be approached by a guy and asked out. It happened in bars, pubs, at bus stops, in cafes, walking down the street. Times change obviously and I suppose the net and dating apps have made this harder to do but it was an unusual week when I wasn't approached at least once.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the 70s when we were single it was a common occurrence to be approached by a guy and asked out. It happened in bars, pubs, at bus stops, in cafes, walking down the street. Times change obviously and I suppose the net and dating apps have made this harder to do but it was an unusual week when I wasn't approached at least once. "

Yeah, technology has changed a lot, did a lot damages as well...pushed social side of the world on line....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah, technology has changed a lot, did a lot damages as well...pushed social side of the world on line.... "

Does it matter how you meet though? As long as you get together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner "

They can come along aswell ..Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah, technology has changed a lot, did a lot damages as well...pushed social side of the world on line....

Does it matter how you meet though? As long as you get together.

Yeah, absolutely right...but as you said earlier, years ago it was natural that people were talking, approaching etc...these days it is much harder i think...would blame technology hehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner

They can come along aswell ..Lol x"

Haha that be super master way of doing it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah, technology has changed a lot, did a lot damages as well...pushed social side of the world on line....

Does it matter how you meet though? As long as you get together.

Yeah, absolutely right...but as you said earlier, years ago it was natural that people were talking, approaching etc...these days it is much harder i think...would blame technology hehe"

Yeah, its a shame. I think that men might be concerned to approach a woman in the street nowadays anyway. We used to take it in our stride and the guys would back off if we told them we weren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was how it used to be done all the time, as has been said above! Personally I love it, probably prefer it

Now because people are inclined never to put their phones down, they're missing out on so much of life

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

"You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner "

Fancy a Coffee

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It was how it used to be done all the time, as has been said above! Personally I love it, probably prefer it

Now because people are inclined never to put their phones down, they're missing out on so much of life "

I think that men knew how to not be creepy though, or most of them

. I could be wrong but it seems that everything is much more sexualised now and it makes women wary

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

These days I think she will reply never mind the coffee let’s go for a fuck !! Or is that just my mind

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"These days I think she will reply never mind the coffee let’s go for a fuck !! Or is that just my mind

not in my world but maybe in yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was how it used to be done all the time, as has been said above! Personally I love it, probably prefer it

Now because people are inclined never to put their phones down, they're missing out on so much of life

I think that men knew how to not be creepy though, or most of them

. I could be wrong but it seems that everything is much more sexualised now and it makes women wary"

Fuck, that is probably the best suggestion so far....the worst thing is that you are probably right...everything is going around sex...

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

"These days I think she will reply never mind the coffee let’s go for a fuck !! Or is that just my mind

not in my world but maybe in yours

It’s what happened in a movie a watched earlier

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you don't ask, you don't get x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

That is the biggest fear yeah, agree with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't ask, you don't get x"

...I would try with you so...let me know if ever around Dublin

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It was how it used to be done all the time, as has been said above! Personally I love it, probably prefer it

Now because people are inclined never to put their phones down, they're missing out on so much of life

I think that men knew how to not be creepy though, or most of them

. I could be wrong but it seems that everything is much more sexualised now and it makes women wary

Fuck, that is probably the best suggestion so far....the worst thing is that you are probably right...everything is going around sex..."

Yep. Don't misunderstand most of us knew that sex was a possible eventual outcome of meeting a guy for coffee but it wasn't as in your face. We both had our fair share of casual encounters though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

There's a way of approaching women that isn't sexually harassing. Most women understand the difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was how it used to be done all the time, as has been said above! Personally I love it, probably prefer it

Now because people are inclined never to put their phones down, they're missing out on so much of life

I think that men knew how to not be creepy though, or most of them

. I could be wrong but it seems that everything is much more sexualised now and it makes women wary

Fuck, that is probably the best suggestion so far....the worst thing is that you are probably right...everything is going around sex...

Yep. Don't misunderstand most of us knew that sex was a possible eventual outcome of meeting a guy for coffee but it wasn't as in your face. We both had our fair share of casual encounters though

Haha yeah, I'm with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

It's more about how you go about it tbh

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

It was the other way around when I invited paul to join me for a coffee....we were in the same coffee shop....he said yes and the rest I history. We both still chat to random strangers...its all part of life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was the other way around when I invited paul to join me for a coffee....we were in the same coffee shop....he said yes and the rest I history. We both still chat to random strangers...its all part of life."

....lovely, thanks for sharing with us

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

I think it's nice to chat to folk and if ur single and see a single lady why not. A flirt may make her day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear tell this was the only way to get a date pre internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I just carry around a printed pick of my cock, then give it to random women. It works for fab, it must work in real life as well, no?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I have, a few times in my past (not necessarily coffee, but a drink). It has always been well received and generally it's been a yes (plus the more it was well received the more confident I became doing it again). No one has ever been negative towards me asking them out, even if it's a no. Most occasions it's been nice but once getting to know each other it not been a match, but pleasant and fun none the less. A couple of times has worked into something more. I am a fan of the old ways.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Nah, I just carry around a printed pick of my cock, then give it to random women. It works for fab, it must work in real life as well, no?"

Oh my word. So funny !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask a randon woman to go for cofee?

NO WAY!

I am a tea drinker.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Ask a randon woman to go for cofee?

NO WAY!

I am a tea drinker."

Me too. Of subject a bit but I ended up meeting a woman of FAB for a pot of tea. She chose the tea rooms. The tea was terrible. Not a good start at all. Ironically same woman is now my fiancee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often chat to random strangers

I’m old fashioned and slightly loopy

Old ladies on the bus.....

Folk in shops....

Other dog walkers....

Bar staff in pubs....

Dishy men in coffee shops....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish I had the bottle to ask a random lady "out of the blue" for coffee....!!

Why don't you try it ? You would be surprised, the worst they can say is no thank you.

That is true

But add that to general shyness around women (especially ones you don't know) and cripplingly low self esteem then I think I'd rather not chance it.

Because it will only reinforce the deeplygheld belief that I am unattractive to the opposite sex.... "

Yep this is a very real thing. You can be a very attractive guy but in your mind you don't feel it. The worst thing you can do when your confidence is at a low ebb is push it. Best left to a day when you are feeling spritely and outgoing!!! I would do it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

This is exactly the case. God even in pubs after a few drinks guys don't bother now for fear of it being taken as a crude sexual proposition because the media has conditioned womens minds into thinking that it always is. 99% of my relationships have been the lady approaching me, just the way it's gone for me.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just adopt the habit of speaking with people that you don't know and expand on it with those you fancy to include invitations. Habits can form quickly.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"i think the threat of being accused of sexual harassment would put a lot of guys off in this day and age

I think it's a lot more about the way you ask, your skills at reading the other person, detecting when your approach is not wanted (and subsequently dropping it, chances are she's not trying to play hard to get) and understanding an appropriate situation/context to ask. I think most women has a good sleaze radar v genuine good natured attempt. I think the biggest problem with the whole sexual harassment worry is the whole sexual harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

100% give it a go. I chat shit to randoms all the time. Some coffee shops now even have cards on the table that say ‘new friends welcome’ so that’s an open invitation right there

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping

100% give it a go. I chat shit to randoms all the time. Some coffee shops now even have cards on the table that say ‘new friends welcome’ so that’s an open invitation right there

I like that idea. Everyone does tend to keep them self to them selves these day (which is fine). But it's nice when people are open to new encounters with new people. Community is a great thing and there is lots to learn off each other.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I hadn't realised how things had changed.

Is social media to blame or are people just more wary of each other?

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I might be showing my age here, but this thread reminds me of the old "Impulse" advert - "When a man you've never met before suddenly gives you flowers..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been asked a few times and was flattered xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s called meeting people. It’s what we did before the internet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oooo we got some great messages here, thanks to All

Now, who would like to try? In Blachardstown? Let's set up small game....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever heard the Kevin bloody Wilson song 'Do you fuck on first dates'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I met my partner on public transport. I saw her and thought she was beautiful so approached her and lo, we're now 9 months in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Women are just people but nicer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, is it possible in normal world or only in this prank videos on Facebook????? Share your experience, give us a tips....I might try tomorrow while shopping "

Yeah ive been asked before and gone

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman
over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

I was just asked out for coffee yesterday, was a delivery guy I see in the mornings. We just say good morning and yesterday he asked if I fancied coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if she promises not to put sugar in it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was just asked out for coffee yesterday, was a delivery guy I see in the mornings. We just say good morning and yesterday he asked if I fancied coffee. "

Cool! Did you accept?

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman
over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

"I was just asked out for coffee yesterday, was a delivery guy I see in the mornings. We just say good morning and yesterday he asked if I fancied coffee.

Cool! Did you accept? "

I sure did... He had his number already written down too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was just asked out for coffee yesterday, was a delivery guy I see in the mornings. We just say good morning and yesterday he asked if I fancied coffee.

Cool! Did you accept?

I sure did... He had his number already written down too

Hope you both enjoy it

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I hadn't realised how things had changed.

Is social media to blame or are people just more wary of each other?"

Bit of both I fear. Sitting in a coffee shop I'm amazed how many people are looking at/talking on their phones with a companion sat at the same table.

And of course, the fear of rejection or an accusation also comes into play.

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware

"You mean someone you just fancy in the street?

I’d be really flattered if someone asked me. I think the only issue in asking is if they have a partner "

If I saw you in the street I would live to ask you for a coffee!!

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I was in costas ordering my drink when a woman next to me asked about the Costa loyalty card I had , I ended up buying her a coffee and had a good chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend how i was feeling on the day and whether i had time

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