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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can be a bit of work, but there is definitely "action" on here.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

You've only been on here 4 weeks

What were you expecting?

A meet a night, a week?

It takes time to establish yourselves, create a profile that works.

People do meet on here, you need to look at your own expectations

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "

You have 3 veris in 4 weeks, what were you expecting?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

The site works for me.

I don't take it or myself too seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think it would be easy to get a social.been here 7 months and not even had a social.

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It takes time to get a meet, take it from me as a single man, bear with it, it will be worth it. James

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "

Our reply here will be almost identical to another similar thread!

Most men think that because women/couples are on this site, that it is a knocking shop - IT ISN'T! 95% of the men on here do not understand what swinging is about!

They put no effort in to creating a profile, sit back and expect the SHAGS to come rolling in!

Either that or they make contact expecting a SHAG to be a GIMME!

People on this site are the same people that you would meet in public and that seems to be overlooked!

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here

Our reply here will be almost identical to another similar thread!

Most men think that because women/couples are on this site, that it is a knocking shop - IT ISN'T! 95% of the men on here do not understand what swinging is about!

They put no effort in to creating a profile, sit back and expect the SHAGS to come rolling in!

Either that or they make contact expecting a SHAG to be a GIMME!

People on this site are the same people that you would meet in public and that seems to be overlooked!"

You realise its a couple posting the op not a guy ?

Op.. no one has it easy on here, often for very different reasons, if its not working for you change something.

Einstein said "to do the same thing over and over and expect a different result is insane " change something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "
when you say 'i' do you mean 'we'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"think it would be easy to get a social.been here 7 months and not even had a social."

I find it hard to believe after seeing your pictures but look in the meets and events section as there are socials all the time on there. Clubs also have social events.

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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

Maybe it’s because you have to be constantly on here, we’d prefer an app to say you’ve got a message etc. Not everyone’s using the same apps to message on either. Sometimes we are missing messages because of all the “fuck now” messages. We seem to manage about 10 messages back and forth with people we like then all goes stale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it’s because you have to be constantly on here, we’d prefer an app to say you’ve got a message etc. Not everyone’s using the same apps to message on either. Sometimes we are missing messages because of all the “fuck now” messages. We seem to manage about 10 messages back and forth with people we like then all goes stale. "

It takes time and the patience of a saint. I'm sure there will be a gem hidden amongst all the fuck Messages you just need to keep searching. Failing that there is nothing wrong with joining a club or organising your own socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up so easy, you'll find the people you're looking for. Chatting doesn't work with everyone, if you feel messaging back and forth doesn't work for you try and arrange a social, meet up for a coffee or a drink somewhere and go from there.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

4 weeks isn't long at all. It took us almost a year of ing out fakes before we got our first meet on here. We had more luck at clubs at first. Once we were here a while and sussed the site out it was fine. We get pretty lucky on here now. Give it time.

Good luck

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets in 4 weeks.

Not sure what the complaint is about?

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Maybe it’s because you have to be constantly on here, we’d prefer an app to say you’ve got a message etc. Not everyone’s using the same apps to message on either. Sometimes we are missing messages because of all the “fuck now” messages. We seem to manage about 10 messages back and forth with people we like then all goes stale. "
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Oh wo is me.. the site provides tools to stop messages. Use them or continue as you are..

you can have emails that are sent to inform you of messages.

If a guy had posted this there'd be comments of no one likes a whinger. .maybe thats why it goes stale after a few messages.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Maybe it’s because you have to be constantly on here, we’d prefer an app to say you’ve got a message etc. Not everyone’s using the same apps to message on either. Sometimes we are missing messages because of all the “fuck now” messages. We seem to manage about 10 messages back and forth with people we like then all goes stale. "

What sort of messages are you exchanging? If it’s a lot of sex chat, then some (especially catfishes) will use that as w*nking fodder, with no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets.....

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "
. We feel its like that too. Not giving up just yet but thinking clubs are the only way we've met anyone

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Agree, How can someone who has over 80 pics with different blokes,say your not my type,wtf,lol

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets....."
. Finding the genuine ones who match up with our profile requirements is shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets...... Finding the genuine ones who match up with our profile requirements is shocking "

Me being a single guy ... I realize that I’m very naive......

My thinking was if couples are getting 300 messages per day , it would be easy to connect....

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets...... Finding the genuine ones who match up with our profile requirements is shocking

Me being a single guy ... I realize that I’m very naive......

My thinking was if couples are getting 300 messages per day , it would be easy to connect...."
. But when none of them listen to what u want in ur profile re preferences etc. Shame

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By *oupleseekfunCouple
over a year ago

Wilmslow

Of course there are time wasters, those whom are bored, those seeking a cheap thrill (but no meet for 121) and singles/couples whom struggle to put together an honest profile and attach 21st century photos. But what do we expect for 3 months membership for £20? About time there was a significant membership to get rid of time wasters.

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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice. "

Which is why we only meet in clubs now. Doesn't matter if they turn up or not.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets....."

We do but only been on here a short while and reading some posts it's to be expected x

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Your doing something wrong then!!

I'm not new,but sometimes even weeks it's quite,then bam a cochlear of chaps....

But what I write in my message do attract....

So always be polite and not desparate.

Organise a home party, that's a starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree the club is the best option.

And I know there are some socials too.

Suspicion is rife and just compounded if you don’t have meet verification .


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets.....

We do but only been on here a short while and reading some posts it's to be expected x"

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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


"Your doing something wrong then!!

I'm not new,but sometimes even weeks it's quite,then bam a cochlear of chaps....

But what I write in my message do attract....

So always be polite and not desparate.

Organise a home party, that's a starter"

don’t understand what we’re doing wrong, they actually arrange them and we say we will be there for them not to turn up, we’re not desperate and definitely not pushy, we’ve had them say they will meet at ours also not to turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "

What would make you think it would be easy?

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS


"Your doing something wrong then!!

I'm not new,but sometimes even weeks it's quite,then bam a cochlear of chaps....

But what I write in my message do attract....

So always be polite and not desparate.

Organise a home party, that's a starter

don’t understand what we’re doing wrong, they actually arrange them and we say we will be there for them not to turn up, we’re not desperate and definitely not pushy, we’ve had them say they will meet at ours also not to turn up."

Revamp profile anything at least..

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Agree, How can someone who has over 80 pics with different blokes,say your not my type,wtf,lol"

Because you’re not their type. Easy. Doesn’t matter if they have 1000 pics with different guys, it doesn’t mean they fuck anyone. Sexually adventurous doesn’t mean not picky.

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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby


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What would make you think it would be easy? "

Probably easier to explain what makes it difficult, amount of time wasters? Amount of people pretending to be who they aren’t? People who don’t read the profile?

Maybe EASY was the wrong word to put, but it doesn’t take much to read someone’s profile understand what they are looking for send them a polite message, have a chat maybe arrange a social if all are interested and turn up. That doesn’t sound difficult?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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What would make you think it would be easy?

Probably easier to explain what makes it difficult, amount of time wasters? Amount of people pretending to be who they aren’t? People who don’t read the profile?

Maybe EASY was the wrong word to put, but it doesn’t take much to read someone’s profile understand what they are looking for send them a polite message, have a chat maybe arrange a social if all are interested and turn up. That doesn’t sound difficult?"

You sound surprised!!! You get an eye for it eventually. You learn to spot the fakers a mile off but unfortunately that comes with the negative experiences to learn your lesson. I found the same when starting out. I even get caught out still from time to time

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice. "

Five arranged and zero.. wow. Thats some record

****news flash****

The common denominator in this is,... You op.

Change your selection process. Red flags delete move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice.

Five arranged and zero.. wow. Thats some record

****news flash****

The common denominator in this is,... You op.

Change your selection process. Red flags delete move on."

You’re not supposed to talk to couples or single females like this....

You can only do this to single guys on the forums....

What you should always say is “ These people must be crazy to stand you up , it’s definitely their loss “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on how often you want to meet. We only meet infrequently and spend time getting to know people we’re interested in. That way we build up some trust and are less likely to be let down. Harder if you do on the spur of the moment meets I guess.

I’m the more cautious one where Fab is concerned and I’ve got very good at spotting the time wasters and fakes. We won’t consider anyone who is unverified in any way or who has been on the site for a number of months and hasn’t had a meet. I know we’ve all got to start somewhere but in our experience those are the profiles we’ve had trouble with.

We love Fab, we’ve had some great meets and have made some good friends but we keep it on a back burner. Real life always comes first.

Miss V

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"You’d think sign up on here easy as that, the amount of fake profiles on here is ridiculous or maybe I trust no one. If you actually want to meet anyone your better off joining a club. No action on here "

Can't understand your difficulty really, you have a perfectly reasonable profile and I would have thought would have been quite popular?

Just hang in for a while, there's some lovely people here!

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice. "

Welcome to fab, where things often ain't as they seem. Where single guys pretend to be every possible scenario profile going, people let people down, not many read profiles and communication skills drift away at any given point for no understandable reason.

Can I ask, the 5 let down meets, is there a similar trait to their profiles? Are they established and well veried active members? I is sadly possible you have been really really unlucky and hit a string of fakes. Dont let it get to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of fake profiles on here and time wasters too, but I always look for verifications

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice. "

We had a gangbang meet in a club, very well advertised. We had six chaps. Sex offered on a plate, easy enviroment in a club, approchable, as was a " play party date" very disipointed, really don't know what more we could of done.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice.

Five arranged and zero.. wow. Thats some record

****news flash****

The common denominator in this is,... You op.

Change your selection process. Red flags delete move on.

You’re not supposed to talk to couples or single females like this....

You can only do this to single guys on the forums....

What you should always say is “ These people must be crazy to stand you up , it’s definitely their loss “ "

.. I know some folk would say that,

I left the steed in the stables ..sometimes folk need the truth.

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By *inkyandWinky OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nearby

Make that 6-0 now, had a couple messaging for a while. Said there off to the club Friday if we fancy meeting up with them, they’ll be there at 8:30 etc etc, messaged Friday morning that they are still going and if we’re interested, yes all is fine. Nope didn’t show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had similar experiences when trying to arrange meets via the site, lots of people would want to arrange a social then suddenly find it hard to find a time/date to actually meet or they would want to exchange lots of messages to "see if we are genuine" which never made sense to us as you can't get much more genuine than meeting in person.

We've found building our connections via clubs is much more worthwhile as we at least know people in a club will actually meet, we don't really put any effort in to trying to arrange meets via the site now.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Lots of people meet on here they find people they are attracted to and go from there. However there are a lot who contact you that you are not attracted to and thats life. If you struggle to communicate with people then clubs are probably better to go to as you have less need to be cerebral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an update - been on here for just over 7 weeks. 5 meets arranged so far!

0 have actually turned up.

It’s a positive start lol a simple message to say sorry can’t make it would be nice.

Which is why we only meet in clubs now. Doesn't matter if they turn up or not."

I completely concur. At least in a club/spa if you don’t strike lucky it’s not a lost day.

My last two club visits have both been worthwhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am happy to confirm that my profile is 'real'

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Agree 100% ,There's 1 or 2 who will shag the whole site lol, And there's one's on every day just looking to see what's out there ,Definitely need to go to club.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Weve been here a year and we find it takes a lot of work!! Unfortunately our location makes it harder as well

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I think quite a few couples profiles and correspondence is administrated by the man.( Sometimes even posing as his woman partner) . He arranges meets etc and then has to tell his partner and get her signed up for it which does not happen. She might not be " feeling it" etc. on the day or just have other plans. This can be avoided by the women talking to each other . You will soon find out how fragile the arrangement is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think quite a few couples profiles and correspondence is administrated by the man.( Sometimes even posing as his woman partner) . He arranges meets etc and then has to tell his partner and get her signed up for it which does not happen. She might not be " feeling it" etc. on the day or just have other plans. This can be avoided by the women talking to each other . You will soon find out how fragile the arrangement is. "

This bloke speaks a lot of sense. I bet this is what goes on a lot of the time. It doesn't make us time wasters as we do meet occasionally and have great fun. Just means that the dynamic for constant naughtiness is not the same as other peoples.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I think quite a few couples profiles and correspondence is administrated by the man.( Sometimes even posing as his woman partner) . He arranges meets etc and then has to tell his partner and get her signed up for it which does not happen. She might not be " feeling it" etc. on the day or just have other plans. This can be avoided by the women talking to each other . You will soon find out how fragile the arrangement is. "

This is possible. Usually it's me the female doing all of it forums, meet set ups, etc. Because C is lazy haha. Also a lot of couple profiles are fake!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only been here a week but had one social meet and some good chats, tough for a single guy on here but hey it’s going ok haha

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I’ve only been here a week but had one social meet and some good chats, tough for a single guy on here but hey it’s going ok haha"

Wow you're doing better than we are haha

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’ve only been here a week but had one social meet and some good chats, tough for a single guy on here but hey it’s going ok haha"

Fair play! That's good going for a single guy only here a week.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"I’ve only been here a week but had one social meet and some good chats, tough for a single guy on here but hey it’s going ok haha"

That’s really good so keep doing what you are doing! It’s clearly working

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake couples can be a problem, that's why we like a club with a night club feel. Easy to have a good social meet,with the added bonus of playing if you get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow .... I never thought couples would have a problem finding meets...... Finding the genuine ones who match up with our profile requirements is shocking

Me being a single guy ... I realize that I’m very naive......

We have a couples profile aswell as singles, we may get 300 messages + aday but most of them are fellas simpling putting fancy a fuck now, the others either arent interested in meeting in a club where we feel more comfortable

My thinking was if couples are getting 300 messages per day , it would be easy to connect...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading these comments makes me realize we’ve been quite lucky so far.

We’re a different couple to most on here and therefore will only appeal to a minority but we’ve had no problem arranging meets and have to turn down a few as we’re not interested in doing it frequently.

However there’s no doubt that there are a huge amount of time wasters and fantasists on Fab. Or meet criteria is really strict and we won’t deviate from it no matter how fantastic a profile is.

Stick with it OP, it’s worth it eventually!

V

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