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"evening all. Hope you are all looking forward to a long weekend. I guess like so many other "single" gents, other than GAY MALES i've had next to no response to my profile...dont get me wrong i've met some lovely folk at A&E and at a couple of parties but no direct messages. I asked "Friends" MF couple who said my original profile was too long winded so i changed it BUT still nowt ![]() ![]() Your getting meets a lot more than others on here, so what are you so worried about??? | |||
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"10 meets since january isnt bad and those are just the people you show " Likely to be more than that actually. When you count in meets that jump on and off the site regularly where their veris disappear and those that don't leave a veri then the number is probably quite a lot higher. To be fair the only difference I see between the meets you have and mine mate is that mine tend to be separate contacts from women and couples themselves rather than a few party invites from the hosts. I imagine that your method is probably easier to organise though as you tend to fit many meets into a few hours and don't need to organise travelling on separate days etc...as someone usually pretty limited on time I can understand how this may appeal to you. However the longer meet scenario where you develop more of a bond with those you meet also appeals fortunately! ![]() | |||
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"10 meets since january isnt bad and those are just the people you show " ....like i previously said, the meets are from folk who ive been fortunate 2 meet through a club in manchester who then it turns out they are members on here. They are NOT meets directly from my profile. Thanks 4 replying though. ![]() | |||
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"its because you have no public face pic on show and also you have put down you cannot accomodate the assumption is that you are attached or married im not bothered about if you are or not, that dont matter to me as im not going to meet you, but thats what people think and its off putting to alot of ladies and couples as they dont want to split up families or have a angry ex on the phone or sending them messages if they saw someone like that who got rumbled" thanks 4 ur input- i do have my own gaff, certainly not attached however WAS once married lol but not now. I only changed that the other day the "accomodate" bit, i guess you suggest changing it back then? | |||
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"its because you have no public face pic on show and also you have put down you cannot accomodate the assumption is that you are attached or married im not bothered about if you are or not, that dont matter to me as im not going to meet you, but thats what people think and its off putting to alot of ladies and couples as they dont want to split up families or have a angry ex on the phone or sending them messages if they saw someone like that who got rumbled" thanks 4 ur input- i do have my own gaff, certainly not attached however WAS once married lol but not now. I only changed that the other day the "accomodate" bit, i guess you suggest changing it back then? | |||
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"its because you have no public face pic on show and also you have put down you cannot accomodate the assumption is that you are attached or married im not bothered about if you are or not, that dont matter to me as im not going to meet you, but thats what people think and its off putting to alot of ladies and couples as they dont want to split up families or have a angry ex on the phone or sending them messages if they saw someone like that who got rumbled" thanks 4 ur input- i do have my own gaff, certainly not attached however WAS once married lol but not now. I only changed that the other day the "accomodate" bit, i guess you suggest changing it back then? | |||
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"its because you have no public face pic on show and also you have put down you cannot accomodate the assumption is that you are attached or married im not bothered about if you are or not, that dont matter to me as im not going to meet you, but thats what people think and its off putting to alot of ladies and couples as they dont want to split up families or have a angry ex on the phone or sending them messages if they saw someone like that who got rumbled thanks 4 ur input- i do have my own gaff, certainly not attached however WAS once married lol but not now. I only changed that the other day the "accomodate" bit, i guess you suggest changing it back then? " If you don't want to accommodate at your own place, then leave it as cannot accommodate but state why briefly on your profile | |||
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"yeah if you can accomodate when you want then have can accomodate on coz you can, it does not mean your expected or obligated to, every case has its own merrits dont it! face pic will do wonders for you though, its probally the main thing holding you back as think about it from the lasses point of view, several guys email her the same message she has to pick one , only one shows their face but has other photos too show what they like, obviosuily if they like the look of them then why bother with the faceless profiles when they can see straight away that this one is good for them. you need to stand out from the crowd to get meets online if you hide your face then its going to hold you back and make you blend in with the rest of the men who darent show their face! x" A face pic may improve the OPs chances but its hardly the be all and end all. As I've said on another forum I don't have a face pic in my public gallery but I send one with my opening message therefore anyone I contact can see my mug. There's still more meets I get from people contacting me though which suggests a public face pic isn't the necessary deal breaker, though I'd be silly not to think it helps on some occasions. Besides which the OP may have a very valid reason not to which is not worth taking the risk just to slightly improve his chances. For example in my job I have to visit car dealerships and pitch to general managers. I would certainly not want anyone spreading word about this aspect of my private life in an environment where my reputation and creditability count for a great deal of money with regards to my income. Sad as it is I know for a fact that the vanilla world does not always react favourably to someone's status in swinging. The OP may be in a similar situation. | |||
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"wish people would give me a few hints and tips on my profile,had no meets and about three replies to messages.lol whoa is me ![]() maybe you should read the persons profile and not send a message which tbh is abit desperate and more like a personal advert in the paper lol - thats why i didnt reply - sorry lol | |||
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"yeah if you can accomodate when you want then have can accomodate on coz you can, it does not mean your expected or obligated to, every case has its own merrits dont it! face pic will do wonders for you though, its probally the main thing holding you back as think about it from the lasses point of view, several guys email her the same message she has to pick one , only one shows their face but has other photos too show what they like, obviosuily if they like the look of them then why bother with the faceless profiles when they can see straight away that this one is good for them. you need to stand out from the crowd to get meets online if you hide your face then its going to hold you back and make you blend in with the rest of the men who darent show their face! x A face pic may improve the OPs chances but its hardly the be all and end all. As I've said on another forum I don't have a face pic in my public gallery but I send one with my opening message therefore anyone I contact can see my mug. There's still more meets I get from people contacting me though which suggests a public face pic isn't the necessary deal breaker, though I'd be silly not to think it helps on some occasions. Besides which the OP may have a very valid reason not to which is not worth taking the risk just to slightly improve his chances. For example in my job I have to visit car dealerships and pitch to general managers. I would certainly not want anyone spreading word about this aspect of my private life in an environment where my reputation and creditability count for a great deal of money with regards to my income. Sad as it is I know for a fact that the vanilla world does not always react favourably to someone's status in swinging. The OP may be in a similar situation." Dealer principles- i feel 4 u pal! Normally in my experiences tend to be a saleman done good....end of the day its how good there aftersales dept is that will make them there wonga along with there manufacturers bonus if they hit these CSi targets. Anyway less of that,ha ha . Thanks lick 4 ur advise, i tend 2 attach a couple of face pics 2 first message- NOT worthwhile going public, there's NOT enough brown paper bags out there 4 the ladies. Once i get computer bk i'l paragraph profile off. Thanks again 4 ur advise seems like u've been in the scene for a while. A ![]() | |||
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"yeah if you can accomodate when you want then have can accomodate on coz you can, it does not mean your expected or obligated to, every case has its own merrits dont it! face pic will do wonders for you though, its probally the main thing holding you back as think about it from the lasses point of view, several guys email her the same message she has to pick one , only one shows their face but has other photos too show what they like, obviosuily if they like the look of them then why bother with the faceless profiles when they can see straight away that this one is good for them. you need to stand out from the crowd to get meets online if you hide your face then its going to hold you back and make you blend in with the rest of the men who darent show their face! x A face pic may improve the OPs chances but its hardly the be all and end all. As I've said on another forum I don't have a face pic in my public gallery but I send one with my opening message therefore anyone I contact can see my mug. There's still more meets I get from people contacting me though which suggests a public face pic isn't the necessary deal breaker, though I'd be silly not to think it helps on some occasions. Besides which the OP may have a very valid reason not to which is not worth taking the risk just to slightly improve his chances. For example in my job I have to visit car dealerships and pitch to general managers. I would certainly not want anyone spreading word about this aspect of my private life in an environment where my reputation and creditability count for a great deal of money with regards to my income. Sad as it is I know for a fact that the vanilla world does not always react favourably to someone's status in swinging. The OP may be in a similar situation." Dealer principles- i feel 4 u pal! Normally in my experiences tend to be a saleman done good....end of the day its how good there aftersales dept is that will make them there wonga along with there manufacturers bonus if they hit these CSi targets. Anyway less of that,ha ha . Thanks lick 4 ur advise, i tend 2 attach a couple of face pics 2 first message- NOT worthwhile going public, there's NOT enough brown paper bags out there 4 the ladies. Once i get computer bk i'l paragraph profile off. Thanks again 4 ur advise seems like u've been in the scene for a while. A ![]() | |||
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"I've been on here for about a month. Got a face pic, can accom and travel. And all I have had is a few messages not a single meet. It seems if you are a single bloke you're struggling unless you have the body of an Adonis and a cock like a baby's arm holding an apple. I don't think my profiles that bad??? ![]() 2 sentences and you dont think your profiles that bad...are you taking the piss...look at Stocktons, or the OPs, then look at yours, who do you think people are going to want to meet? ![]() | |||
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"I've been on here for about a month. Got a face pic, can accom and travel. And all I have had is a few messages not a single meet. It seems if you are a single bloke you're struggling unless you have the body of an Adonis and a cock like a baby's arm holding an apple. I don't think my profiles that bad??? ![]() ![]() These guys do have a point mate. At least your pics show more than the obligatory cock shot ever could, but your text isn't exactly seductive to say the least and doesn't say anything about you. Have a look at the profiles the poster above has suggested, as well as others that seem to be more thought out, descriptive, seductive and well-rounded. Then have a look at the amount of meets and how regular these profiles are getting. There's a connection... | |||
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"The bit about 'time wasters and pic collectors' would illicit an immediate delete from me. No one is sitting in their lair, compiling photo albums of you. They just didn't fancy you and didn't reply. It's both negative and arrogant. " maybe i need 2 re word that bit then to something like "if you intend 2 send me a few messages, and then mention a "meet" along with a friends request, (this only an assumption) to see my private pics, and the reason its an assumption - the FOLK then drop off the face of the Earth....please keep in mind i attach a couple of face pics 2 my initial message- i know Shrek isnt everybodies cup of tea....but forgive me if im wrong BUT if no attraction then, then surely wouldnt message bk...?? So, again i may be wrong in calling them time wasters/ pic collectors.....but im puzzled, what would you kinda call them?? ![]() | |||
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"The bit about 'time wasters and pic collectors' would illicit an immediate delete from me. No one is sitting in their lair, compiling photo albums of you. They just didn't fancy you and didn't reply. It's both negative and arrogant. " maybe i need 2 re word that bit then to something like "if you intend 2 send me a few messages, and then mention a "meet" along with a friends request, (this only an assumption) to see my private pics, and the reason its an assumption - the FOLK then drop off the face of the Earth....please keep in mind i attach a couple of face pics 2 my initial message- i know Shrek isnt everybodies cup of tea....but forgive me if im wrong BUT if no attraction then, then surely wouldnt message bk...?? So, again i may be wrong in calling them time wasters/ pic collectors.....but im puzzled, what would you kinda call them?? ![]() | |||
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"The bit about 'time wasters and pic collectors' would illicit an immediate delete from me. No one is sitting in their lair, compiling photo albums of you. They just didn't fancy you and didn't reply. It's both negative and arrogant. " maybe i need 2 re word that bit then to something like "if you intend 2 send me a few messages, and then mention a "meet" along with a friends request, (this only an assumption) to see my private pics, and the reason its an assumption - the FOLK then drop off the face of the Earth....please keep in mind i attach a couple of face pics 2 my initial message- i know Shrek isnt everybodies cup of tea....but forgive me if im wrong BUT if no attraction then, then surely wouldnt message bk...?? So, again i may be wrong in calling them time wasters/ pic collectors.....but im puzzled, what would you kinda call them?? ![]() | |||
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"Don't call them anything on your profile! It's just part of being on a site like this and it only puts people, off. A timewaster isn't going to read that and think-oooh better not contact him. " Very good point, like to say thanks, ive ad a re jig, turned my phone by chance and found a return key (cheers stockton) i hope it gets the nod from u guys and let the messages begin!! Hopefully lol ![]() | |||
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"Most women/couples don't send the initial messages as they usually have plenty in their inbox and can get meets without sending the first message. I am not saying its right or wrong but that's the impression I get x" A lot do as my inbox proves (not as many messages as a couple or fem would get, but thats simply down to proportional numbers on site not the fact that they don't send messages. To be fair though I also don't understand this logic. If you rely only on the messages you get then you're limited to whoever fate decides happens to come across you and finds you atttractive. Fair enough if you're a single male, its easy for me to read through a dozen a day and make decisions, but you have to comb through hundreds (couple) or thousands (single fem) of the shit messages to unearth a gem. Whereas if you contact people then you know already that you find them appealing which is what matters the most to you surely? By all means select meets from folk who message you, but the best way to get the most delightful meets is to send and receive? | |||
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"Most women/couples don't send the initial messages as they usually have plenty in their inbox and can get meets without sending the first message. I am not saying its right or wrong but that's the impression I get x A lot do as my inbox proves (not as many messages as a couple or fem would get, but thats simply down to proportional numbers on site not the fact that they don't send messages. To be fair though I also don't understand this logic. If you rely only on the messages you get then you're limited to whoever fate decides happens to come across you and finds you atttractive. Fair enough if you're a single male, its easy for me to read through a dozen a day and make decisions, but you have to comb through hundreds (couple) or thousands (single fem) of the shit messages to unearth a gem. Whereas if you contact people then you know already that you find them appealing which is what matters the most to you surely? By all means select meets from folk who message you, but the best way to get the most delightful meets is to send and receive?" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Most women/couples don't send the initial messages as they usually have plenty in their inbox and can get meets without sending the first message. I am not saying its right or wrong but that's the impression I get x A lot do as my inbox proves (not as many messages as a couple or fem would get, but thats simply down to proportional numbers on site not the fact that they don't send messages. To be fair though I also don't understand this logic. If you rely only on the messages you get then you're limited to whoever fate decides happens to come across you and finds you atttractive. Fair enough if you're a single male, its easy for me to read through a dozen a day and make decisions, but you have to comb through hundreds (couple) or thousands (single fem) of the shit messages to unearth a gem. Whereas if you contact people then you know already that you find them appealing which is what matters the most to you surely? By all means select meets from folk who message you, but the best way to get the most delightful meets is to send and receive?" Not necassarily because it's just as random that you will contact someone and they turn out to be nothing like their profile - it does work both ways and there is no such thing as a "better way" on here people will use the site as they think works best for them ![]() | |||
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"I've been on here for about a month. Got a face pic, can accom and travel. And all I have had is a few messages not a single meet. It seems if you are a single bloke you're struggling unless you have the body of an Adonis and a cock like a baby's arm holding an apple. I don't think my profiles that bad??? ![]() ![]() Thanks for replying to my post and the advice. I've made a few changes to my profile now and hopefully it might attract more attention. Appreciate any input folks | |||
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"I've been on here for about a month. Got a face pic, can accom and travel. And all I have had is a few messages not a single meet. It seems if you are a single bloke you're struggling unless you have the body of an Adonis and a cock like a baby's arm holding an apple. I don't think my profiles that bad??? ![]() ![]() Third paragraph not needed Some people think self deprication is a good thing.. It isnt.. There is a difference between modesty and self deprication Everything else is fine.. | |||
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"OP just had a look at your profile and think it looks fine. To make it even better I'd advise deleting the sentence about just asking if anyone wants to know anything as busy people in demand won't have time to ask about stuff that should be on your profile. Turn pics 2 & 3 the right way up!! You look like you have the physique and looks (shaved head, tattoos, muscles, broad shoulders) - that will appeal to a lot of people so put more pics in public and you'll be fighting them off!! Good luck Ms (just wiping the slaver off my chin ![]() Thanks for input....i hope it was just slaver!!! Lol xx ![]() | |||
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" The original poster comes across as... Married AND Homophobic So that has put us off! Mark & Jayne" ......thank GOD for small mercy!! It'll come across as RUDE but in your case IM GLAD YOU THINK THAT!! A BIG THANK YOU AGAIN TO THE REST OF THE PEOPLE WHO BROUGHT CONSTRUCTIVENESS AND BIT OF GUIDENCE- APPRECIATED!! | |||
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" The original poster comes across as... Married AND Homophobic So that has put us off! Mark & Jayne ......thank GOD for small mercy!! It'll come across as RUDE but in your case IM GLAD YOU THINK THAT!! A BIG THANK YOU AGAIN TO THE REST OF THE PEOPLE WHO BROUGHT CONSTRUCTIVENESS AND BIT OF GUIDENCE- APPRECIATED!! " seee.... now that kind of response doesn't really help your online persona now..... see... I can "kinda" see what they mean by your last bolded statement.... if you don't want certain people contacting you, use the tools the site gives you to block them... simple solution.. is there such a need to make a big song and dance about it..... also... if you are struggling for meet according to your verifications than the rest of us must be in some sort of draught.... it does make me wonder sometimes what peoples perceptions and expectations are when they come onto the site.... | |||
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