FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This should be interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This should be interesting "

Let’s see lol .

I’m interested to see how women generally feel towards it

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

You could have gone the whole hog and said bareback sexy with married men who send cock pics without asking!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No interest in them.

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By *JCouple
over a year ago

Teesside

Are we talking about married men with permission to play away i.e full disclosure with their wife?

Married men looking to use swinging as a way to cheat on their wife?

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Lol just waiting for this one to blow up

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's a no go for me.

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Definite no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are we talking about married men with permission to play away i.e full disclosure with their wife?

Married men looking to use swinging as a way to cheat on their wife? "

Cheating !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No interest in them. "

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definite no. "

Taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love the contrast however.

Married wife cheating on her husband = a flood of messages from us boys!

Married husband cheating on his wife = "disgrace" from the ladies!

Wonder why the difference??

Personal note I'm single and have no issues playing with a a cheating female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on the situation and the person x

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By *ourneforfunMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Generally speaking, its a no. But I occasionally meet a woman who do t mind, and some actually prefer it, as its generally safer. No stalker wierdos.

Me personally have tried to get my wife to swing, but have had no luck, so Im here alone, and I do ok.

If I ever found myself single, I think Id eventually meet someone on here for relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a no, i love women i don't want to be part of damaging her should she find him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to see someone who is in a relationship.

I know women on here who have met so called single men who turn up for a meet wearing a wedding ring !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totally

I’m all up for opinions. But us men get ridiculed for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A man that is being discreet ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Basically if you think his fit ? Lol x

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

Popcorn ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be in the minority in that it doesn't bother me.

I like the boundaries it sets - definite NSA. Although having said that I did have to cut one married FB loose who got emotionally over-involved.

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

This is a very sexist thread, as lots of men don’t care about fucking a married woman.......and lots of married women don’t care less about it either

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I do love the contrast however.

Married wife cheating on her husband = a flood of messages from us boys!

Married husband cheating on his wife = "disgrace" from the ladies!

Wonder why the difference??

Personal note I'm single and have no issues playing with a a cheating female."

I don't see much disgrace just women saying it's not for them.

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By *unfella469Man
over a year ago

Banbridge

Getting the popcorn ready popcorn ?? lollll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this "

I'd say most men would meet married women but most women wouldn't meet married men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then it’s your job to keep him on his toes lol. Get him in check and tell him that it’s nsa!

Iol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Popcorn ready"

Sweet please mate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both sexes will say one thing here on the forums because it's expected.And do the total opposite.

I'm upfront .I will see a married man and im in no way ashamed to say so.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ll see one with permission

I just think it’s sad the others can’t speak their mind and have to live in a sea of sneaking and lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do love the contrast however.

Married wife cheating on her husband = a flood of messages from us boys!

Married husband cheating on his wife = "disgrace" from the ladies!

Wonder why the difference??

Personal note I'm single and have no issues playing with a a cheating female."

Women stereotypically have more morals than men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do love the contrast however.

Married wife cheating on her husband = a flood of messages from us boys!

Married husband cheating on his wife = "disgrace" from the ladies!

Wonder why the difference??

Personal note I'm single and have no issues playing with a a cheating female.

Women stereotypically have more morals than men? "

I think women tend to have more empathy than men.

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I find it hard to get a fem to meet up even though my wife knows I have single profile and we used to swing together before her health deteriorated

But yes I suppose it’s all about being lucky and actually someone being willing at the time your available to meet

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Half or less of the guys we have seen are married ,but most single i dont judge them its a fulfilling sex act between us all nothing more .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I've been meeting I have no problems with married men as long as they are honest with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Both sexes will say one thing here on the forums because it's expected.And do the total opposite.

I'm upfront .I will see a married man and im in no way ashamed to say so."

That’s my girl open minded

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this "

If he is cheating then he is a cheater not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I've been meeting I have no problems with married men as long as they are honest with me"

Anyone I have messaged on fab , it’s always in my 1st message that I’m married and discreet.

Not now everyone knows lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this

If he is cheating then he is a cheater not a swinger."

That’s bull

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

I have no issue with it.

I don’t want to marry them. The mr doesn’t want me to either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no issue with it.

I don’t want to marry them. The mr doesn’t want me to either

As that famous saying goes

“Bobs your uncle “

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this

If he is cheating then he is a cheater not a swinger.

That’s bull "

Why is it bull?

Surely you don't think cheating and swinging are the same?

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

"If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now "

This is a swinging site so not sure I agree with the OP getting stick in his inbox. Far too many judgemental people on this site offering such useless advice. If they do not like meeting married folk, then they should move on and keep their thoughts to themselves. What gives any of us the right to judge others, I'll get off my soap box now !!

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now

Where does being honest become the same as judging people? ?

Surely you agree dishonesty is wrong?

It isn't judging, it is just stating facts.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

" Both sexes will say one thing here on the forums because it's expected.And do the total opposite.

I'm upfront .I will see a married man and im in no way ashamed to say so.

That’s my girl open minded "

It's got sod all to do with being open minded

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By *teveNW81Man
over a year ago

wigan

"All depends on the situation and the person x"

Get out of here with your reasoning and sense...these people are trying to have a witch hunt!

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"All depends on the situation and the person x

Get out of here with your reasoning and sense...these people are trying to have a witch hunt!"

Cheating is ok??

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

"If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now

Where does being honest become the same as judging people? ?

Surely you agree dishonesty is wrong?

It isn't judging, it is just stating facts."

Fair comment, but I reckon the OP is getting general abuse from folk judging married folk who are also honest. OP, is this true or am I wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't gi e a flying fuck if married women or men want to cheat in their spouses, I just don't want be that person party to it, what I do object to is married men giving me a hard time because I won't meet with them.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

We always find it amusing and sad that people talk about respect and trust in their profiles, yet are happy to treat their life partners in completely the opposite way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now

True bro

Where does being honest become the same as judging people? ?

Surely you agree dishonesty is wrong?

It isn't judging, it is just stating facts.

Fair comment, but I reckon the OP is getting general abuse from folk judging married folk who are also honest. OP, is this true or am I wrong? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you could see the stick I’m getting in my inbox right now

True

True bro

Where does being honest become the same as judging people? ?

Surely you agree dishonesty is wrong?

It isn't judging, it is just stating facts.

Fair comment, but I reckon the OP is getting general abuse from folk judging married folk who are also honest. OP, is this true or am I wrong? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To Ealing man

Shit loads of abuse bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't suit my needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Doesn't suit my needs "

Totally get that thanks for the reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person im married to is our lord and saviour Jesus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only person im married to is our lord and saviour Jesus."

Amen Bruv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I prefer married people its less complicated than single people Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so agree with this statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so agree with this statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only person im married to is our lord and saviour Jesus."

Your avatar - yum, yum, yum

*Vix*

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By *nigmaDreamWoman
over a year ago

Beworth

"The only person im married to is our lord and saviour Jesus."

Can I get an Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread! I prefer meeting married women...we both are looking for the same thing! Perf!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great thread! I prefer meeting married women...we both are looking for the same thing! Perf!"

Cheers mate

If you see the private abuse iv been getting all day from it.

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

"All depends on the situation and the person x"

New FAV Fabber

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

"I so agree with this statement. "

Which statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men are a complete No-No for me !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so many saints in here...the popcorn is about to finish... lol

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"To Ealing man

Shit loads of abuse bro "

Because you are cheating maybe??

Or are you not??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have discussed this together if it was a one off meet less chance of them being clingy , but at the end of the day it’s their relationship there gambling with not ours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a message from a guy and he says he's married I'll decline BUT ...and this is from someone who is now divorced because of my ex husband's infidelity, which incidentally I take partial blame for....no man will cheat and lie to his wife if he's happily married and that's not my problem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I was brought up to believe no sex before marriage I'm not married so will only date married women lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t get involved with a woman who didn’t tell her husband what she was doing.

I would have done in my 20s but, having had a marriage go south through infidelity, I’d just feel too guilty.

But we’re all different. And I don’t judge people.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"If I receive a message from a guy and he says he's married I'll decline BUT ...and this is from someone who is now divorced because of my ex husband's infidelity, which incidentally I take partial blame for....no man will cheat and lie to his wife if he's happily married and that's not my problem..."

Agree with that totally.

However a happy marriage involves 100% communication.

There are many guys who profess to love their wives dearly, but treat them dishonestly and disrespectfully by cheating on them.

You don't treat people you love and respect like that.

You tell them, allow them to make their choice of whether they accept that type of behaviour.

Or not.

If a cheat can choose to play with others, why can't their partner have a choice as to whther they accept it or not??

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

It goes for cheating women as well by the way!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agree with that totally.

However a happy marriage involves 100% communication.

Respect your views totally

But I think your full of shit

There are many guys who profess to love their wives dearly, but treat them dishonestly and disrespectfully by cheating on them.

You don't treat people you love and respect like that.

You tell them, allow them to make their choice of whether they accept that type of behaviour.

Or not.

If a cheat can choose to play with others, why can't their partner have a choice as to whther they accept it or not??

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I personally don't meet married men, I'm sure I've played with some in the club without knowing but I wouldn't play with them if I knew.

The OP shouldn't be receiving crap in his inbox, it's easy enough to give your opinion on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I personally don't meet married men, I'm sure I've played with some in the club without knowing but I wouldn't play with them if I knew.

The OP shouldn't be receiving crap in his inbox, it's easy enough to give your opinion on the thread. "

All day ,

I have received over 200 views on my profile and had barrages of abuse.

It doesn’t bother me but what bothers me is people can’t handle other people’s thoughts or opinions

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I personally don't meet married men, I'm sure I've played with some in the club without knowing but I wouldn't play with them if I knew.

The OP shouldn't be receiving crap in his inbox, it's easy enough to give your opinion on the thread.

All day ,

I have received over 200 views on my profile and had barrages of abuse.

It doesn’t bother me but what bothers me is people can’t handle other people’s thoughts or opinions "

Yeah, it's abit crappy to take it to messages and send abuse. Just report and block.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I do love the contrast however.

Married wife cheating on her husband = a flood of messages from us boys!

Married husband cheating on his wife = "disgrace" from the ladies!

Wonder why the difference??

Personal note I'm single and have no issues playing with a a cheating female."

Havo to agree with the differences you have pointed out, it's so true about attitudes. Personally speaking I don't want to meet cheats of either sex and have declined men and women because of this. I'm only looking for singles, so also not much point in me only meeting one half of a couple either.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I personally don't meet married men, I'm sure I've played with some in the club without knowing but I wouldn't play with them if I knew.

The OP shouldn't be receiving crap in his inbox, it's easy enough to give your opinion on the thread.

All day ,

I have received over 200 views on my profile and had barrages of abuse.

It doesn’t bother me but what bothers me is people can’t handle other people’s thoughts or opinions

Yeah, it's abit crappy to take it to messages and send abuse. Just report and block."

I find it a bit weird that the forum is for discussing stuff like this & in general people have stated yes/no on a reasonable manner.

Those that just send messages of abuse but haven't posted a response openly on here are a bit odd, why do they do it in secret? What actually makes them think the OP, a complete stranger gives two shits that their marriage/relationship etc. Was ruined by cheating?

Why can't they just post on here "Not for me" like everyone else?

OP should be allowed to list their bloody names so that everyone else can avoid them IMO!

In answer to the OP's question though, we don't meet guys but if a woman it would depend very much on circumstance. I've been in a sexless marriage (4yrs without) eventually I walked out, but even at that stage I didn't really want to, nor did I want to hurt them & hadn't cheated on them.

Back then I would have been a firm no "If you don't like your marriage, walk". Answer & a no from me, now I'd want to know why before making a call on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what others do in their spare time but I wouldn't knowingly meet a married man.

There's enough of singletons to choose from. Even though it's so hard to find someone I fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a married couple we said no to married blokes to many complications. My ex didnt want to be apart of someone cheating on another person. I was also given an away card that I could play away as long as she knew. But she never wanted to play away.

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

My Mrs wont shag married men.

Including me

But for the first time ever she has apologised, yesterday she said she’s sorry she married me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is

Cheating is _ased on lies. Liars are the worst type of humans. I’ll pass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with that totally.

However a happy marriage involves 100% communication.

Respect your views totally

But I think your full of shit

There are many guys who profess to love their wives dearly, but treat them dishonestly and disrespectfully by cheating on them.

You don't treat people you love and respect like that.

You tell them, allow them to make their choice of whether they accept that type of behaviour.

Or not.

If a cheat can choose to play with others, why can't their partner have a choice as to whther they accept it or not??

Well thank you for thinking I'm full of shit!! Charming....

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Do any women on here enjoy discreet sex with married men ?

Is the experience different compared to meeting someone single

Love to know women’s views on this "

I love the idea of a married man but i would prefer their wives to know about me as i hate cheating. Its the worst thing you could do to your partner apart from the obvious

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

"My view is

Cheating is _ased on lies. Liars are the worst type of humans. I’ll pass"

Surely if depends on the lies.. I am sure you tell your share of little white lies! Others lie about murder and other serious crimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is

Cheating is _ased on lies. Liars are the worst type of humans. I’ll pass

Surely if depends on the lies.. I am sure you tell your share of little white lies! Others lie about murder and other serious crimes."

Little white lies don’t destroy others, that doesn’t sit well with me ‘Of course I said things like, your face will still like that if the wind changes, ‘yeah Its in the post’ etc but Cheating is never ever going to be little white lies though.... it can be life changing and damaging

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Think married men would be more discreet, As single men will tell their pals everything..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here for a good time not to ruin someone's life so if he/she's discreet then go for it.

I'm a married lady and always been honest about it and found when I was meeting as a single it 'OK' because I was a women

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By *aked DesireCouple
over a year ago

The Midlands

How many of the single men on Fab are really single , just because they have a single profile doesn’t mean they are not really married

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I’m going to simply answer the OP’s question and say yes...

I don’t judge and I’m open minded to the fact people are on Fab for a myriad of reasons - life is not always black and white.

I do believe it can be different (meeting a married man compared to a single man) in the fact that if the married man is having to be discreet - then meets/timing may be tricky. They may not have the same level of free time and ease of meeting compared to someone who is unattached and free with their time.

Ok - I’m stopping there

Happy Fabbing x

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By *urvacious ladyWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in essex.near you

I agree so many say they are single but actually aren't.

I used to meet married or attached guys as it suited my needs. But now I want friendship so I "choose" not to..... I thought we had freedom of choice or did I miss something?

Also when you meet married or attached it's the abuse you then get when they are found out... Don't need it.

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

We will meet with married guys, what ever is going on in their relationship is nothing to do with us and if the guys are already here looking or at a club on their own they will be with someone anyway.

It's not for us to judge.

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By *urvacious ladyWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in essex.near you

When say abuse I meant from there wife/ partner that's found you on there phone...

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

"How many of the single men on Fab are really single , just because they have a single profile doesn’t mean they are not really married "

Up the Dabbers

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By *ill1411Man
over a year ago

Durham

And what if a man is married and still in love with his wife but she lost her sex drive over 20 years ago, is he supposed to become a monk and spend the rest of his life being celibate. I tried to be honest with my wife and she was so hurt I deleted my original profile, now I keep quiet . If that makes me a cheating bastard to some of you so be it. Just don't meet me

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"And what if a man is married and still in love with his wife but she lost her sex drive over 20 years ago, is he supposed to become a monk and spend the rest of his life being celibate. I tried to be honest with my wife and she was so hurt I deleted my original profile, now I keep quiet . If that makes me a cheating bastard to some of you so be it. Just don't meet me"

Would she choose to remain married to you if she knew?

You have clearly stated you have chosen not to remain celibate. Doesn't your wife deserve to make her choice as well?

Isn't that being fair to someone??

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I dunno, you're still not the victim, she is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. You should not get abuse. Shame on fabbers who are sending as such. I thought this was a place for broad thinkers.

I am married. I have my reasons for being here. I am open to any contacts I have here.

From my experience there are many married ladies who do not state.

I have had 3 meets. Only 1 said she was married, the rest were single until we met and I asked about the wedding ring, they both said it is easier to say single to pull. Same on ok cupid. 2 meets, both single but actually married.

At the end of the day live and let live. If married and playing be honest. If you don't want a married lover then say so.

Happy fabbing

Xxx

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Never mind the popcorn, come on you married females ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don't understand is you say you love your wife, you've told her about here or wanting sexual fulfillment with another/s and that totally hurt her but you're gojng behind her back now anyway?

Surely that's not loving her, that's broken all honesty, respect and trust in your relationship?

I don't understand or want to judge anyone else's relationships but my own ... just never understood how anyone can think they love another whilst choosing to be so dishonest and potentially cause them so much pain and distress quite likely ruination of their future

As usual, totally baffled here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We will meet with married guys, what ever is going on in their relationship is nothing to do with us and if the guys are already here looking or at a club on their own they will be with someone anyway.

It's not for us to judge."

This!

Plus amazing pics guys!

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"OP. You should not get abuse. Shame on fabbers who are sending as such. I thought this was a place for broad thinkers.

I am married. I have my reasons for being here. I am open to any contacts I have here.

From my experience there are many married ladies who do not state.

At the end of the day live and let live. If married and playing be honest. If you don't want a married lover then say so.

Happy fabbing

Xxx"

If married and playing be honest? That is fair enough.

Does that honesty extend to your life partner as well??

Shouldn't it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They intrigue me, as i don't under the need to cheat? Not getting what you require at home ? Time to sit down and sort the relationship like grown ups

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m going to simply answer the OP’s question and say yes...

I don’t judge and I’m open minded to the fact people are on Fab for a myriad of reasons - life is not always black and white.

I do believe it can be different (meeting a married man compared to a single man) in the fact that if the married man is having to be discreet - then

meets/timing may be tricky. They may not have the same level of free time and ease of meeting compared to someone who is unattached and free with their time.

Ok - I’m stopping there

Happy Fabbing x "

Great answer

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"They intrigue me, as i don't under the need to cheat? Not getting what you require at home ? Time to sit down and sort the relationship like grown ups "

A simple answer that fits all!

Act like responsible honest grown ups!!

Like you we are intrigued. Why not talk and come to a joint decision.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not for me.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"OP. You should not get abuse. Shame on fabbers who are sending as such. I thought this was a place for broad thinkers.

I am married. I have my reasons for being here. I am open to any contacts I have here.

From my experience there are many married ladies who do not state.

At the end of the day live and let live. If married and playing be honest. If you don't want a married lover then say so.

Happy fabbing

Xxx"

The honesty part kinda goes out of the window when you're being dishonest to someone you claim to love.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"OP. You should not get abuse. Shame on fabbers who are sending as such. I thought this was a place for broad thinkers.

I am married. I have my reasons for being here. I am open to any contacts I have here.

From my experience there are many married ladies who do not state.

At the end of the day live and let live. If married and playing be honest. If you don't want a married lover then say so.

Happy fabbing

Xxx

The honesty part kinda goes out of the window when you're being dishonest to someone you claim to love. "

So true.

We are amazed that these 'single' people can't see that.

Surely the most honesty should be given to the people you care for the most.

Or have we got that wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No a definite no.

I don't know the damage mindless sex could cause a person.

There's enough singles up for Nsa without the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to see a married guy frequently, his wife knew about it and she met me before I decided to meet him for sex and play. If both parties know and are honest then there shouldn't be an issue

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I used to see a married guy frequently, his wife knew about it and she met me before I decided to meet him for sex and play. If both parties know and are honest then there shouldn't be an issue "

Agree totally.

If both partners know then it isn't cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married always ends in disaster ... if your not happy in your relationship pal you need to invest your time in talking to your wife and seeing if anything can be done to save it ... or at least be decent and just end it as amicably as possible...

But everyone is different I suppose and only you can make the final decision! At least your not hiding the fact your married from site members.. because that’s really unfair:.

Good luck

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Married always ends in disaster ... if your not happy in your relationship pal you need to invest your time in talking to your wife and seeing if anything can be done to save it ... or at least be decent and just end it as amicably as possible...

But everyone is different I suppose and only you can make the final decision! At least your not hiding the fact your married from site members.. because that’s really unfair:.

Good luck "

We agree with 99% of what you say, but isn't it really unfair to the wife by hiding it?

Surely his wife is more important that the site members.

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By *lorious xWoman
over a year ago

the back of beyond

Not for me. Generally too well practised in the ‘art’ of deception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yes... sorry of course, I was trying to be balanced in the fact he's not lying to everyone involved.. a lot of people on here have been treated badly by ex partners, lied to .. cheated on etc.. I know married guys who say they are single and meet anyway..

I didn't want to come across as too judgemental?

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

You’d think all the hot and sexy guys and girls are married and be more appealing than the singles

For one they HAVE to be discreet, will only be nsa fun! Also all the women on they’re high horses don’t know the facts why these guys decide to play away, if they not getting at home they deserve some fun somewhere surely?

They may love there wife’s and married life in every way but be in a sexless marriage.

This doesn’t apply to me btw just playing devils advocate

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"You’d think all the hot and sexy guys and girls are married and be more appealing than the singles

They may love there wife’s and married life in every way but be in a sexless marriage.

This doesn’t apply to me btw just playing devils advocate "

But doesn't their partner deserve not to be lied to?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP. You should not get abuse. Shame on fabbers who are sending as such. I thought this was a place for broad thinkers.

I am married. I have my reasons for being here. I am open to any contacts I have here.

From my experience there are many married ladies who do not state.

At the end of the day live and let live. If married and playing be honest. If you don't want a married lover then say so.

Happy fabbing

Xxx"

We do say we don't want to meet married, they lie to us about it. Thus taking away our right to choose.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You’d think all the hot and sexy guys and girls are married and be more appealing than the singles

They may love there wife’s and married life in every way but be in a sexless marriage.

This doesn’t apply to me btw just playing devils advocate "

And their spouses don't deserve to have an informed choice as to whether they want to be with someone who is having extra marital sex on a swingers site? Also, we are generally the unwitting ones on the receiving end of abuse and crap when said spouse finds out that other half has been playing away. Notice I don't use the word men. This applies to both sexes. Still think they 'deserve some fun somewhere else'? Like a previous poster said, act like adults and sort it out without involving others. Plenty of helplines and counselling services available. I went through hell with my ex husband, never once did occur to me to be unfaithful to him.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"You’d think all the hot and sexy guys and girls are married and be more appealing than the singles

They may love there wife’s and married life in every way but be in a sexless marriage.

This doesn’t apply to me btw just playing devils advocate

Well said.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You’d think all the hot and sexy guys and girls are married and be more appealing than the singles

They may love there wife’s and married life in every way but be in a sexless marriage.

This doesn’t apply to me btw just playing devils advocate

Well said. "

Thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing. "

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do. "

As long as unsuspecting people are not dragged into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not.

I won’t knowingly meet any married/attached man, I don’t agree with cheating so I won’t participate in it.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing. "

You are not saying it is right.

Are you therefore saying it is wrong??

Exactly what everyone else is doing.

We all know what is right and wrong. There are no blurred lines are there?

That is not called being judgemental.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do. "

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do not.

I won’t knowingly meet any married/attached man, I don’t agree with cheating so I won’t participate in it.

Look at that body !!! How could I ever say no ??

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

And she STILL says that the new guy is far far better in bed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not.

I won’t knowingly meet any married/attached man, I don’t agree with cheating so I won’t participate in it.

Look at that body !!! How could I ever say no ?? "

You wouldn’t need to say no, as I would, if you’re not single.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done? "

Pleased or not is totally irrelevant.

What goes around comes around.

Karma can be a bitch.

PS.

She is still with the other guy. She didn't fuck around, she simply chose to find a partner who was loyal, respectful, and treated her with dignity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done?

Pleased or not is totally irrelevant.

What goes around comes around.

Karma can be a bitch.

PS.

She is still with the other guy. She didn't fuck around, she simply chose to find a partner who was loyal, respectful, and treated her with dignity."

And you bang on about integrity haha. Ok. Anyway I’m done with this thread now. Have fun.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done?

Pleased or not is totally irrelevant.

What goes around comes around.

Karma can be a bitch.

PS.

She is still with the other guy. She didn't fuck around, she simply chose to find a partner who was loyal, respectful, and treated her with dignity.

And you bang on about integrity haha. Ok. Anyway I’m done with this thread now. Have fun. "

It's good that you are finished. You seem to share a lot of views of cheating people.

Seems that a lot of people believe in doing the wrong thing on here if it is to their own selfish benefits.

Cool....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done? "

What's sauce for the goose...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I'm in a sexless marriage through no fault of my own and this site is the only way I could ever meet anyone

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Unfortunately I'm in a sexless marriage through no fault of my own and this site is the only way I could ever meet anyone "

How do you think your wife would feel if she found out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally choose not to meet attached people, my ex cheated on me and it destroyed me and our marriage. I could never knowingly put someone else through that torment. One guy did show up at my house with a wedding ring on and I sent him packing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to avoid its the habitual lying they do just means you can't trust them to be honest about sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for me I have met men who have been upfront and married and have not questioned their reasons for wanting nsa like myself and enjoyed their meets, but some married men like the chat but couldn't go through with what they wanted to, and others kept it hidden but rushed off, so it's a mixed bag, my preferences did change after no shows of certain times of the day....

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Unfortunately I'm in a sexless marriage through no fault of my own and this site is the only way I could ever meet anyone "

Who's fault is it?

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By *andydave28Man
over a year ago

weston super mare

I agree with you for one swinging is about sex not relationships for that join a dating site

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I agree with you for one swinging is about sex not relationships for that join a dating site"

Is it though?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hers. I've tried so many different things but to no avail so ive given up trying. Just causes arguments

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Hers. I've tried so many different things but to no avail so ive given up trying. Just causes arguments"

Have you ever thought she might have some health issue that maybe have lowered her libido? Maybe sex is painful for her?

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over a year ago

Whenever l bring the subject up she changes it. It's very frustrating to try and solve a problem when the other person doesn't show any inclination to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever l bring the subject up she changes it. It's very frustrating to try and solve a problem when the other person doesn't show any inclination to do so."

Sex is a symptom not the cause though

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I agree with you for one swinging is about sex not relationships for that join a dating site"

So swinging isn't cheating if you have a partner who doesn't know because it swinging is only about sex?

Is that what you are saying??

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Hers. I've tried so many different things but to no avail so ive given up trying. Just causes arguments

Have you ever thought she might have some health issue that maybe have lowered her libido? Maybe sex is painful for her?

My wife as lots of health problems causing her labido to have vanished hence why we don’t no longer swing as a cpl and I started single

Profile,

I might add every time I have had a meet or chat about a meet she as been informed and she as actually met some of the people I have met,

If honesty is involved it can still help enhance your relationship as my Mrs loves the fact I get meets obviously not that often if you view my veries but I might add some meets have left fab so very disappears too

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Whenever l bring the subject up she changes it. It's very frustrating to try and solve a problem when the other person doesn't show any inclination to do so."

Maybe it's the way you're approaching it? So far on this thread you've only looked at it from your point of view and even had the nerve to blame her for your cheating. At least if you're going to cheat own it and don't blame your wife.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have met attached men and women. After all, they are the ones cheating not me. Even some I thought were single turned out not to be.

I prefer to meet either single singles or married couples. Just a lot less hassle, easier to arrange meets and I am basically an honest person so I don’t really enjoy the company of liars and cheats.

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By *antric ecstasyMan
over a year ago

Co Durham

"My view is

Cheating is _ased on lies. Liars are the worst type of humans. I’ll pass"

I never met anyone who has never lied except the odd baby.

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By *antric ecstasyMan
over a year ago

Co Durham

By what right does anyone claim exclusive rights to another person's body? Trust, honesty... I get that but the idea of one to one always and exclusive marriage is artificial and unrealistic. If it were not, no one would be 'cheating' would they? The general tone of this has been that men cheat and women don't like that. So who are they cheating with? For every man cheating there's a woman too. We're all entitled to say no but is thete not a whiff of hypocrisy here?

I am married and it's no secret I'm here. Poly to the core... which I guess is why most of us are here in the first place.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"By what right does anyone claim exclusive rights to another person's body? Trust, honesty... I get that but the idea of one to one always and exclusive marriage is artificial and unrealistic. If it were not, no one would be 'cheating' would they? The general tone of this has been that men cheat and women don't like that. So who are they cheating with? For every man cheating there's a woman too. We're all entitled to say no but is thete not a whiff of hypocrisy here?

I am married and it's no secret I'm here. Poly to the core... which I guess is why most of us are here in the first place. "

Don't marriage vows include being faithful? There are plenty of marriages that are one to one and exclusive, not everyone is poly like you.

The main point in this thread is that people don't like liars, of whichever sex, it's not an attack on men, but more men have been on the thread defending cheating so that's who we are responding to.

If someone goes into a marriage and promises to be faithful then cheats and lies, it's wrong. It doesn't matter what gender, sexuality, religion etc they are, it's wrong to lie and deceive the person you claim to love.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

I am married and it's no secret I'm here. Poly to the core... which I guess is why most of us are here in the first place.

Don't marriage vows include being faithful? There are plenty of marriages that are one to one and exclusive, not everyone is poly like you.

The main point in this thread is that people don't like liars, of whichever sex, it's not an attack on men, but more men have been on the thread defending cheating so that's who we are responding to.

You are right, it is amazing just how many people are defending liars on here.

It seems that a lot of people think that lying is ok.

Strange world we live in....

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We would never knowingly meet anyone cheating and if my spidey senses tingle,i always ask.

Its simply because i would hate it done to me.

We still have had messages from people playing away though ,even though our profile says we wouldn't meet.

I'd never give anyone abuse for it,but do get annoyed when they message ,especially on my single profile.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is

Cheating is _ased on lies. Liars are the worst type of humans. I’ll pass

I never met anyone who has never lied except the odd baby."

Yes you are right, but deliberately lying to those that you love knowing that you could cause them pain and suffering, affecting the lives of often others too isn't the same as the lies most people do ie can't come in today because or it's in the post etc

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By *arried-NSAMan
over a year ago

bucks

I cheated on my wife outside fab and she found out.

We have kids and as a family we’re good. But as a couple our relationship is poor. We’ve discussed this, both acknowledged things should change, but I think neither of us want to upset the apple cart.

She’s content with our life together, but I’m not and as much as I think she wouldn’t be happy with me on here, it keeps me content with what I have.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I cheated on my wife outside fab and she found out.

She’s content with our life together, but I’m not and as much as I think she wouldn’t be happy with me on here, it keeps me content with what I have.

So you have made your choice but she cannot have the facts to make her's??

Cool.

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By *arried-NSAMan
over a year ago

bucks

She has made her choice, I’ve slept with someone before, she found out, she’d like to remain in the relationship... how is that not making her choice!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"She has made her choice, I’ve slept with someone before, she found out, she’d like to remain in the relationship... how is that not making her choice! "

I assume you promised her that it won’t happen again, or did you just tell her that if she wants to remain in the relationship she has to be ok with you sleeping with anyone else that you can manage to?

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By *arried-NSAMan
over a year ago

bucks

Neither. I guess she assumed I wouldn’t.

Our relationship is pretty much as it was before, which is pretty much what led me to look elsewhere.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Neither. I guess she assumed I wouldn’t.

Our relationship is pretty much as it was before, which is pretty much what led me to look elsewhere.

So you're still lying to her? Nice.

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By *arried-NSAMan
over a year ago

bucks

Yeah, but it’s this or we split. As I I said neither of us wants to upset the Apple cart.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Yeah, but it’s this or we split. As I I said neither of us wants to upset the Apple cart. "

Shouldn't she be allowed all the facts before she decides to stay with you?

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over a year ago

"Yeah, but it’s this or we split. As I I said neither of us wants to upset the Apple cart.

Shouldn't she be allowed all the facts before she decides to stay with you? "

Well said.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"Yeah, but it’s this or we split. As I I said neither of us wants to upset the Apple cart. "

Sounds more like you like things the way they are and she is probably pretty unhappy.

I hope you are at least doing her the courtesy of always practicing safe sex!!

I find it staggering how many married men don’t.... or try not to

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

"I love it how people in here say, people shouldn’t cheat, just sort your relationship out etc etc.

People obviously have their own reasons for doing what they do. I’m not saying it’s right.

But who are we to judge and say what people should and shouldn’t do?

People just get on with what YOU are doing.

What’s funny for me are people that have an opinion and think they are right when they don’t know anything

2 days I suffered abuse .

Did I give a toss ? No

And rightly so, it’s your life. You do what you want to do.

"It is your life, you do what you want"

We hear this so often on here.

Shame the unknowing wife is not made aware of the fact so SHE can then choose what she wants to do.

Sad and selfish.

There are many many people who would love to have a partner, yet there seems loads on here who are willing to abuse the partners that they have.

Like we said.

Sad.

OP. You say you don't give a toss?

Fair enough. However it says a lot about your integrity.

We knew someone like you personally, he didn't give a toss either.

He didn't find it so funny when his wife did EXACTLY the same thing because she found out what her loyal and loving partner was really doing. Cheating and lying.

Only she left took the kids, the dog, the house, and half his pension as well!!

So you think it’s ok for her to get revenge? You sound quite pleased with what she’s done?

Pleased or not is totally irrelevant.

What goes around comes around.

Karma can be a bitch.

PS.

She is still with the other guy. She didn't fuck around, she simply chose to find a partner who was loyal, respectful, and treated her with dignity."

But why did her husband have to look else where in first place?

Number 2 will soon donsame when honeymoon period is over and the sex drys up!

Some women just don’t like sex and deprive the husband of it there for giving him a choice, split up or keep life as normal and happy and leave wife to happily carry on with sexless life while he gets what he needs elsewhere!

Someone mentioned councillors to force wife into doing her duty’s she don’t enjoy?

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