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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all I’ve been here a while now and I’ve been getting views but no one seems to be messaging and I don’t k is what pen if I doing anything wrong could anyone help me? Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren’t allowed to offer profile advice unless asked, but there’s advice on profiles if you search the forums that may help!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would love any advice if it helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of the dick pics. Get some nice photos and hide your face if needs be. Change your profile name as it will put 95% of people off. Your bio needs a lot more info. What you expect from the site but also what you have to offer. Read profiles to the end and when messaging mention things in common. Get to a social or two and get to a club. Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say your age will put a lot of people off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you message anyone, OP? As you might be waiting for a very long time for someone to contact you first..

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Get rid of the dick pics. Get some nice photos and hide your face if needs be. Change your profile name as it will put 95% of people off. Your bio needs a lot more info. What you expect from the site but also what you have to offer. Read profiles to the end and when messaging mention things in common. Get to a social or two and get to a club. Hope this helps."

This

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"Get rid of the dick pics. Get some nice photos and hide your face if needs be. Change your profile name as it will put 95% of people off. Your bio needs a lot more info. What you expect from the site but also what you have to offer. Read profiles to the end and when messaging mention things in common. Get to a social or two and get to a club. Hope this helps.

This "

Yeah very much this my friend. If you do message somebody first always make sure that you think about your message. If your on here just to purely find sex sex sex then you are in the wrong place to be honest my friend. Dont just send a message if somebody looks at your profile there will be a reason they havent messaged you.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Would love any advice if it helps! "

Before we offer advice may we ask a question?

How experienced are you sexually??

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

Time to be cruel to be kind i fear.

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc as there is no point messaging people whose profiles you don't meet and vice versa.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy for instance, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly one of the most off putting things on profiles is a cock pic as your profile pic. It more often than not indicates that there will be nothing but cock pics on the profile. Your young and new to this, so take it as advice that most women don't want to look at cocks all day long.

The few lines you have written don't really standout and aren't likely to make people think your worth getting to know better. A simple fact is that there are more than enough single men around that generally women won't come looking for you, and first impressions count. You literally have seconds to make that woman interested in you before she will move on to the next person.

At your young age I am unsure what job you can be doing that prevents you showing your face, but that's your choice. Ask yourself though, if someone knew you and found you were on here would you be more embarrassed because they had seen your face, or your cock?

Your profile says you won't send a face pic to people until you know you are going to meet. You might want to rethink that strategy as in my humble opinion not many people will agree to meet with someone if they haven't seen their face. Would you?

You seem to have every single interest ticked, and are confident in your ability to pull women in the nineties. You can't accommodate or travel, you wont send a face pic, and your profile text reads that you want everyone to chase you. In summary, your profile screams lazy to me, and if you can't be bothered to make a good impression then why should any one bother to meet with you?

Your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you.

Put on some better pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great.

Finally, Consider changing your username. It screams of someone with no sexual experience who believes everything he has seen in online porn films.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too.

Hopefully you will take some of this advice on board. We are a couple that will meet with someone of your age. But if you approached us, or expected us to approach you, with your current profile then all the things written above would result in you being declined, if you were even answered at all.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks I’ll see what I can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cannot accommodate or travel, all your pics are of your cock, and looks like you have ticked all the boxes in the interest section. What can you offer to a 99 year old woman?

As others have said, your age might be working against you. But good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do but they open it and never say anything back

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By *utton SimonMan
over a year ago

Sutton

All good advice given here by others, loose the dick pics, as very few people get enticed by just dick pics, add some body pictures, review your interests , not all of us are experts in all,, sell yourself on what you can do,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want I wide range of people to look for in looking to explore really

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If you press the +quote button it makes it easier to know who you are replying too.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want I wide range of people to look for in looking to explore really "

How much sex have you actually had??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you press the +quote button it makes it easier to know who you are replying too."
ah thanks first time I’ve used the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested."
I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me "

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life?

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Sorry dude still to many cock pics and hand on cock as profile pic will do you no favours save those for friends only or as i do leave that bit of mystery for a meet. A good suit pic always goes down well you dont need to have a face in there for shoulders down pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life?"
I can be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry dude still to many cock pics and hand on cock as profile pic will do you no favours save those for friends only or as i do leave that bit of mystery for a meet. A good suit pic always goes down well you dont need to have a face in there for shoulders down pics. "
I don’t own a suit

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be "

You have never had sex then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be

You have never had sex then?"
no I have not

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"Sorry dude still to many cock pics and hand on cock as profile pic will do you no favours save those for friends only or as i do leave that bit of mystery for a meet. A good suit pic always goes down well you dont need to have a face in there for shoulders down pics. I don’t own a suit "

Then a smart shirt and jeans work the same

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be

You have never had sex then? no I have not "

And you came to this very niche lifestyle to find what exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have never had sex then?

no I have not "

What was the thought behind when choosing the username?

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be

You have never had sex then? no I have not

And you came to this very niche lifestyle to find what exactly?"

Probably to get free sex he thought.

We see lots of this, young lads thinking Swingers have sex with anyone.

How wrong they are.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be

You have never had sex then? no I have not "

Then your username is misleading, as I originally thought you had child/children.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks all I will try all the things you have Suggested and see how my luck goes and i do read people’s profiles and aim my message around that and I’ve put my age range to 99 because I just want a wide range of people to meet etc .....So your gonna keep 99yrs as u wanna meet a wide range! Are u being serious, are u gonna pop in to the local care home! Ur profile screams pure desperation and its not a good thing! Many females have kids ur age and older! My son is 27 and id never consider meeting, ur age is against u, but there maybe someone whos interested. I know my age is a bad thing for some people but I do look for people who are looking for someone like me

You mean looking for someone like you who has never had sex?

Are you shy in your everyday life? I can be

You have never had sex then? no I have not

And you came to this very niche lifestyle to find what exactly?

Probably to get free sex he thought.

We see lots of this, young lads thinking Swingers have sex with anyone.

How wrong they are.

"

Let him answer. It is interesting when they have to spell it out.

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