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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

If you want chat, you the chat rooms and forum?

If no one wants to talk to you via message,ask yourself why?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Try your regional chat room OP.

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

I'm just looking at thd chat rooms at the minute, if it is just me then I can take a look at my profile but even just trying to chat to people im finding difficult at the moment, don't seem to be getting anywhere

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"....is anyone struggling on this site or just me? ......Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!"

Yep, it’s just you mate. Never seen any other man complain about lack of meets or messages back. You must be doing something dreadfully wrong, because every other bloke is knee deep in it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You've been here 6 weeks. That's no time at all. Part of your profile looks like you are looking for a bit of wank chat tbh. Some decent pics would help too. There's advice on my profile for newbies feel free to use it. Also lots of existing threads with advice on too. Good luck.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"....is anyone struggling on this site or just me? ......Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Yep, it’s just you mate. Never seen any other man complain about lack of meets or messages back. You must be doing something dreadfully wrong, because every other bloke is knee deep in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've been here before - what did you do differently?

If you're struggling to get meets - possibly as you're not verified now - could the people you have met give you a green tick?

I agree that pictures are not really appealing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!"

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy "

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy "

Absolute bullshit! Looks are important for some, but by no means all women. Respect and the right attitude generally go much further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us. "

Rubbish maybe to the people on forums personality matters, but to the majority of young women on this site it's all about looks.

You can be as polite and well mannered as you like they won't respond. Personality is irrelevant if they won't engage with a conversation with you.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us.

Rubbish maybe to the people on forums personality matters, but to the majority of young women on this site it's all about looks.

You can be as polite and well mannered as you like they won't respond. Personality is irrelevant if they won't engage with a conversation with you."

If you read the faq section, no response means no interest. Most will read a profile before deciding to respond or not. Personally speaking, if they don't match my profile preferences, why on earth would I want to engage with them in the first place??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us.

Rubbish maybe to the people on forums personality matters, but to the majority of young women on this site it's all about looks.

You can be as polite and well mannered as you like they won't respond. Personality is irrelevant if they won't engage with a conversation with you.

If you read the faq section, no response means no interest. Most will read a profile before deciding to respond or not. Personally speaking, if they don't match my profile preferences, why on earth would I want to engage with them in the first place?? "

I can ensure its normally a case of their not attracted..People are not looking for a spouse on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy "

Rubbish I do OK and I have never been called hot lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us.

Rubbish maybe to the people on forums personality matters, but to the majority of young women on this site it's all about looks.

You can be as polite and well mannered as you like they won't respond. Personality is irrelevant if they won't engage with a conversation with you.

If you read the faq section, no response means no interest. Most will read a profile before deciding to respond or not. Personally speaking, if they don't match my profile preferences, why on earth would I want to engage with them in the first place?? "

You know what, prove me wrong...make a male profile..use my pics if you want and see how you go...See if a profile makes the difference...

It would be an eye opener for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Rubbish I do OK and I have never been called hot lol "

I'm talking about younger women mate not those in their 50s

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hi all!

Just wondering, is anyone struggling on this site or just me? Been on here before and people at least chatted, now there's no one even willing to chat, let alone meet! Getting a bit frustrating, wondering if it is just me or not!

Basically unless you're very very hot, you are just one of too many guys on this site. Hence you will be a beggar living off scraps like the rest of us.

If you are very hot then it's easy

Not the case at all with a lot of us. Personality and manners win every time for a lot of us.

Rubbish maybe to the people on forums personality matters, but to the majority of young women on this site it's all about looks.

You can be as polite and well mannered as you like they won't respond. Personality is irrelevant if they won't engage with a conversation with you.

If you read the faq section, no response means no interest. Most will read a profile before deciding to respond or not. Personally speaking, if they don't match my profile preferences, why on earth would I want to engage with them in the first place??

I can ensure its normally a case of their not attracted..People are not looking for a spouse on here "

OK, here's a scenario, really hot looking gym fit guy.. 50 miles away v average guy, bit of a dad bod 10 miles away, I'd take average every time. He is the one I'm more likely to engage with. Some of us are actively looking for swinging relationships on here too. I am, hence my profile content is geared towards that.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


" Rubbish I do OK and I have never been called hot lol "

Me too. I’m far from ‘hot’ and I do more than okay. Knowing how to write a decent, respectful introduction is the key.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


" Rubbish I do OK and I have never been called hot lol

Me too. I’m far from ‘hot’ and I do more than okay. Knowing how to write a decent, respectful introduction is the key. "

There are also other things that are considered such as distance, accommodating age ranges and so on. Even if they do write a respectful, decent intro I still wont meet them if they fall outside my criteria. I would still respond politely, a lot of the time I end up having some lovely chats with people I wont be ever meeting.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


" I'm talking about younger women mate not those in their 50s"

Same goes. Plenty of younger women just want to be treated respectfully and not bullshited to. That’s why they come to fab rather than Tinder.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


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There are also other things that are considered such as distance, accommodating age ranges and so on. Even if they do write a respectful, decent intro I still wont meet them if they fall outside my criteria. I would still respond politely, a lot of the time I end up having some lovely chats with people I wont be ever meeting. "

Of course, but I personally take all (or at least as much as possible) of that into account before messaging. If a profile doesn’t stipulate what one is looking for then there’s no pint in messaging in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"

There are also other things that are considered such as distance, accommodating age ranges and so on. Even if they do write a respectful, decent intro I still wont meet them if they fall outside my criteria. I would still respond politely, a lot of the time I end up having some lovely chats with people I wont be ever meeting.

Of course, but I personally take all (or at least as much as possible) of that into account before messaging. If a profile doesn’t stipulate what one is looking for then there’s no pint in messaging in the first place. "

Thanks, my point exactly.

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