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By *exualsecurityguard OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I've been on here a while now and struggling to get a reply. I joined fab as due to work commitments social interaction and naughty fun can be difficult.

I do frequent the chat rooms and have appeared on cam a few times but no one has veri'd me yet.

I completely understand safety and ladies will not meet someone who is not verified by meeting however due to my limited time it is not fees able to get to a club.

On the messaging side of things I'm not great with words as I'm quite a shy person so usually I get a reply to hi you OK but once it comes to a second reply no responses.

I am really a down to earth genuine guy, so do any lovely ladies think they could help with suggestions/tips, on my profile and messages please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience, you need to make more effort with you messages. But top tip, read a woman's profile before you even send a message to her, they tend to tell you a lot about what she is looking for. Time consuming I know, but saves the disappointment of no reply or rejection

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By *exualsecurityguard OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"From personal experience, you need to make more effort with you messages. But top tip, read a woman's profile before you even send a message to her, they tend to tell you a lot about what she is looking for. Time consuming I know, but saves the disappointment of no reply or rejection "

Appreciate that I have done this previously, I actually read a long worded profile and quoted most of it in my first message to prove I read it, but still no reply

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"From personal experience, you need to make more effort with you messages. But top tip, read a woman's profile before you even send a message to her, they tend to tell you a lot about what she is looking for. Time consuming I know, but saves the disappointment of no reply or rejection

Appreciate that I have done this previously, I actually read a long worded profile and quoted most of it in my first message to prove I read it, but still no reply "

So she was not attracted to you. Women are not computers where you give a command and get a result.

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By *exualsecurityguard OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I totally understand attraction etc I'm not here just to get laid I'm here for the social side, surely you don't have to be thinking I want to rip his clothes off to be sociable

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By *exualsecurityguard OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

All I'm after is some tips on first messages and improving my profile to be more approachable I get there are some idiots on here but please don't tarnish us all the same

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Maybe say you are looking for other types of meets rather than just fwb as s lot of people don't want the expectation of it being regular, and that's all you mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I'm after is some tips on first messages and improving my profile to be more approachable I get there are some idiots on here but please don't tarnish us all the same"

There is no, one size fits all, message

Dont matter how good the message, if we are not interested then we are not interested and it won't change.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Just write to her as you would to, say, someone you meet on any other site. Introduce yourself, leave sex talk for when both parties are comfortable with it... That sort of thing.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"All I'm after is some tips on first messages and improving my profile to be more approachable I get there are some idiots on here but please don't tarnish us all the same"

It should be a tailored individual message the generic pasted ones stand out a mile and get ignored.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

There is no magic path so just be genuine, yourself and polite and make your messages interesting. Good luck with your endeavours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it too serious

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

In terms of your photos, you do not look approachable. You look moody and not all that fun to be around. Post some different photos. Smile, get rid of the toilet one. Take some of your body. Not your cock though.

Profile is generic, reads the same as 90% of other single males on here. Tell us about yourself, something that tells us a little about your personality.

Messaging? Can't help you there, except to say the majority of women will not reply to hi, how are you?

In short, you need to put effort in to get rewards out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be creative with your messages!!

We are inundated with “nice tits” “wanna fuck” “can I watch”

Jesus people put some fucking effort in

Catch their attention and they’ll reply.... possibly, either that or you’re just not for them!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots of existing threads about this with good advice, maybe have a look through them. A good profile with nice pics and well written bio will help as most look there before deciding to respond. Also, take advice given by established men on here. What works for them may help you too.

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By *exualsecurityguard OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Thanks everyone for the advice

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Thanks everyone for the advice"

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